Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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I am a National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Kink Aware Professional. I am currently in the process of obtaining certification from the Sexual Health Alliance in order to be a certified sex therapist. This program meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).

— Andi Grushka, Counselor in Baltimore, MD

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal and professional experience. I get kink from an insider's perspective, along with the highest training. Please know that you should feel comfortable sharing EVERYTHING but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I've had the pleasure of working with members of the kink community since 2015. I strive to create a warm and nonjudgemental therapeutic space to discuss all aspects of your lifestyle from emotional to relationships to health concerns and everything in between.

— Sarah Rogers (Ferro), Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Malden, MA

Variations in sexuality are part of human nature, but the way our society sees it is highly stigmatized and being involved in the kink and bdsm community can be highly spiritual and gratifying experience. We work with the LGBTQIA and sex worker communities. Saying that you love sex work is healing. Recognizing the difference, because for some sex work is for survival we can help you with that, too.

— Moushumi Ghose, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Cultivate eroticism, connection, and intimacy in your relationship; enhance sexual desire, arousal, and pleasure Explore kink and BSDM with care and intentionality. Heal from relationship trauma, miscommunication, loss of desire, infidelity, the impact of normative life cycle stress Navigation and exploration of Non-monogamous Relationships!

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

I am extremely active with the kink community, often presenting at conferences and providing education. I have been a member of this community for a number of years and have an extensive understanding of dynamics and power exchange. I am able to work with individuals or couples and, when working with me, there is no need to defend or hide the dynamics of your relationship(s) as I already possess high levels of understanding of the BDSM, D/s, and kink community.

— Farrah Bonnot, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Denton, TX

Proud to say I am kink-positive and knowledgeable, LGBTQIA2S+ inclusive, experienced in supporting HIV+ folx, sex worker positive, and genuinely enjoy challenging shame and stigma surrounding sexually expansive folx.

— Elizabeth Hawkins, Sex Therapist

Fun, fulfillment, and relationships come in many shades. For some, what really interests us feels shameful, sometimes it’s the shame that makes it interesting. Some counselors have trouble not seeing feeder kinks through the lens of an eating disorder, some fixate a little too heavily on the Freudian aspects of DD/lg play. Whether you are so new you don’t even know Fetlife is a thing oryou’re literally teaching classes, I offer supportive therapy with years of first hand experience.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Let’s talk about kinks! Let’s explore fantasies to help you determine whether it’s an experience you want to pursue in real life or continue building through imagination. My counseling sessions are professional, safe, and non-judgmental where long-time BDSM practitioners, or those still curious or preparing for their first dungeon visit, are welcome.

— Amanda Earle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

Finding someone who is kink friendly and knowledge can be difficult. I have worked with many clients who are kinky and want someone who can have this framework while working with them. This may be your presenting problem of what you want to discuss or you just want someone who has an understanding. Either way, I will meet you where you are at and we will work together as a team. Give me a call to chat further about what is going on and how I can help!

— Michael Stokes, Mental Health Counselor in Newport, RI

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

I am trained and experienced in working with couples who are a part of erotically marginalized kink communities like BDSM, ABDL, swinging, and others.

— Anna Khandrueva, Therapist in Broomfield, CO

I am very kink affirming in my approach and offer education on what psychological factors may lead one to engage in fetishes/kink. I believe that engaging in BDSM or other types of kink can be a fun and healing experience when consent is involved.

— Julia Moore, Licensed Professional Counselor in Las Vegas, NV

I am a BDSM friendly therapist. I am kink aware an open to supporting your alternative life style. When you work with a therapist it's hard to know, will they understand my kink? Will I be safe talking about my desire? Rest assured, all of you is welcome here! We can explore your history and preferences in an open and accepting environment. Whatever your kinks are, I'm here to support you!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

Human sexuality is one of the most enjoyable topics to work with as each person has their own unique sexual expression. BDSM, consensual non-consensual, and DDLG are three of the kinks that I have worked with on a regular basis. When it comes to legal related sexual topics I also have experience working with sex offenders and pedophilia. I treat human sexuality as one piece of the puzzle that comprises your individual identity.

— Taryn Sinclaire, Clinical Social Worker in Greenville, MI

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA