Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

Meet the specialists

Cultivate eroticism, connection, and intimacy in your relationship; enhance sexual desire, arousal, and pleasure Explore kink and BSDM with care and intentionality. Heal from relationship trauma, miscommunication, loss of desire, infidelity, the impact of normative life cycle stress Navigation and exploration of Non-monogamous Relationships!

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal and professional experience. I get kink from an insider's perspective, along with the highest training. Please know that you should feel comfortable sharing EVERYTHING but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX

Human sexuality is one of the most enjoyable topics to work with as each person has their own unique sexual expression. BDSM, consensual non-consensual, and DDLG are three of the kinks that I have worked with on a regular basis. When it comes to legal related sexual topics I also have experience working with sex offenders and pedophilia. I treat human sexuality as one piece of the puzzle that comprises your individual identity.

— Taryn Sinclaire, Clinical Social Worker in Greenville, MI

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in American Canyon, CA

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions. I create a safe, contained space to emotionally and mentally explore your challenges, hopes, and ways to establish a full and healthy sex life and relationship with both yourself and those who you are connected with.

— Adrian Scharfetter, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SACRAMENTO, CA

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

As a society, a not-so-subtle message of "you're immoral or vulgar" has been sent to the kink/BDSM community and LGBTQIA people. This message of shaming leads people to feel they must suppress who they are and hide. I aim to help members of the kink community and anyone who would define themselves as not fitting into the societal norms of sexual activity/romantic desires to break free from the confines of that message of shame.

— Aaron Bachler, Counselor in Tempe, AZ

I pledge to provide LGBTQ+ affirming care, and consensual non-monogamy/sex-positive awareness. I am also a National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) Kink Aware Professional.

— Erick Sowell, Clinical Social Worker in Owings Mills, MD

I am kink-aware and have experience working with D/s relationships and various fetishes, kinks and alternative lifestyles. My approach is Sex-positive, and I do not judge or assume there is something "wrong" with you for your sexual expression. I also work with those that practice Ethical Non-Monogamy/Polyamory or interested in exploring alternative lifestyles. I provide a safe and accepting place for Sex Workers, and those in the LGBTQIA+ community.

— Meghan Cleveland, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

As a writer, teacher, and advocate for the kink community, this is my biggest area of specialty. I understand the unique dynamics that exist while living in line with your kink identity. I have extensive knowledge and experience working with various power dynamics and kinks. You will not find me yucking your yum.

— Elyssa Helfer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

I am a BDSM friendly therapist. I am kink aware an open to supporting your alternative life style. When you work with a therapist it's hard to know, will they understand my kink? Will I be safe talking about my desire? Rest assured, all of you is welcome here! We can explore your history and preferences in an open and accepting environment. Whatever your kinks are, I'm here to support you!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

We’re all born with innate sexual response and drives (or a lack thereof), and our sexual identity is based on these innate responses; they’re an integral part of every person. Our current cultural sexual construct leaves most of us fumbling around in the dark, searching for an acceptable way to fit our perfectly unique sexual selves into the rigid construct that is normative sexuality

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Fun, fulfillment, and relationships come in many shades. For some, what really interests us feels shameful, sometimes it’s the shame that makes it interesting. Some counselors have trouble not seeing feeder kinks through the lens of an eating disorder, some fixate a little too heavily on the Freudian aspects of DD/lg play. Whether you are so new you don’t even know Fetlife is a thing oryou’re literally teaching classes, I offer supportive therapy with years of first hand experience.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX