Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

Meet the specialists

While therapy is supposed to be a place of acceptance and non-judgement, when it comes to sex some counselors aren't equipped to lovingly work with the kink community. As a kink-aware professional, I have worked with those in the lifestyle and received advanced training and education in the world of kink, fetish, and sex worker culture. Human sexuality is vibrant and varied - your flavor of expression is unique and valued.

— Katrina Knizek, Counselor in Spokane, WA

I believe that the range of human sexual expression is infinitely varied and diverse. Every form of expression (or lack of expression) is valid and worthy of exploration. As a member of the BDSM community myself, I have worked hard to bridge the gap between the kink community and the providers that serve them. This has included educational workshops for providers on kink and BDSM, as well as workshops for community members on healthy relationship dynamics and the intersections of mental health.

— Kian Leggett, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Tacoma, WA
 

I identify as a Kink-Aware Counselor and provide a welcoming space for members of the kink/BDSM community. I encourage my clients to be themselves and to talk freely about this aspect of their lives, without judgment.

— Brianna Badenhop, Counselor in COLUMBUS, OH
 

I'm confused as to why this is listed under 'issues' for treatment because kink and alternative relationship styles are not "issues." Finding a therapist that understands these things can be challenging and I'm happy to help you navigate any non-vanilla lifestyle choices you subscribe to. Kink, poly, open, and sex worker friendly/affirming.

— Dr Stacie Freudenberg, Therapist in Denver, CO

Kink, Fetish, BDSM, D/s (including TPE), etc. are all welcome and included in my knowledge base.

— Andrea Bezaire, Psychologist in Ann Arbor, MI
 

I live and work in the kink/BDSM community and I have the experience to help clients negotiate particular aspects of their communication and relationships or I can more simply be the therapist that is accepting of clients lifestyle.

— Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Nicole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Napa, CA
 

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

I have worked with clients with a wide variety of kinky identities & interests, everything from bondage to various fetishes to power-exchange relationships. I have no problem with educating myself about your kink, though I will ask about how you practice it, rather than assuming information I gathered from a book could encapsulate your play & identity. My passion is helping clients who have had therapists latch onto their outsider status as being THE problem, instead of seeing the whole person.

— Kelley O'Hanlon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Redmond, WA
 

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Los Angeles, CA

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Sexual desires come in many shapes, sizes, colors and experiences. For those who don't enjoy the traditional model of what some call "vanilla sex," it can feel lonely and isolating to believe that you are 'different.' Well I am here to tell you that there's no need to feel alone! As a certified sex therapist, it is my goal and mission to help you connect with others who have similar sexual desires, and to be able to live out your fantasies shame free.

— Natalie Finegood Goldberg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in beverly hills, CA
 

Variations in sexuality are part of human nature, but the way our society sees it is highly stigmatized and being involved in the kink and bdsm community can be highly spiritual and gratifying experience. I also work with sex worker communities. Saying that you love sex work is real, and is okay. Kowing the difference, when it is not for enjoyment but for survival is important and okay too.

— MOUSHUMI GHOSE, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in TOLUCA LAKE, CA

Having explored several kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive. Personally, I have been more involved in the BDSM world. I am a switch and understand the mindset of a Dom and Sub. I know how to help clients explore these.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX

I am comfortable working with relationships of any type or identity and ready to meet you where you are to discuss, with openness, any issues you want to address. If you are experiencing issues within your sex life, I am comfortable discussing any and all aspects that are concerning you. If you are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, involved in a polyamorous relationship, or engaged in BDSM/fetishism, you will find a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss this aspect of your life.

— Crystal Frederick, Counselor in Austin, TX

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX
 

I am extremely knowledgeable about kink and power exchange relationships; I have held lectures at both the undergraduate and graduate levels on kink and helping to de-stigmatize it. My particular expertise is around separating shame from kink.

— Evan Wilson, Social Worker in Baltimore, MD

While therapy is supposed to be a place of acceptance and non-judgement, when it comes to sex some counselors aren't prepared to lovingly work with the kink community. As a kink-aware professional, I have worked with those in the lifestyle and received advanced training and education in the world of kink, fetish, and sex worker culture. Human sexuality is vibrant and varied - your flavor of expression is unique and valued.

— Katrina Knizek, Counselor in Spokane, WA
 

I have done extensive research and trainings in the BDSM & polyamorous/non-monogamous lifestyles. I have also gone through sex therapy and couples counseling trainings to help provide non-judgmental couples therapy. I am very open and comfortable working with kink friendly and sex positive communities as well as those outrside of these populations.

— Karla Kurtz, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Everett, WA

I've been involved in this community since 2013, and have been working clinically with this population since I was in school. I co-led a "Kink 101" workshop for my classmates to increase their competency on working with this population.

— Julia Koerwer, Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY