Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

Meet the specialists

In counseling, we can discuss healthy relationships, consent, gender and sexuality (both intimacy/sex-wise and affectional/sexual orientation-wise). This will always be done in a judgment-free, kink-aware and poly-friendly setting. You will be accepted fully no matter what your sexual interests are and I am happy to provide education and resources on exploring your inner and outer sex life. **Please note there will be no nudity or physical contact in session.**

— Caitlin Bovard, Sex Therapist in Broomfield, CO

Variations in sexuality are part of human nature, but the way our society sees it is highly stigmatized and being involved in the kink and bdsm community can be highly spiritual and gratifying experience. I also work with sex worker communities. Saying that you love sex work is real, and is okay. Kowing the difference, when it is not for enjoyment but for survival is important and okay too.

— MOUSHUMI GHOSE, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in TOLUCA LAKE, CA

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Nicole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Napa, CA

I live and work in the kink/BDSM community and I have the experience to help clients negotiate particular aspects of their communication and relationships or I can more simply be the therapist that is accepting of clients lifestyle.

— Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Having explored several kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive. Personally, I have been more involved in the BDSM world. I am a switch and understand the mindset of a Dom and Sub. I know how to help clients explore these.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX

Kink, Fetish, BDSM, D/s (including TPE), etc. are all welcome and included in my knowledge base.

— Andrea Bezaire, Psychologist in Ann Arbor, MI

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I have over 30 years of experience and knowledge of Kink, BDSM, and other sexual activities and desires. I love to answer questions and educate clients about sex in all its aspects. I will always remember to not "yuck your yum" unless it involves children or non-consensual activities, in which case I must follow my ethics and report if the law mandates.

— Deanna Potts, Clinical Social Worker in Fort Worth, TX

A non judgmental kink-friendly / sex-positive clinician available for safe and encouraging exploration of personal and group dynamics. BDSM D/s Sex Work-friendly Unconventional Sexuality LGBTQA Sexual Diversity

— Dr. Cynthia Giocomarra, Psychologist in Brooklyn, NY

I am extremely knowledgeable about kink and power exchange relationships; I have held lectures at both the undergraduate and graduate levels on kink and helping to de-stigmatize it. My particular expertise is around separating shame from kink.

— Evan Wilson, Social Worker in Baltimore, MD

I identify as a Kink-Aware Counselor and provide a welcoming space for members of the kink/BDSM community. I encourage my clients to be themselves and to talk freely about this aspect of their lives, without judgment.

— Brianna Badenhop, Counselor in COLUMBUS, OH

I am a firm believer that people in kink-based relationships often have healthier relationships than "vanilla" people, because so much is based on communication. But even the healthiest of relationships can run into rough patches. My goal is to create a safe space where we can explore what's wrong, and ways to fix it, without you ever feeling condemned for your kink.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Los Angeles, CA

Sexual desires come in many shapes, sizes, colors and experiences. For those who don't enjoy the traditional model of what some call "vanilla sex," it can feel lonely and isolating to believe that you are 'different.' Well I am here to tell you that there's no need to feel alone! As a certified sex therapist, it is my goal and mission to help you connect with others who have similar sexual desires, and to be able to live out your fantasies shame free.

— Natalie Finegood Goldberg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in beverly hills, CA

I'm confused as to why this is listed under 'issues' for treatment because kink and alternative relationship styles are not "issues." Finding a therapist that understands these things can be challenging and I'm happy to help you navigate any non-vanilla lifestyle choices you subscribe to. Kink, poly, open, and sex worker friendly/affirming.

— Dr Stacie Freudenberg, Therapist in Denver, CO

I believe that the range of human sexual expression is infinitely varied and diverse. Every form of expression (or lack of expression) is valid and worthy of exploration. As a member of the BDSM community myself, I have worked hard to bridge the gap between the kink community and the providers that serve them. This has included educational workshops for providers on kink and BDSM, as well as workshops for community members on healthy relationship dynamics and the intersections of mental health.

— Kian Leggett, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Tacoma, WA

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX