Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

Meet the specialists

Are you facinated by the idea of kink/BDSM and don't know how and where to start? Together we will navigate what turns you on & where to begin. Embarrassement and shame has no place here. Instead you will feel empowered, sexy and adventerous. You will learn to say what you want and more importantly what you don't want. Together we will figure out what to do if you want something and your partner wants something else. Talking about your fantasy can be as sexy and fulfilling as playing them out.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA
 

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

We’re all born with innate sexual response and drives (or a lack thereof), and our sexual identity is based on these innate responses; they’re an integral part of every person. Our current cultural sexual construct leaves most of us fumbling around in the dark, searching for an acceptable way to fit our perfectly unique sexual selves into the rigid construct that is normative sexuality

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC
 

I have both personal and professional experience with the kink community and I really love working with people within the kink and BDSM world. My particular specialties within this community are focused on D/s relationship dynamics.

— Misty Gibson, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tacoma, WA

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal experience. I treat anyone’s depression or anxiety, but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy, Coaching for lifestyles – You are safe here to let out your most hidden secrets, or problems. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in San Antonio, TX
 

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

I am a BDSM friendly therapist. I am kink aware an open to supporting your alternative life style. When you work with a therapist it's hard to know, will they understand my kink? Will I be safe talking about my desire? Rest assured, all of you is welcome here! We can explore your history and preferences in an open and accepting environment. Whatever your kinks are, I'm here to support you!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO
 

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in San Antonio, TX

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in American Canyon, CA
 

BDSM and kink is a lifestyle that adds intentional power exchange (PE) into relationships which explore sexual dominance, submission, fetishism, age-play, and other forms of kink. For some, kinky sex is used to spice things up in the bedroom by adding new activities and toys to their sex life, while others use protocols of dominance and submission to structure their PE relationships. Consent and negotiation are at the heart of this lifestyle. Substantial experience with sex work as well.

— Tammy 'Kaia' Bruski, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

Many therapists clutch their pearls and quickly pathologize all sexual behaviors that are outside of the cis, het, married, procreational, and vanilla paradigm. Unless it is your stated goal, I will not waste your time (or mine) trying to diagnose what sinister Freudian force made you kinky, nor will you have to interrupt your session time educating me on basic Kink/Fetish/BDSM concepts.

— Mary Holmes, Therapist in Aurora, IL
 

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in San Antonio, TX

I treat clients who identify with a multitude of non-conventional sexual practices and consensual power exchange. Kink often enhances partner intimacy and communication is as essential for a healthy kinky relationship as it is for any other. As a kink allied therapist, I am supportive of any consensual practice which the client feels enriches their life and enjoy helping my clients to shape relationships which meet their needs.

— Emily Eldar, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in , MA
 

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

I draw from my experience from years of experience as a leader in the gay male leather community and my associations with the larger kink community and my specialized training to provide therapy that embraces clients' sexual selves. I work with clients to be comfortable with their own sexuality. I understand the importance of a supportive therapeutic relationship whether the concerns are kink-related or if one simply wants a therapist who won't see your sex as the problem.

— Denis Flanigan, Psychologist in Houston, TX
 

I created my practice for sexually diverse folk (BDSM, M/s, fetish, furries, littles, and on and on) to have a space where they can come to therapy and explore sexuality related issues, and most commonly, explore their own therapy journey in a non-judgmental and affirming environment. I welcome you to explore all aspects of your sexuality, whether it be something that feels affirming for you, or something you are working to understand or adjust.

— Rachel Robbins, Psychologist in San Francisco, CA

Every person deserves and meaningful, fulfilling sexual experience that brings them to life, gives them a sense of vitality and connection. We all find different paths to these enriching experiences. I work to empower people to find the ways they prefer and to get the most out of them. Much of this work involves overcoming shame and defeating oppression (internal and external) and bolstering empowerment.

— Matthew LeBauer, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO
 

I treat clients who identify with a multitude of non-conventional sexual practices and consensual power exchange. Kink often enhances partner intimacy and communication is as essential for a healthy kinky relationship as it is for any other. As a kink allied therapist, I am supportive of any consensual practice which the client feels enriches their life and enjoy helping my clients to shape relationships which meet their needs.

— Emily Eldar, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in , MA

I have a Master's degree in Human Sexuality and I am a Certified Sex Therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. I have had extensive personal and professional experience with folks who are kinky/sexual outsiders. I value and appreciate the diversity of human sexuality and love offering a space where clients can talk freely about their experiences without fear of judgement.

— Jamie Brazell, Sex Therapist in Asheville, NC