Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

Meet the specialists

Kink, Fetish, BDSM, D/s (including TPE), etc. are all welcome and included in my knowledge base.

— Andrea Bezaire, Psychologist in Ann Arbor, MI
 

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX

I believe that the range of human sexual expression is infinitely varied and diverse. Every form of expression (or lack of expression) is valid and worthy of exploration. As a member of the BDSM community myself, I have worked hard to bridge the gap between the kink community and the providers that serve them. This has included educational workshops for providers on kink and BDSM, as well as workshops for community members on healthy relationship dynamics and the intersections of mental health.

— Kian Leggett, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Tacoma, WA
 

I provide a safe place for people to come in and share who they are.

— Veronica Ulery, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Northwood, NH

I am comfortable working with relationships of any type or identity and ready to meet you where you are to discuss, with openness, any issues you want to address. If you are experiencing issues within your sex life, I am comfortable discussing any and all aspects that are concerning you. If you are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, involved in a polyamorous relationship, or engaged in BDSM/fetishism, you will find a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss this aspect of your life.

— Crystal Frederick, Counselor in Austin, TX
 

I identify as a Kink-Aware Counselor and provide a welcoming space for members of the kink/BDSM community. I encourage my clients to be themselves and to talk freely about this aspect of their lives, without judgment.

— Brianna Badenhop, Counselor in COLUMBUS, OH

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Kink, BDSM and sexual "outsiders" are one of my favorite communities to work with. I enjoy helping folx explore these parts of themselves and integrate their orientations into their lives in a healthy, meaningful way. Perhaps you are in a relationship and want help talking to your partner(s) about kink. Maybe you feel ashamed for being kinky and need someone to help you process these feelings. I would be honored to help you through these challenges.

— SkyeBlu Cutchie, Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

Having explored several kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive. Personally, I have been more involved in the BDSM world. I am a switch and understand the mindset of a Dom and Sub. I know how to help clients explore these.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Boerne, TX

I am kink-aware and have experience working with D/s relationships and various fetishes, kinks and alternative lifestyles. I do not judge or assume there is something "wrong" with you for your sexual expression.

— Meghan Cleveland, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA
 

I work will all types of sexual behaviors, relationship configurations and non heteronormative expressions.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

While therapy is supposed to be a place of acceptance and non-judgement, when it comes to sex some counselors aren't equipped to lovingly work with the kink community. As a kink-aware professional, I have worked with those in the lifestyle and received advanced training and education in the world of kink, fetish, and sex worker culture. Human sexuality is vibrant and varied - your flavor of expression is unique and valued.

— Katrina Knizek, Counselor in Spokane, WA

Polyamorous, kinky, swingers, porn professionals and anyone who is seeking an understanding and nonjudgmental support system are welcome and accepted.

— Holly Mackin, Marriage & Family Therapist in MT HOLLY, NC
 

I have worked with clients with a wide variety of kinky identities & interests, everything from bondage to various fetishes to power-exchange relationships. I have no problem with educating myself about your kink, though I will ask about how you practice it, rather than assuming information I gathered from a book could encapsulate your play & identity. My passion is helping clients who have had therapists latch onto their outsider status as being THE problem, instead of seeing the whole person.

— Kelley O'Hanlon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Redmond, WA

While therapy is supposed to be a place of acceptance and non-judgement, when it comes to sex some counselors aren't prepared to lovingly work with the kink community. As a kink-aware professional, I have worked with those in the lifestyle and received advanced training and education in the world of kink, fetish, and sex worker culture. Human sexuality is vibrant and varied - your flavor of expression is unique and valued.

— Katrina Knizek, Counselor in Spokane, WA
 

My belief is that everybody has a kink, and as long as they are completed in a consensual and safe atmosphere they should be explored as often and freely as desires. My goal in therapy is to normalize your kinks and to help you explore kinks you may be curious about. As a kink friendly therapy rest assured that you will leave my office feeling affirmed in your desires to be or to remain kinky.

— Tia Evans, Sex Therapist in Hickory, NC

I work with people who enjoy a variety of sexual orientations including those outside the mainstream. You needn't have issues related to your sexuality and pleasures to work with me, but you can feel safe knowing that your 'lifestyle' will be embraced and won't be judged nor hidden in our work together.

— Cyndi Darnell, Sex Therapist in NYC, NY
 

I am extremely knowledgeable about kink and power exchange relationships; I have held lectures at both the undergraduate and graduate levels on kink and helping to de-stigmatize it. My particular expertise is around separating shame from kink.

— Evan Wilson, Social Worker in Columbia, MD
 

Every person deserves and meaningful, fulfilling sexual experience that brings them to life, gives them a sense of vitality and connection. We all find different paths to these enriching experiences. I work to empower people to find the ways they prefer and to get the most out of them. Much of this work involves overcoming shame and defeating oppression (internal and external) and bolstering empowerment.

— Matthew LeBauer, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

Sexual desires come in many shapes, sizes, colors and experiences. For those who don't enjoy the traditional model of what some call "vanilla sex," it can feel lonely and isolating to believe that you are 'different.' Well I am here to tell you that there's no need to feel alone! As a certified sex therapist, it is my goal and mission to help you connect with others who have similar sexual desires, and to be able to live out your fantasies shame free.

— Natalie Finegood Goldberg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in beverly hills, CA

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Nicole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Napa, CA