Kink / Sexual Outsiders

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environment. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s kink experts today.

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Leather, BDSM, ENM, Dom/Sub, Master/slave, SIR/boy (or boi), Daddy/son (boy or boi), Handler/pet dynamics.

— Cub Larkin, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Wilton Manors, FL

Providing competent, compassionate care to individuals and couples who identify as kinky is one of my specialties, and with my training in sex therapy I am confident that I am both kink-knowledgable and kink-affirming. I have years of experience working with couples and relationship groups looking to explore power imbalances, introduce an individual's kink in a safe and appropriate way and learning how to integrate their kinks into their experience of their sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

Having a kink and poly-aware therapist means: Not having to teach me about terms, practices or relationship structures. Knowing that I won’t blame your concerns on your sexual expression or number of partners. Having a therapist well-versed in jealousy and jealousy-management. Having your sexual expression and openness embraced as part of your identity. Having someone to help find the words for your exact needs in relationship.

— Mike Lysaght, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

I am a kink and sex positive provider and provide services with radical acceptance and kink competence.

— Danielle Greenspan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA
 

I am a BDSM friendly therapist. I am kink aware an open to supporting your alternative life style. When you work with a therapist it's hard to know, will they understand my kink? Will I be safe talking about my desire? Rest assured, all of you is welcome here! We can explore your history and preferences in an open and accepting environment. Whatever your kinks are, I'm here to support you!

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

I have additional training in sex therapy and alternative relationships through the Ohio Center for Relationship and Sexual Health. I am currently being supervised by a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor to obtain hours for AASECT. I am a proud AASECT and NCSF member.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. Meeting our sexual selves in the spirit of inquiry and curiosity can bring about radical transformation and profound acceptance of ourselves and our relationships. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marI provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities within a supportive space.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT

I currently run two groups related to kink/sexual outsiders. The "Edging Sexual Norms" group is designed for people with fetishes and "non-normative" sexual preferences that have been a consistent source of distress, shame, or tension in their day-to-day lives. Through focused group work facilitated by a clinical sexologist, clients will learn to explore and express their sexuality without shame. They will overcome social stigmas. And they will learn to integrate their

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC
 

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal and professional experience. I get kink from an insider's perspective, along with the highest training. Please know that you should feel comfortable sharing EVERYTHING but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Sexuality, especially outside of the supposed "norm," has historically been categorized as deviant, wrong, abnormal. I vehemently disagree and believe that sexual expression is a basic human right that no one has the right to judge. I strive to create an environment of understanding and validation that helps those who have been told they are wrong realize that they are healthy human beings worthy of a fulfilling life.

— Greyson Smith @ Forge Counseling Collective, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Colorado Springs, CO
 

Part of my initial training included working with people who self-identify as "sexual outsiders," and this is something that has applied to many of my clients. I am a member of Bay Area Open Minds, an organization for psychotherapists who affirm that sexual and gender diversity are natural expressions of the human experience. I attend panels and presentations as well as kink events.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX
 

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some couples. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

— Jerry Moreau, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I welcome all expressions of sexuality. I provide a non-judgmental space for clients who might feel marginalized because of their sexual preferences, or who want to dive into their own sexualities with support and encouragement.

— Pilar Dellano, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plainfield, VT
 

In human sexuality, kinkiness is the use of unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies. Kink plays a positive, healthy role in many people’s sex lives. However, integrating the nuances of kink, fetishes, and power-exchange into a loving, intimate relationship can be a challenge for some. Or maybe you want to work on something completely unrelated to your kink? A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-friendly can help you with both in a safe, welcoming and educated environmen

— Jerry Moreau, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I adopt a sex-positive outlook and understand that folx who fall in this group may be hesitant to bring up these aspects of themselves out of fear of being pathologized and in some cases, have even been harmed by previous therapists when addressing this topic. If you are a lifestyler or just getting curious, I'm more than willing to explore these areas with you and discuss how these practices relate to your life, relationships, interests, and ways to find community within them.

— Ben Hearn, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Cincinnati, OH
 

I am extremely active with the kink community, often presenting at conferences and providing education. I have been a member of this community for a number of years and have an extensive understanding of dynamics and power exchange. I am able to work with individuals or couples and, when working with me, there is no need to defend or hide the dynamics of your relationship(s) as I already possess high levels of understanding of the BDSM, D/s, and kink community.

— Farrah Bonnot, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denton, TX

I am the author of The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients, winner of the AASECT 2021 Book Award and the SSTAR 2022 Professional Book Award, and it's sequel Kink-Affirming Practice: Culturally Competent Therapy from The Leather Chair. Working with members of the BDSM community, and teaching other clinicians how to do the same, is what I do.

— Stefani Goerlich, Sex Therapist in Royal Oak, MI
 

I am a sex therapist that works couples.

— Katie Beers, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO