Divorce

Although common in the U.S. (50% of marriages end in divorce), a decision to end a marriage can be upsetting and filled with a number of opposing emotions. Each separation is unique and can be a heavy, emotional process for the family involved. Before, during and after a divorce, you might experience a myriad of feelings, including loss, anger, sadness, rejection, shock, regret, doubt, guilt, bitterness, or fear. In addition to helping to process these emotions, therapists that specialize in divorce are often well versed in the logistical issues that come up and can help guide individuals through questions such as living arrangements, finances, and more. Children involved in divorce also often have trouble coping. Seeing a qualified professional therapist during this time can help them, and you, to manage in healthy ways. Contact one of TherapyDen’s divorce specialists for help today!

Meet the specialists

I was trained as a coparent facilitator but decided to use that training in my role of an advocate for children of divorce. I have conducted reunification efforts between parents and estranged family members. I have done expert witness testimony in county courts in GEorgia and Texas.

— Julie Carbery, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

An all-too-often neglected part of the relationship cycle, breakups and divorce are a natural and important part of a relational and intimate life. They have the power to transform us in meaningful ways that intact relationships often cannot, to completely shift our perspective of success, intimacy, love, compassion, and certainty. Simultaneously, they can also melt away the images we have of our lives, our futures, and our very characters.

— Grant Gordin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

Over the past several years I have developed a passion for working with families through divorce, working with individual family members to help heal unresolved grief and loss issues such as problems with adjustment, anxiety, anger, and depression. I also work with parents to heal attachment wounds with their children, and offer reintegration therapy when appropriate.

— Kim Johancen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

When going through a divorce or separation, it can feel overwhelming. Stress, fear, loneliness, grief and sadness, confusion - pretty much every painful emotion you can think of. Divorce is one of the most stressful experiences you can go through - it's actually near the top of most lists of stressful life events. The good news is that you don't have to go through it alone, and it can be a catalyst for amazing growth that can take you to places you never imagined you would be. I know this because not only do I help clients through this painful process, but I've gone through it myself. It took a lot of work and I wish I'd been able to get good help through the process. Help that wouldn't minimize my pain or give me meaningless cliches. I won't tell you that "everything happens for a reason" or that "every cloud has a silver lining." I will do my best to support you every step of the way to rebuilding your life and discovering new and exciting parts of yourself.

— Darin Bergen, Psychologist in Portland, OR
 

Your relationship has ended and now you don't know where you start and how to fix your broken heart. Divorce and break ups suck...there is no easy way to say it. Let me help you get through the sucky part to help you get back to where you want to be. First...we need to really help you clear out the emotional, physical and mental baggage that your previous relationship left behind before we can start to really build you up. Once we can unpack all that baggage we can truly begin to figure out who you want to be. Building you up and your self-confidence is ESSENTIAL in order to get you feeling like a 10. Whether your relationship ended 6 days or 6 months ago, give me a call so we can get you back to being you.

— Jessica Jefferson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Plantation, FL

Your relationship has ended and now you don't know where you start and how to fix your broken heart. Divorce and break ups suck...there is no easy way to say it. Let me help you get through the sucky part to help you get back to where you want to be. First...we need to really help you clear out the emotional, physical and mental baggage that your previous relationship left behind before we can start to really build you up. Once we can unpack all that baggage we can truly begin to figure out who you want to be. Building you up and your self-confidence is ESSENTIAL in order to get you feeling like a 10. Whether your relationship ended 6 days or 6 months ago divorce and break up recovery is essential before you put yourself back out there. You may not be ready, but that is the perfect place to be in. I can help you get ready. Give me a call today!

— Jessica Jefferson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Plantation, FL
 

Divorce is a very emotional equation, especially if kids are involved. Just ask many smiling attorneys;) But when kids are involved, it is VERY important that ex-partners try and be roughly on the same page, for the sake of their kids Within this whirlwind of emotional "triggers," the discipline of governing our own emotions is often challenged. I can provide experience tested tools, to help you soothe your pain, fill the void, and hopefully "move on" with your changing life.

— Sandy Marsh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

There are a myriad of emotions that often surface with the decision to divorce. Specific emotions and dynamics often come into play depending on whether you are the initiator to get the divorce or the one who doesn't want the divorce. The initiator may have emotions such as distance, doubt, guilt, or relief surface while the one who doesn't want the divorce may have emotions such as betrayal, loss, grief, lack of confidence, rejection or shock surface. Emotions such as anger, revenge, the desire to reconcile, and insecurity may also surface. I often facilitate families in the process of divorce. When emotions are charged, as they often are during the process of divorce, it can help to have an objective third party facilitate ending a relationship, especially when children are involved. I can facilitate couples and families by supporting you in creating smooth transitions while learning effective coping strategies.

— Kathy Hardie-Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tigard, OR

Although the ending of a relationship can be extremely painful, counseling can be very effective in helping women rebuild their lives and regain their confidence after a painful breakup or divorce. Many people carry around anger, guilt, shame, bitterness and resentment for years after the relationship has ended. Don’t let the ending of your relationship be the end of you. Life is not over for you. You can still achieve your goals and dreams. You can still live a wonderfully fulfilling life!

— ALICIA CLAYBON, Counselor in Montgomery, AL
 

Counseling/therapy for conflicted divorce/custody situations: children, parents, co-parenting, reunification therapy

— Robin Knoblach, Clinical Psychologist in Herndon, VA
 

Parents who are experiencing divorce and child custody evaluations (social studies) are often under extreme stress. This makes it difficult to present their case in the most rational and emotion-free way. I have conducted these evaluations and I know what is expected and how to prepare properly in order help my client hit the "hot buttons" and avoid the traps, and deal with evaluator bias. I am able to perform child custody evaluations, but I prefer to coach and prepare parents in divorce and child custody cases to present their case to the evaluator in the most powerful and effective way. I can say with 100% certainty that proper preparation for a social study or custody evaluation will result in a better outcome for my client and for his/her children. I can provide this service on a nationwide basis.

— Stephen Finstein, Therapist in Dallas, TX

One of my subspecialties is divorce counseling, either as individuals or as a couple, and all emotional issues surrounding this process. In addition, I am a certified divorce mediator and work with couples at any stage of the process to minimize conflict and maximize positive relationships and effective co-parenting.

— Alan Winder, Clinical Psychologist in hewlett, NY