With over 20 years of clinical experience, I recognize that life is about transition, purposeful change, and meaningful growth.
Psychologist in Durham, NC
I offer Discernment Counseling for those trying to determine if they should stay together or separate. For those looking to separate with dignity and respect, I offer Mediation services. If you are involved in a Collaborative Divorce, I can serve as a Divorce Coach and Child Specialist. I offer Divorce Counseling, Co-Parenting, and Parenting Plan Consultation. I also work collaboratively with my team offering Reunification Therapy, Psychological, Custody and Substance Abuse Evaluations.
What we learn from our own family affects our sense of self and seeps into our partnerships, work, and child-rearing. Solid individual or couples' therapy involves values clarification, trust and commitment, developing positive feelings towards oneself and our partner, sharing in life achievements, and conflict resolution skills. Insight isn't the cure, but it's where action begins.
Once we enter adulthood, we are continually preparing for the next stage of life. This leads to a change in values and dip in life satisfaction. Happiness isn't tied to our external circumstances, yet we still find ourselves striving to meet some unmeetable goal. This leads us to be frustrated achievers who feel guilty or experience malaise despite good jobs, good families, and stable income. Acceptance, commitment, and action to change can help us escape the happiness trap.
If you or your partner are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. I will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health or move toward divorce. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.
I am committed to saving your relationship. Couples counseling is a particularly difficult task to undertake. People often present to counseling when they are feeling desperate in their relationship. I strive to help you develop what Dr. John Gottman coined as a "Sound Relationship House." This involves trust and commitment, positive feelings towards your partner, sharing in life achievements, and conflict resolution. I look forward to helping you create a solid foundation.
Happiness is not necessarily a natural state of being. ACT helps you understand that unhappy or anxious thoughts and feelings are normal. We will explore how to accept those thoughts and feelings, how to align your values with your actions, and how to create a life worth living.