Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

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I am a relational therapist, and I love working with relational configurations of any size. Whether you are a couple looking to open your relationship, a single individual ethically dating more than one person, a committed triad, or anyone in between, I understand and am happy to help you explore your relationship struggles and triumphs.

— Cate Morrow, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

Non-traditional relationships offer the opportunity to maximize our interpersonal connectedness. I seek to support folks in polyamorous and open relationships by embracing the difficult emotions that often arise and processing them as strengths.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

Consensual non monogamous relationships are growing every year and having a therapist who is versed and trained in this relationship structure is so valuable for people looking to enter polyamory in an informed manner, or to address issues that may arise in poly relationships. Knowing that you can come to therapy to address open relationship dynamics from a supportive, welcoming stance is the empowering experience many clients need.

— Leah Logan, Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID

I have extensive work with a variety of ways relationship can be defined in regards to open/non monogamy/ENM and other ways of labeling non traditional relationships. I help you find meaning in your relationship, explore what it may mean by opening your relationship up, or looking at the obstacles that may be present through building trust, safety, grounded agreements, and clear communication/goals.

— Adrian Scharfetter, Sex Therapist in Sacramento, CA

I have personal and professional experience working with individuals who are a part of the poly and ENM communities. I find working with this community (of which I am a part of) very rewarding and critical given how marginalized and unsupported this population is.

— Saara Amri, Licensed Professional Counselor in Springfield, VA

“I don’t want an open relationship, but I want to support my partner.” Not everyone is certain about the relationship they want or need all the time. Sometimes these needs are fixed, and sometimes they shift over time. I have worked with mono-poly couples in my practice, where one partner identifies as monogamous and the other as polyamorous. I can work with triads, quads or other family units just as I would work with a couple.

— Mike Lysaght, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

I have been involved in the alternative lifestyles myself for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Polyamory and other forms of non-monogamy are healthy and wonderful ways of engaging in relationships but it can be hard to find a counselor who is knowledgeable on non-monogamy and how it looks in the world. As someone who is polyamorous and is completing a dissertation on polyamorists, I excited to support you in your relationship orientation as it best fits for you.

— Carly Stevens, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

Whether your involved in or wanting to explore an ethical non monogamous relationship, as a couple or solo I will help not only answer but ask questions that will guide you and have you better equiped for any bumps that lay ahead. There are plenty of informative books on this topic, together we will figure out a course that is tailored to you.

— Gwen Lotery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

Clients should feel affirmed that polyamory is a valid lifestyle, and my practice is welcoming towards polyamorous people. Furthermore, I have over two decades experience understanding the diverse spectrum of the consensually non-monogamy communities.

— Erick Sowell, Clinical Social Worker in Baltimore, MD

I help individuals develop the relationship they want by working through open communication and developing a solid foundation to stay connected. As we are all products of our childhood environment, sometimes we need help shedding old ideas and biases about what a relationship should look like. By acknowledging and and working through these barriers we can get you to the relationship you want to have.

— Rachael Lastoff, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Newport, KY

Times are changing, and compulsory monogamy is on the way out. So many couples are “opening up” without support or education about what that may consist of. Modern healthy relationships are consensual, communicative, and respectful, no matter what the “rules” are. How do we know what we want in our relationships when we have been taught to feel ashamed of our desires? How do we navigate jealousy or fear in a way that is beneficial to our relationships? Let's explore boundaries and preferences!

— Lauren Sill, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate

As a therapist in East Tennessee, I know that finding polyam-friendly providers can still be a challenge. Everyone deserves to have a non-judgmental and informed space to process. It would be a privilege to navigate your story with you, whether you are exploring non-monogamy for the first time, working through relationship issues in an established polyamorous relationship, or just wanting a therapist who understands that non-monogamy is part of your life.

— Lauren Green, Mental Health Counselor in Knoxville, TN

I have extensive experience working with non-monogamous individuals and groups both as a therapist and a coach. I am also an active member of the non-monogamous community.

— Rebecca Szymborski, Social Worker in New York, NY

I help individuals and couples navigate the complexities and joys of non-monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships. Clear goals, boundaries, trust, respect, consent, and communication are vital but not sufficient aspects to success in these partnerships. Whether you are newly considering opening up your relationship or have been a part of the community for some time, I’d be happy to help you explore, create, and thrive in the relationship structure that best suits your needs.

— Eric van der Voort, Sex Therapist in San Diego, CA

I have years of personal experience in the ethical non-monogamy community. I love helping couples find security in their relationship so that they feel safe to explore others. I nerd out about relationship dynamics and love reading everything I can about polyamory and alternative lifestyles. I work with people to increase secure attachment, increase sexual and emotional fulfillment, and create the life that they want.

— Tasha Trembath, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Covington, WA

I help clients in poly and open relationships by supporting them as they develop a greater sense of self through relationships with others. In my work with poly clients, we explore personal needs and how they are(n't) met and consider ways that these relationships can be structured.

— Ben Hearn, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Allison Park, PA

I am a relational therapist, and I love working with relational configurations of any size. Whether you are a couple looking to open your relationship, a single individual ethically dating more than one person, a committed triad, or anyone in between, I understand and am happy to explore your relationship struggles and triumphs.

— Cate Morrow, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL