Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

Meet the specialists

I have extensive work with a variety of ways relationship can be defined in regards to open/non monogamy and other ways of labeling non traditional relationships. I help you find meaning in your relationship, explore what it may mean by opening your relationship up, or looking at the obstacles that may be present through building trust, safety, and clear communication/goals.

— Adrian Scharfetter, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA
 

Opening up an existing relationship, navigating a complex polycule or feeling like enough with a partner who loves others can all come with a stress and pain that our society does little to prepare people for. In working together on these issues we can learn how to find, build, heal and maintain the relationship style that fits and fulfills you perfectly.

— Christy Powell, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Austin, TX

As someone who practices nonmonogamy, I know that finding a clinician that understands the subtleties of the relational style without pathologizing it can be difficult to come by. I recognize the difference between an issue stemming from nonmonogamy practice versus an issue occurring in someone's life who happens to also be nonmonogamous. I offer assistance with both depending on client needs and am versed in different nonmonogamous lifestyles, removing the need for a client to educate.

— Rayne Banneck, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA
 

All forms of consentual non-monogamy are welcome at TheraBee. I work with individuals who are, who want to, or who are curious about practicing ethical non-monogamy. I also offer relationship therapy - even if there are more than 2 people in the part of the polycule that want therapy!

— Andrea Bezaire, Psychologist in Ann Arbor, MI

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path! No "side eye" from me!

— Paula Kirsch, Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI
 

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path!

— Paula Kirsch, Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI

I am intimately familiar with the oft-turbulent waters of polyamorous relationships. Although there is a growing acceptance of these relationship structures, there isn't a lot of education and support in how to manage them in healthy ways. I work with clients to build skills that allow them to be successful in these areas!

— Samantha Roth, Social Worker in Baltimore, MD
 

I've been involved with the consensual non-monogamy community since 2012, and have been working clinically with this community since I was in school.

— Julia Koerwer, Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

I have been practicing consensual non monogamy the last 10years and solo Poly for 5years. I see individuals and couples who are interested in exploring polyamory or opening up their monogamous relationship. I also assist clients that already practicing alternative relationships with clear and direct communication with each other. If you are just beginning to explore Polyamory I can help you navigate the different relationship structures and find one that works best for you.

— Olivia Weber, Creative Art Therapist in New York, NY
 

I like helping poly folks and families deepen their connections through understanding and having compassion for each others'attachment styles, as well as honoring the boundaries of all involved through agreed upon, relational, codes of conduct.

— Jules Allison, Counselor in Portland, OR

I specialize in working with singles, couples, and groups who are exploring or approaching issues in alternative relationships and alternative family structures, including ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, kink, living single, co-parenting, and chosen family. I also bring extended knowledge about: * compersion (“the opposite of jealousy”) * coming out and living out in the context of SOGIE, alternative relationships, and chosen family * relationship shifts and transitions * interdependence in long-term romantic relationships Yes, all relationships shift and change; yet, love can regenerate again and again in the most mysterious moments and forms when we stay open and curious.

— Anna Hirsch, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oaklnd, CA

I've spent the past few years exploring the spiritual growth potential of healthy and conscious relationships that defy traditional norms. Whether you are curious to explore open relationships or have been practicing a polyamorous lifestyle for some time, I can support you in negotiating boundaries, clarifying desires, and managing the emotions that this still misunderstood approach to love can bring to the surface.

— Katrina Michelle, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path!

— Paula Kirsch, Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI
 

I have a Consensual Non-Monogamy Certificate, which means I have gone through special training as a therapist in order to understand the specific issues that you may face in an open, monogamish, poly, or swinging relationship. I am passionate about fighting stigma, and helping to navigate the negotiations, communication issues, and support needed to create and sustain these relationships and all your partners.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in San Diego, CA

I have worked with a wide variety of relationship structures with clients that include ethical non-monogamy, poly relationships, relationship anarchy, etc.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Polyamory may mean love without limits...but it certainly doesn't mean love without CHALLENGES. And none of us grew up with templates for anything outside the mono-norm. I often tell clients the great thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities. And the rough thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities! Together, we can find the path that works best for you.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Los Angeles, CA
 

I believe that love is love. I think our cultural tendency to default to the concepts of monogamy are mostly just that -- a cultural default. I have known personally and professionally the possibilities of relationships that are other-than-monogamous. I am familiar with the inherent challenges and respect every individual's right to choose all of their relationships. I also recognize -- very importantly in a conservative community such as where I practice -- both the impacts of extended family and community relationships and the crucial importance of discretion. As with all of my clients, professional confidentiality is adhered to with vigilance.

— Tracy Morris, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Spring, TX

Polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are becoming more accepted ways of creating and maintaining relationships in lieu of traditional monogamy. If you're non-monogamous, you may prefer to create and maintain connections with multiple partners. I specialize in working with individuals and poly families who need help with improving communication, sorting out hierarchies of relationships, addressing jealousy of metamours, healing infidelity/ broken agreements, and rebuilding intimacy.

— Tammy 'Kaia' Bruski, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

A therapeutic approach that is familiar with and affirming toward polyamorous and open relationships. This allows one to explore their current as well as desired structure of relationships in order to increase their intimate connections through learning how to improve communication and boundaries.

— Jor-El Zajatz, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in San Antonio, TX

If you need to talk to a mental health counselor about something that happened during a scene with your metamour, call me. I get it. With me you will find a knowledgeable and affirming ally.

— Ellen Ross Hodge, Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

All of our therapists have varying level of experience with different communities and experience within polyamory, but all of our therapists have competence and an expertise in working with polyamory and open relationships with individuals and partnerships

— Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in new york, NY

I draw from personal and professional experience in understanding the unique challenges and needs of this community. I approach this work with a focus on unpacking beliefs about roles and rules in relationships often internalized from our families and larger cultural narratives. I am particularly attentive to the power and control dynamics intertwined with all emotional relationship and that are often amplified through the practice of non-monogamy.

— Jessica Broderick, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR
 

Marriage and Family Therapy is perfect for the poly community, because it is all about relationships. As a poly-friendly therapist, I know that being poly isn't the only thing poly people seek therapy for, but rather I can work with and integrate the complications and often additional connections being some form of consensual non-monogamy calls brings. My work is sex positive and non judgmental.

— Daniel Stillwell, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Charlotte, NC

I personally believe that no one person can meet all of our relationship needs. For this reason, I support ethical non-monogamy in all of its forms whether it is solo-polyamory, polyamory, swinging, relationship anarchy or any other definition that my client might use.

— Deanna Potts, Clinical Social Worker in Fort Worth, TX
 

I believe that monogamy is not a relationship structure that meets the needs for every couple. I can help my clients either open their relationship or strengthen their practice of ethical non-monogamy. I am a big advocate for laying solid foundations so that you and your partner(s) can enjoy a healthy, joyous, and pleasurable relationship whatever the constellation is.

— (CURRENTLY NOT ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS) Sophia O'Connor, Sex Therapist in Denver, CO