Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

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I work with couples and ENM partnerships from an attachment perspective - helping partners identify the patterns that are rooted in attachment wounds and unmet attachment needs. I help partners communicate in a deeper, more attuned way to promote closeness, understanding, and intimacy. I am especially skilled at supporting partnerships that are struggling with the effects of discrimination due to their LGBTQ+ identities and/or ENM relationship structure.

— Antoinette Mastronardi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I have significant experience working and connecting with the polyamorous community. I work to support individuals in exploring and becoming comfortable in their identities and in finding successful and comfortable relationship configurations.

— eric bjorlin, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Evanston, IL

Open relationships are more about transformation rather than exploration. Embracing our infinite ability to love, we are reminded of the possibilities of transforming our own lives by letting go of the binds and tight holds we have on each other and begin embracing ourselves do we truly understand what love really looks, feels like, and means. True autonomy and freedom are about transformation not exploration. If you seek open relationships for some other reason you may be missing the point.

— Moushumi Ghose, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I provide a judgement-free zone for couples who identify as non-monogamous. Like any relationship, it is important to maintain effective communication with your partners. Are you exploring what you want your relationship to look like? Do you need help establishing boundaries? Is there a transition in your life that has caused distress? I can empower and guide you towards living the life you want.

— Cassandra Hesse, Counselor in Austin, TX

I have both professional and personal experience in initiating and navigating ethically non-monogamous relationships. It can be a very exciting journey full of discovery and connection but it can also be challenging. I give partners and individuals tools and resources to understand and minimize the negative possibilities and enhance the positive ones.

— Jamila Dawson, Sex Therapist in , CA

Nearly a quarter of my caseload has been centered around relationships that are practicing ethical non monogamy, transitioning into opening or closing their relationships, and other conversations around the impacts of society’s expectations for monogamy.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in Austin, TX

Many individuals find joy in having close relationships on both sexual and emotional levels with multiple partners. These relationship styles require honest communication and healthy boundaries. As a trained sex therapist, I work with participants to strengthen communication skills and utilize resources that best support the sustainability of consensual and ethical non-monogamous relationship styles.

— Janice Leonard, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX

Maybe you haven’t dated other people since well…before you dated each other. And you’re trying to decide if non-monogamy is right for you. Or you’ve already opened up but you need help defining your boundaries and navigating jealousy. I'm here to support you on your non-monogamy journey!

— EO Mendelsohn, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

“I don’t want an open relationship, but I want to support my partner.” Not everyone is certain about the relationship they want or need all the time. Sometimes these needs are fixed, and sometimes they shift over time. I have worked with mono-poly couples in my practice, where one partner identifies as monogamous and the other as polyamorous. I can work with triads, quads or other family units just as I would work with a couple.

— Mike Lysaght, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

Opening your relationship, learning how to negotiate, how to have solid communication are all areas I work with in CNM relationships. I come from an attachment lens and will focus on how each person can be their authentic self while creating a secure attachment bond.

— KIMBERLY CASTELO, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Spokane, WA

My expertise with Polyamorous and Open relationships: I have worked with multiple couples exploring opening up their relationships, as well as navigating the complications that come from open relationships. I firmly believe that non-monogamy is not for everyone, and I am thrilled to help couples and moresomes navigate this rewarding way of engaging in relationships.

— Kelley O'Hanlon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Redmond, WA

I have years of personal experience in the ethical non-monogamy community. I love helping couples find security in their relationship so that they feel safe to explore others. I nerd out about relationship dynamics and love reading everything I can about polyamory and alternative lifestyles. I work with people to increase secure attachment, increase sexual and emotional fulfillment, and create the life that they want.

— Tasha Perkins, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

As someone who has explored ENM personally, my clients regularly express a tremendous sense of relief not having to educate me on the lingo or having to fear that I'll think their relationship structure is the cause of their issues. I also assist clients in deciding if ethical non-monogamy is for them and supporting them in beginning their explorations of opening up.

— Tori Buckley, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

My training as a therapist landed me with a degree in Marriage and Family therapy, which basically means I work with relationship systems. As a non monogomous therapist I quickly began applying what I was learning in school to non monogomous relationship structures to better serve communities I belong to and work with. My training to work with relationships started in grad school, Gottman level 1 and now Developmental Model (attachment and relationship stage based).

— Birch Snogles, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ann arbor, MI

Whether you are already open or are looking to explore the possibility, communication and connection are key. Like all intimate relationships, open relationships can be both rewarding and challenging, but can also be more complicated. It is important to learn to communicate effectively with our partners, set appropriate boundaries, and identify needs. Therapy can bring conscious awareness and gives you a choice in how you deal with issues individually and together.

— Rachel Mitchell, Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

As someone who has lived experience in conscious non-monogamy I always knew that this was an issue that I wanted to support clients through. Polyamorous and Open Relationships are valid forms of relationships, but they only work when you put the work in to understand why you're drawn to it and communicate with your partners effectively. Working in relationships I utilize EFT, Gottman level 1, and Developmental Model (attachment and relationship stage based).

— Marjorie Boggs Vazquez, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Negotiating the rules for non-monogamy isn't easy. And yes, there are rules. In fact, there are often more rules in open relationships than there are in "monogamous" couples. Monogamy used to mean one partner for life. Now it simply means one partner at a time. Though I myself am monogamous, I have helped many couples navigate the expectations and boundaries of their relationships- some who have faced infidelity and others who are opening their relationships for the first time.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Non-traditional relationships offer the opportunity to maximize our interpersonal connectedness. I seek to support folks in polyamorous and open relationships by embracing the difficult emotions that often arise and processing them as strengths.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY