Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

Meet the specialists

Polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are becoming more accepted ways of creating and maintaining relationships in lieu of traditional monogamy. If you're non-monogamous, you may prefer to create and maintain connections with multiple partners. I specialize in working with individuals and poly families who need help with improving communication, sorting out hierarchies of relationships, addressing jealousy of metamours, healing infidelity/ broken agreements, and rebuilding intimacy.

— Tammy 'Kaia' Bruski, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO
 

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path!

— Paula Kirsch, Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI

Communication is important but I take this topic deeper by exploring relationship traumas and attachment issues. We will work on co-creating the relationship environment you most desire by using transparent communication, face value trust, relationship agreements, externalizing foundational values, and exploring old patterns. I will also walk you through showing up for a partner's trauma and I have lots of resources to share.

— Lacey Stewart, Counselor in Albuquerque, NM
 

Many clients wishing to attend therapy for two primary reasons. Either to being or open a current relationship they are in, or to manage their current open or Poly relationship.

— Marissa Talarico, Counselor in Vancovuer, WA

I live and work in the open relationship community and I have the experience to help clients negotiate particular aspects of their communication and relationships or I can more simply be the therapist that is accepting of clients lifestyle.

— Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

My expertise with Polyamorous and Open relationships: I have worked with multiple couples exploring opening up their relationships, as well as navigating the complications that come from open relationships. I firmly believe that non-monogamy is not for everyone, and I am thrilled to help couples and moresomes navigate this rewarding way of engaging in relationships.

— Kelley O'Hanlon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Redmond, WA

Many therapists will try to tell you that monogamy is the only sustainable relationship model, even though one only needs to look at the statistics to know otherwise. There is no judgment in my office for relationship models that are different from the culture's only accepted model. I have personally lived a open relationship model since 1992.

— kaseja wilder, Counselor in Eugene, OR
 

I work with individuals or couples interested in exploring polyamorous or open relationships, or clients seeking to enhance or work on their current relationships. I frequently use skill-building techniques such as communication, setting boundaries, and listening skills when I work with clients.

— Lacie Rasmussen, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA

I have knowledge and experience working with polyamorous and open relationship clients.

— Heather Bell, Clinical Social Worker in Clackamas, OR
 

I draw from personal and professional experience in understanding the unique needs of this community. I approach this work with a focus on unpacking beliefs about roles and rules in relationships often internalized from our families and larger cultural narratives. I am particularly attentive to the power and control dynamics intertwined with all emotional relationship and that are often amplified through the practice of non-monogamy.

— Jessica Broderick, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR

Open relationships are more about transformation rather than exploration. Embracing our infinite ability to love, we are reminded of the possibilities of transforming our own lives by letting go of the binds and tight holds we have on each other and begin embracing ourselves do we truly understand what love really looks, feels like, and means. True autonomy and freedom are about transformation not exploration. If you seek open relationships for some other reason you may be missing the point.

— MOUSHUMI GHOSE, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in TOLUCA LAKE, CA
 

I've spent the past few years exploring the spiritual growth potential of healthy and conscious relationships that defy traditional norms. Whether you are curious to explore open relationships or have been practicing a polyamorous lifestyle for some time, I can support you in negotiating boundaries, clarifying desires, and managing the emotions that this still misunderstood approach to love can bring to the surface.

— Katrina Michelle, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

I like helping poly folks and families deepen their connections through understanding and having compassion for each others'attachment styles, as well as honoring the boundaries of all involved through agreed upon, relational, codes of conduct.

— Jules Allison, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Originally inspired by Dr. Ruth Westheimer, I knew I wanted to be a sex therapist someday. I just didn't know it was possible. After graduation I learned that I could specialize in sex therapy! So I did! As a graduate of U of M's Sexual Health Certificate Program, I welcome working with people in non-traditional relationships, whether they be open, poly, or "monogamish." I "get you" and honor your path! No "side eye" from me!

— Paula Kirsch, Clinical Social Worker in Detroit, MI

Marriage and Family Therapy is perfect for the poly community, because it is all about relationships. As a poly-friendly therapist, I know that being poly isn't the only thing poly people seek therapy for, but rather I can work with and integrate the complications and often additional connections being some form of consensual non-monogamy calls brings. My work is sex positive and non judgmental.

— Daniel Stillwell, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Charlotte, NC
 

I am a sex-positive LGBTQI+ ally and am a poly-affirmative and kink-friendly therapist. I completed the post-graduate sex therapy and sex education certification at University of Michigan and am active in continuing education in the field of relationships, sex and sexuality.

— Ciara Braun, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, MI

All forms of consentual non-monogamy are welcome at TheraBee. I work with individuals who are, who want to, or who are curious about practicing ethical non-monogamy. I also offer relationship therapy - even if there are more than 2 people in the part of the polycule that want therapy!

— Andrea Bezaire, Psychologist in Ann Arbor, MI
 

Exploring your relationship values can help you ground into what you really want and need, and create the relationship orientation that is right for you. I have knowledge of many different types and styles of polyamory, non-monogamy, and open relationships. I hold the belief that any type of relationship can be healthy with the consent and honestly of all partners.

— Amanda Ball, Counselor in Portland, OR

Society tends to define a romantic relationship as a one on one arrangement, but the truth is, that is not always the case. Whether your relationship involves two or more people, or whether you have (or are considering) an open relationship, working with a polyamory-aware counselor can help you to define your boundaries create agreements for a healthy relationship, cope with jealousy, and explore sexual and romantic relationships that fall outside of traditional concepts of monogamy

— Elizabeth Harles, Counselor in Raleigh, NC
 

A therapeutic approach that is familiar with and affirming toward polyamorous and open relationships. This allows one to explore their current as well as desired structure of relationships in order to increase their intimate connections through learning how to improve communication and boundaries.

— Jor-El Zajatz, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

I have been in polyamorous relationships since 2002, and have worked with both polyamorous individuals and couples.

— Amina Elfiki, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in OAKLAND, CA
 

Polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are becoming more accepted ways of creating and maintaining relationships in lieu of traditional monogamy. If you're non-monogamous, you may prefer to create and maintain connections with multiple partners. I specialize in working with individuals and poly families who need help with improving communication, sorting out hierarchies of relationships, addressing jealousy with metamours, healing infidelity/ broken agreements, and rebuilding trust.

— Tammy 'Kaia' Bruski, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

All of our therapists have varying level of experience with different communities and experience within polyamory, but all of our therapists have competence and an expertise in working with polyamory and open relationships with individuals and partnerships

— Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in new york, NY
 

I am well-versed in ethical non-monogamy. If your relationship involves consenting adults, then you are welcome here. If you want to discuss issues that connect with your relationship structure, I will be non-judgmental and supporting. If you want to discuss other issues that have nothing to do with your relationship structure, I will not tell you that non-monogamy is the problem. Finally, if some of you are more enthusiastic about non-monogamy than others, I can help you work through it.

— Gretta Duleba, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA