Polyamorous and Open Relationships

Even though they both fall under the umbrella of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships are two very different things. Polyamory means having multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. Whatever form of non-monogamy you practice or are interested in exploring, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. If you are running into issues or roadblocks, seeing a qualified mental health professional provides a safe and supportive space to discuss your concerns and improve communication skills. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s polyamorous and open relationships experts today.

Meet the specialists

I have specialized in CNM/ Polyamory for ten years and bring a creative mind and a thoughtful approach to complex relational topics. I work regularly with intense jealousy and feeling triggered. I am very experienced with divulging polyamory to children and family. I work equally with those looking to open a monogamous relationship as well as with those in an existing non-monogamous relationship looking to explore challenges. I am experienced working with group sexuality.

— Sarah Levinson, Counselor in New York, NY

Clients should feel affirmed that polyamory is a valid lifestyle, and my practice is welcoming towards polyamorous people. Furthermore, I have over two decades experience understanding the diverse spectrum of the consensually non-monogamy communities.

— Erick Sowell, Clinical Social Worker in Owings Mills, MD

The term “non-monogamy” is an umbrella term that captures all forms of relationship practices that do not fit the typical guidelines of monogamous relationships. Non-monogamous relationships can include polyamory, swinging, open relationships, and various levels of commitment. Some people live with a primary partner, while other people explore dating and/or living with multiple partners.

— Lisa May-Sachs, Clinical Social Worker in Baltimore, MD

Polyamory may mean love without limits...but it certainly doesn't mean love without CHALLENGES. And none of us grew up with templates for anything outside the mono-norm. I often tell clients the great thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities. And the rough thing about consensual non-monogamy is it really makes us explore our issues and our insecurities! Together, we can find the path that works best for you.

— LAKink Shrink, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Los Angeles, CA

A therapeutic approach that is familiar with and affirming toward polyamorous and open relationships. This allows one to explore their current as well as desired structure of relationships in order to increase their intimate connections through learning how to improve communication and boundaries.

— Jor-El Zajatz, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Polyamory is something many therapists do not understand or want to do. It can be easy to get confused by polycules or how a certain relationship orientation is not ‘societal norm’ and still be functional. Polyamory can be a beautiful thing in all of its many forms. From a Vee to a triad to cross-coupling and more complex relationship orientations, polyamory is not for everyone. It can be a difficult lifestyle for some to understand and flourish in. But when it's done right it can be fulfilling.

— PT Gross, Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado Springs, CO

Finding a therapist who is comfortable with the notion of non-monogamous relationships can be a difficult task. Those currently in or seeking to explore any form of consensual non-monogamous relationship often find their ability to commit, mental health, and sexual interests questioned and pathologized by family, friends, and greater society. In my practice, I provide therapy from a trained and affirmative perspective on consensual non-monogamy.

— Grant Gordin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I am a relational therapist, and I love working with relational configurations of any size. Whether you are a couple looking to open your relationship, a single individual ethically dating more than one person, a committed triad, or anyone in between, I understand and am happy to explore your relationship struggles and triumphs.

— Cate Morrow, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

I have had the pleasure and privilege of working with clients with all kinds of relationship orientations. I have seen the beauty and expansiveness of non-monogamy first hand. I believe that all relationships are valid and deserve the chance to thrive and flourish. Unfortunately we live in a society that still has a very narrow vision of what relationships should be. In my practice, however, all relationships will be celebrated, supported, and affirmed.

— Danielle Goldstein, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

Everybody loves different and no two relationships are the same. I acknowledged that many have the ability to love and to be loved by as many people as they see fit. My goal is to normalize your relationship style and to help you enhance the quality of your relationship(s) by centering your desires and you goals of care within the sessions.

— Tia Evans, Sex Therapist in Hickory, NC

All of our therapists have varying level of experience with different communities and experience within polyamory, but all of our therapists have competence and an expertise in working with polyamory and open relationships with individuals and partnerships

— Gender & Sexuality Therapy Center, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in new york, NY

Most of us are taught that monogamy is the only moral way of being in romantic relationship with others. While monogamy is a perfectly valid and wonderful choice for some, non-monogamy is just as valid and wonderful for others! Given the world we live in, though, non-monogamy comes with many obstacles that we have not been taught to navigate. Jealousy, for example, is normal and to be expected. It's how you respond to it that matters. And don't worry, my office has more than two chairs. :)

— Emily Graham, Therapist in Denver, CO

Opening up an existing relationship, navigating a complex polycule or feeling like enough with a partner who loves others can all come with a stress and pain that our society does little to prepare people for. In working together on these issues we can learn how to find, build, heal and maintain the relationship style that fits and fulfills you perfectly.

— Christy Powell, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Austin, TX

I have been involved in and had friends and clients in non-monogamous and/or kink communities in the SF Bay Area for 5 years. Monogamy, asexuality, relationship anarchy ... I welcome all relationship types in my office. To hear more about my thoughts on polyamory, listen to this podcast I did earlier this year: https://www.meridian-counseling.com/podcasts/2018/9/9/episode-29-understaning-polyamory-from-a-new-perspective

— Valerie Beltrán, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Lafayette, CA

I am well-versed in ethical non-monogamy. If your relationship involves consenting adults, then you are welcome here. If you want to discuss issues that connect with your relationship structure, I will be non-judgmental and supporting. If you want to discuss other issues that have nothing to do with your relationship structure, I will not tell you that non-monogamy is the problem. Finally, if some of you are more enthusiastic about non-monogamy than others, I can help you work through it.

— Gretta Duleba, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

— Monte Miller, Psychologist in San Antonio, TX

I like helping poly folks and families deepen their connections through understanding and having compassion for each others'attachment styles, as well as honoring the boundaries of all involved through agreed upon, relational, codes of conduct.

— Jules Allison, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have found that the counseling resources available for folks who orient toward poly relationships are fairly sparse, so this is work that I have found a passion for. Whether it be navigating this for yourself for the first time, to identifying issues within pre-existing relationships, I am confident that we can find what fits best for you.

— Chris Perry, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Sammamish, WA

Many therapists have a difficult time understanding polyamorous and open relationships and the specific opportunities and challenges that the lifestyle brings. There are innumerable ways to have relationships and I am open to exploring all the ways that you can have healthy and happy relationships. I generally see individuals, not couples.

— Liz Silverman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY

Unfortunately, many institutions in our society have a poor track record on respecting people who identify/practice consensual non-monogamy. Whether CNM is central to why you are seeking help or simply a part of your identity, I understand that CNM lifestyles are valid, and I seek to support your relational orientation as I would any other aspect of your identity.

— Eric Mills, Counselor in Federal Way, WA

Society tends to define a romantic relationship as a one on one arrangement, but the truth is, that is not always the case. Whether your relationship involves two or more people, or whether you have (or are considering) an open relationship, working with a polyamory-aware counselor can help you to define your boundaries create agreements for a healthy relationship, cope with jealousy, and explore sexual and romantic relationships that fall outside of traditional concepts of monogamy

— Elizabeth Harles, Counselor in Raleigh, NC

I am a relational therapist, and I love working with relational configurations of any size. Whether you are a couple looking to open your relationship, a single individual ethically dating more than one person, a committed triad, or anyone in between, I understand and am happy to help you explore your relationship struggles and triumphs.

— Cate Morrow, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Chicago, IL

As someone who practices nonmonogamy, I know that finding a clinician that understands the subtleties of the relational style without pathologizing it can be difficult to come by. I recognize the difference between an issue stemming from nonmonogamy practice versus an issue occurring in someone's life who happens to also be nonmonogamous. I offer assistance with both depending on client needs and am versed in different nonmonogamous lifestyles, removing the need for a client to educate.

— Rayne Banneck, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Exploring your relationship values can help you ground into what you really want and need, and create the relationship orientation that is right for you. I have knowledge of many different types and styles of polyamory, non-monogamy, and open relationships. I hold the belief that any type of relationship can be healthy with the consent and honestly of all partners.

— Amanda Ball, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have extensive training in and personal experience with Polyamory, Open Relationships, Ethical Non-Monogamy or Consensual Non-Monogamy issues. I have provided cultural competency training to a handful of service organizations and agencies over the years. Moreover, I have developed group curriculum for addressing major issues in polyamorous configurations.

— ShannonElaine John, Counselor in Fort Morgan, CO

My expertise with Polyamorous and Open relationships: I have worked with multiple couples exploring opening up their relationships, as well as navigating the complications that come from open relationships. I firmly believe that non-monogamy is not for everyone, and I am thrilled to help couples and moresomes navigate this rewarding way of engaging in relationships.

— Kelley O'Hanlon, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Redmond, WA

The idea of a polyamorous relationship scares many people. Yet one of the top sexual fantasies in the United States is having multiple sexual partners at once. That is not to say all poly relationship are sexual threesome or moresome. There are many different types and flavors of poly relationships. A huge relational conflict can arise when one person admits poly curiosity and the other has strict views of monogamy. I can help navigate and negotiate the turmoil between the couple.

— Philip Justice, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Jacksonville, FL