Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

Meet the specialists

 

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. When you come into my office, I seek to understand which forms of oppression have impacted you most so that we can contradict harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and reintroduce you to your own inherent majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

Working in an inpatient setting for several years, I have extensive experience helping clients navigate a poor self image and help them work toward who they want to be.

— Joshua Swanson, Counselor in St. Paul, MN
 

Self-esteem also has to do with how we relate to ourselves and not just our relationships with others. The work I do around this topic is some of the most meaningful!In my work I use a three step system to help you improve upon your self esteem. I will work to help explore your level current of self esteem and confidence. Then get the history of where lower self esteem originated, and then give you tools methods to get to loving and respecting yourself

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX
 

I help people overcome self-esteem issues. I have learned coping skills in graduate school, trainings as well as along life's journey as a daughter of a narcissist. I have learned how to turn around feelings of low self worth to help others reach the beautiful, empowered wonderful person they truly are.

— Cindy Athey, Counselor in Clearwater, FL
 

To treat low self-esteem, I teach people how to practice self-compassion. Often, people are incredibly kind to others, but harsh towards themselves. I've read a lot about self-compassion vs. self-esteem. We often base self-esteem on external attributes and achievements. Self-compassion, on the other hand, is an action that can persist in spite of your life circumstances. I can help you be kind to yourself and accept yourself just as you are.

— Rebecca Ogle, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Chicago, IL

I have worked for over 20 years helping people increase their self-confidence and self-esteem, as a licensed therapist. I also trained under Patricia Crane and Louise Hay in San Diego, and am a "Heal Your Life" workshop leader. "Change Your Thoughts And You Can Change Your Life"!

— Valerie Marsh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wayzata, MN
 

If it is difficult to feel as though your needs and wants matter, if you aren't sure that what you are experiencing is "bad enough" to receive support, if you know how it feels to have "imposter syndrome", always waiting for someone to find out that you aren't measuring up, I can help. In therapy, we learn together what it is that you need to feel comfortable and courageous enough to be in your own skin.

— Ellen Tarby, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

I have worked with countless individuals whose lack of /low self esteem has kept them trapped in unhappy relationships, poor work environments, and inability to pursue their life's dreams. Together we will identify the negative thoughts, examine where they come from, and how you have been replaying this script throughout your life. In the final phase we will apply CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) to teach you how to challenge these negative thoughts patterns.

— Natasha Fortune, Counselor in Long Island City, NY
 

Focus on increasing Self-Esteem.

— Karen Justice, Therapist in Ft. Lauderdale, FL

Working with people who struggle with low self-esteem is a passion of mine. It upsets me when I hear the negative way people talk about themselves. It's amazing how easy it is to minimize all our strengths but maximize all our “weaknesses." We would never talk to someone else the way that we talk to ourselves and I can help you learn to appreciate your areas of improvement and find your self worth again.

— Stephanie Weston, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, CA 90066, CA
 

Harsh self-criticism, frequent feelings of shame and doubt about our abilities can suck the joy out of living and prevent us from reaching for our dreams. Therapy is a great place to learn more about how to grow into your strengths and to address your shortcomings realistically and with compassion.

— Jessica Gioia, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Alameda, CA

Utilizing person-centered, solution-focused, and IFS techniques we can build your internal resilience to greater levels.

— Karen Silva, Marriage & Family Therapist
 

It takes time and practice to improve your self-esteem, such that you walk through the world bravely, with confidence, and the willingness to take risks. I’ll help you take off the “armor” you’ve used for so long for protection and move toward yourself and others in a spirit of compassion and open-heartedness. If it's situational we'll develop steps for you to practice and move through it. If it's deep rooted, we'll unpack it, bring it to the surface, and learn to leave it in the past.

— Nicole Byrne, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Many of my clients have struggled to stand up or speak up for themselves and their needs. Most of the talking that goes on is internal and self-critical. I can help you deal with that negative self-talk, figure out what's important to you, and support you in taking actions even when you don't feel confident.

— Susan Brumbaugh, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Albuquerque, NM

I have worked with countless individuals whose lack of /low self esteem has kept them trapped in unhappy relationships, poor work environments, and inability to pursue their life's dreams. Together we will identify the negative thoughts, examine where they come from, and how you have been replaying this script throughout your life. In the final phase we will apply CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) to teach you how to challenge these negative thoughts patterns.

— Natasha Fortune, Counselor in Long Island City, NY
 

Is your self-worth contingent on your performance at work or in relationships? Do you speak harshly to yourself or experience burnout often? Do you feel like you don’t see yourself the way your loved ones do? Let’s talk through how to work toward a more compassionate and balanced view of yourself.

— Matt Poon, Psychologist in New York, NY

If you are having self-esteem issues, you have taken the first step. You have been looking for professional help. I would like to empower you the best I can. It is possible to feel great and to have the life you always dream about!

— Tania Feres, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Orlando, FL
 

Self-esteem can't be established until one has a strong sense of self. I love helping clients identify their unique values and supporting their unique perspectives. Therapy is a wonderful avenue to help people feel seen, heard, and understood. I hope to create an environment of acceptance so that my clients can begin to feel enthusiastic about showing up in the world.

— Katie Burnett, Counselor in Kansas City, MO

Rejection (noun) The rejection or refusal of a proposal or idea. Rejection can be felt on many levels from large to small. What it may feel like is everything around you is falling apart and you’re not sure if you can move on. Be brave enough to see the light of rejection. Be brave enough to say I don’t want someone that doesn’t want me. Be brave enough to say I am enough. If that pain is ever a little to much don’t hesitate to reach out and talk about it. I am here, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!

— Lindsay Frazier, Counselor in Gladstone, MO
 

We don't come into this world questioning our self-worth, and yet many, if not most, of us begin to question this at some point in our lives. The source of our doubt may stem from family, our peers, society, the media, past traumatic experiences, or all of the above. Regardless of where this doubt comes from, it often feels as if it originated from within us. We begin to wonder if we really are inferior or less than other people.

— Courtney Shen DeShetler, Psychologist
 

Using Strengths-Based Therapy techniques and creative approaches, I can help with that boost of self-confidence and self-esteem that might be currently missing.

— Leslie Faulkner, Counselor

This is something new that I have started to focus on in treatment with clients although this is a common theme I have seen in all of my years as a therapist. I have seen how incredible the belief in self can be for someone, especially when they finally realize how strong and powerful they are and how much they are capable of once they start to have hope. I love working on developing that strong and positive inner voice for others to help them achieve all their goals and dreams.

— Elsie Pride, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Covina, CA
 

Are you your own worst critic? Do you feel that you can never be good enough? Those feelings come from the constant barrage of messages from family, friends, and media that tell us how we should be, or how we fall short of someone else’s expectations. And then we repeat those messages over and over in our minds until we fully believe them. But these messages aren’t truth. The authentic You has been buried under all this pile of accusations and disappointments. I will work with you to help reclaim your real identity and rewrite the story that you play in your thoughts. I have had clients who now walk through life proud of who they are, confident in what they bring, and excited with where they are going. I would love to work with you to see how far you can go.

— Jaclin Belabri, Counselor in Vancouver, WA

We are not broken, needing to be fix. We are wounded, needing to be healed.

— Dr. Isabell Springer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angles, CA
 

Many people look in the mirror & see someone they don’t like very much. They see faults, flaws & failures. They feel shame, embarrassment & maybe even anger toward themselves. Poor self-esteem many times is a discrepancy between expectations & reality (though this reality is usually distorted). When we fail to match those standards, one response may be frustration, anger or even hatred for the parts of ourselves that don't measure up.

— Yolande Ford, Licensed Professional Counselor in Stamford, CT