Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Most of us are not born with low self-esteem, but along the way things knock us down and shape us in a less-than-ideal way. Let's work together to move through these blocks and help you grow into the confident, capable individual you were made to be!

— Megan Agee, Psychologist in Charlotte, NC

Our self-esteem is how we value & perceive ourselves. Low self-esteem affects our decision-making, what we tolerate and accept from others and our willingness to pursue opportunities.

— Lynette Cisneros, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Raleigh, NC
 

The woman you see in the mirror is not the person you desire to be. Too often you compare yourself to others, which leaves you feeling worthless. Your physical health has fallen by the wayside, and the pounds won’t stop piling up. I will help you gain the confidence to start living the life you imagined.

— Esperanza Winters, Counselor in Milwaukee, WI

Our beliefs about ourselves can be complicated and burdensome, but the beauty is that we have the capacity to change. I work with clients to help them understand the root of their beliefs and where they come from, identify their strengths, and empower them to be confident in who they are.

— Emma Harger, Social Worker in New York, NY
 

Learning how to love ourselves can be a difficult task, even in an era that popularizes the concepts of self-care and self-love. Self-love is more than a bath bomb and a good tub soak, though that's not a bad place to start. Often self-esteem issues root back to a defensive coping mechanism adopted early in life for protection, but ultimately harms us and keep us from living a full life. We will work together to build your confidence and make it safe to be vulnerable and love yourself.

— Jennifer Alt, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Self-esteem matters in how we chose to live our lives. If we suffer from low self-esteem then we have disrupted the flow of our life to thinking that we are not worth living a meaningful, purposeful life. If we battle low self-esteem it's largely due to the way we were raised and nurtured. Being older and feeling low about ourselves is because we have not tapped into our genuine power and our authenticity, It takes a strong person to combat low sense of self. I know you can.

— Nancy Bortz, Therapist in Denver, CO
 

My role is to reflect your innate worthiness. Together we may take a curious stance towards "esteem" and find new ways to define what it means to you. You may decide to slow down, to become increasingly aware of the sensations related to when you feel most "esteemed." I can be a supportive guide to tapping in to your unique esteemed Self.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ,

I have been working with individuals change the way they talk to themselves throughout my career. We explore the negative narratives that persist for you, where they originate from, and release the pain associated with them. Using techniques from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, we rewrite these painful stories and unlock what is possible.

— Rebecca Rondeau, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Merrimack, NH
 

Problems with self-esteem can come in so many forms. It may come in the form of relationships - wondering if you're worthy of another's love or attention. It might come at work, with feelings like you are a fraud or you will never be good enough to advance in your career. It might come in the form of day to day anxieties - those little worries that can sometimes add up to paralyzing self-doubt. I want to help you sort through these worries and insecurities and develop new ways of coping and new thought patterns that can help counteract these beliefs. I also teach my clients mindfulness and self-compassion, which are tools that can help improve self-esteem.

— Ashley Hamm, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

Every day I hear people speak with that voice in the back of our heads. It tells us we are stupid, not normal, that we should have known better, that its all our fault. Over time, it starts to feel like just another part of us. But it's not even our voice. This is the voice of our bullies, abusers, and the people who could have helped, but didn't. We don't have to hold onto those voices. We can let go and find peace. You are worthy. You are enough. I'd like to help you see that.

— Chris Eaton, Licensed Professional Counselor in , TX
 

Anxiety, depression, and trauma can contribute to decreased self-esteem and people pleasing tendencies. Low self-esteem can look like consistently like putting yourself aside and making decisions based on what other people want. You deserve to live for yourself and have your needs met. I bet you are more capable than you know. It would be my privilege to help you grow your confidence and feel more comfortable being yourself.

— Thai Alonso, Psychologist in Watchung, NJ

We live in a world where we are constantly being compared, sized up and made to feel as if EVERYTHING is a competition. In the world of entertainment, this is especially true and extremely difficult to ignore. Sometimes as entertainers, it can be challenging to separate the art product from the artist themselves, making criticism something that can just make you feel all around crappy. Together, we can discuss ways to create an improved relationship to yourself and your art.

— Rebecca Brown, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,
 

Living in this world can take a toll on your sense of self, your self love, and your self-esteem. When you come into my office, I seek to understand which forms of oppression have impacted you most so that we can contradict harmful systemic messaging that has taken away some of your sense of self-wonder and reintroduce you to your own inherent majesty.

— Sam Krehel, Mental Health Counselor in , WA

What will it take for you to finally feel like you're good enough? What does your harsh inner critic think you need to improve? No matter how much you achieve on paper, you may still feel undeserving of praise. Through CBT, we'll untangle what recurring thoughts and core beliefs are complicating your relationship with yourself. Have highly critical, emotionally unavailable parents or a toxic work environment gotten in your head? You don't have to keep thinking this way.

— Lisa Andresen, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Francisco, CA
 

We live in a world where we are constantly being compared, sized up and made to feel as if EVERYTHING is a competition. In the world of entertainment, this is especially true and extremely difficult to ignore. Sometimes as entertainers, it can be challengeing to separate the art product from the artist themselves, making criticism something that that can just make you feel all around crappy. Together, we can discuss ways to create an improved relationship to yourself and your art.

— Rebecca Brown, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

To improve self-esteem, I will help you learn how to trust your gut and really pay attention to what is happening inside of you. Our intuition is often referred to as our “inner voice” most commonly known as a gut feeling. Body Psychotherapy & Embodied Spirituality utilize the body as a compass along with visualization and mindfulness, to create healthy boundaries in your relationships, so that you have space to manifest how you want to be in the world, and heal negative thinking patterns.

— Lina Návar, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

We live in a world where we are constantly being compared, sized up and made to feel as if EVERYTHING is a competition. In the world of entertainment, this is especially true and extremely difficult to ignore. Sometimes as entertainers, it can be challenging to separate the art product from the artist themselves, making criticism something that can just make you feel all around crappy. Together, we can discuss ways to create an improved relationship to yourself and your art.

— Rebecca Brown, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

Sometimes it can be hard to put your finger on what is causing those feelings of emptiness or a sense of not being good enough. We can work together to look into your past and see where this pattern began so that you can break out of the cycle of self-criticism. That critical voice is trying to protect you from something, but it doesn't seem to be working anymore. We can work together to find a way to love all the parts of yourself and get them on the same page working towards your goals.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in , CA
 

I help teens improve their self esteem and develop their identities.

— Alyssa Brunton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA