Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

Meet the specialists

I believe that sense of self is tied to a great many mental health concerns, including anxiety, depression, and trauma. I have a wealth of experience supporting individuals in cultivating greater self-compassion and building a healthier relationship with themselves.

— Kate Czar, Psychologist in Austin, TX
 

Self Esteem encompasses so many areas of our lives...communication, relating, making plans/goals in our close relationships and in our communities of work, family and play. I am certified in Brene\' Brown\'s curriculum of Shame Resilience to help us sort out the details and live our fuller and happier life. Our self esteem drives the directions we go and finding ways to increase it's health can only help us. I am empathetic and supportive as we identify challenges and find solutions.

— Audrianna Gurr, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

I place a great deal of value on reinforcing my clients' sense of agency. In my experience, childhood trauma, social conditioning, systemic injustice often take this from us, limiting our ability to imagine a better life for ourselves. I utilize a few methods to build and bolster this core asset, including loving-kindness meditations, mindfulness practice, and elements of the Neuro-Affective Relational Model.

— Duff Stoneson, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Austin, TX
 

Imagine looking into the mirror attached to the visor in your car and thinking “this is gonna be great, I got this.” Your first time out with a group of friends in several months. Your cheeks hurt later in the evening from laughing and smiling. As you say goodbye and walk to your car at the end of the night you feel this warm feeling come over you. Our journey through self-exploration and self-discovery can help increase confidence and self-worth improving your relationships with friends/family.

— Tara Arhakos, Licensed Professional Counselor in Monmouth Beach, NJ
 

Part of being a human being is needing guidance for those stubborn areas that still make us doubt ourselves. We all have these trigger areas but no one talks about it. When you realize the limits you put on yourself are quite meaningless, you begin to free yourself of all that negative chatter in your head. If you have never shown your true self to someone and have avoided letting anyone see the real you, get ready for that to all change! We will discover and redefine who you truly are.

— Keesha Parker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Fort Smith, AR

I can help you address the emotions underlying low self esteem. With time and work, it is possible to develop a healthy relationship with yourself and to live the authentic lifestyle that you want.

— Gil Katz-Goldstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Agoura Hills, CA
 

I have 10 years of experience working with clients experiencing low self-esteem and helping them to realize their own worth and greatness. Empowerment is a great tool for helping client increase self-esteem and it's a hallmark of feminist therapy, my main therapy modality!

— Erin Shapiro, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

If constant feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism are creeping in, it’s very difficult to feel any sense of self-confidence. Instead, feelings of defeat, loss of motivation, and lack of joy become the new reality. You can break free! What would life be like if you viewed your core self as unconditionally worthy of acceptance, compassion, and value? How do you think your life would change? Let’s start the journey together toward building a sense of self-esteem that truly enables you to thrive

— JaLeah Law, Clinical Psychologist in Los Angeles, CA
 

In addition to my role as a therapist, I am a public speaker and writer that focuses on authenticity, empowering people to uncover their true selves and take the steps necessary to live within that. In terms of my role as a therapist, my role is to ignite curiosity for self exploration and help instill in you a confidence in living in line with your values and beliefs.

— Kyira Wackett, Counselor in Milwaukie, OR

Rejection (noun) The rejection or refusal of a proposal or idea. Rejection can be felt on many levels from large to small. What it may feel like is everything around you is falling apart and you’re not sure if you can move on. Be brave enough to see the light of rejection. Be brave enough to say I don’t want someone that doesn’t want me. Be brave enough to say I am enough. If that pain is ever a little to much don’t hesitate to reach out and talk about it. I am here, and YOU ARE ENOUGH!

— Lindsay Frazier, Counselor in Gladstone, MO
 

As a gay person, you may struggle with your self-worth. You might also suffer from anxiety or depression. You may have trouble sleeping, feel isolated socially, or exhausted from self-criticism. You’re tired of struggling. You want to work with a therapist to help you overcome your pain and angst.

— Adam Blum, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

When people begin to see that they have been living their life based on what they were told they 'ought' to do by someone else or what they believed they 'should' be doing, they start to recognize the source of their emotional upset. At this point a real change can begin to take place. When this change takes place we begin to accept ourselves unconditionally, regardless of past behaviors whether good or bad.

— Scott Groves, Licensed Professional Counselor in Oklahoma City, OK

I have found problems with self-esteem is common among clients I have worked with. As such, I have sought out post-graduate continuing education seminars that stressed incorporating self-esteem when addressing mental health problems.

— Brian Prester, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Seattle, WA
 

Having low self-esteem can keep you from achieving any goals you set for yourself. It can also hinder you from enjoying your life. Through our work together, I will help you build confidence to achieve your best life.

— Mary Nashed, Counselor in Chapel Hill, NC

I help people overcome self-esteem issues. I have learned coping skills in graduate school, trainings as well as along life's journey as a daughter of a narcissist. I have learned how to turn around feelings of low self worth to help others reach the beautiful, empowered wonderful person they truly are.

— Cindy Athey, Counselor in Clearwater, FL

No one can know you and understand your needs until you do. You're stuck in an uncomfortable loop, feeling unseen, unheard and misunderstood in your love relationships. Your struggle to let others in begins with a struggle to see yourself. Truth is, no one can know you and understand your needs until you do. Discerning your innate truths is a deeply therapeutic process enhanced in reflective collaboration.

— Rebecca Wong, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Paltz, NY
 

We don't come into this world questioning our self-worth, and yet many of us begin to question this at some point in our lives. The source of our doubt may stem from family, peers, society, the media, religious doctrine, past traumatic experiences, or all of the above. Regardless of where this doubt comes from, it can feel as if it originated from within us. We begin to wonder if (or even believe that) we really are inferior or less than other people. I help people work through

— Courtney Shen DeShetler, Psychologist in ,

I view self esteem through a lens of reframing to focus on self-compassion. Mindfulness is key to building a more self-compassionate existence. For me, this isn’t focused on major huge changes but rather on open and gentle explorations and acceptance of all facets of one’s self.

— Nicole Hardy, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Asheville, NC
 

Are you are struggling with low self-esteem, shame, self-criticism, and/or self-hatred? I can help you develop skills to better handle difficult emotions, soften the inner critic, and cultivate a calmer and kinder mind.

— Jessica Youseffi, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Many young adults and adults suffer from low self-esteem or low self-worth. This can impact not only your relationship with yourself, but also your ability to succeed in school or your career, maintain meaningful and healthy relationships with others, and find joy and satisfaction in your daily life. Therapy can help you uncover deep seated beliefs, memories, or experiences which may underlie low self-esteem in order to develop a more positive view of yourself and your abilities.

— Emily Franchi, Psychotherapist in Chicago, IL