Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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How you feel about yourself impacts your thoughts, emotions and behaviors. I'd like to help you challenge your negative thought patterns about yourself which will improve your emotions and behaviors.

— Janay Bailey, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

Self-esteem is something every human being connects with. In therapy, we can discover your relationship with self love/self esteem and understand more of what is potentially blocking you from having a better relationship with yourself. Self Esteem can also be tied to how we perceive how others view us, and that is also a big topic that can be helpful to talk through in therapy. I have a history of supporting individuals who want to become a more empowered version of themselves.

— Simone Koger, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ,
 

The people I work with tend to be very hard on themselves. They often have a history of being treated carelessly by a parent, a partner, or someone else they trusted. Others are working to overcome the messages they received from the world around them due to growing up with ADHD, often without the benefit of a diagnosis to help them understand why they felt this way. Regardless of the reason, building self-compassion in therapy can be a beautiful practice that affects all areas of your life.

— Suzanne Rapisardo, Therapist in Denver, CO

If you struggle with self-esteem or are more focused on pleasing others than knowing what you want, I can help you develop your sense of self and find your voice. Perhaps you feel resentful of people who take advantage of you. When our survival skill has been to be more aware of others' needs so that we can feel safe, we miss the developmental step of getting to know oneself. We can get to know your desires and needs together.

— Diana Teich, Marriage & Family Therapist in Nashville, TN
 

Many of us struggle with our self-esteem. We often have negative self talk and see ourselves as imperfect. I believe that most healing starts with forgiving and accepting yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being. You are worthy of love, respect and care just as you are, right now. My clients have benefitted from my ability to help them make peace with their inner self. I create a calm, relaxed environment where they can be safe to express themselves honestly.

— Katie Robey, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Gatos, CA

I specialize in helping clients understand roots of low self-worth and how that impacts their lives. I work collaboratively with clients to begin to unpack and reframe negative patterns of thinking and identify strengths to encourage growth in confidence, in a way that doesn't feel too mushy or inauthentic.

— Kimberly Jaso, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY
 

Maybe you are starting to notice that your anxiety is getting in the way of living your authentic life. You spend hours overthinking even the smallest, most insignificant things, which causes you to question your relationships with others. Instead, it’s much easier to just stay at home and isolate yourself. You can’t sleep because you are constantly thinking about all the things you didn’t get done or all the things you need to get done tomorrow.

— Stephanie Milliron, Counselor in phoenix, AZ

You'd be surprised how many successful people feel like they have no idea what they're doing. Maybe you judge yourself as never good enough no matter what you achieve, or that you can't afford to make mistakes. Together, we'll teach you skills to appreciate your strengths and successes instead of always focusing on what's wrong, and learn that flexibility is a faster way to your goals than rigid perfectionism.

— Joe Burke, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Cary, NC
 

For so many people, our sense of worthiness and value are impacted by external factors. Things like our standards of beauty, media messaging about ‘success,’ expectations for what we’re ‘supposed’ to do or have accomplished. When our ideas about who we are and how we’re doing clash with these external factors, that can leave us feeling pretty shitty. Where does your sense of self and worthiness come from? Does that still feel like a fit for you?

— Kailey Hockridge, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Los Angeles, CA

It is important to have a strong sense of self-esteem and self-worth throughout our lives. I help support my clients in knowing, trusting, and believing in themselves, and in learning to have more self-compassion, prioritize self-care and increase their confidence.

— Jodie Solberg, Hypnotherapist in Lynnwood, WA
 

Life has demands which make many people feel overwhelmed, frustrated, unworthy, and/or isolated. We are often told messages on how we should handle issues, behave, look, and feel. Many times we often lose touch with who we are and stick with the negative stories of "I'm not good enough". In my practice, I bring forth a collaborative and supportive environment. I also help empower people by exploring power dynamics and shine a light on their values.

— Samantha Schumann, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have worked with many clients to address self-esteem since the beginning of my career. I believe that addressing self-esteem is essential to many aspects of life and mental health. I assist clients in working to identify and modify maladaptive thoughts and behaviors to enhance mood, decrease worry, improve confidence, manage stress, and develop healthy relationships.

— Antonio Rudo, Licensed Professional Counselor in Hoboken, NJ
 

For the past 5 years in the mental health field I have helped people understand, identify, and grow through self-esteem issues. I have found as a therapist that self-esteem issues is one of the core factors that contributes to peoples mental health concerns. This is a very serious issue and one that I handle very gently.

— Daniel Lavelle, Licensed Professional Counselor in McLean, VA

Releasing fear and grabbing hold of your inner strength to be able to release your internal dialogue of power, boldness and confidence. This will be explored through mantras, affirmations, guided meditation, and the power of presence.

— Collene Taylor, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor in Rockford, IL
 

To improve self-esteem, I will help you learn how to trust your gut and really pay attention to what is happening inside of you. Our intuition is often referred to as our “inner voice” most commonly known as a gut feeling. Body Psychotherapy & Embodied Spirituality utilize the body as a compass along with visualization and mindfulness, to create healthy boundaries in your relationships, so that you have space to manifest how you want to be in the world, and heal negative thinking patterns.

— Lina Návar, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

I will help you: -Gain insight and self-awareness into yourself and your patterns, including what is holding you back from being where you want to be -Develop the solutions and skills you need to reach your goals -I will be your unyielding supporter as you change your life for the better

— Jeni Allton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

Self-esteem challenges often go hand-in-hand with anxiety and are common within the LGBTQ+ community. Equally importantly, whatever good people may take from counseling must continue to be fueled by them, both between sessions and after counseling ends. People who develop a more confident or kinder self-concept are most likely to apply strategies to maintain their own wellbeing and pursue a fulfilling life. As such, I strive to support clients in developing intrinsic self-worth and empowerment.

— Amber George, Licensed Professional Counselor in Virginia Beach, VA

How we feel about ourselves strongly impacts the choices we make, our social interactions, as well as the intimate relationships we find ourselves in. Sometimes the most helpful approach in addressing life situations (bad relationships, dissatisfaction with work, and any other life challenge) is using a “back-door” approach. By addressing low self-esteem directly, some people find that these life stressors (that are often the symptom rather than the problem) tend to resolve.

— Andrew Davis, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA