Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Self-esteem matters in how we chose to live our lives. If we suffer from low self-esteem then we have disrupted the flow of our life to thinking that we are not worth living a meaningful, purposeful life. If we battle low self-esteem it's largely due to the way we were raised and nurtured. Being older and feeling low about ourselves is because we have not tapped into our genuine power and our authenticity, It takes a strong person to combat low sense of self. I know you can.

— Nancy Bortz, Therapist in Denver, CO

My role is to reflect your innate worthiness. Together we may take a curious stance towards "esteem" and find new ways to define what it means to you. You may decide to slow down, to become increasingly aware of the sensations related to when you feel most "esteemed." I can be a supportive guide to tapping in to your unique esteemed Self.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in East Bay, CA
 

I'm passionate about helping souls who have suffered at the hands of their partners, friends, family members, co-workers or bosses with narcissistic traits. To live with someone who has no empathy for your needs damages your self-esteem. This form of gaslighting & invalidation is terribly painful. Low self-worth is inevitable and NOT your fault. I get it because I've lived it. Therapy can create awareness and understanding of your experience, as well as help you find your way out of the pain.

— Anny Papatheodorou, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Walnut Creek, CA

I'm trained in Pia Mellody's work and looking at self-esteem issues in the context of grandiosity and toxic shame.

— Jason Polk, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO

I use a strengths-based/solution-focused approach to help clients get "unstuck" when they're in an emotional rut and don't know how to get out. My approach helps me to empower clients by helping them identify their strengths and learn how to build upon them.

— Susan Pollard, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Menlo Park, CA
 

Low self-esteem is a drag. It limits us from achieving dreams. It may even cause us an inability to dream. It limits our ability to form meaningful relationships, advance in careers, come out, transition and more. It also causes us to create false narratives and rigid rules that further limit and drag us down. The good news is low self-esteem can be changed. I will help you shift the negative core beliefs to positive beliefs with EMDR and/or Brainspotting therapy.

— Jordan Nodelman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Wilton Manors, FL

How much you appreciate and like yourself regardless of the circumstances is what we call self esteem. People with low self-esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision-making process as well as having issues with relationships and expressing their needs. There are steps and therapy techniques that as a therapist I can provide to help you address problems with self-esteem.

— Adriana Beck, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plano, TX
 

Problems with self-esteem can come in so many forms. It may come in the form of relationships - wondering if you're worthy of another's love or attention. It might come at work, with feelings like you are a fraud or you will never be good enough to advance in your career. It might come in the form of day to day anxieties - those little worries that can sometimes add up to paralyzing self-doubt. I want to help you sort through these worries and insecurities and develop new ways of coping and new thought patterns that can help counteract these beliefs. I also teach my clients mindfulness and self-compassion, which are tools that can help improve self-esteem.

— Ashley Hamm, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

When you've been involved in a controlling relationship or are just starting out in life, it can be easy to doubt yourself. Over time, that can snowball into a lifetime of missed opportunities and mistakes. But it doesn't have to be that way. Counseling can help you work through the events that have caused you to doubt yourself. Together, we can help you better understand yourself, build confidence, and create a life you are proud to call your own.

— Shawna Anderson Curry, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

If you're struggling with low self-worth, you may find yourself taking care of everyone else's needs but neglecting your own. You might feel burnt out or unfulfilled in your work and relationships, and if you're honest with yourself, it may have been like this for as long as you can remember. Using attachment based interventions, we will explore the root causes of low self-worth and work though the hurt that is holding you back from experiencing the simple joys of life.

— Teddie Jackson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I believe that people with esteem issues struggle in their relationships and work. Let's explore your thinking regarding how you view yourself and get you on a more empowered pathway toward greater success in your relationships and work life!

— Stefan Dombrowski, Psychologist in Mt. Laurel, NJ
 

As a trauma-informed Art Therapist, I have been trained to take a strengths based approach to my clients. Art Therapy also has a way of inherently allowing clients to feel a sense of accomplishment as the create things are are concrete and meaningful thereby fostering growth of healthy self-esteem.

— Callie Wile, Art Therapist in Pleasanton, CA

It is difficult to feel allowed to be fully ourselves, this is often ties to how we feel about and look at ourselves. While there are ways to help ourselves in this area, I've seen one of the best ways is to have a helper to come look with us, and build foundation with us!

— Emily Chavez-Nguyen, Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR
 

Learning how to love ourselves can be a difficult task, even in an era that popularizes the concepts of self-care and self-love. Self-love is more than a bath bomb and a good tub soak, though that's not a bad place to start. Often self-esteem issues root back to a defensive coping mechanism adopted early in life for protection, but ultimately harms us and keep us from living a full life. We will work together to build your confidence and make it safe to be vulnerable and love yourself.

— Jennifer Alt, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Understanding a client's narrative by deconstructing their negative internalized messages & empathizing with how these have impacted them can help clients reconstruct a new narrative that emphasizes their strengths, resiliency, and positive qualities.

— MacKenzie Knapp, Marriage & Family Therapist in Tacoma, WA
 

I take a focus with almost all of my clients, to help them to develop a more positive self-image and self-acceptance. Low self-esteem often can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms. By addressing the way we view ourselves we can change the way we view the world. Self-compassion and positive talk has been a integral and transformative part of the work I have done over the past 5 years.

— Nicole Benedict, Creative Art Therapist in Rochester, NY

Feelings of low esteem are correlated with feelings of anxiety and depression. Self esteem is reflected by our self talk and thoughts. It's important to understand the types of thoughts we have and what perpetuates the cycle for us to feel good or bad about ourselves. Thoughts are simply thoughts-they don't necessarily express the reality of your life. Self esteem is something that can be improved by adopting a more positive mindset about your own self worth.

— Nancy Bortz, Therapist in Denver, CO
 

Self esteem is essentially how we relate to ourselves and our world. It’s how we value ourselves, it’s a basis for our thoughts and behaviors, our attitudes and relationships. It’s where our self worth resides. We need self esteem to feel effective in managing our lives. Self esteem is self-empowering.

— Anne Rodic, Counselor in Pittsford, NY

Many of us struggle with our self-esteem. We often have negative self talk and see ourselves as imperfect. I believe that most healing starts with forgiving and accepting yourself as a perfectly imperfect human being. You are worthy of love, respect and care just as you are, right now. My clients have benefitted from my ability to help them make peace with their inner self. I create a calm, relaxed environment where they can be safe to express themselves honestly.

— Katie Robey, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Gatos, CA