Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

Meet the specialists

The way you feel about yourself matters, and in a world that constantly showcases perfection, it is all too easy to want to hide who you really are. Developing a sense of who you are and learning how to honor that person starts with realizing that you are valuable and worthy of honor and respect. Through narrative theory, we can work together to explore who you are and empower you to be yourself more confidently.

— Jacob Santhouse, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Nampa, ID
 

To improve self-esteem, I will help you learn how to trust your gut and really pay attention to what is happening inside of you. Our intuition is often referred to as our “inner voice” most commonly known as a gut feeling. Body Psychotherapy & Embodied Spirituality utilize the body as a compass along with visualization and mindfulness, to create healthy boundaries in your relationships, so that you have space to manifest how you want to be in the world, and heal negative thinking patterns.

— Lina Návar, Psychotherapist in Austin, TX

I have worked with many women and men who initially seek out counseling for anxiety, depression, relationship problems, and work issues--and often underlying these problems is a lack of trust in themselves, lots of negative self-talk, and unfinished healing from past family and relationship events. My hope is to create a safe environment to better understand what is happening and to then collaborate in implementing skills that will foster self-confidence, and self acceptance.

— Amanda Rebel, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

— Jeff Guenther, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

To improve self-esteem, I will help you learn how to trust your gut and really pay attention to what is happening inside of you. Our intuition is often referred to as our “inner voice” most commonly known as a gut feeling. Body Psychotherapy & Embodied Spirituality utilize the body as a compass along with visualization and mindfulness, to create healthy boundaries in your relationships, so that you have space to manifest how you want to be in the world, and heal negative thinking patterns.

— Lina Návar, Psychotherapist in Austin, TX
 

Esteem can be affected by many things from a single word said by a parent to bullying by schoolchildren to overbearing bosses, friends and romantic partners. It is also affected by the words we tell ourselves. As a team, we explore what you need to build confidence in different areas of your life. We set both short and long-term goals so that you can see and experience the process of taking action and achieving your goals. How do you want to see yourself? Are you ready to change?

— Diana Sturm, Counselor in Mobile, AL

"Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people" Brené Brown I value building self esteem through the unburdening of shame and guilt, and increasing confidence in setting boundaries with self and others. We often make ourselves smaller to make other people more comfortable. While this often comes from a loving place or a previous way to survive or get needs met, it often leads us feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and small. We can start to make our own needs a priority as well.

— Lauren Viemann, Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

I take a focus with almost all of my clients, to help them to develop a more positive self-image and self-acceptance. Low self-esteem often can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms. By addressing the way we view ourselves we can change the way we view the world. Self-compassion and positive talk has been a integral and transformative part of the work I have done over the past 5 years.

— Nicole Hall, Creative Art Therapist in Rochester, NY

With support and commitment you can change your views of yourself and start to feel more confident. It starts with building self-awareness by paying close attention to your beliefs about yourself and noticing when your self-critical thoughts are showing up. I can teach strategies to help you slow down and notice your thoughts and then work to either take a break from the thoughts or shift to thoughts that are more supportive and compassionate rather than negative and critical.

— Melanie Lopes, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA
 

Sometimes it can be hard to put your finger on what is causing those feelings of emptiness or a sense of not being good enough. We can work together to look into your past and see where this pattern began so that you can break out of the cycle of self-criticism. That critical voice is trying to protect you from something, but it doesn't seem to be working anymore. We can work together to find a way to love all the parts of yourself and get them on the same page working towards your goals.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in , CA

It can be hard to recover from feeling like you're not good enough. Criticism from others or yourself can impact how you feel about yourself and make it tough to really follow through with self-care. I'm passionate about helping people recover their self-esteem and sense of worthiness. Let's work together to help you see yourself more clearly.

— Jessica Weikers, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

I have been working with individuals change the way they talk to themselves throughout my career. We explore the negative narratives that persist for you, where they originate from, and release the pain associated with them. Using techniques from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Internal Family Systems, we rewrite these painful stories and unlock what is possible.

— Rebecca Rondeau, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Merrimack, NH

Loving and accepting yourself as you authentically are is not as easy as it sounds. For everyone, the journey toward self care is different. I will listen to you and be there for you as you learn how to value and respect yourself. You deserve care. I can help.

— Rebecca Lavine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Cambridge, MA
 

Problems with self-esteem can come in so many forms. It may come in the form of relationships - wondering if you're worthy of another's love or attention. It might come at work, with feelings like you are a fraud or you will never be good enough to advance in your career. It might come in the form of day to day anxieties - those little worries that can sometimes add up to paralyzing self-doubt. I want to help you sort through these worries and insecurities and develop new ways of coping and new thought patterns that can help counteract these beliefs. I also teach my clients mindfulness and self-compassion, which are tools that can help improve self-esteem.

— Ashley Hamm, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

Confidence is everything when you are working in the arts. If you don't buy it, they won't! I help clients find self-esteem outside of their work, and help to let go of the anxieties holding them back.

— Elle Bernfeld, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Brooklyn, NY
 

Learning how to love ourselves can be a difficult task, even in an era that popularizes the concepts of self-care and self-love. Self-love is more than a bath bomb and a good tub soak, though that's not a bad place to start. Often self-esteem issues root back to a defensive coping mechanism adopted early in life for protection, but ultimately harms us and keep us from living a full life. We will work together to build your confidence and make it safe to be vulnerable and love yourself.

— Jennifer Alt, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

What will it take for you to finally feel like you're good enough? What does your harsh inner critic think you need to improve? No matter how much you achieve on paper, you may still feel undeserving of praise. Through CBT, we'll untangle what recurring thoughts and core beliefs are complicating your relationship with yourself. Have highly critical, emotionally unavailable parents or a toxic work environment gotten in your head? You don't have to keep thinking this way.

— Lisa Andresen, ASW, Associate Clinical Social Worker in San Francisco, CA