Self-Esteem

The term self-esteem refers to our overall subjective emotional evaluation of our own worth – in other words, it’s your attitude towards yourself. Self-esteem begins to take shape in childhood and can be influenced by many factors, including early experiences at home or school, familial relationships, the media, your age and role in society and how people react to you. It is totally normal for your self-esteem to fluctuate – for example feeling down about yourself once in awhile. However, most individuals develop a baseline self-esteem that remains fairly constant over the course of their lifetimes. If you are struggling with low self-esteem, you likely spend significant time criticizing yourself and you may experience frequent feelings of shame and self-doubt. The good news is that, with work, you can change your baseline self-esteem. Therapy for self-esteem issues can help you work toward feeling confident, valuable, and worthy of respect. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s self-esteem experts today.

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Self-esteem has a huge impact on everything we do, but it can be hard to recognize it. Sometimes it's to the point that it's hard to even imagine feeling confident, or worthy. You're worthy, but I can understand how you may not feel that way. Together, we can help you get to a place where you feel worthy, valuable, and confident, in a way that feels genuine to you.

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID
 

I offer teen groups for girls struggling with self-esteem and image issues.

— Marquia Anderson, Counselor in Flourtown, PA

If you feel like you are not good enough or you struggle with not having enough confidence to get what you want in life, I am the therapist for you. I will help you fall in love with yourself and build up your confidence so that you can attain any goal that you have set for yourself and live out your dreams.

— Sarah (Chen) Zhang Park, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

I assist my clients in discovering their natural sense of self-worth. The most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one that you have with yourself. My clients rediscover and nourish this relationship and work toward growing it into self-acceptance and self-love.

— Rebecca Haney, Counselor in Middletown, OH

If constant feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism are creeping in, it’s very difficult to feel any sense of self-confidence. Instead, feelings of defeat, loss of motivation, and lack of joy become the new reality. You can break free! What would life be like if you viewed your core self as unconditionally worthy of acceptance, compassion, and value? How do you think your life would change? Let’s start the journey together toward building a sense of self-esteem that truly enables you to thrive

— JaLeah Law, Clinical Psychologist in Murrieta, CA
 

Feelings of not being enough are often at the roots of depression and anxiety. Low self-worth can hold you back from leading the life you want, or pursuing the jobs and relationships you deserve. I use a combination of self-compassion techniques, and mindful exploration of your own intuitive knowing, to elicit and ground in your internal sense of self-worth.

— Amanda Ball, Professional Counselor Associate in Portland, OR

Low self-esteem is a drag. It limits us from achieving dreams. It may even cause us an inability to dream. It limits our ability to form meaningful relationships, advance in careers, come out, transition and more. It also causes us to create false narratives and rigid rules that further limit and drag us down. The good news is low self-esteem can be changed. I will help you shift the negative core beliefs to positive beliefs with EMDR and/or Brainspotting therapy.

— Jordan Nodelman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Wilton Manors, FL
 

I take a focus with almost all of my clients, to help them to develop a more positive self-image and self-acceptance. Low self-esteem often can lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental health symptoms. By addressing the way we view ourselves we can change the way we view the world. Self-compassion and positive talk has been a integral and transformative part of the work I have done over the past 5 years.

— Nicole Hall, Creative Art Therapist in Rochester, NY

Self-esteem can be impacted by a variety of factors which can include the family we were raised in, our professional endeavors, societal impact and so much more. I am well-versed in helping you process the experiences you've had and understanding how it has impacted you now. From there, I will help you become equipped with coping skills like affirmations and thought stopping that can support you in learning how to reduce the negative thoughts you experience.

— Chalice Nelson, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

I have been studying the effects and potential causes of low self-esteem since the age of 14, when I completed a project examining the systemic problem of decreasing self-esteem in grade-school aged girls in the areas of math and science across age groups, and proposing multiple possible sources of this occurrence. More recently, in my clinical work I have facilitated a women's group intended to raise individual participants' self-esteem and to create a sense of community within the group.

— Megan Matthews, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Lakewood, OH

Learning how to love ourselves can be a difficult task, even in an era that popularizes the concepts of self-care and self-love. Self-love is more than a bath bomb and a good tub soak, though that's not a bad place to start. Often self-esteem issues root back to a defensive coping mechanism adopted early in life for protection, but ultimately harms us and keep us from living a full life. We will work together to build your confidence and make it safe to be vulnerable and love yourself.

— Jennifer Alt, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
 

Self-esteem can be a tricky issue to address. There are many things that can be affecting it. I am very proficient at working with clients to explore all possible reasons your self-esteem, self-worth or confidence feels low. If it's situational we will figure out how to move through it and if it's rooted in past experience we will bring it to the surface and learn how to leave it in the past.

— Jeff Guenther, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Does your lack of confidence and worthiness keep getting in the way of your life or relationship? Fortunately, we all have the ability to rewire old patterns of thinking and move toward solution-focused outcomes and growth. When we feel worthy and have higher self-esteem, we open ourselves up to a world of love, hope, resiliency, belonging, possibility, and opportunity. Cultivating self-worth, esteem, and love gives us a foundation to experience a life transformation.

— Heather LeCompte, Psychotherapist in Eugene, OR
 

What will it take for you to finally feel like you're good enough? What does your harsh inner critic think you need to improve? No matter how much you achieve on paper, you may still feel undeserving of praise. Through CBT, we'll untangle what recurring thoughts and core beliefs are complicating your relationship with yourself. Have highly critical, emotionally unavailable parents or a toxic work environment gotten in your head? You don't have to keep thinking this way.

— Lisa Andresen, LCSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Francisco, CA

Living in a world that hasn't been made for most of us can lead to a lot of insecurities and negative self talk that can lead to anxiety and depression. My favorite work to do is to help people lift up the parts of themselves that they love and quiet the external noise that tells them that they are not good enough for whatever reason. These external noises can from from our families, our communities, society, social media, etc. All of my training over my career plays into this work.

— Mal Johnson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Lansing, MI
 

Loving and accepting yourself as you authentically are is not as easy as it sounds. For everyone, the journey toward self care is different. I will listen to you and be there for you as you learn how to value and respect yourself. You deserve care. I can help.

— Rebecca Lavine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Cambridge, MA

Self-esteem is impacted by basically everything else in our life. If we're struggling with anxiety, it's hard to feel good about ourselves and have higher self-esteem. Sometimes working on self-esteem means working on other things, like anxiety first. Other times it means processing through how you actually see yourself, and getting yourself to a place where you can see yourself in a more positive way. But it is possible to change how you see yourself!

— Danielle Wayne, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boise, ID
 

Many of us struggle with feeling positive about ourselves. Through looking at strengths and working on our inner critic we can learn new ways to see ourselves.

— Betsey Pope, Counselor in St. Louis, MO

Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. Not only do I address self-esteem and identity in therapy, but I also address self-love and compassion. Self-compassion involves treating ourselves with kindness and understanding while being aware of our own pain and suffering, and understanding that this is a hard, but normal human experience.

— Christina Kafalas, Clinical Social Worker in Tempe, AZ