Radical Counseling for Highly Sensitive People to transform anxiety, overwhelm & self-blame.
Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
You were not put on this planet to diet. Or obsess about your weight, or to lose weight, or hate yourself because you don’t look like a photoshopped model, or to loath yourself. You have such a larger contribution to make in this world. I see you, I know you, because I am just like you. Inner Life is a safe place to explore different ways to think and feel about your body. There is way more to your life then what your body looks like. Let's reveal more of of it!
Around the middle years it can feel like everything is crumbling, even though from the outside nothing has changed. Many HSPers start to recognize that they can not continue living in the same way that they have. They notice feeling irritated at everything and everyone, that there is always an unending stream of people (and animals) that need something from them. They are the ‘go-to’ person at work and at home too. And they are mentally & emotionally exhausted.
Major life transitions don't have to begin and end with suffering. Transitions give you the opportunity to assess what is working and what is not working, to get in touch with who you are and who you want to be. To consciously decide what you would like your life to look like and design your future. There is much potential when a major transition shakes up your world, but it can be difficult to harness this power when you are in the midst of pain.
Relationship difficulties are painful and all consuming, and are not limited to intimate partners; friend, family, and coworker relationships can also wreak havoc on our day to day lives. You might feel like you are on a roller coaster-one day is perfect, the next awful and back up and down again and again. You may fear being rejected if people really knew you, or feel that you are responsible for making sure your entire family is always happy.
For many of us losing someone we love, whether a person or pet, or even a dream, job or goal, can be some of the most painful times in our lives. I was unprepared for how lost and scared I was when my mother died. I assumed I had all the proper tools to deal effectively with grief and the ability ‘to get over it’ quickly. That was not my experience and I sought therapy to support and reassure myself I wasn’t losing my mind when I sometimes had difficultly coping. You are not alone.
Highly Sensitive People (HSP), also know as Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS), make up only 15-20% of the population (yes you are as unique as you thought!) and it is not a disorder or a personal failing. In fact it is estimated that 50% of all people in therapy possess this trait, so there is a 50/50 chance right off the bat that you might be an HSP. It is a trait that you were born with that allows your brain and nervous system to process subtle details.
Self Esteem & Soul work is all about empowerment. It’s about deciding to move in a direction that honors what you truly want for yourself, not what your family or society believe is best for you. Our culture has worked hard to have a powerful hold on us and it takes courage to take a look at ourselves and our lives to see if we are leading it, or if others are doing it for us. We don’t work to fix our ourselves, we work to discover and cherish our true selves.
Depth Therapy is based on the psychology of Carl Jung and believes you have a conscious and an unconscious life. The unconscious can be running the show without your knowledge. In this type of therapy I guide you through a process to help you access self awareness and inner wisdom as we gently uncover the parts of you that need conscious healing. We work from the inside out & we always uncover without shame or blame. This is how we start becoming more of who we are & less of who we are not.
I’m not the kind of therapist we envision from classic tv shows with the couch & the nods and smiles. I’m pretty active in session. I‘m curious and investigative and I want to dig in deep so your understanding and compassion for yourself can start to emerge and aha moments can begin. I will encourage you to turn the inner insights you have through our sessions into steps in the outer world. This is a gentle process that goes at your pace.
Attachment theory tells us that how we grew up, how we related to our caregivers effects us as adults. Through a process called compassionate inquiry we look at your childhood through new lenses to uncover what might be holding you back today. Some people come to therapy expecting to go to a couple of sessions until the counselor tells them what to do about their problem. I don’t do that. I do help guide you to your own answers.