Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is one of the only models used to help couples heal with evidence based research to back it up. https://iceeft.com/eft-research-2/ I have completed both an intensive externship and core skills in this model specifically.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

My primary approach is Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy. This approach was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and is based on attachment theory. In sessions, we will focus on noticing and describing your emotions. We will also process how our interactions affect your emotions and how other relationships in your life affect your emotions as well. This approach can be particularly helpful for people experiencing anxiety and depression.

— Matt Bouse, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a short-term form of therapy that focuses on adult relationships and attachment/bonding. The therapist and clients look at patterns in the relationship and take steps to create a more secure bond and develop more trust to move the relationship in a healthier, more positive direction.

— Devona Stalnaker-Shofner, Licensed Professional Counselor

We all struggle at times - with anxiety, depression, and stress - along with the circumstances in our lives that contribute to these feelings. The "feelings" themselves are never wrong. Where we get into trouble (and can feel stuck in them) is when we can't make sense of it all and isolation creeps in. You're not in this alone.

— Merritt Posten Benz, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Prairie Village, KS

Nearly 10 years of clinical experience and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

— Ross Kellogg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Emotionally focused therapy is particularly useful when I work with couples. This model is great at highlighting the intent of each person, uncovering foundational beliefs that impact perceptions, and creating meaningful new experiences between partners. If you have tried couples therapy previously and not experienced relief, this modality can be effective in creating a platform for each person to feel heard and understood.

— Tera Buerkle, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Lexington, KY

When couples come to me after the discovery of an affair, the emotional bond between them appears broken. I help them to pick up the pieces by exploring the unmet attachment needs they are each dealing with. Emotion is the music of the dance of love. Change the music; change the dance.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a humanistic approach to therapy developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment theory. It is used to address depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress. It focuses on reshaping both internal experience and external patterns of engagement with others. I have completed extensive continuing education in this modality of therapy, and implemented it with clients for over 20 years.

— Roberta Ballard, Psychologist in Marietta, GA

When I began using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) it was because my supervisor at the time suggested it. I was skeptical, especially given that I was working with some very "passionate" couples. To take them from anger into calm, vulnerable communication seemed unlikely. But I was proven wrong again and again. EFT just works. And I'm happy to say that the research agrees.

— Jeremy Scataglini, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Phoenix, AZ

EFT was founded by Sue Johnson, with a goal of helping adults create secure attachment bonds with one another. The thought is that the power of emotions can help a client (couple, individual or family) to change their responses towards each other in key interactions, changing the way they relate to one another. According to the APA, it is 75% effective. Couples who complete EFT have much lesser rate of relapse, and learn new effective ways have a health relationship.

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

I completed training in EFT with Dr. Silvina Irwin in Los Angeles. I hope to continue my growth as an EFT therapist with advanced training in the coming year. I practice EFT with couples and individuals, and have seen remarkable results in expression of feelings, ability to build connection, and sense of security in relationships. I have been an EFT client myself, and truly believe that this work is a powerful healing tool.

— Hannah Schaler, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Emotionally focused therapy is amazingly effective in helping you break out of the 'bad dance' of unhealthy relational patterns. We will take apart the layers of your consciousness in relating to others: your behaviors; your thoughts & beliefs; your protective emotions; your vulnerable emotions; & your core unmet attachment needs/traumas. You will learn how your behaviors trigger others' traumas, & vice-versa. You will learn how to be seen & heard relationally, & how to see & hear others.

— Kirstin Carl, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Encino, CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is the main lens through which I work. In my experience both as a client and as a therapist, EFT is the most powerful therapeutic approach to couples therapy.I have completed the Externship, Core Skills and Supervision required for certification and am in process of becoming certified. I have also completed advanced training on EFT and sexual health, postpartum, depression and EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy).

— Kori Meyers, Counselor in Nashville, TN

EFT is based on attachment and works to help clients understand their behaviors and feelings in terms of their attachment experiences and style. EFT assumes that the ineffective behaviors you are using are your wise attempt to get your emotional and relationship needs met and were what you learned from your primary caregivers growing up. By identifying unmet emotional and relationship needs, we can find new ways of getting these needs met, allowing you to develop new, healthy patterns.

— Linda Baggett, Psychologist in Manhattan Beach, CA

Emotions have important messages to tell us about our wants and needs. Our work together will include heightened awareness of how you experience emotions (including your felt experience of emotions), practice in how to hold emotions without judgment, and allowance for emotions to surface and guide.

— Jess Thompson, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Berkeley, CA