Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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EFT is a humanistic approach to therapy, formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment. It is an empirically-supported approach that views emotions as of central importance in how we live our lives and in the process of change in therapy. This approach emphasizes your awareness, expression, and understanding of your own emotions, and creates opportunities for transformation by walking through the doorway of your emotional experiences.

— Tatiana McDougall, Clinical Psychologist in Long Beach, CA

A basic premise of this therapy is that shaping new emotional experiences is the paramount pathway to experience change. From this stance, I am engaged in awakening and expanding emotional experience that goes beyond superficial reactive responses. As this corrective emotional experience builds and is incorporated into the client's life they are also exploring new ways to understand themselves and the dilemmas that they are facing.

— Dorice Neir, Mental Health Counselor in Cumming, GA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) integrates an attachment focus and family therapy. In my use of EFT, I look at the patterns within your own experience and between you and others to help identify ways to make your relationships better, feel safe and be more secure.

— Jennie Schottmiller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , PA

I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, which is an effective and long lasting method of therapy.

— Margaret Wheelhouse, Counselor in Springfield, IL

I have received advanced formal training in EFT for Couples, and it is a topic I enjoy learning even more about.

— Dave Payne, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Florence, KY

I receive ongoing training in this model and find it to be highly effective when working with couples and families. What I like about EFT is that it's a nonjudgemental approach that helps clients gain a deeper understanding of the negative cycles they get into and helps them discover and communicate about the fear, pain, and longing underneath.

— Allison O'Brien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Johns Creek, GA

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

— Tim Holtzman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Berkeley, CA

We are energetic beings and EFT helps to send signals to the brain energetically to tell the amygdala it no longer needs to activate the fight or flight system in regards to the issue at hand. I have used EFT with many clients to clear out trauma, physical issues, addictions, anxiety, and other emotional issues.

— Jessica Stebbins, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Merritt Island, FL

I utilize techniques to help you experience your emotions in session- and then you'll learn how to manage them. You won't control, stuff, or explode, but you'll manage your emotions, gaining the information that they bring to you and honoring the experience you have of them in your body.

— Molly Johnson, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Phoenix, AZ

Based in attachment theory, I have found Emotionally Focused Therapy to be especially successful when mending and supporting relationships, and for navigating life after trauma. Trauma has been an emphasis in my education, and I am especially skilled in working with children, teens and families struggling to form and maintain a healthy lifestyle and thriving relationships after enduring relational devastation.

— Kathryn Willis, Therapist in ,

Emotions are a influential factor in identifying and creating difficulties in decision making skills. EFT helps to identify and explore where the feeling is coming from.

— Lindsay Frazier, Counselor in Gladstone, MO

Communication is vital to a healthy relationship, blah blah. That book at the checkout stand told us that. The question is, are we communicating the important messages? We don’t get mad that our partner came home late without telling us. We get mad because we feel invisible, and let’s be honest… this whole invisible thing goes back aways. We want to be seen! Instead of having conversations at home that mask true feelings, let’s have those conversations that reveal true needs.

— Ryan Levin, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

We enter relationship with the unconscious desire for our partner to provide the missing experience we have longed for our whole lives, often only to set ourselves up for disappointment. Grounded in attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy seeks to heal our originally rooted attachment wounds as they manifest in our romantic partnerships.

— Tyler Thompson, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Using EFT with couples can often bring amazing results when the partner of the wounded one, can gain a new perspective and see his or partner's view. This is where true understanding and then compassion, hopefully forgiveness can happen. EFT is all about expanding the view and allow the connection to grow in a safe environment. Many times the safe place is my office. Once a couple gets a "taste" of safety and the need for connection is ignited once again, magic happens.

— Elizabeth Havens, Marriage & Family Therapist in Orlando, FL

Emotionally focused therapy is the framework from which I see the world and work best with my clients. It is based on the belief that we are as happy and healthy as we are emotionally accessible, safe and intimately attuned with one another. Many of us have attachment and betrayal wounds and trauma which show up in our emotional states and relationships. My work focuses on this and how to remove some of our barriers and obstacles to being accessible and attuned together.

— Angela Riesterer, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern in Vancouver, WA

Secure bonding. Emotionally available, responsive, and expressive. Not possible for your partner? It can be done.

— Dustin Hodgkin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Olympia, WA

I have advanced training in Emotion Focused Family Therapy which is designed to help loved ones work with those in their lives that are struggling with mental illness (eating disorders and self-harm in particular), and other behavioral concerns. I frequently use this approach to augment direct work with my clients so they have the greatest amount of support possible, especially when they aren't in my office.

— Elizabeth Bolton, Licensed Professional Counselor in Katy, TX

I provide evidence based care using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples connect rather than continue in a cycle of unresolvable conflict. EFT is considered to be one of the most effective and successful approaches in couples counseling . EFT is based on the understanding that no matter how old we are, it is secure relationships that give us our greatest sense of safety, comfort and strength in dealing with the challenges, stresses, and opportunities of life.

— Chris Paredes, Therapist in Seattle, WA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an attachment based theory. It's designed to guide couples through gaining the ability to effectively communicate their emotions and unmet needs to their partner. I have engaged in trainings and have access to multiple resources to effectively implement EFT with both couples and individuals. I am currently working towards completing the process to become a fully certified EFT therapist.

— Brittany Squillace, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Prior Lake, MN

I specialize in EFT. I help you identify and change negative patterns that repeat in your relationship so that you can turn to each other for comfort, support, and connection. EFT works, I have seen injuries in relationships heal and distant couples get connected. Studies of couples receiving Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy show that 86% reported significant improvement. In EFT, we don’t heal relationships; we create relationships that heal.

— Casey Lee, Licensed Professional Counselor in Columbia, SC

I have completed the externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy

— Krista Miller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX

I have graduate training in EFT. Emotion-focused therapy teaches us the value of emotions as a form of communication. We can gain wisdom and understanding of our experience by attuning to our emotions, often by connecting with the felt-sense in our bodies.

— Yzobela Hyett, Therapist in Toronto,

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a structured approach to couples' therapy grounded in research focused on negative communication patterns and attachment bonds and wounds, often paired with Gottman training and research.

— Gina Baiamonte, Counselor in Houston, TX

When couples come to me after the discovery of an affair, the emotional bond between them appears broken. I help them to pick up the pieces by exploring the unmet attachment needs they are each dealing with. Emotion is the music of the dance of love. Change the music; change the dance.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

Using emotionally focused therapy, we will dive deeper into your emotional expenditure, and process strategies of maintaining control of yourself and your environment.

— Salome Saah, Counselor in Philadelphia, PA

EFT strengthens attachment bonds and builds trust, connection, and comfort in relationships. This therapy helps clients replace unwanted relational patterns with more adaptive, gratifying ways of relating. For couples as well as individuals.

— Happy Apple Center for Anxiety, Depression, & Couples, Psychotherapist in New York, NY

Communication is vital to a healthy relationship, blah blah. That book at the checkout stand told us that. The question is, are we communicating the important messages? We don’t get mad that our partner came home late without telling us. We get mad because we feel invisible, and let’s be honest… this whole invisible thing goes back aways. We want to be seen! Instead of having conversations at home that mask true feelings, let’s have those conversations that reveal true needs.

— Ryan Levin, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Our emotions tell a story and give us important information about what we need. EFT will help you open yourself to experiencing your emotions fully and listening to them. I will help you name your emotions and explore what they are trying to tell you. Knowing your needs will help you better respond to your emotions. In our work together, no feeling is irrational and no need is "too much."

— Laurel Meng, Psychotherapist in Chicago, IL