Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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Emotionally Focused Therapy is a special kind of therapy to help couples to reconnect. Couples are bonded to each other in a special way, and the bond or attachment between them can be damaged or wounded by many things in life: betrayal, abandonment, anger, distance, misunderstandings. Once that bond is wounded, things can get out of sorts quickly. Misunderstandings and mistaken assumptions contribute to the distance in the relationship and things can feel too broken to repair. EFT helps couples uncover those relationship wounds and repair or heal them. Only when those wounds are healed do partners feel ready and safe enough to reconnect. EFT is based on careful research and has been shown to be successful across the globe and across cultures. It is well-respected among therapists and researchers, and is used to help couples in many countries around the world.

— Diana Walla, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Lake Hills, TX

I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT provides a map to connection and helps us to udnerstand the patterns and cycles that keep us stuck and disconnected.

— Kelsey Riddle, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ

EFT strengthens attachment bonds and builds trust, connection, and comfort in relationships. This therapy helps clients replace unwanted relational patterns with more adaptive, gratifying ways of relating. For couples as well as individuals.

— Happy Apple Center for Anxiety, Depression, & Couples, Psychotherapist in New York, NY

I receive ongoing training in this model and find it to be highly effective when working with couples. What I like about EFT is that it's a nonjudgemental approach that helps clients gain a deeper understanding of the negative cycles they get into and helps them discover and communicate about the fear, pain, and longing underneath.

— Allison O'Brien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Johns Creek, GA

Emotionally focused therapy is designed to address distress in the intimate relationships of adults. Therapists who provide emotionally focused couples therapy typically work with couples and families to help facilitate the creation of secure lasting bonds between intimate partners and family members and reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, with the goal of helping those in treatment increase security, closeness, and connection in intimate relationships.

— Eric Henley, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Mesa, AZ

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

— Tim Holtzman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Berkeley, CA

This is a form of couples therapy I utilize with all of my couples, but it can be especially useful for queer couples I work with. It provides a neutral, nonjudgmental space for you and your partner to address your attachment injuries. These injuries exist in every partnership, but they may be more rampant in a relationship if you identify as gay or lesbian due to various everyday problems we face as a community. Couples, regardless of sexual orientation, have an innate need for a healthy bond.

— Ian Hammonds, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I frequently utilize EFT when working with couples in monogamous or open relationships.

— Lacie Rasmussen, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA

Training in 4-day EFT Externship + Sue Johnson's "Hold Me Tight" Conference and other trainings

— Ciara Braun, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, MI

When we suppress or numb our emotions we don't get to pick and choose the ones we want to feel, they all get suppressed. Emotions are information and they are often trying to tell us important things. Recognizing and sitting with our emotions is a practice that we can get better at; allowing us to move deeper into our understanding of ourselves and others.

— Lindsay Anderson, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

Emotion-Focused Therapy grew out of decades of research into the process of changing emotions, which is what therapy is all about. There are two versions with similar names - I use the approach that is made for individual work (the other one is for couples). EFT uses your emotions as the guide for where therapy needs to go and we look to heal the emotional woundings or blocks that are causing the distress you're currently feeling. In addition to local mentorship, I have sought out training with the creator of the therapy (the original researcher) in Toronto to make sure I am using this approach to the best of my ability. I know that this approach can be very helpful, not only because of the research, but because it's the kind of therapy I seek for myself.

— Darin Bergen, Psychologist in Portland, OR

I have been trained in the EFT model. This model empahisis how healthy attachement needs are vital to a working relationship. It looks at healing trauma and past wounds that have created an atmoshpere of resentment, anger and distancing.

— Anthony Gambuzza, Psychologist in Stamford, CT

ntensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) is a form of treatment that facilitates the rapid resolution of a broad spectrum of emotional disorders. It is an evidence-based psychotherapy that is supported by current clinical research studies. ISTDP interventions are specifically designed to resolve anxiety, depression, and somatization , as well as alleviate a variety of self-defeating behaviors, many of which derive from unstable or troubled early life attachments.

— Kevin Campbell, Psychologist in San Francisco, CA

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples to identify the negative interaction patterns they get caught in and change them for the better. EFT looks at the couple relationship as an attachment bond, and couple conflict as a type of protest when a partner is not getting their emotional needs met. In EFT we help the couple understand how to get these needs met and bring back a sense of safety to the relationship.

— Yvonne Judge, in Columbus, OH

I am excellent at using EFT in the room because I went to Fuller Theological Seminary and at the time there were few other couples specific and evidence based interventions, it was one of great discussion and interest to me. I worked with Jim Furrow, LMFT, an early and continued expert in the field to learn more about the method. EFT allows clients to have their deep pain heard and quickly get to how clients make meaning of marriage and past traumas.

— Emily Chandler, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Therapy that focuses more on the bonds between individuals than on the individual themselves. This may involve looking at relationship patterns or issues in order to resolve them and create a stronger bond.

— Alexandra Lambeth, Licensed Professional Counselor in Grand Prairie, TX

I receive ongoing training in this model and find it to be highly effective when working with couples and families. What I like about EFT is that it's a nonjudgemental approach that helps clients gain a deeper understanding of the negative cycles they get into and helps them discover and communicate about the fear, pain, and longing underneath.

— Allison O'Brien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Johns Creek, GA

Emotion Focused therapy works well for couples as well as individuals. Often times, we may not be aware of the feelings/emotions that we are experiencing. Emotions are taught by our primary caregivers and often coincide with our attachment styles. By identifying the vulnerable emotions which are often masked by secondary emotions (anger), the client is able to heal past wounds, as well as create more fulling and meaningful relationships with those around them.

— Miranda Bayard-Clark, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lake Oswego, OR