Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) – or emotionally focused couples therapy as it is sometimes known – is a short-term therapy technique focused on adult relationships. EFT seeks to help clients better understand both their own emotional responses and those of significant people in their lives. A therapist using EFT will look for patterns in the relationship and identify methods to create a more secure bond, increase trust, and help the relationship grow in a healthy direction. In a session, the therapist will observe the interactions between clients, tie this behavior into dynamics in the home, and help guide new interactions based on more open feelings. Sometimes, this includes clients discovering more emotions and feelings than they were aware they had. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of

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The core base of my therapeutic orientation focuses on emotions, how we relate to them, what we can learn from them, and how to regulate them.

— Lacey Buckingham, Licensed Professional Counselor

Emotionally focused therapy follows the feeling. I help you do this by helping to bring caring attention to beyond just what you are saying, but into how you are saying it and how your body is experience the emotion. I help guide you to stay with feelings, explore them, and really process them. I support this process by supporting any discomfort that comes up, keeping you from getting too overwhelmed, and cheering you on through the hard work.

— Emilee Kerr, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Santa Rosa, CA

In 2023 I completed a training in EFT for use in couples. This modality is based off attachment theory and works to help the couple understand what influences their behavior and reactions towards their partner. It creates deeper understanding and meaning in your relationship and gives you the tools to more effectively navigate conflict with one another.

— Amy Ballheimer, Licensed Professional Counselor in Ellisville, MO

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

— Taylor Kravitz, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you gain insight into your feelings to help deepen relationships, improve decision making, expand self knowledge and emotional awareness.

— Alexandra (Sasha) Goodman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake, OH

With over 300 cumulative hours of direct training in EFT and over 100 hours of mentorship from the best-of-the-best supervisors in the model, we love this method. EFT is the most evidence-based couples therapy method, with 90% of couples improving their relationship with this method and 75% no longer meeting criteria for relationship distress after treatment. You will learn how to have connecting conversations that keep you out of destructive and painful patterns.

— Heart of the Matter Couples Therapy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Collins, CO

I am trained in EFT Tapping and use this regularly in treatment for OCD, eating disorders, and anxiety

— Allison Summer, Licensed Professional Counselor

Our earliest relationships shape our view of the world and our sense of safety. I have completed trainings in EFT to expand my understanding of the foundations and techniques of EFT. Using this method, we will address your attachment figures and how they are impacting your current relationships. In a society that so often teaches us to be numb and neutral, EFT is a platform to experience emotion, which in itself leads to change.

— Brooke Bayles, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I have current and ongoing training in Emotionally Focused therapy. EFT is an attachment-based therapy that helps clients face existential life issues by creating a solid sense of self and resiliency. This type of therapy is experiential and offers corrective experiences to help clients relate better to themselves and others in a safe and secure way.

— Joshua Bogart, Professional Counselor Associate in Beaverton, OR

Emotions play a critical role in therapy and our daily lives. I help individuals truly understand how their emotions play an integral role in their lives and how they can connect with their emotions in a way that allows them to become empowered by them. This is what is meant by experiential therapy and putting clients in the driver seat of their therapeutic experience.

— Daniel Lavelle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Vienna, VA

EFT is used in couples therapy, although it can also be applied to individuals. EFT focuses on exploring and meeting the attachment needs of both partners. Sessions usually involve each partner speaking to the therapist about their state, followed by the therapist instructing the partners to talk to one another about emotions and needs. EFT is effective for reducing conflict, improving communication, and increasing emotional connection.

— Anna Khandrueva, Therapist in Broomfield, CO

Increasing our self-awareness of our emotions and what they are telling us allows us greater freedom to experience life and live comfortably in our bodies.

— Ami Lynch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Arlington, VA

Since finding EFT I have become committed to growing in this model. I have taken the four day externship, am currently in core skills and participate in both supervision and consultation.

— Christina Hughes, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN FRANCISCO, CA

Graduate training in EFT through university, as well as additional CEU certificates and workshops in EFT and treating couples.

— Alyssa Doberstein, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Raleigh, NC

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has a 90% success rate in helping clients break negative cycles of interaction and grow in their emotional intimacy and connection. Couples often find themselves caught in patterns that may involve getting louder or shutting down. EFT helps you break out of these patterns and communicate in a more authentic and vulnerable way so that you feel safe and secure in your relationship and develop a bond that can withstand life challenges and enhance your life.

— Eva Belzil, Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Collins, CO