Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

Meet the specialists

As a man, you may be used to: Solving your own problems Not asking for help Avoiding talking with others about things that cause you stress and upset Believing that there is something “unmanly” about seeking and participating in counseling Again, you are not alone. There are numerous reasons that boys and men in our culture would choose to suffer in private silence than admit to another person that there is something they cannot fix on their own. In addition, it’s sometimes tough to go to your friends or family for support, or they are simply not helpful. And searching for solutions on the internet and in books has it’s limits (and can be confusing and frustrating, too). Now, you are still struggling and are thinking about seeking the help of someone like me: a men’s counselor. In our culture, there are expectations for men not to be “weak” or “vulnerable” and to hide emotions or be “warriors.” However, it’s a myth that talking about your problems and how you feel about them will somehow, magically, make you less of a man. Not true. Times are changing, and men need to learn critical skills like emotional intelligence, communication skills, stress management and relationship building. That’s where men’s counseling can help.

— Robert Nemerovski. Psy.D., Clinical Psychologist in Kentfield, CA
 

I specialize in working with men. Men tend to work differently in therapy because of societal expectations that men don’t show feelings. While this is changing there are still many barriers. I understand this and know how to communicate with men.

— Kennedy McLean, Psychotherapist in Toronto,

As a male therapist, I understand most of the issues that pertain to being a man. Most of my clients are male and include gay, straight, and queer sexual orientations.

— Ian Felton, Licensed Professional Counselor in Minneapolis, MN
 

I work with men to balance their heart (vulnerability) with their strength (personal responsibility). Many men are out of balance one way or the other - typically the latter. Being a modern man does not mean relinquishing our emotional world. Nor does it mean letting go of a strong sense of self, purpose, and drive. I work with men to come home to themselves so that they can show up fully as partners, fathers, sons and citizens.

— Trevor Brown, Therapist in Boulder, CO

Work closely with male sexual health concerns of both the mind (unwanted attraction, paraphilia, performance anxiety, suppressed desires, etc.) and body (erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, impotence, etc.). Male survivors of sexual assault are encourages to reach out.

— Peter Bippus, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA
 

Among other areas of focus, I have devoted study and research to the issues of hyper-mascunity, social norms for boys and men, anger and withdrawal, and relationship dynamics. As a depth psychology specialist, I work with many men in reclaiming their identities from cultural and social structures, including stress and work-related demands.

— Dr. Edward Santana, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

In the busy world of balancing work and family, men can often struggle with identity, purpose, and meaning. Such a struggle can cause men to select: isolation, anger, pornography, addictions, gambling. I use some gentle, yet powerful methods to reorient men back towards their true purpose and values. For example, I find that mindfulness and hypnotherapy may be used to better understand underlying motivations and improve your aim towards your goals.

— Shawn Hales, Psychologist in Towson, MD
 

I have worked with men across my clinical training and post-graduate work in addressing various forms of trauma, depression, anxiety, and other concerns specific to men (e.g., fatherhood). I have worked with trans men throughout the transition process.

— Miklos Hargitay, Psychologist in New York, NY

Therapy is a private, confidential space where men can openly connect to what matters to them. While it does not have to focus explicitly on “men’s issues,” a therapist can assist with awareness of taken for granted, learned ways of expressing psychological pain, and assist with more effective ways of being. Some issues include: Irritability, intimacy and affection issues, numbing or pushing away emotions

— Rachel Haynes, Marriage & Family Therapist in Pleasanton, CA
 

Many men are brought up not to recognize their feelings or believe that their feelings are important. As a result, men often have difficulty forming close and meaningful connections to the people in their lives. This lack of connection can also extend to their career and activities. They find themselves wondering whether this is the life they genuinely want - or are they just working to make someone else happy.

— Jacob Brown, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Corte madera, CA

I believe that there is a pathway to mature masculinity, and that the world needs this more than ever. If you’re struggling with how to be a man, what it means to be a man, or what it means to be a husband or father in mid life, I’ve got space for you. All of your beliefs are welcome. For my male clients I very highly recommend checking out the Mankind Project. https://mankindproject.org/. The antidote to toxic masculinity is mature masculinity.

— James Harrison, Hypnotherapist in Portland, OR
 

Did any of you grow up with rules (either your own or others) about how we are supposed to live and be as men? Well guess what, there are no rules except the ones you create for yourself. Whether your challenge is relationships, career, health, chronic pain, sexual issues, identity issues, communication, or previous abuse, I can help. I have reconciled the challenges in my life and helped others do the same. I know how we move past our limiting issues, and I will help you move past yours.

— Rice Pierce, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Phoenix, AZ

Men who are uncomfortable asking for help tend to find my office a safe and reassuring place to take that risk. I help men develop a toolbox of strategies to help reduce anger and anxiety in order to develop more effective communication skills.

— Karen Wulfson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA
 

It is often challenging to be a man of integrity today. It is even harder if you grew up without a positive male role model, and can feel like you’re making it up as you go along, with plenty of stumbles along the way. Current events such as the #metoo movement make it even more complex and important to look at the things that get in the way of finding balance and pride in masculinity.

— Michael MacLafferty, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Used to run a Men's group and can focus on emotional issue unique to men.

— Peter Binnings, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Santa Cruz, CA
 

If we were to examine the hearts of the over 150 million men in this country, we would be alarmed by the profound sense of pain, confusion, and disconnection so many of us experience on a daily basis. Unfortunately, the same constraints that create a man’s wounds also keep them deeply hidden. My aim is to help men reconnect with themselves so they can participate in relationships of significant depth.

— Hayden Lindsey, Counselor in Austin, TX

I trained at the Southern California Counseling Center, where I facilitated mandated men's groups for the prevention of intimate partner violence.

— Lincoln Madley, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA
 

I believe that men have been privileged in many ways. However, we have often received little or no modeling or training in emotion regulation, communication, intimacy, or grief. I adamently believe that the wellbeing of men is critically important and woefully underprovided. If you believe that your particular issues are highly influenced by your maleness, let's talk.

— Jon Reeves, Clinical Psychologist in Seattle, WA

I work with men on dating, relationships, and career, focusing on the depression and anxiety that are often underneath day to day problems and holding them back. Society has done a great disservice to men by continuing to spread dangerous messages like "boys don't cry" and "man up". Men are so detached from their feelings that it leads to them living dishonest lives full of shame and guilt and buried emotions that often manifest somatically with panic attacks and GI problems. I can help!

— Marcella Haro, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Although work with all people, Masculinity is an area of specific strength and focus in my work.

— Mike Doogan, Counselor in Portland, OR

Men are often told they have to ‘get in touch with their feelings,’ but what does this mean and how do you do it? I help men become more aware of their emotions, how to manage them, and how to talk about them. Learning to put words to what you are feeling, identify and express feelings are learned behavior – and like riding a bike, it takes practice. Showing your vulnerability with people who you feel safe with can bring you closer to others and may even bring a sense of relief.

— Joshua Weinreb, Licensed Professional Counselor in North Canton, OH
 

Men who are uncomfortable asking for help tend to find my office a safe and reassuring place to take that risk. I help men develop a toolbox of strategies to help reduce anger and anxiety in order to develop more effective communication skills.

— Karen Wulfson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA

I specialize in helping men identify their true values and learn how to truly live into those values fully in all aspects of their life. This includes intimate relationships, family relationships, career performance, and personal growth. This may often include unpacking some family of origin issues as well as any addiction issues that might be at play.

— Jeremy Pierce, Licensed Professional Counselor in Irving, TX
 

My primary research deals with assisting African American men to address the underlying issues of hurt, pain and anger that may be affecting their overall well-being. Sessions address not only systemic issues of racism and discrimination, but also how maternal relationships impact their current relationships.

— Faye Weems-Singleton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Norcross, GA

I have experience facilitating men's groups for preventing intimate partner violence in The Abuse Prevention Program at The Southern California Counseling Center

— Lincoln Madley, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA
 

Men's issues is seen as a new field within therapy that deals with how men experience psychological concerns. Areas that we may explore in this area could include: relationship distress, identity, career choice and passion as well as social concerns. I also offer a group that meets twice a month to explore these issues with other men.

— Michael Lamerato, Mental Health Counselor in Huntington Woods, MI

Men who are uncomfortable asking for help tend to find my office a safe and reassuring place to take that risk. I help men develop a toolbox of strategies to help reduce anger and anxiety in order to develop more effective communication skills.

— Karen Wulfson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Beverly Hills, CA