Men's Issues

Studies have shown that women are much more likely than men to seek therapy. However, just like women, men can benefit from having a confidential, private space to explore any issues that might be coming up for them. The term “men’s issues” can refer to any number of concerns men might face, including anger management, addiction, intimacy issues, domestic violence, mid-life crises, grief or loss – in addition to mental health issues like anxiety or depression. If you have found yourself experiencing any of these issues (or others), reach out to one of TherapyDen’s men’s issues specialists today.

Meet the specialists

Many males are looking at their experiences of being socialized in ways they know well but don't like. Shame about previous sexual encounters, fears of departing from a certain kind of conformity, worries about objectification of their partners and others and insecurity about who they are, can be crushing. I have a background working with clients particularly around their sexual behavior and masculine identities.

— Jennie Merovick, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

Although work with all people, Masculinity is an area of specific strength and focus in my work.

— Mike Doogan, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have led multiple support and process groups for men, both in the context of university counseling centers as well as an addictions clinic. I am well versed in the current literature regarding the culture of "toxic masculinity," but I am also invested in promoting the cultural values that can empower men to move beyond the systems that create unhealthy male behaviors focused on power, dominance, and emotional restriction.

— Jason Wu, Psychologist in San Jose, CA

I work with men around issues of sexual identity, challenges with out of control sexual behaviors and sex addiction, libido and performance anxiety issues, and navigating sexual issues in relationships.

— Greg Bodin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

What makes an issue a “men’s issue” depends on how it was developed. Men’s issues are developed within a context (such as family raised in, time period, culture, or geographical area). Such contexts have the potential to define behavior as something a man would or would not do. These definitions can be limiting and unhelpful. They can restrict the problem solving ability of men in situations that require more flexible and adaptive responses.

— Rachel Haynes, Marriage & Family Therapist in Pleasanton, CA

Among other areas of focus, I have devoted study and research to the issues of hyper-mascunity, social norms for boys and men, anger and withdrawal, and relationship dynamics. As a depth psychology specialist, I work with many men in reclaiming their identities from cultural and social structures, including stress and work-related demands.

— Dr. Edward Santana, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Therapy is a private, confidential space where men can openly connect to what matters to them. While it does not have to focus explicitly on “men’s issues,” a therapist can assist with awareness of taken for granted, learned ways of expressing psychological pain, and assist with more effective ways of being. Some issues include: Irritability, intimacy and affection issues, numbing or pushing away emotions

— Rachel Haynes, Marriage & Family Therapist in Pleasanton, CA

It is often challenging to be a man of integrity today. It is even harder if you grew up without a positive male role model, and can feel like you’re making it up as you go along, with plenty of stumbles along the way. Current events such as the #metoo movement make it even more complex and important to look at the things that get in the way of finding balance and pride in one’s masculinity. As as someone who has grappled with these same issues I can provide understanding and safety, and I would be happy to help you find what masculinity means to you.

— Michael MacLafferty, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Used to run a Men's group and can focus on emotional issue unique to men.

— Peter Binnings, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Providence, RI

Many men are brought up not to recognize their feelings or believe that their feelings are important. As a result, men often have difficulty forming close and meaningful connections to the people in their lives. This lack of connection can also extend to their career and activities. They find themselves wondering whether this is the life they genuinely want - or are they just working to make someone else happy.

— Jacob Brown, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Corte madera, CA

Much of my practice is, and has been, focused on working with men of all ages. Our society does a poor job of equipping men with the tools and language to lead a rich, full emotional life. This has many negative effects, both in the day-to-day experience of men and in their relationships. I am passionate about making a safe space where men can get in touch with their feelings and learn new and more effective ways of expressing them. Among other things, this often involves working with and beginning to shift their relationship to anger, a strong and natural emotional that can be productive and helpful but also corrosive and destructive; for many men, getting control over their anger is a key part of building healthier, happier relationships in all arenas of life. Issues of masculinity, sexuality, dating and relationships, identity, body image, and other aspects of what it means to be a man today are central topics in this work.

— Josh Rothenberg, Clinical Psychologist in San Francisco, CA

It is often challenging to be a man of integrity today. It is even harder if you grew up without a positive male role model, and can feel like you’re making it up as you go along, with plenty of stumbles along the way. Current events such as the #metoo movement make it even more complex and important to look at the things that get in the way of finding balance and pride in masculinity.

— Michael MacLafferty, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Like many men, I spent many years isolated, disconnected, and largely unaware of my own emotions and the effect I had on others around me. Since starting my own journey of growth and healing through personal therapy and men's work with the ManKind Project, I have become more aware of my own shadow, and more aware of the damage we men have inflicted on society. My goal is to walk with other men and guide them toward connection, vulnerability, and healing.

— Gary Moran, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

As a man, you may be used to: Solving your own problems Not asking for help Avoiding talking with others about things that cause you stress and upset Believing that there is something “unmanly” about seeking and participating in counseling Again, you are not alone. There are numerous reasons that boys and men in our culture would choose to suffer in private silence than admit to another person that there is something they cannot fix on their own. In addition, it’s sometimes tough to go to your friends or family for support, or they are simply not helpful. And searching for solutions on the internet and in books has it’s limits (and can be confusing and frustrating, too). Now, you are still struggling and are thinking about seeking the help of someone like me: a men’s counselor. In our culture, there are expectations for men not to be “weak” or “vulnerable” and to hide emotions or be “warriors.” However, it’s a myth that talking about your problems and how you feel about them will somehow, magically, make you less of a man. Not true. Times are changing, and men need to learn critical skills like emotional intelligence, communication skills, stress management and relationship building. That’s where men’s counseling can help.

— Robert Nemerovski. Psy.D., Clinical Psychologist in Kentfield, CA

I have specialized in working with male clients on a variety of issues since 1997.

— Diana Groener, Counselor in Portland, OR

After twenty-five years of experience in business, Peter decided to address a need he saw in the field and provide mental health support to men, their families, and fellow business professionals. He believes there is a gap in this industry that has not been addressed and is confident he is uniquely qualified to address the issues and concerns of men and the business professional population.

— Peter Rivkees, Counselor in Clermont, FL

Men don't like to talk about personal private issues like feelings or sex. But the fact is that talking and sharing actually does help! My expertise is in the area of male sexual problems like erectile failure, premature and delayed ejaculation, sex and pornography addiction, male relationship anxiety, male self esteem issues, and men's reactions to grief, loss, and life transitions like separation/divorce, mid-life, and retirement.

— Eric Larsen, Licensed Professional Counselor in MONTCLAIR, NJ

"The times they are-a-changin'" wrote Dylan. The evolving of cultural values is sometimes very jarring to our male psyche's. The information-laden world we navigate now is significantly different than it was as recently as 5 years ago. Men have had to make a lot of adjustments: In our relationships to others, to the roles in raising kids, to just about everything that men had been taught while growing up. I look to explore these changes with you, and process possible solutions.

— darrell marsh, in Los Angeles, CA