Men's Issues

I'm so enthusiastic about working with men because I've seen how our lives and the lives of those closest to us are transformed when we engage deeply in working on ourselves. We're so much more likely to believe we have to make it on our own, that it makes us weak to ask for help, or that seeing a counselor just isn't going to 'work'. I'm excited to help dispel these myths for you, and walk alongside as you rediscover excitement about your life.

Healthy, meaningful masculinity creates the space and safety for those we love to grow and thrive. So as we discover who you are as a man, your relationships will heal, change, and grow. You don't bear all the responsibility for this healing and change. But it can start with you.

You have been growing up in a culture where you constantly heard: "don't cry over spilled milk/just get over it/pull yourself by your bootstraps" and things alike. You have been told to be taught and that men don't cry. Maybe you are still feeling the remnants of your past trauma and your life is spinning out of control. You might be a high achiever, type A personality that just takes on too much and is absolutely infused with stress. It's time to gain control over your life and address these.

Whether you as as man want to manage and lessen your anger, work on intimacy issues, going through a mid-life crises or experiencing mental health issues like anxiety or depression, I can help. I am a SOLUTION-FOCUSED TALK THERAPIST and no other Therapist does the type of work I do.

I focus on helping clients develop a postive personal sense of masculinity that is unique to their own identity. Having researched masculinities for over a decade, there are several ways to show up as a man, and many nuances to understand your personal perspective of masculinity, including understanding the societial impact of "what it means to be a man". Additionally, I have experience working with new fathers in developing a healthy sense of fatherhood.

My practice focuses on providing psychotherapy to Gay Men seeking a new path through skill development. Our society shames men who show emotion. Let me tell you, there is no shame in getting help or being vulnerable. There is strength in seeking guidance when we feel lost. I believe we have the skills needed to own our life but sometimes we get lost and need a guide. To learn more, Let’s Talk.

In addition to my lived experience as a man, much of my clinical experience has been providing therapy to men. Specific men’s issues I have encountered as a therapist include men’s experiences with body image, sexual orientation, sexual performance, friendship, marriage/dating and societal expectations. I have experience working with male survivors of abuse as well as men experiencing depression and anxiety.

As men we have been set up to fail emotionally in society. A bold statement? Perhaps, but also true. For many of us we were not given the tools to be able to express our emotions in a healthy way. We were told "don't cry", "don't be a baby", or worse. We may have even suffered physical abuse for showing emotion. In my practice we set up a safe environment to give you the tools to begin to express yourself and your emotions in a healthy, productive way.

Why does rest feel shameful at times? You know what it feels to be consumed with the pressure to make the right choices. You’re a busy guy, and you want to perform well at work and truly look after the people you care about. You want to slow down, and often wonder how other people do all of this. You could use some help in managing these burdensome emotions getting in your way. Together, we can stand at a safe position while we pinpoint and address what’s holding you back from your desired life.

It all start with YOU!

I work with men in expressing their emotions, anger issues, and relationship issues.

You want people to know you, the real you, but what are they going to think of those embarrassing parts of your life? It’s terrifying to think about sharing those things with other people, so you just keep those things hidden, stay small, and march along. Imagine fully and confidently owning your identity, your presence, your voice and feeling empowered to pursue your vision of the future. It’s time to step out of secrecy and smallness to stand tall and own the life that is uniquely yours.

Men are also oppressed by toxic masculinity. I like to help men to understand the challenges that the face around emotional understanding and expression.

Working through identity issues, as well as exploring your own relationship to manhood

I have enjoyed working with men from the ages of 22-65. In particular, a passion of mine has been working with new dads. Men who become new fathers often experience depression, anxiety/OCD, issues with anger along with substance use. We have been enduring difficult times of late and it is okay for men to seek help with their mental health.

You want to feel good in body, mood, work, relationships. Yet oftentimes you deal with frustration, loneliness and pervasive anxiety around success, achievement and expectations you have of yourself based on what others seem to have of you. You tend not to talk about it & it's a lot of pressure! Take the space to explore identity and relational roles, while laying down track for what you want to Have, Do and Be by the end of your therapy.

I paid attention to things that occur on the macro level of our society, and realized the unfortunate fact that masculinity is misunderstood. I am suited to address issues and obstacles that uniquely effect men, that may not be easily understood by people on the outside looking in.