Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

This systematic and research-based approach to helping individuals and couples with relationship concerns is highly effective. It involves numerous concepts and tools that are easily-understood and that you can start using right away.

— Kate McNulty, Clinical Social Worker in ,

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, Gottman Method couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to helping couples that teaches couples to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

I'm tried in the Gottman method and offer this framework in the work I do with couples and relational systems.

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns, to repair past hurts, and to increase closeness and intimacy through proven tools and skills.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL
 

Gottman is the lead research for improving relationships.

— Chelsea Etheirdge, Counselor in Mckinney, TX

The Gottman Method is based on over 40 years of research. I have found this method to be very effective in teaching communication skills to couples who have a difficult time discussing tough topics. The method teaches couples how to interact in a positive manner to solve problems or just have their point of view heard and validated.

— Yvonne Judge, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

Although this method does not represent my sole approach to couples counseling, I utilize its concepts and tools frequently. The Gottman Institute states that, "The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship." Trained in levels 1 and 2.

— Emily Eldar, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in , MA

gottman method and emotion-focused therapy are evidenced-based approaches geared towards creating trust, commitment, fondness and admiration, and shared meaning for couples.

— Michael Duryea, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist
 

I am a Certified Gottman Therapist and Workshop Leader.

— Carole Cullen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wake Forest, NC

I am trained in Level 2 Gottman Method Couples Therapy. The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions aimed to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Kerri-Anne Brown, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Orlando, FL
 

I am being trained in the Gottman Method to assist couples in developing friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. I help couples transform negative ways they communicate with positive interactions to help heal past resentments. The Gottman Method includes, "interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals."

— Caitlin Miller, Counselor in Chicago, IL

I am Level I and II Gottman Method trained and have been working with couples since 2012.

— Kristen Haflett, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Colorado Springs, CO
 

I am trained in Gottman levels 1,2 and 3 of the Gottman method of couple's counseling. In addition, I've completed their training in affairs and trauma as well as their couples in recovery program. I am a seven principles of making a marriage work educator as well.

— kandee willis, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Oswego, IL

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple's relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory.

— Jor-El Zajatz, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship. -Gottman

— Filippo M. Forni, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA