Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

Meet the specialists

Working with relationship is one of my favorite things to do. Often couples need support and I love offering that support! I have completed levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman training., as well as a 40 hour meditation training with Center for Conflict Resolution.

— kaseja wilder, Counselor in Eugene, OR
 

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a researched-based model of therapy that combines the knowledge and wisdom of over 40 years of studies and clinical practice. It is a structured, goal-oriented, and scientifically-based therapy. The interventions utilized during therapy are based upon the empirical data garnered from the studies of over 3,000 couples. Dr. John Gottman’s research provides therapists with the knowledge of what actually works to aid couples in achieving healthy, long-term relationships.

— Cindy Norton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Asheville, NC
 

I've taken training in the Gottman method of couples counseling. I combine this with what I'm learning through working with domestic violence offenders which is helping me to be aware of a wide range of understanding of the facets of couples relationships.

— Taunya Gesner, Counselor in Gresham, OR

I have been following the Gottman's for years and was able to complete my level one training with the Gottmans themselves. I use Gottman principles in my own marriage and this method really resonates with me and makes sense for my clients. It's user friendly, science based and effective.

— Katherine Pfeiffer, Counselor in Tampa, FL

Gottman technique is rooted in the Four Horsemen - behaviors couples engage in that can predict divorce. As a team, we can discover just how these behaviors are manifested in your relationship. We will one by one eradicate these destructive ways. I will help you learn communication skills, to feel closer and cherish each other.

— Elissa Grunblatt, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Amityville, NY
 

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

The Gottman's have spent over 40 years studying couples and relationships. They have identified what doesn't work and is toxic to relationships, and more importantly, what makes healthy couples, or "master's" work. I utilize the Gottman assessment and interventions to help couples build a strong foundation in order to heal from past wounds, and find new ways to connect and manage conflict.

— Caroline Biber, Clinical Social Worker in Charlotte, NC
 

I have completed Levels 1-3 of Gottman Method Couple Therapy training and am now working with a consultant to become a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA

I've completed the three levels of Gottman Method Couples Therapy training, and I'm currently obtaining my certification. I've also read the majority of all of their books (Drs. John and Julie Gottman), as well as done additional webinar trainings. I receive ongoing consultation for this.

— Tara Vossenkemper, Counselor in Columbia, MO

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

Gottman Method is a form of couples counseling that improves friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed. https://www.gottman.com/about/the-gottman-method/

— Nichole Bosserman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Washington, IL
 

I've got through Level One and Level Two of the Gottman training. I also use the Gottman Couples Assessment Tool as part of my couple work. I love the assessment as it gives such a clear picture of not just the trouble areas, but also areas of strength for the couple. Based on this assessment I use specific activities geared towards addressing the areas of concern for the couple. It gives out work focus and direction, which my clients find comfort in.

— Molly Lizzio, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Syracuse, NY
 

I am trained in Gottman Method therapy at level 3 and have worked with couples from this model since 2015. I love that Gottman Method is research based and has 40 years of practical application behind it's methodology and interventions. I use the Gottman Relationship Checkup with couples and meet with them both together and individually throughout the course of therapy. There are specific tools I use that help couples have a better relationship from day one of our work together. We practice these tools in session and work through the bumps so it's easier to implement at home.

— Heather Seguin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Upland, CA

The Gottman Method is a four part assessment process that begins with a history of the relationship, moves to the individuals personal history, and then comes back together for a joint session to focus on the best path forward. The Gottman method is the most highly researched couples' therapy method and has an incredible success rate when followed.

— Kristal DeSantis, Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

I am level 2 trained in Gottman Couples Therapy method and use this method as my primary couples therapy technique. Through the process of assessment, couples will have a clear treatment plan of their work early in the process to help guide the therapy. Couples will be able to know what is going well, what needs initial work, and long term goals for the relationship. By use of specific exercises, couples will establish a deeper level of intimacy as well as learn new patterns of communication which will facilitate efficient conflict resolution.

— Miranda Bayard-Clark, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lake Oswego, OR
 

My approach to couples & relationship therapy is based on the research and work of Drs. Julie & John Gottman.

— Reed Balentine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North Little Rock, AR

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA