Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Many problems in relationships happen because we just don’t know how to talk to each other. Emotions run high in our love relationships, and talking when you feel overwhelmed or if you don’t have the right tools makes the conversation even more difficult. Couples often feel confused because it is difficult to know where to go to learn new skills. Therapy is a safe place to learn the techniques of healthy conversations in relationships.

— Dana McNeil, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I have Level 2 Gottman Method training certification, and am well-versed in the Gottman approach to couple therapy.

— Susan Iyican, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist in Solana Beach, CA

I love the Gottman Method for treating couples. It helps to build relationships on the basis of friendship and respect. The method gives couples a concrete box of skills to use to improve communication, resolve conflict, and build trust. I’ve seen my couples build hope for a brighter future, together.

— Marie Ragona, Creative Art Therapist in Astoria, NY

I offer couples the option of completing a thorough online relationship checkup designed to highlight your strengths and growth areas as a couple. The Gottman Relationship Checkup utilizes over 40 years of evidence based research on how to help relationships succeed. To learn more about the Gottman Relationship Checkup please visit:

— Afton Strate, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

I am Gottman trained and use their framework with couples.

— Kelli Gordon, Psychotherapist in Seattle, WA

I'm trained in Gottman's therapy Level 1 and 2 and I'm also a Prepare-Enrich Facilitator to better help couples with communication skills. If you are struggling in your relationship, I would like to encourage you to schedule a couple's session and know that there is hope!

— Tania Feres, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Orlando, FL

I have completed Level 1 of Gottman Method training. Gottman Method is heavily researched with long term success with partnerships and couples.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH

The goals of the Gottman Method include increasing closeness and friendship behaviors, addressing conflict productively, and building a life of shared meaning together. Couples who function effectively treat each other with consideration, and are supportive of each other. The Gottman Method is dedicated to combining wisdom from research and practice to support and strengthen marriages, families, and relationships.

— Amie Celender, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ

The Gottman's have spent over 40 years studying couples and relationships. They have identified what doesn't work and is toxic to relationships, and more importantly, what makes healthy couples, or "master's" work. I utilize the Gottman assessment and interventions to help couples build a strong foundation in order to heal from past wounds, and find new ways to connect and manage conflict.

— Caroline Biber, Clinical Social Worker in Charlotte, NC

John and Julie Gottman are renowned couples therapy experts-and they have developed a variety of methods to identify specific types of conflicts within a relationship. By observing your interactions and getting to know you as a couple, I will help you and your partner(s) identify said conflicts and help you work through them to achieve happiness.

— Melissa Ludwig, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Online Counseling for all of Florida, FL

I have been trained in Levels 1, 2, & 3 of Gottman Couples Method. I have utilized this method for the last 3 years to help couples gain an in depth understanding of their relationship. This method also allows me to teach the clients skills to help alleviate the problems that are taking place in the relationship.

— LaShanna Stephens, Licensed Professional Counselor in Macon, GA

I am a Certified Gottman Therapist as well as a leader for the 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work psychoeducation program.

— Krista Miller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX

I am currently attending Gottman training so I can explore the best possible ways to help couples communicate and interact with each other in a healthy way. I am not a certified therapist, but hope to continue with all levels of training in this specific method.

— Kristin Holland-Pitts, Counselor in Oklahoma City, OK

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

Gottman therapy is used for couples only - here we learn a new way to communicate, improve intimacy, learn positives and negatives in the relationship and how to draw goals individually and goals for the relationship. An online questionnaire is used to help sort out the strengths and the areas that need work.

— Dr. Rosana Marzullo-Dove, PsyD, Psychologist in Tampa, FL

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman method. The Gottman method helps couples to learn skills to navigate through conflict and to build fondness and admiration in their relationship. As a result of the Gottman method couples tend to report an increase in intimacy, increased relationship satisfaction, decrease in conflict, and couples report that they are better able to process the aftermath of a fight.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Kansas City, MO

I am a Seven Principals certified by the Gottman's. Their success in helping clients has an enormous success rate.

— SHAINA Duffy, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in North Ridgeville, OH

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. This method teaches specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and learn to engage in healthy dialogue about gridlocked issues.

— Rebecca Ray, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Marcos, TX

I've taken training in the Gottman method of couples counseling. I combine this with what I'm learning through working with domestic violence offenders which is helping me to be aware of a wide range of understanding of the facets of couples relationships.

— Taunya Gesner, Counselor in Gresham, OR

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that strives to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth.

— Lisa M. Clark, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Chandler, AZ

Trained at Level 1 and Level 2 in Gottman Method Couples Therapy

— Solaris Counseling Services, Mental Health Counselor

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

Training in Level 1, Level 2, & Level 3 Gottman Method + Specialty Training in Gottman's "Affairs & Trauma Recovery" + Gottman Relationship CHECKUP Assessment Administrator

— Ciara Braun, Licensed Professional Counselor in Birmingham, MI

Gottman is easily the HBOC (look up the acronym) when it comes to relationships. Their techniques break down what is going on in your relationship in ways that make it easy to understand, easy to change, and easy to move forward. Simple... and I love simple.

— Jessica Jefferson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Plantation, FL

I trained with the Gottman Institute in Seattle and I am a Certified Trainer in "Bringing Baby Home", "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" and I completed Gottman Level 1 and 2. I believe that by working with couples, healing and relational satisfaction can take place; and change in relationships can occur. I focus on emotion, skill-building for managing conflict, developing new skills for enhancing friendship, awareness and understanding of each other's needs and embracing them.

— Kay Hamilton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

Completed Level 1 and 2 in Gottman Method Couple Therapy

— Erica Garcia, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Southfield, MI

I am level 2 trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. This means I aim to first understand your relationship, both of your goals for the future, and together we identify conflicts and give everyone tools to work on to improve your feelings of connection, future oriented goals, and ability to manage conflict.

— Suzanne Vargas, Counselor in Fremont, CA