Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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Gottman's method provides a great framework for thinking about healthy relationships. I use many strategies from Gottman particularly in relationship to improving conflict.

— Leah Murphy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Silver Spring, MD

I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA

I am a Level 1 Gottman Method clinician, and I love this technique because it is rooted in such real life behavior. I find it easy for couples to take the Gottman methodology and apply it to their own lives.

— Jenny Shully, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Napa, CA
 

I have extensive training and certification in utilizing the Gottman method. This is my primary technique that I use for couples that are struggling with feeling disconnected, having arguments, feeling resentful, lacking romance and intimacy, and overall feeling unloved and not supported by their partner. The couples I have worked with have really enjoyed the tools, as they are easy to understand and apply, and they see results quickly.

— Kala Anders, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor

I am a level 1 Gottman trained therapist in the process of level 2 completion. "The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship." - John and Julie Gottman

— Ashlei Lien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Inglewood, CA
 

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

I am currently a Level 2 Gottman practitioner. The Gottman approach includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions to help couples cultivate healthy lasting relationships.

— Paula Kirsch, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in , MI
 

I am level one trained and use the Gottman Method with couples to create practical interpersonal relationship skills that build intimacy and relationship satisfaction.

— Allison Jensen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago, IL

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, Gottman Method couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to helping couples that teaches couples to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I have completed Level 1 of Gottman Method training. Gottman Method is heavily researched with long term success with partnerships and couples.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

Gottman method is based on the largest body of proven evidence in relationship therapy. Therapy begins by getting to know you with informal and formal questions. Based on your unique relationship, therapy then teaches you specific skills to improve your understanding of yourselves and each other, practice constructive conflict, and heal and build your connection and intimacy. Some couples clarify the choice to separate and therapy can help you work constructively through that process.

— Karen Keys, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

I have completed Level 1 and Level 2 of Gottman Method training.

— Loren Schouest, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Birmingham, AL
 

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couples Therapist (CGT). I am the first Black psychotherapist in the world to become a CGT. The Gottman Method for couples counseling is a research based couples counseling modality that can help couples and other "non traditional" relationships repair, reconnect and revitalize. It is a leading edge treatment that can be used to work through just about any problem including communication issues, infidelity, trauma and substance abuse.

— John Edwards, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

I am Gottman Method Level II trained as well as trained on affairs, trauma, and addiction in the context of couple's counseling.

— Gabby Jimmerson, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Capistrano Beach, CA
 

The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Monica Manuel, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. This method teaches specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and learn to engage in healthy dialogue about gridlocked issues.

— Rebecca Ray, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX
 

We create a structured plan for managing conflict and creating emotional and sexual intimacy. I don’t take sides, and never let partners sit and berate each other during session. I am calm and direct, and help couples untangle their complex relationship patterns. We will work together to improve communication, learn to fight fairly, and avoid relationship pitfalls that lead to angry cycles that lead to divorce. I hold couples accountable while offering encouragement and support.

— Connie Kelly, Licensed Professional Counselor in Houston, TX

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR