Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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My relationship work is rooted in the Gottman Method. The therapeutic process focuses on increasing interpersonal understanding of each partner’s worries, fears, and hopes; increasing mutual appreciation, respect, and fondness; identifying and effectively responding to bids for affection; improving conflict management and understanding the role of conflict in a healthy relationship; increasing effective communication skills; and developing a shared narrative for the future of the relationship.

— Jeanine Moreland, Clinical Psychologist in Chicago, IL
 

I have completed Level 1 of Gottman Method training. Gottman Method is heavily researched with long term success with partnerships and couples.

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage with Gottman researched tools & strategies. I completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. I help your areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.

— Shannon Batts, Licensed Professional Counselor

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

This systematic and research-based approach to helping individuals and couples with relationship concerns is highly effective. It involves numerous concepts and tools that are easily-understood and that you can start using right away.

— Kate McNulty, Clinical Social Worker in ,

I am a Certified Gottman Method Couple Therapist, #406.

— Sheila Addison, Counselor in Oakland, CA
 

I am a level 1 Gottman trained therapist in the process of level 2 completion. "The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship." - John and Julie Gottman

— Ashlei Lien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Inglewood, CA

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns, to repair past hurts, and to increase closeness and intimacy through proven tools and skills.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, Gottman Method couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to helping couples that teaches couples to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I have completed Gottman training and work with relationship dynamics from the perspective of the Sound Relationship House lens. When asked Dr. Gottman stated he never had nonmonogamous relationships last long enough to study, fortunately I have that experience.

— Cody Glover, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR
 

Based on scientific research over decades, the Gottman approach offers a lot!

— Keli Dean, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Loveland, CO

I'm tried in the Gottman method and offer this framework in the work I do with couples and relational systems.

— PNW Sex Therapy Collective: Sex, Intimacy, and Relationship Therapists, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. This method teaches specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and learn to engage in healthy dialogue about gridlocked issues.

— Rebecca Ray, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Marcos, TX