Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

Meet the specialists

Completed Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy Completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Addiction Recovery Training

— Rachelle Marshall, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Orange, CA
 

I am trained in Gottman Method therapy at level 3 and have worked with couples from this model since 2015. I love that Gottman Method is research based and has 40 years of practical application behind it's methodology and interventions. I use the Gottman Relationship Checkup with couples and meet with them both together and individually throughout the course of therapy. There are specific tools I use that help couples have a better relationship from day one of our work together. We practice these tools in session and work through the bumps so it's easier to implement at home.

— Heather Seguin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Glendora, CA

This systematic and research-based approach to helping individuals and couples with relationship concerns is highly effective. It involves numerous concepts and tools that are easily-understood and that you can start using right away.

— Kate McNulty, Clinical Social Worker in Portland, OR
 

The Gottman's have spent over 40 years studying couples and relationships. They have identified what doesn't work and is toxic to relationships, and more importantly, what makes healthy couples, or "master's" work. I utilize the Gottman assessment and interventions to help couples build a strong foundation in order to heal from past wounds, and find new ways to connect and manage conflict.

— Caroline Biber, Clinical Social Worker in Charlotte, NC

I am trained in Gottman Method therapy at level 3 and have worked with couples from this model since 2015. I love that Gottman Method is research based and has 40 years of practical application behind it's methodology and interventions. I use the Gottman Relationship Checkup with couples and meet with them both together and individually throughout the course of therapy. There are specific tools I use that help couples have a better relationship from day one of our work together. We practice these tools in session and work through the bumps so it's easier to implement at home.

— Heather Seguin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Glendora, CA
 

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Training Level I and Level II in 2011 and have been practicing it since that time.

— Heather McKenzie, Counselor in Raleigh, NC
 

I am Gottman level 3 trained. I utilize their handouts as part of the therapy process. I also offer suggestions from my work with others on how to resolve difficult issues.

— Christa Vermillera, Counselor in Melbourne, FL

I have been trained in Levels 1, 2, & 3 of Gottman Couples Method. I have utilized this method for the last 3 years to help couples gain an in depth understanding of their relationship. This method also allows me to teach the clients skills to help alleviate the problems that are taking place in the relationship.

— LaShanna Stephens, Counselor in Macon, GA
 

Many problems in relationships happen because we just don’t know how to talk to each other. Emotions run high in our love relationships, and talking when you feel overwhelmed or if you don’t have the right tools makes the conversation even more difficult. Couples often feel confused because it is difficult to know where to go to learn new skills. Therapy is a safe place to learn the techniques of healthy conversations in relationships.

— Dana McNeil, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I am Gottman level one trained clinician. This work can be done individually or in couples work. The content is also applicable to new families with new or additional children in helping the parents communicate in a healthy and effect ways during this time of change and transition in their lives. I am certified in the Bringing Baby Home™ curriculum which can be explored individually. Gottman work can also be applied in grief and loss challenges.

— Audrianna Gurr, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Many problems in relationships happen because we just don’t know how to talk to each other. Emotions run high in our love relationships, and talking when you feel overwhelmed or if you don’t have the right tools makes the conversation even more difficult. Couples often feel confused because it is difficult to know where to go to learn new skills. Therapy is a safe place to learn the techniques of healthy conversations in relationships.

— Dana McNeil, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I am trained in Level 2 Gottman Method Couples Therapy. The Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple relationship and integrates research-based interventions aimed to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Kerri-Anne Brown, Licensed Professional Counselor in Orlando, FL
 

I am level 2 trained in Gottman Couples Therapy method and use this method as my primary couples therapy technique. Through the process of assessment, couples will have a clear treatment plan of their work early in the process to help guide the therapy. Couples will be able to know what is going well, what needs initial work, and long term goals for the relationship. By use of specific exercises, couples will establish a deeper level of intimacy as well as learn new patterns of communication which will facilitate efficient conflict resolution.

— Miranda Bayard-Clark, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lake Oswego, OR

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA
 

Being Level 3 trained in the Gottman Couples Method, I have skills and tools in guiding couples of all ages and stages to managing conflict and building a stronger friendship. Drs. John and Julie Gottman, who have studied couples for over four decades, developed these techniques to help you find out what conflicts mean, how they impact your dreams, goals, and expectations. We’ll learn new ways of communicating, and discover that conflict is not just another argument, but an opportunity to know and love each other more deeply.

— Katheryn de Arakal, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a researched-based model of therapy that combines the knowledge and wisdom of over 40 years of studies and clinical practice. It is a structured, goal-oriented, and scientifically-based therapy. The interventions utilized during therapy are based upon the empirical data garnered from the studies of over 3,000 couples. Dr. John Gottman’s research provides therapists with the knowledge of what actually works to aid couples in achieving healthy, long-term relationships.

— Cindy Norton, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Asheville, NC
 

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA