Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I have been following the Gottman's for years and was able to complete my level one training with the Gottmans themselves. I use Gottman principles in my own marriage and this method really resonates with me and makes sense for my clients. It's user friendly, science based and effective.

— Katherine Pfeiffer, Counselor in Tampa, FL
 

Gottman therapy is used for couples only - here we learn a new way to communicate, improve intimacy, learn positives and negatives in the relationship and how to draw goals individually and goals for the relationship. An online questionnaire is used to help sort out the strengths and the areas that need work.

— Dr. Rosana Marzullo-Dove, PsyD, Psychologist in Tampa, FL

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3-4 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress. I have been trained in Levels I and 2 of Gottman which involved 5 full days.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in Rohnert Park, CA
 

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

I am trained in Gottman Method Level 1.

— Molly Roth, Counselor in Cedar Park, TX

I am Gottman Method certified at Level 1 and Level 2. Gottman method at it's best identifies the existence of the 4 horseman (criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling) and assists each partner in understanding their antidote. In addition, focus is on reflective listening and other communication skills that allow repair when there is a breech of trust.

— Vickie Wagner, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA
 

The Gottman Method is a highly effective model that defines specific areas a couple needs to develop. This model provides me with the tools needed to enhance the understanding and connection partners seek. I have witness the Gottman Method's success in couples' as they gain understanding of each other's internal worlds, the strengthening of mutual empathy, & their positive perspective towards each other. Organically strengthening their trust & stability.

— Christianne Porta, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tampa, FL
 

I've got through Level One and Level Two of the Gottman training. I also use the Gottman Couples Assessment Tool as part of my couple work. I love the assessment as it gives such a clear picture of not just the trouble areas, but also areas of strength for the couple. Based on this assessment I use specific activities geared towards addressing the areas of concern for the couple. It gives out work focus and direction, which my clients find comfort in.

— Molly Lizzio, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Syracuse, NY

The Gottman Method is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that assists couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth. Therapeutic interventions and couples exercises help identify and disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, while removing barriers that create a feeling of being stuck and hopelessness.

— Eric Henley, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Mesa, AZ

I have been trained and certified in both Level 1 and Level 2 of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. This is my primary modality for couples counseling (of all types) and the couples theory utilized the most. I also like to incorporate a combination of Gottman and EFT depending on the client.

— Hiliary Beatty, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Spokane, WA
 

The Gottman Method has an excellent process for evaluating couples problem areas. Between couples sessions and a at home questionnaire, I will have a very clear understanding of where you and your partner are specifically strugging. Let me help you learn how to communicate better.

— Nina Kelly, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Cruz, CA

The goals of the Gottman Method include increasing closeness and friendship behaviors, addressing conflict productively, and building a life of shared meaning together. Couples who function effectively treat each other with consideration, and are supportive of each other. The Gottman Method is dedicated to combining wisdom from research and practice to support and strengthen marriages, families, and relationships.

— Amie Celender, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ
 

My approach to couples & relationship therapy is based on the research and work of Drs. Julie & John Gottman.

— Reed Balentine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North Little Rock, AR
 

I have completed Level 1 and Level 2 of the Gottman Method for marriage therapy. I only use this orientation and interventions in my private practice working with couples. I am scheduled to attend the last level, Level 3, this upcoming July.

— Lauren Puleo, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Boca Raton, FL

Completed Levels I and II of Gottman Method Couples Counseling, specializing in enhancing connection and communication to achieve greater fulfillment in relationships and marriage. Level III is the practicum level, which I will be completing in 2019.

— Kimberly Fann, Mental Health Counselor in Oviedo, FL
 

Working with relationship is one of my favorite things to do. Often couples need support and I love offering that support! I have completed levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman training., as well as a 40 hour meditation training with Center for Conflict Resolution.

— kaseja wilder, Counselor in Eugene, OR

I have completed the Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy Training. I have worked with couples that are: opposite sex, same-sex, dating, cohabitating, engaged, married, separating, divorcing, and co-parenting. I have worked with couples from young to old and from all different cultural, familial, and religious backgrounds.

— Jillian Bashi, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Troy, MI
 

I have experience and training utilizing the Gottman Method in therapy. This therapy focuses on developing understanding and skills so that partners can maintain fondness and admiration, turn toward each other to get their needs met (especially when they are hurting), manage conflict, and enact their dreams—and what to do when they mess up.

— Paige Bond, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Longwood, FL

When working with couples I primarily use the Gottman Method. Gottman Method focuses on helping couples increase respect and create an environment of appreciation for each other. As a result of this, couples tend to see an increase in intimacy and report that they are better able to navigate through conflict and are better able to process the aftermath of a conflict. Through the Gottman method couples gain education on relationships and learn skills to help them communicate and stay connected when experiencing stress or when they are in conflict. The Gottman method has a lot of data to support its efficacy which is one of the reasons I am such a fan of this approach.

— Gwendolyn Nelson-Terry, Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA