Gottman Method

The Gottman Method is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the relationship and integrates the research-based intervention, the Sound Relationship House Theory, into treatment. The method (and Sound Relationship House Theory) is based on the research findings of John Gottman’s in depth studies of married couples. The Gottman Method emphasizes the importance of building a strong “friendship system,” believing that investing energy in building a positive connection and knowledge of each other’s inner worlds will make your relationship more fulfilling, and will also make it more resilient to weathering storms. The Sound Relationship House Theory, a fundamental part of the Gottman Method, describes the essential building blocks of marital intimacy for building a lasting and healthy relationship (it includes things like managing conflict and creating shared meaning). Some common issues that the Gottman Method addresses include frequent conflicts or fighting, poor communication, sexual difficulties, infidelity and financial problems, among others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s Gottman Method experts today.

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I am Level II trained in using the Gottman method, and I have much experience working inclusively with all couples/relationship structures. My particular expertise is working with those in romantic relationships where one or more individuals are experiencing trauma symptoms which are getting in the way of safe and healthy connection.

— Rae Cuffe, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Miami, FL

Gottman Method therapy is a type of couples counseling based on over 40 years of research (that is still ongoing) into what creates happy, stable relationships. What ARE those people who are loving their relationships doing anyway? This type of couples therapy is based off the answers to that question and is very skills based. I will use it to help you reconnect with each other, have the conversations you haven't been able to have (or at least not well), and look forward to your future together.

— PK Ponti-Foss, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

I am a Gottman Level 1 certified counselor. Although I employ other modalities for couples counseling, I find the Gottman techniques to be most effective in helping clients improve their communication with each other.

— Christine Kotlarski, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in ,

This approach is based on Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of research investigating and defining behaviors and communication skills found in healthy, long-lasting relationships. I work with couples to identify these communication patterns that are blocking them from forming a deeper connection and instead work to learn new ways of interacting that are statistically proven to improve relationships and promote healing and connection.

— Elizabeth Bryant, Licensed Professional Counselor in Atlanta, GA
 

Gottman Method Couples Therapy Clinical Training, Levels one and two

— Happy Camper Counseling; Joanne Lagattolla, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Evanston, IL
 

I am Level I trained in the Gottman Method, and I also help run a couples workshop The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work.

— Leah Webster, Licensed Professional Counselor in Wilmington, NC

Gottman Method is an approach to couples therapy that includes a thorough assessment of the couple’s relationship, and integrates research-based interventions based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

— Robin Schelling, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Sugarland, TX
 

Gottman is a specified approach to work with couples that is research-based and relatively short-term. It involves a comprehensive relationship analysis that usually involves 3 sessions and then a specific treatment plan which involves helping to reinforce the strengths a couple has and addressing their challenge areas, especially in the area of communication. Therapy sessions are a lab where clients work on their issues with each other and learn how to do things differently. I teach specific skills and there often is homework. I have found that couples that follow through practicing what they have learned at home often make significant progress.

— Karin Wandrei, Clinical Social Worker in , CA

I have completed the first two levels of training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy in addition to studying several of Gottman’s books. Gottman Method centers communication, conflict resolution, empathy, and intimacy in relationships. I utilize Gottman Method in conjunction with a social justice oriented approach to provide support for everyone.

— Ajay Dheer, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in Beaverton, OR
 

I am being trained in the Gottman Method to assist couples in developing friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. I help couples transform negative ways they communicate with positive interactions to help heal past resentments. The Gottman Method includes, "interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed."

— Caitlin Miller, Counselor in Chicago, IL

Practical strategies for communication and conflict resolution.

— Jackie Lee, Therapist in Grapevine, TX
 

The Gottman Method is a widely recognized and researched approach to couples therapy developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman, who are renowned clinical psychologists and researchers in the field of relationships. The method is based on their extensive research and observations of couples over several decades, which has led to the identification of key factors that contribute to successful, long-lasting relationships.

— Cyndi Peters, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Libertyville, IL

I have completed the Gottman Method of Relationship Therapy levels 1 and 2 trainings.

— Alana D’Ambrosio, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Denver, CO
 

I use the Gottman method for couple’s therapy because it relies on scientifically validated tools and methods rather than general beliefs about what “should” work or how relationships “should” be. What this means for you is that you will receive a couple’s therapy approach grounded in a scientifically validated strategy that is tailored to the specific needs of your relationship. As a specialist in sexuality, I integrate sex therapy methods into the couples work that is informed by science.

— Ben Snyder, Clinical Social Worker in Minneapolis, MN

I will teach you and your partner skills and tools based in science so you can feel confidant in conflict and clear your communication.

— Linnea Logas, Therapist in Minneapolis, MN
 

Maybe you've tried couples counseling in the past, and it didn't really help. Or perhaps you're on the fence about starting therapy, but you're not sure if therapy really "works." If so, the Gottman Method approach to couples therapy might be a good fit for you. The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach, deeply rooted in research, that teaches couples to replace hurtful communication patterns with positive interactions, repair past hurts, and increase closeness and intimacy.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I have received two levels of Gottman Method training. I apply the interventions from this approach on a regular basis in meeting with couples.

— Karen Maloney, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

I am being trained in the Gottman Method to assist couples in developing friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. I help couples transform negative ways they communicate with positive interactions to help heal past resentments. The Gottman Method includes, "interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals."

— Caitlin Miller, Counselor in Chicago, IL

The Gottman Method is backed by 45+ years of research in assessing and treating couples. It is used to help couples strengthen their relationships by repairing past hurts and replacing negative conflict patterns with positive ones. I've helped many couples and individuals use these methods to salvage failing relationships and create new successful relationships. Find out more at https://www.gottman.com/

— Adam Kaluzshner, Clinical Psychologist in Philadelphia, PA