Don’t you wish your kids came with a “how to” manual for parenting? From infants, to toddlers, to adolescence, all aspects of life come with evolving challenges. As you experience your children learning new lessons in life, does it seem as if they are in a place where they either do not need you or nothing you can say is right? I'm sure you have a lot of frustration centered around wanting to be a good father, but just cannot seem to avoid exploding in anger or even isolating yourself from the family. Maybe it feels like your partner doesn't support your fathering or parenting style, often resulting in explosive arguments. Have you ever felt forced by your father or society to be a “real man?” Maybe you had an abusive father or no father at all. Maybe you grew up thinking that you’re going to be a better dad than yours was to you, but now find yourself struggling and making some of the same mistakes. How do men do it? Do men act out in rage? Does anger control the situation? Can anger and rage surface as signs of depression? Maybe what we do as men is we chose to isolate from everyone else through substance use or even through video games or television. Often, what goes unrecognized to us as men are societal constraints, often used as expectations, that stop us from actually being the father we want to be.
— Jeremy Allen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Boulder, CO