Parenting

Parenting children can be a rewarding part of life. As most parents know, it can also be extremely challenging. And, with so much (often contradictory) information out there about how to parent “right”, it can be difficult to feel confident in your choices.  This can be compounded when you and your partner disagree on parenting decisions or when you are facing additional hurdles like financial difficulties, divorce, mental illness, death or a child with special medical or developmental needs. If you are experiencing excessive feelings of guilt or stress as it relates to parenting, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today.

Meet the specialists

I love to support working mothers on the journey of raising healthy, happy, and successful kids. I believe that the best way to do this is to first focus on the wellbeing on the mother herself. Too often mothers become mired in the myth that they need to be "supermoms" who are not only perfect, but completely selfless and continuously available to take care of their children and partners, all the while denying or submerging their own needs, interests and desires. This creates significant pressure and stress, fosters a sense of shame and failure, feeds resentment, and leads us to abandon real connection in favor of presenting a perfect image. All of this makes it harder for moms to, not only parent effectively, but to provide the kind of example we would want to have our children follow as they become parents in the future.

— Raquel Muller, Psychologist in Tigard, OR
 

Do you feel at a loss with your family? If you knew what to do, you aren't sure you would have the time or energy to do it. I can help you confidently create a caring and resilient family. Your family can be happier and healthier, including you! I have knowledge in a variety of different parenting theories and strategies and am a parent myself. You are the expert on your family while I have expertise in parenting. I'll work with you to identify what works for you and your family.

— Megan Carney, Psychologist in Meridian, ID

Do you feel at a loss with your family? If you knew what to do, you aren't sure you would have the time or energy to do it. I can help you confidently create a caring and resilient family. Your family can be happier and healthier, including you!

— Megan Carney, Psychologist in Meridian, ID
 

If you are frustrated in your interactions, take the next step toward growth by learning skills to enhance your relationship with your child. Outcomes include more effective limit setting and a deeper understanding of how you can meet your child’s emotional needs.

— Jennifer Cobb, Associate Professional Counselor in Charlotte, NC

I, myself, am a father and can relate to your parenting struggles in many ways. I can teach many parenting skills that actually effective. I am also specialized in children and adolescents; therefore, if I can provide therapy for your child while I provide parenting skills to you, a chance for you to obtain satisfactory outcome is much higher. Parenting can remind you of your own parents sometimes in a good way and other times not so in a good way; this makes you remember what kind of parents you wanted to be and didn't want to be. Yet, you sometimes notice you are making the same mistake your parents made. Well, bravo for your awareness. That is the first stage. The second stage is to change your behavior, which can be achieved through therapy. Parenting can be very lonely too; and sometimes you need someone to talk to with the feeling of safety that it is confidential. Parenting can create a lot of self-blame although you know you shouldn't. I am here for you and your children.

— Tatsuya Arakawa, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Torrance, CA
 

I work with many parents on building attachment, creating positive routines at home, and identifying patterns that they may have picked up from the way they were parented. I help parents identify triggers or areas where they are stuck or highly emotionally reactive, and we practice ways to take care of yourself as a parent as well as implement positive behavior strategies to address children's behavior at home.

— Kaleigh Boysen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

Do you feel at a loss with your family? If you knew what to do, you aren't sure you would have the time or energy to do it. I can help you confidently create a caring and resilient family. Your family can be happier and healthier, including you!

— Megan Carney, Psychologist in Meridian, ID
 

Parents are the key. I appreciate how hard it is to be a parent these days. I have been teaching parenting classes and helping stressed-out parents move beyond their frustrations and into confident parenting for years. Helping parents move from enforcers to supporters is at the core of my work with parents. I help parents see the value in understanding the "why" behind their child's misbehavior and develop parenting strategies that nurture self-esteem, trust, and connection. Through the process, I support parents to understand their experience with their own parents and how it might be interfering with parenting their own children. I want parents to love being parents as much as they love their child.

— S. Abigail McCarrel, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Arcadia, CA

Parenting can be one of the hardest jobs there is! I love working with parents who are interested in learning more about themselves in order to best support their children and families. Parenting can bring up many different emotions, some tied to our own childhoods and experiences. It is important to seek out support and a safe place to process these emotions. We will work together to find solutions that work in your home and with your history.

— Clara Rivers, Clinical Social Worker in Roseville, MN
 

Parenting can be difficult and often our children are different from us or from what we expected. The culture in our area often focuses excessively on academic performance and college admissions and we have video games and social media to address. I have worked with many parents to identify the uniqueness in their children and then find ways to build resilience as the children move towards independence. I have personal parenting experience with four very different children and have been a member of the MVLA Parent Education Speaker Series committee for many years.

— Nannette Thomas, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Altos, CA

Do you feel yourself getting riled up when your child misbehaves or doesn't listen? Do you and your spouse disagree on how to raise your child? Are you worried about repeating the mistakes of your own parents? Maybe you feel disconnected from your spouse or child and are tired of having the same arguments every week. There's no manual that tells you how to be a parent, yet so many parents feel shamed or like they're doing something wrong. I hold a non-judgmental space for both teens and parents to explore concerns and build skills to reconnect. Together we'll find ways to bring more positive energy and playfulness into your relationships so your family can connect, heal, and grow.

— Ashleigh Edelstein, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

Parenting a child with sensory, developmental, or emotional challenges requires a very different form of discipline, structure, and nurture that many outside of those challenges have trouble understanding. I will work to coach you to find more effective strategies to parent your child in light of their challenges.

— Sherry Fleydervish, Counselor in Chicago, IL
 

PARENT COACHING: as a mom, certified parent educator and trained postpartum doula, I will help you with your parenting issues.

— Pascale Brady, Counselor in Gaithersburg, MD

I have been teaching parenting classes for over 20 years. I regularly speak to school PTAs/PTOs, church MOPs and mothers groups on a wide variety of parenting topics. I hosted a parenting podcast for 2 years (Passport to Parenting). I help parents and divorced co-parents support their children to live exceptional lives.

— Ann DeWitt, Counselor in Lake Oswego, OR
 

I am a certified Hand in Hand Parenting Trainer and teach Parenting by Connection in both a class setting and in working with parents individually. http://www.sfbayplaytherapy.com/parenting-support.html

— Karen Wolfe, Marriage & Family Therapist in San francisco, CA

Supporting parents at various stages of their journey is something I genuinely enjoy. While I'm not a family/child counselor, I do apply my knowledge of developmental psychology to parenting challenges both in the service of supporting kids and to support my clients' own psychological wellbeing so they can realize their personal values around parenthood. Parenting is fraught with judgment in our culture, and I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to talk about the very unglamorous side of this phase of life.

— Katie Playfair, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

When working with parents I draw from attachment theory and guide parents to create a nurturing, safe, warm environment for themselves and their children. I work with parents around issues that arise during pregnancy, postpartum and challenges of welcoming a new baby. When working with parents who are faced with issues in regards to their child's developmental stage or behavioral issues I draw from the positive discipline method.

— Duygu Balan, Licensed Professional Counselor in Berkeley, CA

Along with my work with children and adolescents, I work closely with parents helping them through the tribulations of raising their family. When children or adolescents don't want to come into treatment, I can work with the parent as a coach to help them support their children.

— Natalia El-Sheikh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Castro Valley, CA
 

I have worked as a parent educator, a teacher, and a co-parenting counselor, with extensive training in all three. I am a parent myself. I love working with parents.

— Nancy Chirinos, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Sometimes, as parents, we feel stuck, frustrated, and at a loss. I provide a non-judgmental space and fresh, professional perspective to help you determine which approaches and strategies will work for your family. I also help new mothers and couples adjust to life with baby (or babies), work through postpartum depression and anxiety, and find balance. I've worked with children and parents in a variety of settings over the past 10+ years and have a passion for helping parents create more peace in their homes.

— Allison O'Brien, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Atlanta, GA
 

Parenting is hard work and I will be the first to admit that I struggle with it myself, this is why I'm passionate about working with families, parents, children, and teens when it comes to parenting issues. There is no such thing as a perfect parent we are constantly learning what works and what doesn't for each of our families. There is not a "one size fits all" approach to parenting. I am here to support you in all areas of parenting whether that is as a struggling teen trying to get your parents to understand you, or as a child who doesn't know how to "talk" to their parents, or as a adult who feels like you are failing at this parenting thing. Together we will conquer parenting fears, struggles, and build strong parenting skills.

— Erica London, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA

Do you feel at a loss with your family? If you knew what to do, you aren't sure you would have the time or energy to do it. I can help you confidently create a caring and resilient family. Your family can be happier and healthier, including you! I have knowledge in a variety of different parenting theories and strategies and am a parent myself. You are the expert on your family while I have expertise in parenting. I'll work with you to identify what works for you and your family.

— Megan Carney, Psychologist in Meridian, ID

I intentionally studied to be a parent for decades before finally giving it a try -- and I learned that there's nothing like the real thing to truly prepare you. In addition to my own parenting experience, my undergraduate degree in Human Development & Family Studies enabled me to help other parents find ways to meet both their own needs and those of their children. My work has ranged from teaching Parent Education classes to helping children and parents in the realm of foster care and adoption, providing guidance and support for parents struggling on a financial edge or in the shadows of poverty, illness, and addiction. I've served the emotional wellness needs of people who struggled to become parents, parents grieving lost children, and parents letting go of young adult children. It is a crazy loving business, parenting -- and my respect for those engaged in it is profound.

— Tracy Morris, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Spring, TX
 

Don’t you wish your kids came with a “how to” manual for parenting? From infants, to toddlers, to adolescence, all aspects of life come with evolving challenges. As you experience your children learning new lessons in life, does it seem as if they are in a place where they either do not need you or nothing you can say is right? I'm sure you have a lot of frustration centered around wanting to be a good father, but just cannot seem to avoid exploding in anger or even isolating yourself from the family. Maybe it feels like your partner doesn't support your fathering or parenting style, often resulting in explosive arguments. Have you ever felt forced by your father or society to be a “real man?” Maybe you had an abusive father or no father at all. Maybe you grew up thinking that you’re going to be a better dad than yours was to you, but now find yourself struggling and making some of the same mistakes. How do men do it? Do men act out in rage? Does anger control the situation? Can anger and rage surface as signs of depression? Maybe what we do as men is we chose to isolate from everyone else through substance use or even through video games or television. Often, what goes unrecognized to us as men are societal constraints, often used as expectations, that stop us from actually being the father we want to be.

— Jeremy Allen, Licensed Professional Counselor in Boulder, CO