Discernment Counseling

Deciding whether or not to stay in a marriage or get divorced can be one of the most difficult and agonizing decisions you face in life. For many couples, this state of limbo (should I stay or should I go) can last months or even years. Discernment counseling is an assessment process that was created to help partners decide between three outcomes: to work on improving the relationship (often with couples counseling), to maintain the current relationship as is, or to get divorced. Unlike traditional couples counseling, which is typically open-ended and can last for years, discernment counseling is generally brief and typically completed in 3-5 sessions. Think this approach could work for you and your partner(s)? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s discernment counseling experts today. 

Meet the specialists

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

You know that something has to change. But you might not necessarily want that to mean that someone has to change. Together, we can figure out the right next steps for you. People come to me hurting, just about ready to give up hope. Sometimes they walk away with a breakthrough. Other times, they walk away with a break-up, because that’s life. Relationships are difficult. Let’s slow down and look at your options.

— Rebecca Wong, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Paltz, NY

People come to me hurting, just about ready to give up hope. They tell me that they’ve been to two, three, four other therapists, tried everything, and that this is their last stop. Sometimes they walk away with a breakthrough. Other times, they walk away with a break-up, because that’s life. You like to think you can avoid the mess of disconnection in relationships. But you can’t. The simple truth is relationships are difficult. Let’s slow down and look at your options.

— Rebecca Wong, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Paltz, NY
 

Discernment Counseling is for couples considering ending their relationship. It is a highly structured process that gives them clarity how their relationship got to where it's at now and points out exactly what would need to change in order to feel happier in the relationship. It asks both partners to take accountability. What I love about Discernment Counseling is how effective just one session can be!

— Corrin Voeller, Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Louis Park, MN

Discernment counseling is a new, very brief, targeted type of therapy for couples who are considering splitting up. Our goal is to find clarity and confidence about how to proceed. We don't try to solve your problems as a couple in discernment counseling. We determine whether your problems are solvable. One possible outcome is choosing to enter couples therapy together, but we don't assume that is the right path for you. I have extensive training in discernment counseling.

— Gretta Duleba, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

I was born with the spirit of discernment. I have always been this way and I have never left God’s side or shall I say, God has never left my side. My discernment guides not only my life, but also how I work with clients. I have had many clients feel as if I was reading their mind or as if I really understand them. Discernment leaves no room for error, whereas, education, biases and projections do. Discernment counseling is spiritual in nature and allows God to speak through counselor/coach

— Chiaku Hanson, Counselor in Los Angeles, CA