Discernment Counseling

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

I'm a certified Discernment Counselor who helps couples unsure about their relationship's future. Through our sessions, we'll explore the issues that have brought you to this point, and I'll help you to understand the dynamics of your relationship and to make an informed decision about the best path forward. I aim to help you and your partner find clarity, peace of mind, and the confidence to make the right decision for both of you.

If you or your partner are considering divorce, good communication is imperative at this point - whether you stay together or end your relationship. The actions you take now will impact each other and your loved ones for years to come. How can you act in a way that you are proud of - despite the intense emotional pain? Discernment counseling helps couples to navigate decision-making about their relationship - so you can navigate your next chapter in the healthiest way possible.

I am a certified Discernment Counselor. Discernment Counseling is a brief model of 1-5 sessions that seeks to help very ambivalent couples gain clarity and confidence in a direction for their relationship/marriage.

I have specialized training in Discernment Counseling and have worked with couples on the brink of divorce or breaking (i.e., discerning what to do) throughout my entire career.

Discernment counseling is a short-term model designed to assist couples on the brink. The goal of this intervention is to develope clarity about the marriage, secure confidence in moving forward, and understanding of the role each partner has contributed to the struggle. These goals are obtained by focusing on three specific pathways: path 1. Remaining in the marriage without change, path 2. Separation or divorce, path 3. Commitment to a course of 6 months of couples therapy.

Trained and working towards certification with Dr. Bill Dougherty in helping couples decide to work on their relationship.

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

Discernment Counseling is for couples on the brink. It is a chance to make space to look at your options for your marriage, without working on the relationship. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. I will work with each of you to help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later.

I understand that divorce is an emotionally charged situation. I aim to help partners gain clarity and confidence in making this huge decision. My practice is dedicated to helping couples navigate divorce proceedings fairly and equitably. My services include pre-divorce counseling when the partners have a mixed agenda; in other words, one partner is leaning into the relationship, and one is leaning out.

The purpose of Discernment Counseling is to help couples arrive at a greater clarity and confidence in their decision making about the future of their relationship based on a deeper understanding of the problems in the relationship and each person’s contributions to them.

Discernment counseling is for couples on the brink of divorce. Discernment counseling avoids starting half-hearted couples therapy with these mixed-agenda couples. It accepts ambivalence rather than trying to work around it or overcome it.

Are you or your partner unsure if you want to continue your marriage? Are you willing to have open conversations with your partner. With discernment counseling you and your partner can decide together your next relationship steps

Discernment Counseling was developed for couples who are on the fence about staying in their marriage. In these cases, typically one person wants to stay married and work on salvaging the relationship, while the other partner feels like divorce or separation is the only option. This intensive, short-term process helps both partners gain clarity around the immensely painful and difficult decision around taking steps to preserve the relationship or taking steps toward ending the marriage.

As a therapist who practices discernment counseling, my focus is on helping couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship gain clarity and make informed decisions. Rather than assuming that the goal of therapy is to save the relationship, I acknowledge that not all relationships are meant to be saved. Instead, I work with clients to explore the underlying reasons for their uncertainty and the factors that may be contributing to the challenges they are facing.

Discernment Counseling does not help you to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. It provides a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at options.. The aim is to help couples gain clarity and confidence about a direction to either try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take time and decide later.