Discernment Counseling

Deciding whether or not to stay in a marriage or get divorced can be one of the most difficult and agonizing decisions you face in life. For many couples, this state of limbo (should I stay or should I go) can last months or even years. Discernment counseling is an assessment process that was created to help partners decide between three outcomes: to work on improving the relationship (often with couples counseling), to maintain the current relationship as is, or to get divorced. Unlike traditional couples counseling, which is typically open-ended and can last for years, discernment counseling is generally brief and typically completed in 3-5 sessions. Think this approach could work for you and your partner(s)? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s discernment counseling experts today. 

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If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

Discernment counseling is therapeutic procedure for mixed agenda or ambivalent couples, where one or more is confused on where to take the relationship. This is a different kind of counseling not directed towards making the couple stay together.Discernment counseling helps couples on the verge of divorce to reach an agreed upon, thought out decision

— Roma Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Houston, TX

Trained and working towards certification with Dr. Bill Dougherty in helping couples decide to work on their relationship.

— Traci Ruble, Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA
 

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

I am a certified Discernment Counselor. Discernment Counseling is a brief model of 1-5 sessions that seeks to help very ambivalent couples gain clarity and confidence in a direction for their relationship/marriage.

— Mary Fisher, Therapist in Salt Lake City, UT
 

Discernment Counseling does not help you to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. It provides a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at options.. The aim is to help couples gain clarity and confidence about a direction to either try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take time and decide later.

— David Low, Marriage & Family Therapist in Fox Point, WI

This is a specific therapy for couples who are contemplating separation or divorce. You may be unsure about whether you want to stay in their marriage or whether traditional couples therapy can work for you. Each partner may be experiencing different feelings about what to do, and this supports both parties as they work through their feelings (together and individually). Some goals include getting clearer, managing emotions, and learning about yourself and relationships.

— Laura Evans, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

I was born with the spirit of discernment. I have always been this way and I have never left God’s side or shall I say, God has never left my side. My discernment guides not only my life, but also how I work with clients. I have had many clients feel as if I was reading their mind or as if I really understand them. Discernment leaves no room for error, whereas, education, biases and projections do. Discernment counseling is spiritual in nature and allows God to speak through counselor/coach

— Chiaku Hanson, Counselor in Los Angeles, CA

If you or your partner are considering divorce, good communication is imperative at this point - whether you stay together or end your relationship. The actions you take now will impact each other and your loved ones for years to come. How can you act in a way that you are proud of - despite the intense emotional pain? Discernment counseling helps couples to navigate decision-making about their relationship - so you can navigate your next chapter in the healthiest way possible.

— Dr. Amy Hsiung, Psychologist in Phoenix, AZ
 

Discernment counseling is for couples on the brink of divorce. Discernment counseling avoids starting half-hearted couples therapy with these mixed-agenda couples. It accepts ambivalence rather than trying to work around it or overcome it.

— Traci Brown, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , TX

This is a specific therapy for couples who are contemplating separation or divorce. You may be unsure about whether you want to stay in their marriage or whether traditional couples therapy can work for you. Each partner may be experiencing different feelings about what to do, and this supports both parties as they work through their feelings (together and individually). Some goals include getting clearer, managing emotions, learning about yourself.

— Laura Evans, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX