Discernment Counseling

Deciding whether or not to stay in a marriage or get divorced can be one of the most difficult and agonizing decisions you face in life. For many couples, this state of limbo (should I stay or should I go) can last months or even years. Discernment counseling is an assessment process that was created to help partners decide between three outcomes: to work on improving the relationship (often with couples counseling), to maintain the current relationship as is, or to get divorced. Unlike traditional couples counseling, which is typically open-ended and can last for years, discernment counseling is generally brief and typically completed in 3-5 sessions. Think this approach could work for you and your partner(s)? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s discernment counseling experts today. 

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If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

Discernment counseling is a short-term intervention, with a maximum of 5 sessions.Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the goal is not to start to solve the problems in the relationship. Rather, to give couples more confidence in their decision making. Discernment counseling is not for couples where one of the parties has already decided that they want a divorce. In discernment counseling, the assumption is that both parties are still considering restoring the health of the marriage.

— Jennifer Gay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Dallas, TX

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

Discernment Counseling is for couples thinking about divorce but don't know if they should. It is a highly structured process that gives them clarity on how their relationship got to where it's at now and points out exactly what would need to change in order to feel happier in the relationship. It asks both partners to take accountability. What I love about Discernment Counseling is how effective just one session can be!

— Corrin Voeller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Louis Park, MN

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

People come to me hurting, just about ready to give up hope. They tell me that they’ve been to two, three, four other therapists, tried everything, and that this is their last stop. Sometimes they walk away with a breakthrough. Other times, they walk away with a break-up, because that’s life. You like to think you can avoid the mess of disconnection in relationships. But you can’t. The simple truth is relationships are difficult. Let’s slow down and look at your options.

— Rebecca Wong, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Paltz, NY
 

Discernment counseling is a new, very brief, targeted type of therapy for couples who are considering splitting up. Our goal is to find clarity and confidence about how to proceed. We don't try to solve your problems as a couple in discernment counseling. We determine whether your problems are solvable. One possible outcome is choosing to enter couples therapy together, but we don't assume that is the right path for you. I have extensive training in discernment counseling.

— Gretta Duleba, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

You know that something has to change. But you might not necessarily want that to mean that someone has to change. Together, we can figure out the right next steps for you. People come to me hurting, just about ready to give up hope. Sometimes they walk away with a breakthrough. Other times, they walk away with a break-up, because that’s life. Relationships are difficult. Let’s slow down and look at your options.

— Rebecca Wong, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New Paltz, NY
 

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO
 

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

— Mark Cagle, Counselor in Dallas, TX
 

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

This is a specific therapy for couples who are contemplating separation or divorce. You may be unsure about whether you want to stay in their marriage or whether traditional couples therapy can work for you. Each partner may be experiencing different feelings about what to do, and this supports both parties as they work through their feelings (together and individually). Some goals include getting clearer, managing emotions, and learning about yourself and relationships.

— Laura Evans, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

Discernment counseling is a short-term intervention, with a maximum of 5 sessions.Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the goal is not to start to solve the problems in the relationship. Rather, to give couples more confidence in their decision making. Discernment counseling is not for couples where one of the parties has already decided that they want a divorce. In discernment counseling, the assumption is that both parties are still considering restoring the health of the marriage.

— Jennifer Gay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Dallas, TX