Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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Difficulty or preoccupation with relationships may indicate that your attachment style is less than optimal. Examining the patterns of your feelings about the people in your life can offer powerful insights and suggest tactics and strategies to gain more satisfaction and warmth from your social environment. The poet Robert Burns said, "O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us!" English: Oh would some power the gift give us, To see ourselves as other see us!

— Tony Filanowski, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

Attachment is the basis for our closest relationships. It is how we interact with our parents, our children, our closest friends & our significant others. Research shows that children learn their "attachment style" or how they relate to others in relationship, in the first few years of life (although this can be altered later on). I use research on attachment to help adults heal from developmental trauma, to help parents bond with children and to help couples experience fulfilling relationships.

— Liz Adcock, Counselor in Atlanta, GA
 

It is my belief that attachment style formulates from childhood and can be influenced and repaired well into our senior years. Creating a consistent trusting safe haven space for a client to experience a new way of being in relationship is critical. Additionally, I have participated in specific Somatic training to work with the younger physiology underneath a client's attachment style first versus from the cognitive brain. This has the potential to create longer lasting results.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

I am trained in AEDP, which is a modality informed by attachment theory and brain science that harnesses the power of the therapeutic relationship to undo aloneness and create lasting transformation for clients.

— Carolyn Moore, Counselor in San Francisco, CA

I work with clients who are healing from childhood trauma, which primarily results in disordered attachment to themselves, others, and even things or places. I specialize in helping clients find ways to help soothe and heal themselves. I help clients come to understand what healthy connections look like, then learn new skills to assist in healthy attachment and healthy detachment.

— Laurie Cape, Licensed Professional Counselor in Bowling Green, KY
 

Specializing in Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT).

— Erica Petree, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

If you ever had the feeling you were not good enough for your family, I can help you address the negative feelings that are occurring within you.

— Mary Nashed, Counselor in Chapel Hill, NC
 

Our attachment systems are biological and created before birth. They develop in conjunction with our nervous systems, telling us how to navigate relationships safely and securely. When we experience early childhood trauma, neglect, abuse, and volatility our attachment systems develop in a maladaptive way. This directly impacts how you navigate relationships and connections. I have done in-depth attachment training to help people create healthy relationships. This is one of my true passions.

— Patrick Casale, Counselor in asheville, NC

I recognize that we all enter into relationships with the best of intentions and sometimes find ourselves disillusioned by the amount of conflict we may experience. We can become so fearful that we find ways to sabotage these relationships and distance ourselves from the very thing we crave – human connection. I can help you explore the "why" behind your struggle, thus cultivating a pathway towards healing.

— Loree Johnson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Hermosa Beach, CA
 

Our earliest attachment relationships (generally family) become templates for how we organize our later relationships, both with others and ourselves. When they no longer serve us and we feel stuck relationally, how to create new templates? By having a new relationship experience. My desire during our time together is to offer you that new, healthier experience of relationship you can internalize ... one that you can ultimately integrate and take out into your life outside the therapy room.

— Serenity Wehrenberg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Petaluma, CA

If you ever had the feeling you were not good enough for your family, I can help you address the negative feelings that are occurring within you. Overcoming the feelings of rejection you experienced as a child can be a hurtful journey but I will guide every step of the way until you no longer feel rejected.

— Mary Nashed, Counselor in Chapel Hill, NC
 

Relationships define us, in many ways. I use the therapeutic relationship to model healthy attachment dynamics. I use interpersonal neurobiology and a trauma informed lens to support your healing from attachment wounds and disruptions, and with other additional tools, to support your parenting from from your values. I have particular experience in supporting parents in recovery to rebuild family relationships.

— Leah Gregory, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

A secure emotional bond with a trusted other is an insurance policy against life's ups and downs -- it doesn't make the challenges of life disappear, but it can help you feel supported, cared about, and buoyed to handle life's vicissitudes. In attachment-based therapy, the relationship between client and therapist is an object of focus, exploration, curiosity, and interest. As this emotional bond becomes stronger, clients find they have more confidence, courage, and resilience. They themselves then become a more secure attachment figure for others, bringing more satisfaction to their relationships, both inner and outer.

— Jennifer Wohl, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Attachment is at the heart of all relationships. Basic attachment styles come from our early experiences with our primary caregivers. For many varied reasons, some people have secure attachment while others have insecure attachment. This inevitably affects relationship dynamics, which can sometimes be useful to explore in couples therapy.

— Esther Lerman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Experiencing unreliable caregiving as a young child can set one up for feelings of insecurity and a lack of stability in interpersonal relationships. My training and approach focuses heavily on how my patients' current relationships are replaying old patterns and hurts, keeping them stuck and unsatisfied. Our work sets out to provide them with a healthier model of relating so that they can more compassionately understand themselves and others, and find the connections they've longed for.

— Eileen Brown, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Rafael, CA
 

Who we are as adults including our strengths and struggles are highly influenced by the primary people in our lives growing up: parents, caregivers, siblings and others who may have been significant in some way. Both the presence and absence of these people leave imprints that we carry with us knowingly and unknowingly throughout our lives. Attachment is relevant for all therapy issues because it informs aspects of why individuals think and act the way they do. I incorporate exploration of attachment to help people gain insights, decrease their struggles, and improve their lives.

— Jami Howell, Psychologist in Portland, OR
 

If your someone who is struggling in your current relationships or even with parenting due to an upbringing with less than ideal parents then I can help you feel more confident and comfortable in your role. I provide a safe and nurturing space for you to learn new skills and be the best that you can be.

— Jessica Lang, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Albany, CA
 

Early attachment patterns set essential templates for the future and influence: our ability to connect and feel secure in adult relationships with our partners, children and important others and the manner in which we come to love (or hate) ourselves. These patterns are essential to our future ability to maintain control of our emotions and recover from stressful events. For all of these reasons, I view repairing failures/disruptions/losses in early relationships as essential to my work.

— Dr. LeShelle Woodard, Clinical Psychologist in Hanover, MA

Our family of origin sets us up for our "modes" of attachment where current relationships can still trigger our past feelings of abandonment, rejection, invalidation, etc. along with their correlating sensations in the body. This all makes for a difficult time navigating current relationships, even if they are healthy. I enjoy showing clients where attachment styles may affect them currently in relationship and how we can heal past wounds creating a sense of wholeness they've never had before.

— Kelley Goodwin, Licensed Professional Counselor in Roswell, GA
 

I love looking deeply at human connections and I am drawn to understanding, uncovering and exploring our earliest connections on earth - our attachments to our parents and other loved ones. These early attachment create templates we use in all relationships moving forward and sometimes we need to do some healing on our templates in order for us to love and be loved to the best of our abilities.

— Margie Slater, Clinical Psychologist in Encino, CA

I use the therapeutic relationship to model healthy relationship qualities. I can support your own healing from attachment wounds and disruptions, and also support your ability to parent from your values.

— Leah Gregory, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Relationships are our source of positive connection but also disappointment and pain. The ways you struggle with trust, forgiveness (of yourself and others), loneliness and care-giving are all related to the kind of attachment you seek and provide in your relationships. Templates for relationship are deeply affected by early experiences but are also shaped over your entire life. Shifting old patterns to build and sustain deeper relationships is crucial to feeling satisfied and whole.

— Jennie Merovick, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA
 

Early attachment patterns set essential templates for the future and influence: our ability to connect and feel secure in adult relationships with our partners, children and important others and the manner in which we come to love (or hate) ourselves. These patterns are essential to our future ability to maintain control of our emotions and recover from stressful events. For all of these reasons, I view repairing failures/disruptions/losses in early relationships as essential to my work.

— Dr. LeShelle Woodard, Clinical Psychologist in Hanover, MA

Relationships are our source of positive connection but also disappointment and pain. The ways you struggle with trust, forgiveness (of yourself and others), loneliness and care-giving are all related to the kind of attachment you seek and provide in your relationships. Templates for relationship are deeply affected by early experiences but are also shaped over your entire life. Shifting old patterns to build and sustain deeper relationships is crucial to feeling satisfied and whole.

— Jennie Merovick, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA
 

We all live in relation to others and the world around us, attachment plays a big role in how we interact in the world around us. Our early attachments set up a road map for us about what relationships are, feel like and should be; good, bad, or nutty these road maps impact our current relationships to varying degrees. If your road map has too many pot holes or detours we can find alternate routes that fit your current life and the relationships you want to have.

— Lynda Martin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in New York, NY
 

From the moment of your creation, you are attached; however, so many are wounded by the byproduct of that attachment. We spend much of our time letting painful moments inform our futures, or our families futures, and this steals from our joy in the present moment. We believe healthy relationships are the only pathway to healing, and to take steps toward something different is a risk. We believe the therapeutic relationship can be the first healthy step toward new attachment experiences.

— The Wellness Counseling Center, LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Harrisonville, MO