Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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We all need at least one secure attachment in order to feel safe. Attachment based therapy addresses the ways in which we attach to a significant person in our lives, often time in unhelpful ways. Creating a secure attachment helps us to navigate life in independently and interdependently, allowing us to experience joy without anxiety or fear.

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Puyallup, WA
 

We all need at least one secure attachment in order to feel safe. Attachment based therapy addresses the ways in which we attach to a significant person in our lives. Often times, this attachment can be in unhelpful ways. Creating a secure attachment helps us to navigate life in independently and interdependently, allowing us to experience joy without anxiety or fear.

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Puyallup, WA

Have you ever felt completely crazy in an intimate relationship? What about feeling that intimate relationships aren't that important because you can take care of yourself and others just complicate things? These feelings are often a result of an insecure attachment style. Identifying the ins and outs of secure vs. insecure attachment can provide great clarity and understanding of our behaviors and the great news is, we can heal from insecure attachment wounds by forming secure attachments.

— RANDI WALLER, Licensed Professional Counselor
 

I have completed 2 years of psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. My primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are, or who we believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN

In my work with childhood issues; much of what I've seen throughout treatment leads me back to a rupture of attachment with a primary caregiver. I am passionate about learning more about infant/toddler mental health; serving those who would like to heal broken familial connections.

— Brittney George, Licensed Professional Counselor in , VA
 

I have worked with a lot of parents who have adopted children and this issue comes up frequently. I also work with a lot of parents who feel “stuck” with trying to parent their children (both adopted and biological) who want to deepen their connection to their children while also maintaining boundaries! This is some of my favorite stuff to work on in therapy!

— Sarah Bonilla, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redlands, CA

Attachment issues concern “something that happened” or “something that failed to happen” between child and parent. Children with attachment wounds can become adults who struggle to relate in healthy ways to themselves and to others. They scrabble for safety in relationships and behave in ways that reflect this. In therapy clients with attachment wounds develop more wholesome relationships with parts of them that were ridiculed and belittled or other parts that didn't get their needs met.

— Allison Grimes, Counselor in Cambridge, MA
 

It is my belief that attachment style formulates from childhood and can be influenced and repaired well into our senior years. Creating a consistent trusting safe haven space for a client to experience a new way of being in relationship is critical. Additionally, I have participated in specific Somatic training to work with the younger physiology underneath a client's attachment style first versus from the cognitive brain. This has the potential to create longer lasting results.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

I have completed 2 years psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with at the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. It's primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are or believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN
 

A lot of people experience trauma within their family of origin. I work with developmental (also known as complex) and attachment (ways of learning how to emotionally bond) trauma which includes growing up in alcoholism, abuse, conflict, parent death and/or any traumatic experience endured during childhood. As a result, a lot of people develop a type of insecure attachment that impacts their current relationships (i.e. dependency, fear, conflict, anxiety).

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

Our most early relationships shape us. How our needs are met, or not, leave an imprint on our sense of self on a deep, non-verbal level. Our attachment styles are formed by 5 years of age, and we develop core survival strategies to get our needs met in relationships, at the expense of oneself. Therapy can help you heal your relationship with yourself, and reimagine how you'd like to be in relationship with those most important to you.

— Kim Torrence, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Rockville, MD
 

I've worked for the past 8 years with clients on Attachment issues and how it affects their relationships. I've also done extensive therapy for my own attachment issues and taken several CEUs on attachment work.

— Anne Crawford, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Attachment is the basis of everything in our lives. I have done extensive work with attachment in all areas including parent - child, child-parent, partner-partner etc. By healing attachment issues, many other mental health needs are relieved or lessened.

— Lindsey King, Counselor in Bensalem, PA
 

In my experience with working with individuals that are teens or adults who were raised in an environment where their mother was not nurturing or present results in attachment issues. This can look like avoidant attachment where the child that was dismissed results in an adult that is dismissing of relationships, or the child that had an insecure relationship with his mother grows up into the adult that is anxious, or disorganized attachment the abused or neglected child.

— Melanie Mosbarger, Licensed Professional Counselor in Virginia Beach, VA

Working from an attachment framework means I have a deep understanding of how our early caregiver connections affected our ability to soothe ourselves, to ask for help when we need it and to connect with ourselves and others. These early attachments can show up in our adult life even if we are not yet conscious of it. While many of us were hurt by not receiving the love and nurturance we deserved as little ones, we also heal in loving supportive authentic relationships. These are possible.

— Megan Satterfield, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Austin, TX
 

How you Do One Thing is How you do EVERYTHING. How You relate with Your Therapist provides a glimpse into your relationships with EVERYONE, especially those close -family, friends, intimate partners. Together we become keenly aware of how you Connect AND where you tend to Disconnect -- for very good reasons - with people who you want to know on a Deeper level, but are afraid of being rejected or abandoned by them. This work will put you in the driver's seat in your relationship lane!

— Randi Kofsky, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA

I have additional training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which utilizes and attachment perspective to help heal the bonds between you and your partner(s).

— Sarah Newcomer, Marriage & Family Therapist in Columbus, OH
 

In my work with childhood issues; much of what I've seen throughout treatment leads me back to a rupture of attachment with a primary caregiver. I am passionate about learning more about infant/toddler mental health; serving those who would like to heal broken familial connections.

— Brittney George, Licensed Professional Counselor in , VA

Ideally, we would all grow up in a delightfully safe and warm environment, with caregivers perfectly attuned to our every need and supporting us every step of the way. Most of us do not experience this perfection, and that is totally ok. Without placing blame on your caregivers, we will identify the attachment experiences that were lacking for you and heal what was lost. Attachment therapy can help deepen your relationships, give you stronger emotional regulation skills, and spark your inner joy

— Laura Stephan, Psychologist in Minneapolis, MN