Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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From birth we begin to write the scripts by which all future relationships are based upon. Those scripts are often badly written and full of mistakes. Fast forward to adulthood and we can't seem to find satisfaction in a relationship, or we keep driving partners away. Fears of abandonment can destroy relationships, and codependency can leave us with nothing left for ourselves. I want to help you take a look back at how you got here so we can figure out how to get where we want to go.

— Andrew Brucker, Associate Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, CA

Completed attachment based training, including EFIT and EFT. I believe that most of the symptoms bringing people to therapy are the result of nervous system dysregulation secondary to childhood attachment traumas. Caregivers' inability to attune to a child, lack of modeling of appropriate emotion management, and child's efforts to adjust to their flawed environments, etc. all lead to long term difficulties with navigating interpersonal relationships and sense of internal turmoil.

— Olga Goodman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in El Cajon, CA
 

Part of what makes us human is relating to others, but doing that doesn't come as "naturally" as it may seem it should. Our survival and overall outlook on life are dependant on the kind and quality of relationships. I use an Emotionally Focused lens and strategies, along with some somatic work with EMDR to help re-process past hurts and work towards healthy dependency.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist

I use inner child work to heal and re-parent.

— Aurora Molitoris, Mental Health Counselor in Overland Park, KS
 

My goal is to empower clients to both understand and communicate their needs within their relationships. I focus on attachment experiences, trauma, & family history & how it is observed through communication styles, relational & security needs, etc.

— MacKenzie Knapp, Marriage & Family Therapist in Tacoma, WA

Much of how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us is through attunement, co-regulation, and safety. When we are not emotionally attuned to in healthy ways, we often learn how to survive by shaving off parts of ourselves that create a false sense of belonging. Wearing masks to deny our authentic selves keeps us from true intimacy and connection. Together we will explore your attachment style and patterns that lead to pain, rejection, and abandonment.

— Ivonne Melgar, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA
 

In my work with childhood issues; much of what I've seen throughout treatment leads me back to a rupture of attachment with a primary caregiver. I am passionate about learning more about infant/toddler mental health; serving those who would like to heal broken familial connections.

— Brittney George, Licensed Professional Counselor in , VA

Our understanding of selfhood emerges from early experiences with important figures, colliding with our singular temperament, or way-of-being-in-the-world. This formative encounter is central to who you are and who you have become. It is also possible to change, to heal, depart from our origins, and liberate ourselves through a process of exploration, fierce compassion, and creativity.

— Jackie Kosak, Art Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

As a somatically-trained therapist, I draw upon my knowledge of the neurobiology of attachment to create spaces where clients can continually arrive at a felt sense of relationship, build neural networks of connection and heal attachment wounds.

— Natalia Oncina, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate

It is my belief that attachment style formulates from childhood and can be influenced and repaired well into our senior years. Creating a consistent trusting safe haven space for a client to experience a new way of being in relationship is critical. Additionally, I have participated in specific Somatic training to work with the younger physiology underneath a client's attachment style first versus from the cognitive brain. This has the potential to create longer lasting results.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

Aversion to touch and physical affection? Control issues? Anger problems? Difficulty showing genuine care and affection? Lack of inhibition? Struggling with a sense of self or conscience? This might be related to attachment. If you related to these descriptors or find yourself to be struggling within relationships, let's talk.

— Jon Soileau, Licensed Professional Counselor in Kansas City, MO

Often times attachment styles affect us without even knowing that it does. We get hurt or betrayed in a relationship or several and, understandable, react. I help you determine your attachment style and heal it.

— Rose Walker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Columbia, MO
 

How we attach to others has to do with who we are attaching to, how we see ourselves and what connection has looked like in the past. We often what to ascribe responsibility to someone for the level of discomfort and hurt that comes as a result of attachment challenges but the work of therapy is to shift from blaming or shaming to a place of care, curiosity and emotional security. Regardless of what causes the attachment wound, each situation is an opportunity for a correct experience.

— Ryan Chambers, Licensed Professional Counselor in Seattle, WA

I completed a post-grad program at Denver Family Institute that resulted in a certificate in Marriage/Couples and Family Therapy. During my 3.5 years at Denver Family Institute, I received instruction on a variety of attachment theories. I have worked with many clients over my 6 years as a therapist, using attachment theories to help them understand themselves and others by thoughtfully examining behaviors and reflecting on both past and present, significant relationships.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO
 

Many times, the way we were treated growing up impacts our relationships with others as an adult. If you grew up in a home where you felt you had to care for others at your own detriment, couldn't speak your mind, or felt invisible, these experiences may have shaped how you see relationships now. Together we can heal those early wounds and work to give you opportunities to advocate for yourself and build healthy relationships going forward.

— Allison Simmons, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in , MA