Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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Part of what makes us human is relating to others, but doing that doesn't come as "naturally" as it may seem it should. Our survival and overall outlook on life are dependant on the kind and quality of relationships. I use an Emotionally Focused lens and strategies, along with some somatic work with EMDR to help re-process past hurts and work towards healthy dependency.

— Anna Gray Baker, Psychotherapist
 

I have completed 2 years psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with at the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. It's primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are or believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN

Attachment issues concern “something that happened” or “something that failed to happen” between child and parent. Children with attachment wounds can become adults who struggle to relate in healthy ways to themselves and to others. They scrabble for safety in relationships and behave in ways that reflect this. In therapy clients with attachment wounds develop more wholesome relationships with parts of them that were ridiculed and belittled or other parts that didn't get their needs met.

— Allison Grimes, Counselor in Cambridge, MA
 

We all need at least one secure attachment in order to feel safe. Attachment based therapy addresses the ways in which we attach to a significant person in our lives, often time in unhelpful ways. Creating a secure attachment helps us to navigate life in independently and interdependently, allowing us to experience joy without anxiety or fear.

— Megan Moeller, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Puyallup, WA

I have worked with a lot of parents who have adopted children and this issue comes up frequently. I also work with a lot of parents who feel “stuck” with trying to parent their children (both adopted and biological) who want to deepen their connection to their children while also maintaining boundaries! This is some of my favorite stuff to work on in therapy!

— Sarah Bonilla, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redlands, CA
 

Our origin story - the way we were raised, or not raised - really shapes how we connect into the world. Attachment styles develop way back in early childhood and give us a truthful glimpse into how we hold relationships as adults. Do you need to be reassured a lot? Do you tend to walk out when things get tense? There are ways to approach attachment styles through CBT and mindfulness that I would love to explore with you.

— Gin Eborn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Washington, VA

I completed a post-grad program at Denver Family Institute that resulted in a certificate in Marriage/Couples and Family Therapy. During my 3.5 years at Denver Family Institute, I received instruction on a variety of attachment theories. I have worked with many clients over my 6 years as a therapist, using attachment theories to help them understand themselves and others by thoughtfully examining behaviors and reflecting on both past and present, significant relationships.

— Ashley Gray, Social Worker in Arvada, CO
 

Working from an attachment framework means I have a deep understanding of how our early caregiver connections affected our ability to soothe ourselves, to ask for help when we need it and to connect with ourselves and others. These early attachments can show up in our adult life even if we are not yet conscious of it. While many of us were hurt by not receiving the love and nurturance we deserved as little ones, we also heal in loving supportive authentic relationships. These are possible.

— Megan Satterfield, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Austin, TX

I have studied attachment styles in young adults extensively throughout my graduate training. I have explored the "why" behind varying attachment style's attraction to specific personality traits. I work with my clients to better understand how their attachment to their childhood caregivers influences the types of relationships they enter as adults and subsequently impacts them. We will work together to understand your style so that you can use it to your advantage when looking for the one.

— Melissa Gluck, Psychologist
 

A lot of people experience trauma within their family of origin. I work with developmental (also known as complex) and attachment (ways of learning how to emotionally bond) trauma which includes growing up in alcoholism, abuse, conflict, parent death and/or any traumatic experience endured during childhood. As a result, a lot of people develop a type of insecure attachment that impacts their current relationships (i.e. dependency, fear, conflict, anxiety).

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

The majority of my caseload had been working with clients who not only present with trauma, but also present with attachment disruptions throughout their lives. There is a correlation between trauma and attachment.

— Vilmary Lopez, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Franklin, MA
 

I've worked for the past 8 years with clients on Attachment issues and how it affects their relationships. I've also done extensive therapy for my own attachment issues and taken several CEUs on attachment work.

— Anne Crawford, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX

Attachment informs the foundation to our relationships in life from our intimate relationships, friendships, familial relationships and ourselves as parents. I love supporting people through developing more secure attachment with themselves and having positive ripples into all of their relationships. From supporting new mothers as our attachment patterns start to show in surprisingly new way, to young women who are wanting to find more joy in their lives, attachment can provide helpful insight.

— Jessica Dyer, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA
 

I provide a safe space for each client to share their thoughts and feelings in a non-judgmental, supportive environment. Along with that, we will take a look at your earlier years and how it has impacted your relationships with family, friends, romantic partners, and other areas in your life.

— Francesca Battaglia, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Walnut Creek, CA

I am a relational & attachment oriented therapist, meaning I frame everything I do in these paradigms. As a somatic oriented attachment therapist we will explore early issues around bonding, how they show up in the body and how they affect your current interpersonal connections. I sues safe somatic touch and movement to get us out of our heads and into the somatic mind, the body and bring safety into the attachment system.

— Erica Berman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA
 

I have completed 2 years of psychoanalytic psychotherapy training with the Minnesota Psychoanalytic Society and Institute. My primary focus is on relationships and how they affect who we are, or who we believe we are in the world, with others and with ourselves. I am passionate about relational work and how "symptoms" crop up as a way to help us adjust to both old and new experiences.

— Patricia Holdahl, Psychotherapist in Edina, MN

Our most early relationships shape us. How our needs are met, or not, leave an imprint on our sense of self on a deep, non-verbal level. Our attachment styles are formed by 5 years of age, and we develop core survival strategies to get our needs met in relationships, at the expense of oneself. Therapy can help you heal your relationship with yourself, and reimagine how you'd like to be in relationship with those most important to you.

— Kim Torrence, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Rockville, MD