Attachment

Attachment issues, or attachment disorders, are broad terms used to describe issues resulting from a failure to form normal attachments to primary caregivers in early childhood. Most children with attachment disorders have had severe problems or difficulties in their early relationships (they may have been neglected or physically or emotionally abused). One specific attachment disorder is Reactive attachment disorder (RAD), a condition typically found in children who have received grossly negligent care and do not form a healthy emotional attachment with their primary caregivers (usually their mothers) before age 5. A mental health professional who specializes in attachment issues can be a great help to both the child and the caregiver affected. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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Do you struggle to make and maintain satisfying relationships? Do you feel like, despite your best efforts, you end up pushing people away? Do you have a difficult time trusting others? Do you wish you were closer to people? These questions all relate to issues of attachment. Each person develops a style of relating to others based on their early attachment relationships with their caregivers. Therapy can help you explore your own style and try on new ways of relating.

— Jennifer Newbloom, Counselor in Seattle, WA

If you ever had the feeling you were not good enough for your family, I can help you address the negative feelings that are occurring within you. Overcoming the feelings of rejection you experienced as a child can be a hurtful journey but I will guide every step of the way until you no longer feel rejected.

— Mary Nashed, Counselor in Chapel Hill, NC
 

Specializing in Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT).

— Erica Petree, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA
 

Experiencing unreliable caregiving as a young child can set one up for feelings of insecurity and a lack of stability in interpersonal relationships. My training and approach focuses heavily on how my patients' current relationships are replaying old patterns and hurts, keeping them stuck and unsatisfied. Our work sets out to provide them with a healthier model of relating so that they can more compassionately understand themselves and others, and find the connections they've longed for.

— Eileen Brown, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Rafael, CA
 

Everything is relational. I support individuals and couples to identify communication challenges and attachment issues that complicate how they relate to one another and expression of needs.

— Aretha Hampton, Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

Early attachment patterns set essential templates for the future and influence: our ability to connect and feel secure in adult relationships with our partners, children and important others and the manner in which we come to love (or hate) ourselves. These patterns are essential to our future ability to maintain control of our emotions and recover from stressful events. For all of these reasons, I view repairing failures/disruptions/losses in early relationships as essential to my work.

— Dr. LeShelle Woodard, Clinical Psychologist in Hanover, MA

If you ever had the feeling you were not good enough for your family, I can help you address the negative feelings that are occurring within you.

— Mary Nashed, Counselor in Chapel Hill, NC
 

Early attachment patterns set essential templates for the future and influence: our ability to connect and feel secure in adult relationships with our partners, children and important others and the manner in which we come to love (or hate) ourselves. These patterns are essential to our future ability to maintain control of our emotions and recover from stressful events. For all of these reasons, I view repairing failures/disruptions/losses in early relationships as essential to my work.

— Dr. LeShelle Woodard, Clinical Psychologist in Hanover, MA

From the moment of your creation, you are attached; however, so many are wounded by the byproduct of that attachment. We spend much of our time letting painful moments inform our futures, or our families futures, and this steals from our joy in the present moment. We believe healthy relationships are the only pathway to healing, and to take steps toward something different is a risk. We believe the therapeutic relationship can be the first healthy step toward new attachment experiences.

— The Wellness Counseling Center, LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Harrisonville, MO
 

Every area of life represents a relationship; whether it is with a romantic partner, a friend or family member, to your work, or yourself. Human beings are hard-wired for connection, which is commonly referred to as attachment. We have a fundamental need for meaningful contact in love, friendship, and in our work lives. It is possible to resolve issues related to attachment, intimacy, and trust.

— Heather McMillen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Who we are as adults including our strengths and struggles are highly influenced by the primary people in our lives growing up: parents, caregivers, siblings and others who may have been significant in some way. Both the presence and absence of these people leave imprints that we carry with us knowingly and unknowingly throughout our lives. Attachment is relevant for all therapy issues because it informs aspects of why individuals think and act the way they do. I incorporate exploration of attachment to help people gain insights, decrease their struggles, and improve their lives.

— Jami Howell, Psychologist in Portland, OR

Difficulty or preoccupation with relationships may indicate that your attachment style is less than optimal. Examining the patterns of your feelings about the people in your life can offer powerful insights and suggest tactics and strategies to gain more satisfaction and warmth from your social environment. The poet Robert Burns said, "O wad some Power the giftie gie us To see oursels as ithers see us!" English: Oh would some power the gift give us, To see ourselves as other see us!

— Tony Filanowski, Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY
 

Our family of origin sets us up for our "modes" of attachment where current relationships can still trigger our past feelings of abandonment, rejection, invalidation, etc. along with their correlating sensations in the body. This all makes for a difficult time navigating current relationships, even if they are healthy. I enjoy showing clients where attachment styles may affect them currently in relationship and how we can heal past wounds creating a sense of wholeness they've never had before.

— Kelley Goodwin, Licensed Professional Counselor in Roswell, GA

A secure emotional bond with a trusted other is an insurance policy against life's ups and downs -- it doesn't make the challenges of life disappear, but it can help you feel supported, cared about, and buoyed to handle life's vicissitudes. In attachment-based therapy, the relationship between client and therapist is an object of focus, exploration, curiosity, and interest. As this emotional bond becomes stronger, clients find they have more confidence, courage, and resilience. They themselves then become a more secure attachment figure for others, bringing more satisfaction to their relationships, both inner and outer.

— Jennifer Wohl, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Our earliest attachment relationships (generally family) become templates for how we organize our later relationships, both with others and ourselves. When they no longer serve us and we feel stuck relationally, how to create new templates? By having a new relationship experience. My desire during our time together is to offer you that new, healthier experience of relationship you can internalize ... one that you can ultimately integrate and take out into your life outside the therapy room.

— Serenity Wehrenberg, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Petaluma, CA
 

Have you ever wondered how and why you choose certain people, Friendships and relationships? Well, research shows your style of attaching has most to do with how you attached to your caregivers. Understanding your attachment style, allows for the ability to change unhealthy habits. I can guide you through this process and also psycho-educated you.

— Chiaku Hanson, Counselor in Los Angeles, CA