Attachment Theory

Attachment theory, first developed by John Bowlby, is a psychology concept focused on the importance of attachment in relation to personal development. According to Bowlby’s theory, attachment is not a one-time event, but an ongoing process that begins at birth and continues through the first years of life. Fundamental to attachment theory is the belief that a child's relationship with the primary caregiver (usually the mother), affects their attachment style for the rest of their life. Unresolved or insecure attachment issues experienced in early childhood can have a negative impact on relationships into adulthood. A therapist who specializes in attachment theory can help.  Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s experts today!

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Attachment is at the heart of how we form connections with one another. It informs the way we perceive ourselves and others. I have read books on Attachment Theory, encountered coursework in applying attachment theory in therapy, and use Attachment Theory in order to help individuals and those in relationships find clarity in why they are experiencing the disruptions that they are and practice steps to earn secure attachment with one another.

— Xuan Ho, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist

Two approaches that use in my practice are mainly based on the attachment theory.

— Maria Grishkina, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Plantation, FL

Trained in EFT and knowledgeable on how attachment informs our relationship with self and others.

— Amanda Walker, Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Associate in Asheville, NC

I utilize attachment theory when working with children, adolescents, teen, adults, and families. I help individuals and families build positive attachments and learn about repairing past attachment ruptures to manage healing in current-day relationships.

— Amber Lynn Connell, Licensed Professional Counselor in Hatboro, PA

I provide Parent-Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT), the gold standard treatment for child disruptive behaviors. PCIT was developed through UC Davis Children’s Hospital and has been shown by 40 years of research and 100’s of studies to effective for children as young as 12 months and as old as 10 years. A recent study has even shown PCIT to be more effective for disruptive behavior than stimulant medication.

— DC Hamilton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Claremont, CA

Ideally, we would all grow up in a delightfully safe and warm environment, with caregivers perfectly attuned to our every need and supporting us every step of the way. Most of us do not experience this perfection, and that is totally ok. Without placing blame on your caregivers, we will identify the attachment experiences that were lacking for you and heal what was lost. Attachment therapy can help deepen your relationships, give you stronger emotional regulation skills, and spark your inner joy

— Laura Stephan, Psychologist in Roseville, MN

I am training in the Developmental Model of couple/relationship therapy. This model looks at each person's attachment as well as the relationships developmental stage, aiming to improve communication and relationship satisfaction. I utilize a variety of therapeutic tools for assessment and provide homework and feedback for clients looking to improve their relationship to self and others. I utilize an attachment framework when working with individual clients as well.

— Birch Snogles, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in ann arbor, MI

We offer Attachment Assessments to help you uncover and explore your attachment style. We also utilize Attachment Theory in psychotherapy to find connections between your early life and difficult present experiences.

— Spaces Therapy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

The research shows that we connect with others in our adult relationships based on how we were parented and our connection with our first care givers. Based on how you were parented, you likely have certain patterns that you get stuck in, such as fears of abandonment or not being good enough, or keeping people at arms length and not really letting others in. I can help you to develop a more secure sense of relating to others, by helping you understand the origins of your behavior.

— Miranda Millican, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

Growing up you were subjected to many massages and beliefs, usually passed down from your parents but also from the culture. These beliefs and messages impact you today. Therefore, we will help you uncover and change these messages to help you live an authentic life.

— Food Is Not The Enemy Eating Disorder Services, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

Exploring how attachment with caregivers early in our lives can be fertile ground for gaining new understanding to present day relationships.

— Courtney Burns, Therapist in Portland, OR

I am a big believer in attachment theory and how it plays out in our relationships, in particular, romantic relationships. Using attachment theory and emotionally focused therapy, I am able to cut to the heart of the dynamics at play and see through the white noise so that each partner feels seen and heard and not bogged down in the details that don't matter. Couples therapy isn't what it used to be. Let me show you how.

— Ashley Evans, Licensed Professional Counselor in Dallas, TX

How we established relationships with our parents will influence our present-day relationships with others.

— David Adams, Licensed Professional Counselor in Plymouth, MI

I believe our earliest experiences and relationships create the framework for how we relate to ourselves and others in adulthood. Understanding and repairing these dynamics can help us recognize and step outside of unconscious behavior patterns that keep us stuck or prevent us from growing and changing.

— Renee Floer, Licensed Professional Counselor in New Orleans, LA