Family Conflict

Experiencing occasional conflict is very common, even in the closest of families. Sources of everyday conflict are typically things like miscommunication or misunderstandings. Serious, long-term conflicts can arise from things like substance abuse, financial problems, marital problems, a birth, a job change, or a big move. Whether the source of a families discord is major or minor, ongoing conflict can cause a lot of stress. Allowing conflict to linger and fester can cause lasting damage to familial relationships. If you and your family are experiencing ongoing conflicts, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s family conflict experts today.

Meet the specialists

Back to the basics- the family. We were all raised in one. There are many different family configurations and even more styles of parenting. Come explore the family you grew up in and see how that is influencing the way you are parenting. Would you like to make some changes and need guidance as to how to implement them? Do you need teaching on what to expect for different ages, personalities and situations? Perhaps you thought you had it all under control until that phone call came from the school, or the police, or your daughter just shared that she's pregnant. Maybe you're not even a parent yet and are thinking there's no way you want to have children if "those" people would be the grandparents. Or what if your partner's family hates you or you can't stand them? Is there hope? What if your children are fighting so much you think one might be seriously injured before they'd quit? All of these situations and many more have been worked on in therapy with me, or experience by me. There is hope.

— Michelle Broweleit, Counselor in Vancouver, WA

The same fights, the same hurts, the same resentments. You don't have to just count the days until the kids are grown so you can leave. Together we can untangle the knot once and for all.

— Stefanie Rosen, Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

I enjoy working with adult children and their parents to help open the lines of communication and change old relationship patterns. I think adulthood is a great time to work on re-working relationships with parents and siblings so you can have healthier connections going forward.

— Sheila Addison, in Oakland, CA

When working with families, I take a family systems approach, which involves getting the whole family together to identify negative or harmful communication patterns and work to create healthier, more functional relationships. We may practice respectful communication, come up with new ways of interacting, and I will likely give homework to practice between sessions to keep your family communicating during the week.

— Kaleigh Boysen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

I am a certified Multidimensional Family Therapist (MDFT) who has 3 years of experience working up close and personal with families experiencing major conflict, violence, drug abuse and law enforcement involvement. I have helped families function better in order to give their children better life outcomes both in and outside of the court system. I have also been trained and certified as an MDFT Supervisor, supervising other therapist in this same treatment.

— Estepha Francisque, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento, CA

Family conflict is one of the most common reasons people enter therapy. Yet, it can be extremely hard to resolve these issues when you have multiple people in a therapy sessions with their own unique feelings, perspectives, and experiences. With my training and experience, I am competent in helping families to resolve conflict, increase communication, and express their feelings in a healthy way.

— Lilyan Moore, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have facilitated scores of one or two session family meetings over the last 35 years. I love working with families and I’m very comfortable including several members in the sessions. I’ve seen up to 7 or 8 family members at one time. I can help each family member identify and clearly and directly communicate what they need for meaningful and effective interactions. Family members often discover in our sessions that early abandonment fears and experiences color their relationships. These messages have been passed down to second and third generations. By recognizing the language of rejection and identifying the cultural patterns that may be connected to rejecting behaviors, we can tame the cycle of negative messages that reverberates through the generations.

— Elayne Savage, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

We help families get out of negative patterns of communication and get on the same page with things like parenting.

— Thrive Couple & Family Counseling Services, Counselor in Greenwood Village, CO

We all have a family of origin and the ones we create and choose. Whether you're struggling with your sister, having difficulty with dad, or finding that getting married and mixing two families is more than you bargained for, I've got you covered. Maybe you're a parent and can't stand the way your kids treat one another. I still got you. Along with my Marriage and Family Therapy education and training, I also hold a Masters in Psychology focusing on Mediation and Conflict Resolution.

— Kristina Dingus, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Plano, TX

Knowing that our early life experiences in our family of origin provide a framework for how we operate in relationships, Elizabeth is focused on helping clients process and heal from emotional wounds and then identify and break free from long standing patterns that maintain couple distress, and help couples find new ways to connect that promote intimacy and wholeness. The goal of EFT couples therapy is to create a more secure emotional bond that leads to more satisfaction, intimacy and trust.

— Elizabeth Pankey-Warren, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boca Raton, FL

As a parent or family member, you wonder why your child seems distant, isolated, depressed or even angry. You wonder what happened. I specialize in connecting with teenagers who experience depression and anxiety. I also collaborate with family members who support these teenagers. I recognize the pain a parent experiences when you feel like you have failed your child. You are not alone. I am here to share that burden, so that you and your child begin to feel relief.

— Brad Fittes, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Mason, OH

I was trained in Strategic Family Therapy. I work well with families who fight/argue a lot due to value/cultural conflicts. I also enjoy working with queer teens in the family system.

— Michelle Chia Ning Chang, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Emeryville, CA

It's called Family Therapy—but we know that family can include any human you feel connected to. As Family Therapists we are trained to navigate the various relationships represented in the room and to assist each person in finding their voice. Family Therapy is a unique experience, and requires skilled professionals Issues that can be addressed from a Family Therapy perspective include: -Grief/Loss -Illness -Remarriage -Blended families -Life transitions -Resolving past hurts -Accepting a family member’s sexuality -Supporting a family member struggling with sexual identity Our skilled therapists can support you in coming together to find the best ways for your family to relate to each other. Our relaxed atmosphere creates a comfortable place to grow together.

— Refresh Therapy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA

I have extensive experience in working with families, couples and parent/child units to address conflicts in behaviors, with addictions, with anger, abuse, life crises, and differing values and belief systems. I work to help family units create a cohesive family plan and assist family members in following their family plan successfully.

— Leisa Watkins, Marriage & Family Therapist in Idaho Falls, ID

Individuals and systems are in constant interaction and interdependent. You cannot have one without the other. Your identity is formulated within and in response to your system, whatever that may be, and your system is impacted by your identity. Family therapy is informed by a number of practices and methods to aid communication, acceptance, and understanding of human development, grace, and connection. The specifics beyond this methodology are informed only by YOU.

— The Wellness Counseling Center, LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Harrisonville, MO

Family therapy can be key to helping create a healthy and harmonious family system. During family therapy sessions, I work with children, siblings, and caregivers to identify challenges and strengths and develop shared goals. I help family members discover new ways to relate to one another and work on conflict resolution and communication. I also provide support to families undergoing transitions, such as divorce or new family members.

— Anna Fadem, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN DIEGO, CA

At RISE we offer Conjoint Family and Relationship Counseling sessions. Each member of the family has the option of having their personal individual therapist that they work with individually and/or Conjointly with their family/relationships and their indivdualized therapist to maximize the benefits of family and relational therapy.

— Bet Shaddinger, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Fort Lauderdale, FL

Family Therapy is a way to work through life transitions and family conflict, as well as establish family rules and expectations. Having open, honest, conversations can build healthy communication skills and increase positive interactions between kids and parents. Even though we are working through difficult issues, it is also a time for families to connect and have fun together and to remember that they are all on the same team.

— Kristen Felter, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

I was trained with a family systems lens and am always considering complex dynamics as well as intergenerational trauma in my work with all clients- whether you come along with you family or as an individual. I also work with adopted and foster children, teens, and adults. I am an adoptee myself and have specialized training to serve this community from my participation in Portland State University's Foster and Adoption Therapy Certificate Program.

— Emelie Gagliardo, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

It is getting harder and harder for families these days. The world seems to be spinning everyone apart. The solid foundation is crumbling away. In my Family Therapy sessions, I work closely with parents to create structure, routines, traditions, and rituals that support a healthy family culture and identity. Goals focus on creating positive, connecting experiences for families. So often, families do not know how to take the time to prioritize activities and events that build family cohesion. I give parents and families tools to improve communication, resolve conflicts, solve problems and build trust. Families learn to strengthen attachments and bonding so that children feel secure and confident as they venture out into the world and launch into healthy adult lives.

— S. Abigail McCarrel, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Arcadia, CA

Family conflict impacts everyone in the family; whether it is marital issues, sibling rivalry, school issues, among many other concerns - I can help you navigate these in order to increase the bond you have with your children, improve communication and decrease conflict in your family relationships.

— Corie Rodeman, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Crystal Lake, IL

There are no perfect families, many of us have experienced conflicts within our family of origin or current families. Unresolved conflicts of past or present can have an overpowering effect on the quality of our existence. It is valuable to make the effort to resolve such issues in order to live a more authentic life and to learn as much as we can about our selves.

— Shay Phillips, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston, TX

Whether family conflict s the result of a divorce, a struggling marriage, adult siblings fighting, or a blended family one things is often true. There are past hurts and resentments that haven't been worked through. In family conflicts we often sweep things under the rug or never talk about them. We allow conflict to brew until it has gotten so big and overwhelming that we can't handle it anymore. I can help you to address these conflicts in a safe, healthy, positive way. Bringing you restoration in your family relationships.

— Erica London, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Vancouver, WA

Family conflict is one of the most common reasons people enter therapy. Yet, it can be extremely hard to resolve these issues when you have multiple people in a therapy sessions with their own unique feelings, perspectives, and experiences. With my training and experience, I am competent in helping families to resolve conflict, increase communication, and express their feelings in a healthy way.

— Lilyan Moore, Counselor in Portland, OR

I facilitate you, your partner, and/or other family members in identifying and communicating your needs and wants to each other. Conducive to this process is the ability to experience a reasonable degree of conflict in your relationships and the willingness to believe that your relationships can improve. Transitions in families can be difficult. There are specific stages at which couples and families can anticipate major life transitions: marriage, the birth of a child, entering school, graduation (from elementary to middle school, from middle school to high school, from high school to college), military or something else, and transition into adulthood. These life transitions can make couples and families vulnerable to high levels of stress, which can be taxing on relationships. Blending Families: The transition into a blended family is rarely a smooth process. Some children may resist changes and parents can become frustrated when the new family doesn't function like their previous family. While changes to family structure require adjustment time for everyone involved, sometimes four to seven years, blended families can work out their growing pains and live together successfully.

— Kathy Hardie-Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tigard, OR