Family Conflict

Experiencing occasional conflict is very common, even in the closest of families. Sources of everyday conflict are typically things like miscommunication or misunderstandings. Serious, long-term conflicts can arise from things like substance abuse, financial problems, marital problems, a birth, a job change, or a big move. Whether the source of a families discord is major or minor, ongoing conflict can cause a lot of stress. Allowing conflict to linger and fester can cause lasting damage to familial relationships. If you and your family are experiencing ongoing conflicts, reach out to one of TherapyDen’s family conflict experts today.

Meet the specialists

Individuals and systems are in constant interaction and interdependent. You cannot have one without the other. Your identity is formulated within and in response to your system, whatever that may be, and your system is impacted by your identity. Family therapy is informed by a number of practices and methods to aid communication, acceptance, and understanding of human development, grace, and connection. The specifics beyond this methodology are informed only by YOU.

— The Wellness Counseling Center, LLC, Licensed Professional Counselor in Harrisonville, MO

It is getting harder and harder for families these days. The world seems to be spinning everyone apart. The solid foundation is crumbling away. In my Family Therapy sessions, I work closely with parents to create structure, routines, traditions, and rituals that support a healthy family culture and identity. Goals focus on creating positive, connecting experiences for families. So often, families do not know how to take the time to prioritize activities and events that build family cohesion. I give parents and families tools to improve communication, resolve conflicts, solve problems and build trust. Families learn to strengthen attachments and bonding so that children feel secure and confident as they venture out into the world and launch into healthy adult lives.

— S. Abigail McCarrel, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Arcadia, CA

Every family has it's struggles. My family systems orientation allows me to objectively see patterns and processes and work with my family clients to communicate and function well.

— Bethany Schaefer, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Round Rock, TX

The same fights, the same hurts, the same resentments. You don't have to just count the days until the kids are grown so you can leave. Together we can untangle the knot once and for all.

— Stefanie Rosen, Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

When working with families, I take a family systems approach, which involves getting the whole family together to identify negative or harmful communication patterns and work to create healthier, more functional relationships. We may practice respectful communication, come up with new ways of interacting, and I will likely give homework to practice between sessions to keep your family communicating during the week.

— Kaleigh Boysen, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

There are no perfect families, many of us have experienced conflicts within our family of origin or current families. Unresolved conflicts of past or present can have an overpowering effect on the quality of our existence. It is valuable to make the effort to resolve such issues in order to live a more authentic life and to learn as much as we can about our selves.

— Shay Phillips, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Houston, TX

I have facilitated scores of one or two session family meetings over the last 35 years. I love working with families and I’m very comfortable including several members in the sessions. I’ve seen up to 7 or 8 family members at one time. I can help each family member identify and clearly and directly communicate what they need for meaningful and effective interactions. Family members often discover in our sessions that early abandonment fears and experiences color their relationships. These messages have been passed down to second and third generations. By recognizing the language of rejection and identifying the cultural patterns that may be connected to rejecting behaviors, we can tame the cycle of negative messages that reverberates through the generations.

— Elayne Savage, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

Family conflict is one of the most common reasons people enter therapy. Yet, it can be extremely hard to resolve these issues when you have multiple people in a therapy sessions with their own unique feelings, perspectives, and experiences. With my training and experience, I am competent in helping families to resolve conflict, increase communication, and express their feelings in a healthy way.

— Lilyan Moore, Counselor in Portland, OR

We help families get out of negative patterns of communication and get on the same page with things like parenting.

— Thrive Couple & Family Counseling Services, Counselor in Greenwood Village, CO

You’re tired of having the same weekly arguments, but never finding a resolution. Your teen constantly panics about everything, blanks out during tests, or doesn't get enough sleep. Maybe you and your partner disagree about how to handle conflict. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way! Therapy can help your family reconnect and stay connected by solving what feels unsolvable.

— Ashleigh Edelstein, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I often see conflicts within immigrant families. I have seen clients who are the 1st generation complaining their kids becoming too Americanized and also seen clients who are the 2nd generation blaming their parents for putting unrealistic expectations on them. There is no universal way to "fix" it. I hope therapy can help navigate them to the healthier path.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Clara, CA

I facilitate you, your partner, and/or other family members in identifying and communicating your needs and wants to each other. Conducive to this process is the ability to experience a reasonable degree of conflict in your relationships and the willingness to believe that your relationships can improve. Transitions in families can be difficult. There are specific stages at which couples and families can anticipate major life transitions: marriage, the birth of a child, entering school, graduation (from elementary to middle school, from middle school to high school, from high school to college), military or something else, and transition into adulthood. These life transitions can make couples and families vulnerable to high levels of stress, which can be taxing on relationships. Blending Families: The transition into a blended family is rarely a smooth process. Some children may resist changes and parents can become frustrated when the new family doesn't function like their previous family. While changes to family structure require adjustment time for everyone involved, sometimes four to seven years, blended families can work out their growing pains and live together successfully.

— Kathy Hardie-Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tigard, OR

Back to the basics- the family. We were all raised in one. There are many different family configurations and even more styles of parenting. Come explore the family you grew up in and see how that is influencing the way you are parenting. Would you like to make some changes and need guidance as to how to implement them? Do you need teaching on what to expect for different ages, personalities and situations? Perhaps you thought you had it all under control until that phone call came from the school, or the police, or your daughter just shared that she's pregnant. Maybe you're not even a parent yet and are thinking there's no way you want to have children if "those" people would be the grandparents. Or what if your partner's family hates you or you can't stand them? Is there hope? What if your children are fighting so much you think one might be seriously injured before they'd quit? All of these situations and many more have been worked on in therapy with me, or experience by me. There is hope.

— Michelle Broweleit, Counselor in Vancouver, WA

Family therapy can be key to helping create a healthy and harmonious family system. During family therapy sessions, I work with children, siblings, and caregivers to identify challenges and strengths and develop shared goals. I help family members discover new ways to relate to one another and work on conflict resolution and communication. I also provide support to families undergoing transitions, such as divorce or new family members.

— Anna Fadem, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN DIEGO, CA

Family conflict is one of the most common reasons people enter therapy. Yet, it can be extremely hard to resolve these issues when you have multiple people in a therapy sessions with their own unique feelings, perspectives, and experiences. With my training and experience, I am competent in helping families to resolve conflict, increase communication, and express their feelings in a healthy way.

— Lilyan Moore, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have extensive experience in working with families, couples and parent/child units to address conflicts in behaviors, with addictions, with anger, abuse, life crises, and differing values and belief systems. I work to help family units create a cohesive family plan and assist family members in following their family plan successfully.

— Leisa Watkins, Marriage & Family Therapist in Idaho Falls, ID

Family conflict can come in many different forms: challenging communication, difficulty with connection, separation, divorce, blending, remarriage or even managing the family when someone is struggling with a substance use disorder. I can provide support to children, teens and young people individually and the whole family as a unit. Together, we can work on repairing relationships, healthy boundaries and positive communication.

— Courtney Hart, Clinical Social Worker in Havre de Grace, MD