Collaborative Couple Therapy

Collaborative couple therapy is a therapeutic technique that helps couples understand how they communicate when struggling with an issue or argument. The focus of collaborative couple therapy is teaching partners how to turn those fights into intimate conversations, and in turn, strengthen the relationship. In collaborative couple therapy, the therapist will sit in between the couple and speak as if they were one of the partners talking to the other. If one of the partners is 'fighting' by using stinging words, the therapist will attempt to translate those comments into confiding thoughts. If a partner is ‘withdrawing,’ the therapist will guess at what the individual is feeling, and ask if the guesses are correct. A successful outcome of collaborative couple therapy is experiencing intimacy in times of struggle, rather than fighting or withdrawing. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s collaborative couple therapy experts today. 

Meet the specialists

Problems tend to form through miscommunication. The collaborative approach helps everyone feel heard and understood. As a result, communication begins to improve, and problems start to dissolve.

— Katherine Traxler, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate
 

A large majority of my client base is couples. I am currently working as a marriage therapist at The Relationship Institute in Royal Oak, Michigan.

— Leticia Berg, Psychotherapist in Ann Arbor, MI
 

We will work together to improve communication skills and to shift your relationship into the relationship that you want to live and enjoy.

— Monica New, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Playa Del Rey, CA

In my training, we focused specifically on Collaborative Therapy. We must be mindful that therapy is just a conversation - sometimes, it can feel scary, but we are simply humans communicating.

— Veronica Llanos-Davis, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Antonio, TX
 

A large majority of my client base is couples. I am currently working as a marriage therapist at The Relationship Institute in Royal Oak, Michigan.

— Leticia Berg, Psychotherapist in Ann Arbor, MI

In collaborative couple therapy, partners are encouraged to identify and express their “leading-edge” thoughts and feelings—the ones in the moment that motivate, distract, or linger in the mind or body.Then, they learn how to avoid cyclical fights and be better to each other, and communicate better.

— Christian Longue, Counselor in Austin, TX
 

I routinely saw couples during my postdoctoral training in sex therapy, and continue to work with couples wishing to enhance intimacy and connection inside and outside of the bedroom. Some common topics I work with couples on include repair from boundary violations (eg, infidelity), setting new boundaries, navigating conflict, developing empathy for one another, and recognizing when old/harmful relational patterns are surfacing in present relationships.

— Alex Tatum, Sex Therapist in Chicago, IL

I have studied Tatkin, Gotman, and Real extensively and can teach you their wisdom about how couples can best learn to work together to ensure the health and sustainability of the union. This applies at any stage of a relationship, from brand new to many years. I also help couples who are ending their relationship do so in a collaborative way with minimal impact on their children.

— Dr. Judi Bloom, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Monica, CA
 

I have focused on helping couples shift from an adversarial or withdrawn pattern of relationships to a more collaborative one.

— Dr. Sigal Levy, Psychologist in Fort Lauderdale, FL

Collaborative couple therapy will provide an active, results-oriented and usually brief approach to help couples address issues such as: gridlocked conflict, intimacy, separation and divorce, infertility, relationships with extended family, parenting, and remarriage.

— JINAL MEHTA, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in NEW HYDE PARK, NY