Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication was developed out of a belief that our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Nonviolent communication is founded on the tenet that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms themselves and others when they do not recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs. It is typically taught, often in a therapy session, as a process of interpersonal communication designed to improve compassion for, and connection to, others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s nonviolent communication specialists today. 

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NVC is the practice of making an observation, expressing a feeling, then a need and making a request. Using NVC takes the charge out of communication which can be so painful and threatening to the survival of the relationship. It allows people to take ownership of their experience and not direct their feelings towards others, which usually only escalates conflict and leads to breakdowns. Utilizing NVC makes hearing one another much easier by staying calm & cool.

— Annette Barnett, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Saratoga, CA

Most of us have been taught to communicate passively, critically, or manipulatively––and that’s so normal to us that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. That is, until we find ourselves feeling powerless to get our needs met, repeating the same conflicts with those we love, and feeling alone or trapped in our relationships. The nonviolent framework provides a systematic approach by teaching us to be present to our own needs, feelings, and requests without blaming others or internalizing shame.

— Alexa Golding, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Do you want to resolve conflicts - with yourself and others - in ways that honor your deepest needs? Do you want solutions that work for you and also meet the needs of others? Nonviolent Communication is about how to make that happen. It's about creating the kind of relationship that helps to meet, or at least honor, everyone's needs. It doesn't always get us what we want, but it greatly increases the chances of truly satisfying our underlying needs.

— Carlyle Stewart, Counselor in Asheville, NC

NVC is the practice of making an observation, expressing a feeling, then a need and making a request. Using NVC takes the charge out of communication which can be so painful and threatening to the survival of the relationship. It allows people to take ownership of their experience and not direct their feelings towards others, which usually only escalates conflict and leads to breakdowns. Utilizing NVC makes hearing one another much easier by staying calm & cool.

— Annette Barnett, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Saratoga, CA
 

I have found nonviolent communication to be extremely helpful in clearer and more accurate expression. Additionally, the use of nonviolent communication bypasses many of the standard miscommunications and perceived offenses of standard conversation, facilitating information flow without argument. Interestingly, the use of nonviolent communication may also make the speaker appear more charismatic and persuasive.

— Erica Rampelberg, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Delaware, OH
 

Nonviolent Communication is all about feelings and needs. I teach clients how to connect with their feelings and needs, so they can get a better understanding of themselves and their loved ones, and communicate in an open-hearted way, where curiosity replaces judgment. This type of heart-centered communication stops the relational tug of war and increases intimacy with those you love while honoring emotions and needs.

— Wendy Rolon, Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Nonviolent communication is a strategy championed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. Through the use of nonviolent communication, you will learn to identify unmet needs within yourself and others and communicate them in a fashion that reduces blaming langue. This solution focused communication strategy allows you to communicate by focusing on the unmet need and working towards resolve rather that focusing on blame and defensiveness.

— Ngozi Nwosu, Therapist in Scottsdale, AZ
 

I have been trained in academic as well as professional settings in Non-Violent Communication. With such training, I offer to examine, reframe and shift your communication patterns. Even when not communicating with others, what we say to ourselves matters equally. What we say to our own selves also impacts how we view and treat others. I invite you to this space, in which we rewire language to fit our needs. NVC is for couples, families and individuals alike!

— Erica Salazar, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I utilize non-violent communication with many of my couples to help them communicate in an effective and non-judgemental way. Using non-blaming language helps us to truly hear what our partner is saying and is a great way to find understanding. I have been trained in non-violent communication work through my work at Life Coaching and Therapy and this model has helped many of my couples find relief.

— Melody Atkinson, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Hartford, CT
 

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a wonderful technique for helping you connect to your own feelings and needs, and figure out ways to work through conflicts with others in a clear and compassionate way.

— Deborah Ranker, Clinical Social Worker in Portland, OR

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication as an undergraduate student. I have been utilizing its principles and literature for over 15 years.

— Steven Fields, Sex Therapist in Hampton, VA