Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent communication was developed out of a belief that our culture has taught us to think and speak in ways that can actually perpetuate conflict, internal pain and even violence. Nonviolent communication is founded on the tenet that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms themselves and others when they do not recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs. It is typically taught, often in a therapy session, as a process of interpersonal communication designed to improve compassion for, and connection to, others. Think this approach might be right for you? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s nonviolent communication specialists today. 

Meet the specialists

Nonviolent communication helps to communicate from a place of compassion and empathy to share thoughts, feelings, basic human needs, self-responsibility, and the desire for connection.

— Monique Jessie, Mental Health Counselor in Portland, OR
 

It can be difficult to explore our inner world when we lack the words and structure necessary to communicate them effectively. For years I have incorporated Nonviolent Communication perspectives of human feelings and needs in order to empower clients to request from others what they need out of their relationships. I developed my approach through training with practitioners and Nonviolent Communication trainers as a part of my graduate studies.

— Dylan Keenberg, Clinical Psychologist in Bellingham, WA

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of viewing one's self, one another and the world with empathy--truly listening with an open heart. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered, to name a few.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
 

M.A. degree in Conflict Studies and Dispute Resolution

— Carlithea Farrington, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is a wonderful technique for helping you connect to your own feelings and needs, and figure out ways to work through conflicts with others in a clear and compassionate way.

— Deborah Ranker, Clinical Social Worker in Portland, OR
 

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of viewing one's self, one another and the world. At the center of NVC is empathy--truly listening with an open heart to ourselves and to those we want to connect with. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered to name a few.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of viewing one's self, one another and the world with empathy--truly listening with an open heart. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered, to name a few.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA
 

Non-violent Communication is a fundamental skill that everyone should have, and yet in our fast-paced, go-get-em society so few of us do. I have specialized training (and practice! ), enabling me to help you learn how to communicate "with" people instead of "at" them, be better understood and get more of what you want by learning how to enlist help from those you are speaking with, rather than alienating them.

— Susan Rooney, Counselor in Portland, OR

I was introduced to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) about 17 years ago and have been drawing upon the practice ever since. NVC is a way of perceiving one's self, one another and the world with empathy--truly listening with an open heart. I am inspired by NVC's stance that humans share common needs. In my work, I listen for those needs; to be understood, to have choice, or be considered, to name a few. Learning to connect with our feelings and needs creates space for healing.

— Ashley Gregory, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Berkeley, CA

Communication styles and patterns are learned. We can learn new ones and unlearn what doesn't serve us. If the goal is to achieve harmony and progressive and positive outcomes as a result of communication, learning how to do this so our approach is effective, has integrity, and the goals are clearly defined. It's incredibly frustrating to attempt to communicate with someone important in our lives only to be met with defensiveness and a lack of receptivity. Let's improve the outcomes together.

— Lara Falberg, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Columbus, OH
 

Learning to identify, express, and share our feelings and needs can change both how we relate to ourselves and to others. When we don't know how we are feeling, how can someone comfort or reassure us? Together we find a way for you to not only know what you feel and need but also to trust in yourself enough to ask for it from your family, partner, and the world.

— Elizabeth McGinnis, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Palo Alto, CA

The work of Marshall Rosenbaum has been instrumental in forming my practice. The strategies outlined by this practice are useful in working with families and couples. NVC helps people own their own emotions, not those of others.

— Mark Best, Clinical Social Worker in Vancouver, WA
 

When I see women or couples in abusive situations, many times things have escalated at home. When people are angry, or feel they are being verbally attacked, they may start to lose control and lash out at the other person. The abuser, who expects to be the one in charge, may lose his temper, go from verbally attacking to physically harming the other person. This may occur by his or her throwing objects, or hitting them. My expertise is in helping people communicate without resorting

— Dr. Patricia Field, Clinical Psychologist in Los Angeles, CA

NVC is foundational to the work I do with clients. I encourage my clients to communicate with themselves and with others from a place of empathy, understanding and openness/flexibility, all while asserting and holding personal boundaries.

— Nanika Coor, Clinical Psychologist in Brooklyn, NY