Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

Meet the specialists

I have worked extensively with survivors of partner abuse, dating violence, stalking, and children, teens, and adult's who witnessed family violence. Some people may seek support in reducing harm in an abusive relationship, staying safe in leaving abuse, healing from past abuse, or finding intimacy after past abuse. I have also worked extensively with LGBTQ+ survivors of partner abuse, and am keenly aware of the barriers, stigma, and silence of LGBTQ+ partner abuse.

— Angelynn Hermes, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, CA

I have experience working with survivors of family abuse and intimate partner violence through my work in community mental health and through local domestic violence shelters. Through these experiences, I learned the importance of providing a space where you can access your own wisdom and trust your own choices, whether you are still in that relationship or if you left a long time ago. My priority with this population is to empower, support, and listen with unconditional positive regard.

— Melanie Arroyo Pérez, Licensed Professional Counselor in Olathe, KS

I have specialized training and certification in treating DV/IPV, and in particular, DV in queer relationships. I ran groups for aggressors for years, and am especially interested in helping people who are ready to let go of manipulating or controlling someone they love.

— Sara Stanizai, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

Experience as a domestic violence counselor for adults, adolescents and children through group, individual and family therapy.

— Grace Gufler, Counselor in Chicago, IL

I have clinical experience in a domestic violence shelter setting working with outreach clients -- individuals, families, and in group settings. Safety is my first priority for you. Learning to recognize and accept that possible abuse (physical, emotional, financial, verbal, etc.) could be playing out in your life -- whether male, female, LGBTQ, or other -- is a first step to reclaiming your personal autonomy.

— Cindy Purifoy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

DV is not just about physical. Emotional/Verbal abuse sometimes give you deeper wounds. Although I cannot give you legal advice, I'll support your decision. I have seen male victims of DV who express shame and guilt. I'd like to provide safe space for all victims.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Clara, CA

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I work with a number of organizations to support survivors of Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence.

— Briana Lefman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Oceanside, CA

Domestic violence is also known as intimate partner violence, spousal abuse, and domestic abuse. Staying in an abusive situation can have negative long-term effects. But recovery is possible. Being Clinically Certified Therapist in Domestic Abuse, I work with woman in understanding the types & cycles of abuse, creating a safety plan, and how to stay safe. I also work with children. 1 in 3 women are impacted by domestic violence in their lifetime. If you need help right away, please call 911.

— Tammie Holt, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Orlando, FL

I have been working with those experiencing domestic violence since I started work as a therapist. I have received extensive training and have many hours of experience supporting those who are currently in, thinking about leaving, leaving, or have already left, unhealthy relationships. I hold a stance of non judgmental support as you contemplate whether to stay in your relationship-- a choice only you can make. I help connect you to resources when and if you're ready to leave.

— Anna McDonald, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I have years of experience providing effective counseling for victims of domestic violence as well as counseling for victims of sexual abuse. I also have experience providing sex offender counseling and anger management.

— Tammara kamei, Counselor in Nashville, TN

I have worked in programs for domestic violence survivors since 2004 in the rolls of advocate, hotline worker, shelter manager, educator, counselor and program manager.

— Xavier Quinn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Bedford, NH

I have served as an advocate directly for survivors as well as a systems advocate within a community; trained hundreds of professionals and citizens about intimate partner violence/IPV in the workplace/children exposed to IPV; and written journal articles and book chapters regarding women who are not primary aggressors who use force

— Donna Gardner-Jacoby, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Crystal Lake, IL

I have worked in programs for domestic violence survivors since 2004 in the rolls of advocate, hotline worker, shelter manager, educator, counselor and program manager. I have written publications on LGBTQ intimate partner violence, IPV involving transgender individuals, and how DV programs can be more welcoming of LGBTQ survivors.

— Xavier Quinn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Bedford, NH

DV/IPV can affect anyyone--regardless of sexuality, gender, age, religion, ability, nationality, neurodiversity. I validate clients' experiences, educate on dynamics of abuse within relationships, and work with you to remain safe, whether that means while in the relationship or not.

— Jennifer Kulka, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA

Domestic and intimate partner abuse can be displayed in a multitude of ways that can lead an individual to become isolated, suicidal and scared. Over a period of 19 years I worked closely with parents in the child welfare system (or therapeutically) who were separated from their children often due to domestic/intimate partner violence. My goal is to support you therapeutically, regain your confidence and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

— Bethanie Milford, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

I have worked with both men and women for their intimate partner violence issues since 1997.

— Diana Groener, Counselor in Beaverton, OR

Lost your sense of self. Still catch yourself wondering if you made the right decision in ending that relationship, your family and people around you told you to keep trying to make it work. When it was good, it was so good, it made it worth the bad. You thought that it wasn't as bad as other relationships you've seen. I understand the complexity of intimate partner violence, and have helped individuals learn that a healthy relationship is possible and most importantly that you deserve it.

— April Weir, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Sometimes we don't even realize when we're being abused. Instead, we may just feel that something is very wrong in our relationship, or in remembering a past relationship. Intimate partner violence can be physical, emotional, cultural, financial, social, sexual, cyber, and many more. It is a process to separate ourselves from abuse, but it is absolutely possible.

— Laura Angelucci, Therapist in Austell, GA

I did my early practice and training in domestic violence and abuse, working both with perpetrators and with victims. I have experience in trauma recovery and anger management.

— Leisa Watkins, Marriage & Family Therapist in Idaho Falls, ID