Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

Meet the specialists

I have worked in programs for domestic violence survivors since 2004 in the rolls of advocate, hotline worker, shelter manager, educator, counselor and program manager. I have written publications on LGBTQ intimate partner violence, IPV involving transgender individuals, and how DV programs can be more welcoming of LGBTQ survivors.

— Xavier Quinn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Bedford, NH
 

Sometimes we don't even realize when we're being abused. Instead, we may just feel that something is very wrong in our relationship, or in remembering a past relationship. Intimate partner violence can be physical, emotional, cultural, financial, social, sexual, cyber, and many more. It is a process to separate ourselves from abuse, but it is absolutely possible.

— Laura Angelucci, Therapist in Austell, GA

As the client, you will be a full partner in the counseling process. Having to cope with the aftermath of a violent relationship can be very overwhelming and even dangerous. Together we will determine the best and safest options you have to not only improve your quality of life but how to thrive as an independent, proactive survivor.

— Maranice Strickland, Licensed Professional Counselor in Pearland, TX
 

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I am certified in the state of California as a Domistic Violence Counselor. I currently run 52 week Domestic Violence groups. *These groups meet the madated requirement of a Level 1 52 week DV group.

— Kristina Clancy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA
 

Research shows that both men and women can be victims of domestic violence or family violence, and both can be perpetrators as well. I have developed and published a domestic violence documentation format which also serves as an interview guide to thoroughly identify all forms of domestic or family violence. I perform domestic violence evaluations in immigration cases, and I also prepare extreme hardship evaluations in immigration cases. I can provide this service on a nationwide basis.

— Stephen Finstein, Therapist in Dallas, TX

Is this love? That's a question most people who have been physically and or emotionally assaulted by their partners ask. Working in a domestic violence shelter I learned the dynamics of this kind of relationship, the confusion and helplessness it can make you feel. I also learned how to empower survivors to make the best decisions for their life.

— Willie Mae Kent, Clinical Social Worker in Vineland, NJ

Domestic violence can affect people of all genders, sexualities, and social backgrounds. I worked in a domestic violence counseling center with clients experiencing on-going domestic and family violence, childhood family violence, sexual violence, and intimate partner violence across many types of relationships.

— Marshall Marshall, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Dallas, TX
 

Domestic violence is also known as intimate partner violence, spousal abuse, and domestic abuse. Staying in an abusive situation can have negative long-term effects. But recovery is possible. Being Clinically Certified Therapist in Domestic Abuse, I work with woman in understanding the types & cycles of abuse, creating a safety plan, and how to stay safe. I also work with children. 1 in 3 women are impacted by domestic violence in their lifetime. If you need help right away, please call 911.

— Tammie Holt, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Orlando, FL

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX
 

I have been working with those experiencing domestic violence since I started work as a therapist. I have received extensive training and have many hours of experience supporting those who are currently in, thinking about leaving, leaving, or have already left, unhealthy relationships. I hold a stance of non judgmental support as you contemplate whether to stay in your relationship-- a choice only you can make. I help connect you to resources when and if you're ready to leave.

— Anna McDonald, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Why does he do that? Turning your words around and creating confusion and a sense that you must be wrong all the time. You feel misunderstood, not heard, and wonder why he doesn't seem to get it. Or perhaps it's more obvious, yes, he hits, slaps, pushes - or other physical ways of hurting you. Or maybe he controls every aspect of your life, telling you where to be and when and how you must act and talk. Let's talk, I can help you search your heart to make decisions and choices to support you!

— Erica Randolph, Counselor in Tucson, AZ
 

Survivors of violence and abuse (assault, domestic violence, trafficking, stalking, etc) face particular challenges in our culture and society to access services, achieve justice, and receive healing. Despite the extraordinary strength and wisdom that survivors possess, they may feel alienated, alone, or misunderstood. We live in a culture that often blames the survivors for the violence or abuse they have experienced, making the healing process especially difficult. I have specialized training and experience in working with survivors of domestic violence/intimate partner violence, including serving survivors in the LGBTQIA+ community.

— Arianna Smith, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO

I am certified advanced victim advocate and was a military family violence advocate for 6yrs. When working with victims of violence, I take a trauma informed approach as well as a safety first stance. I work with victims to become empowered to make the best decisions for themselves whether they chose to stay or leave a relationship. I go at the pace of the client and help them overcome their barriers to a happy and healthy life.

— Hope Perini, Counselor in Barre, VT
 

I worked within a Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault agency for over five years as a crisis interventionist and advocate. I served on the 24/7 crisis lines, saw walk-in victims, and accompanied victims through the justice processes for both criminal and student conduct systems.

— Melissa McCurry, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Raleigh, NC

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX
 

DV is not just about physical. Emotional/Verbal abuse sometimes give you deeper wounds. Although I cannot give you legal advice, I'll support your decision. I have seen male victims of DV who express shame and guilt. I'd like to provide safe space for all victims.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Domestic violence or intimate partner violence occurs when there is physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse or anyone who is in a close relationship with another person. It can involve physical violence, sexual violence, stalking and/or psychological manipulation.

— Ellen Biros, Counselor in SUWANEE, GA
 

I have years of experience providing effective counseling for victims of domestic violence as well as counseling for victims of sexual abuse. I also have experience providing sex offender counseling and anger management.

— Tammara kamei, Counselor in Nashville, TN

Domestic and intimate partner abuse can be displayed in a multitude of ways that can lead an individual to become isolated, suicidal and scared. Over a period of 19 years I worked closely with parents in the child welfare system (or therapeutically) who were separated from their children often due to domestic/intimate partner violence. My goal is to support you therapeutically, regain your confidence and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

— Bethanie Milford, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

I have experience working with survivors of family abuse and intimate partner violence through my work in community mental health and through local domestic violence shelters. Through these experiences, I learned the importance of providing a space where you can access your own wisdom and trust your own choices, whether you are still in that relationship or if you left a long time ago. My priority with this population is to empower, support, and listen with unconditional positive regard.

— Melanie Arroyo Pérez, Licensed Professional Counselor in Olathe, KS
 

My career began working with victims of domestic violence back in 2016. I have facilitated groups with the goal of helping clients go from survivor to thriver. Power and control wheel provides a guide and resources offer further options.

— Linda Brown, Psychotherapist in San Antonio, TX

I previously worked as a domestic abuse/sexual assault advocate in shelters and in an outreach capacity within the community. I also have provided emotional support for survivors when they have had SART exams completed. Since becoming a therapist, I have provided support groups for adults and children as well as worked with our local DV/SA agency to provide individual psychotherapy sessions at a reduced rate for clients.

— Nicole Olsen, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Mankato, MN

Experience as a domestic violence counselor for adults, adolescents and children through group, individual and family therapy.

— Grace Gufler, Counselor in Chicago, IL
 

I have specialized training and certification in treating DV/IPV, and in particular, DV in queer relationships. I ran groups for aggressors for years, and am especially interested in helping people who are ready to let go of manipulating or controlling someone they love.

— Sara Stanizai, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA