Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

Meet the specialists

I have served as an advocate directly for survivors as well as a systems advocate within a community; trained hundreds of professionals and citizens about intimate partner violence/IPV in the workplace/children exposed to IPV; and written journal articles and book chapters regarding women who are not primary aggressors who use force

— Donna Gardner-Jacoby, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Crystal Lake, IL

Domestic violence, or intimate partner violence (IPV), is so pervasive. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have reported experiencing IPV in their lifetime (this number is most likely higher in reality). Many homicides are the result of IPV, and preventing domestic violence is incredibly important for society. The healing process is comprised of many parts (grief, identity transitions/issues, healing from trauma, coping with stress, and much more). Empowerment is a key part of this as well.

— Nathan Jacquez, Counselor in Salt Lake City, UT

Is this love? That's a question most people who have been physically and or emotionally assaulted by their partners ask. Working in a domestic violence shelter I learned the dynamics of this kind of relationship, the confusion and helplessness it can make you feel. I also learned how to empower survivors to make the best decisions for their life.

— Willie Mae Kent, Clinical Social Worker in Vineland, NJ

There are different stages where someone might seek treatment for physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse in one's intimate relationship. Initial stages may be when the survivor is in crisis and just needs safety and stabilization. We would not go into any trauma work at that point. But eventually, as the person has attained physical safety and some distance from this relationship, deeper work can be done to help the person heal long-time wounds and move toward healthier relationships. Additionally, I can refer clients to needed support and shelter resources if necessary.

— Rowena Dodson, Marriage & Family Therapist in Mountain View, CA

I have been supporting the survivors of violent acts since I was an undergrad in college. Since 2007 I have been an advocate for those who most often feel voiceless. It is so important to provide a safe place for survivors to share their story, find safety and work to rebuild their life. I use a variety of tools to help you combat trauma and increase safety.

— Alison Murphey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

Domestic violence is also known as intimate partner violence, spousal abuse, and domestic abuse. Staying in an abusive situation can have negative long-term effects. But recovery is possible. Being Clinically Certified Therapist in Domestic Abuse, I work with woman in understanding the types & cycles of abuse, creating a safety plan, and how to stay safe. I also work with children. 1 in 3 women are impacted by domestic violence in their lifetime. If you need help right away, please call 911.

— Tammie Holt, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Orlando, FL

I specialize in healthy relationships. Having worked in a domestic violence shelter for multiple years, and finding many of my clients have experienced some form of partner violence. I find great passion in assisting clients in understanding what is unhealthy and finding ways to grow and heal into a stronger and healthier person.

— Natalie Coriell, Counselor in Shrewsbury, MO

Domestic violence or intimate partner violence occurs when there is physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse or anyone who is in a close relationship with another person. It can involve physical violence, sexual violence, stalking and/or psychological manipulation.

— Ellen Biros, Counselor in SUWANEE, GA

Experience working with victims/survivors of domestic violence. Using the empowerment model and providing psycho-education on how domestic violence impacts the brain, the body and ways it continues to be impactful even after the abuse has ended. We will explore safety planning. Understand healthy versus unhealthy relationships and ways to identify red flags.

— Shatara Sheppard, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Charlotte, NC

I am certified in the state of California as a Domistic Violence Counselor. I currently run 52 week Domestic Violence groups. *These groups meet the madated requirement of a Level 1 52 week DV group.

— Kristina Clancy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

I specialize in working with individuals either currently involved in or recovering from narcissistic abuse. I have taken DV 101 Training through New Beginnings Domestic Violence Center in Seattle, WA, Family Law for the Mental Health Professional from Joseph Shaub, MA, JD in Bellevue, WA, and Sexual Assault Training though the Providence Hospital. Additionally, I have over 2 years of experience through community mental health working with both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence.

— Christine Cuhaciyan, Counselor in Seattle, WA

I specialized in Domestic Violence counseling and assist women who have or are suffering from DV to overcome the complex challenges that they face. I also have extensive experience as a DV group facilitator.

— Sylvia Garcia, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Orange, CA

Sometimes we don't even realize when we're being abused. Instead, we may just feel that something is very wrong in our relationship, or in remembering a past relationship. Intimate partner violence can be physical, emotional, cultural, financial, social, sexual, cyber, and many more. It is a process to separate ourselves from abuse, but it is absolutely possible.

— Laura Angelucci, Therapist in Austell, GA

My entire life people that I love have been harmed by people who "love" them. From early high school to the present I come up against bullies that use the blunt and cowardly weapon of violence to preserve their personal world order or to expel their own hurt onto others. I have worked as a domestic violence advocate in confidential shelter, and with trafficked girls in jail. The meaning of helping someone find the call to freedom and joy from incarcerations of this kind is unspeakable.

— Eli Hastings, Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

I have been supporting the survivors of violent acts since I was an undergrad in college. Since 2007 I have been an advocate for those who most often feel voiceless. It is so important to provide a safe place for survivors to share their story, find safety and work to rebuild their life. I use a variety of tools to help you combat trauma and increase safety.

— Alison Murphey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in , CA

I have worked in programs for domestic violence survivors since 2004 in the rolls of advocate, hotline worker, shelter manager, educator, counselor and program manager.

— Xavier Quinn, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Bedford, NH

I previously worked as a domestic abuse/sexual assault advocate in shelters and in an outreach capacity within the community. I also have provided emotional support for survivors when they have had SART exams completed. Since becoming a therapist, I have provided support groups for adults and children as well as worked with our local DV/SA agency to provide individual psychotherapy sessions at a reduced rate for clients.

— Nicole Olsen, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Mankato, MN

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have received extensive training in treating the effects of domestic violence in adults, teens and children. I continue to work primarily with clients who have witnessed or experienced domestic violence in various capacities throughout their lives. I also work with adult survivors of domestic violence and their children together to help establish healthy healing dynamics after the family has left an abusive dynamic.

— Lena Monteverdi, Counselor in Beaverton, OR

I have experience working with survivors of family abuse and intimate partner violence through my work in community mental health and through local domestic violence shelters. Through these experiences, I learned the importance of providing a space where you can access your own wisdom and trust your own choices, whether you are still in that relationship or if you left a long time ago. My priority with this population is to empower, support, and listen with unconditional positive regard.

— Melanie Arroyo Pérez, Licensed Professional Counselor in Olathe, KS

Lost your sense of self. Still catch yourself wondering if you made the right decision in ending that relationship, your family and people around you told you to keep trying to make it work. When it was good, it was so good, it made it worth the bad. You thought that it wasn't as bad as other relationships you've seen. I understand the complexity of intimate partner violence, and have helped individuals learn that a healthy relationship is possible and most importantly that you deserve it.

— April Weir, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have specialized training and certification in treating DV/IPV, and in particular, DV in queer relationships. I ran groups for aggressors for years, and am especially interested in helping people who are ready to let go of manipulating or controlling someone they love.

— Sara Stanizai, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

Mind games, manipulation, jealousy, control, fear, and feeling worthless are major pieces of abusive relationships that people don't often talk about or acknowledge. I have been working for many years with women that have been through the ringer in their relationships and have lost their identities or feel trapped and don't know how to get out. I empower people to find their inner voice and learn the best techniques to speak up for themselves and set healthy boundaries with unhealthy people.

— Lindsey Lowrance, Counselor in Lakewood, CO

I have 20 years of experience working in IPV prevention and response. I have worked with survivors in community organizations and private practice domestically and abroad.

— Amy Cleckler, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Durham, NC

I personally identify as a survivor of IPV, and consider it both a duty and an honor to offer support to those who recognize unhealthy patterns in their relationships, whether that currently means finding ways to cope with the situation, identifying sources of help and developing a safe exit plan, or processing the aftermath with the hope of moving forward toward freedom.

— Virginia Cailleteau, in Olympia, WA

DV is not just about physical. Emotional/Verbal abuse sometimes give you deeper wounds. Although I cannot give you legal advice, I'll support your decision. I have seen male victims of DV who express shame and guilt. I'd like to provide safe space for all victims.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Clara, CA

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX