Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

Meet the specialists

I did my early practice and training in domestic violence and abuse, working both with perpetrators and with victims. I have experience in trauma recovery and anger management.

— Leisa Watkins, Marriage & Family Therapist in Idaho Falls, ID
 

I have been working with those experiencing domestic violence since I started work as a therapist. I have received extensive training and have many hours of experience supporting those who are currently in, thinking about leaving, leaving, or have already left, unhealthy relationships. I hold a stance of non judgmental support as you contemplate whether to stay in your relationship-- a choice only you can make. I help connect you to resources when and if you're ready to leave.

— Anna McDonald, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I have worked with both men and women for their intimate partner violence issues since 1997.

— Diana Groener, Counselor in Beaverton, OR
 

DV is not just about physical. Emotional/Verbal abuse sometimes give you deeper wounds. Although I cannot give you legal advice, I'll support your decision. I have seen male victims of DV who express shame and guilt. I'd like to provide safe space for all victims.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Clara, CA

There are different stages where someone might seek treatment for physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse in one's intimate relationship. Initial stages may be when the survivor is in crisis and just needs safety and stabilization. We would not go into any trauma work at that point. But eventually, as the person has attained physical safety and some distance from this relationship, deeper work can be done to help the person heal long-time wounds and move toward healthier relationships. Additionally, I can refer clients to needed support and shelter resources if necessary.

— Rowena Dodson, Marriage & Family Therapist in Mountain View, CA
 

I have clinical experience in a domestic violence shelter setting working with outreach clients -- individuals, families, and in group settings. Safety is my first priority for you. Learning to recognize and accept that possible abuse (physical, emotional, financial, verbal, etc.) could be playing out in your life -- whether male, female, LGBTQ, or other -- is a first step to reclaiming your personal autonomy.

— Cindy Purifoy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

I have worked extensively with survivors of partner abuse, dating violence, stalking, and children, teens, and adult's who witnessed family violence. Some people may seek support in reducing harm in an abusive relationship, staying safe in leaving abuse, healing from past abuse, or finding intimacy after past abuse. I have also worked extensively with LGBTQ+ survivors of partner abuse, and am keenly aware of the barriers, stigma, and silence of LGBTQ+ partner abuse.

— Angelynn Hermes, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, CA
 

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

Experience as a domestic violence counselor for adults, adolescents and children through group, individual and family therapy.

— Grace Gufler, Counselor in Chicago, IL

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX
 

My entire life people that I love have been harmed by people who "love" them. From early high school to the present I come up against bullies that use the blunt and cowardly weapon of violence to preserve their personal world order or to expel their own hurt onto others. I have worked as a domestic violence advocate in confidential shelter, and with trafficked girls in jail. The meaning of helping someone find the call to freedom and joy from incarcerations of this kind is unspeakable.

— Eli Hastings, Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA

Research shows that both men and women can be victims of domestic violence or family violence, and both can be perpetrators as well. I have developed and published a domestic violence documentation format which also serves as an interview guide to thoroughly identify all forms of domestic or family violence. I perform domestic violence evaluations in immigration cases, and I also prepare extreme hardship evaluations in immigration cases. I can provide this service on a nationwide basis.

— Stephen Finstein, Therapist in Dallas, TX
 

I work with a number of organizations to support survivors of Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence.

— Briana Lefman, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Oceanside, CA
 

Domestic and intimate partner abuse can be displayed in a multitude of ways that can lead an individual to become isolated, suicidal and scared. Over a period of 19 years I worked closely with parents in the child welfare system (or therapeutically) who were separated from their children often due to domestic/intimate partner violence. My goal is to support you therapeutically, regain your confidence and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

— Bethanie Milford, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY

I specialize in working with individuals either currently involved in or recovering from narcissistic abuse. I have taken DV 101 Training through New Beginnings Domestic Violence Center in Seattle, WA, Family Law for the Mental Health Professional from Joseph Shaub, MA, JD in Bellevue, WA, and Sexual Assault Training though the Providence Hospital. Additionally, I have over 2 years of experience through community mental health working with both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence.

— Christine Cuhaciyan, Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

Sometimes we don't even realize when we're being abused. Instead, we may just feel that something is very wrong in our relationship, or in remembering a past relationship. Intimate partner violence can be physical, emotional, cultural, financial, social, sexual, cyber, and many more. It is a process to separate ourselves from abuse, but it is absolutely possible.

— Laura Angelucci, Therapist in Austell, GA

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX
 

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have served as an advocate directly for survivors as well as a systems advocate within a community; trained hundreds of professionals and citizens about intimate partner violence/IPV in the workplace/children exposed to IPV; and written journal articles and book chapters regarding women who are not primary aggressors who use force

— Donna Gardner-Jacoby, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Crystal Lake, IL