Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence

Domestic, or intimate partner violence, can take many forms. It is often violence used in an effort to gain and/or maintain control. Some of the more common types of domestic violence include physical abuse (hitting, pushing, hair-pulling, forced substance use), emotional abuse (insults, blame, or other methods to diminish a person's self-esteem), psychological abuse (threats, including against family, pets, friends, or the abuser themselves, stopping a partner from attending activities, or other manipulation), sexual abuse (coerced or demeaning sex acts), and financial abuse (controlling a partner's finances or restriction of financial resources like an allowance). The emotional effects of these types of abuse can be long lasting, and may cause depression, post-traumatic stress (PTSD), insomnia, emotional distance, and more. If you or someone you know is experiencing (or has experienced) abuse, a qualified therapist can help. It is also important for children who witness or experience domestic abuse to see a professional who specializes in the age group to prevent the trauma affecting adulthood and possibly perpetuating the cycle of abuse. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s abuse specialists for support today. 

Meet the specialists

I have been working with those experiencing domestic violence since I started work as a therapist. I have received extensive training and have many hours of experience supporting those who are currently in, thinking about leaving, leaving, or have already left, unhealthy relationships. I hold a stance of non judgmental support as you contemplate whether to stay in your relationship-- a choice only you can make. I help connect you to resources when and if you're ready to leave.

— Anna McDonald, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
 

There are different stages where someone might seek treatment for physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse in one's intimate relationship. Initial stages may be when the survivor is in crisis and just needs safety and stabilization. We would not go into any trauma work at that point. But eventually, as the person has attained physical safety and some distance from this relationship, deeper work can be done to help the person heal long-time wounds and move toward healthier relationships. Additionally, I can refer clients to needed support and shelter resources if necessary.

— Rowena Dodson, Marriage & Family Therapist in Mountain View, CA

I have served as an advocate directly for survivors as well as a systems advocate within a community; trained hundreds of professionals and citizens about intimate partner violence/IPV in the workplace/children exposed to IPV; and written journal articles and book chapters regarding women who are not primary aggressors who use force

— Donna Gardner-Jacoby, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Crystal Lake, IL
 

It's really hard to understand and make sense of an abusive relationship. After all, you've questioned yourself and your worth over and over since being with this person. It's my job to help you explore and understand what is happening in your relationship so you can make a choice that's best for you. It's NOT my job to convince you to leave, judge you, or give up on you.

— Kait Marcil, Licensed Professional Counselor in Watertown, CT

I have specialized training and certification in treating DV/IPV, and in particular, DV in queer relationships. I ran groups for aggressors for years, and am especially interested in helping people who are ready to let go of manipulating or controlling someone they love.

— Sara Stanizai, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA
 

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I specialize in working with individuals either currently involved in or recovering from narcissistic abuse. I have taken DV 101 Training through New Beginnings Domestic Violence Center in Seattle, WA, Family Law for the Mental Health Professional from Joseph Shaub, MA, JD in Bellevue, WA, and Sexual Assault Training though the Providence Hospital. Additionally, I have over 2 years of experience through community mental health working with both survivors and perpetrators of domestic violence.

— Christine Cuhaciyan, Counselor in Seattle, WA
 

DV is not just about physical. Emotional/Verbal abuse sometimes give you deeper wounds. Although I cannot give you legal advice, I'll support your decision. I have seen male victims of DV who express shame and guilt. I'd like to provide safe space for all victims.

— Junko Yamauchi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Clara, CA

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX
 

I have worked with both men and women for their intimate partner violence issues since 1997.

— Diana Groener, Counselor in Beaverton, OR

Domestic violence, or intimate partner violence (IPV), is so pervasive. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have reported experiencing IPV in their lifetime (this number is most likely higher in reality). Many homicides are the result of IPV, and preventing domestic violence is incredibly important for society. The healing process is comprised of many parts (grief, identity transitions/issues, healing from trauma, coping with stress, and much more). Empowerment is a key part of this as well.

— Nathan Jacquez, Counselor in Salt Lake City, UT
 

If you've been asking yourself "Am I crazy?" "Why can't I leave?", "Should I go no contact?" or even just "What is going on here?" you aren't alone! I offer a warm, positive and knowledgeable place to sort things out. As a survivor of domestic violence, I am a provider that can provide solid support, understanding and non-judgment. I also have specialized training in intimate partner violence, volunteered at the YWCA to facilitate survivor groups, and worked at the Portland Women's Crisis Line, Womens SAFES Shelter, and Washington County Crisis Team. I understand the difficulties involved in deciding how to manage these painful relationships, and how to heal what keeps you stuck. I also offer support groups so you can hear the perspective of others struggling with similar issues, and know you aren't alone.

— Tiffany Kettermann, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have over 9 years of experience in the domestic violence field. I have supported people in a variety of settings and capacities including an emergency domestic violence shelter, in support groups and in 1:1 counseling. I have expertise in supporting people who are currently in an abusive relationship, transitioning out of the relationship or having left the relationship. I am client centered in my work, meaning that I trust my clients to choose what is best for them and their situation.

— Amy Estrada, Counselor in Portland, OR

I have seven years of experience working with survivors of domestic violence, holding specific certifications in working with this population.

— Brittany Male, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North Aurora, IL
 

I have received 80 hours of training on domestic/sexual violence training and response.

— Liberty McClead, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Sharpsburg, GA

Mind games, manipulation, jealousy, control, fear, and feeling worthless are major pieces of abusive relationships that people don't often talk about or acknowledge. I have been working for many years with women that have been through the ringer in their relationships and have lost their identities or feel trapped and don't know how to get out. I empower people to find their inner voice and learn the best techniques to speak up for themselves and set healthy boundaries with unhealthy people.

— Lindsey Lowrance, Counselor in Lakewood, CO
 

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

Survivors of violence and abuse (assault, domestic violence, trafficking, stalking, etc) face particular challenges in our culture and society to access services, achieve justice, and receive healing. Despite the extraordinary strength and wisdom that survivors possess, they may feel alienated, alone, or misunderstood. We live in a culture that often blames the survivors for the violence or abuse they have experienced, making the healing process especially difficult. I have specialized training and experience in working with survivors of domestic violence/intimate partner violence, including serving survivors in the LGBTQIA+ community.

— Arianna Smith, Licensed Professional Counselor in Littleton, CO
 

Getting hurt by someone you’ve cared for is especially painful. While the physical traumas can be scary as hell, the emotional traumas can take a lot more work to heal. When I work with domestic violence survivors certain themes come up over and over again. Survivors often wonder if something’s wrong with them, why this person hurt them and why they might still care for them. These are complex questions worthy of exploration. Through a multi-modal approach that infuses relational, experiential and body-oriented approaches I help clients overcome trauma, create healthy boundaries, increase resilience, reclaim their sense of self and create the lives they wish to lead.

— Natalia Amari, Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

Research shows that both men and women can be victims of domestic violence or family violence, and both can be perpetrators as well. I have developed and published a domestic violence documentation format which also serves as an interview guide to thoroughly identify all forms of domestic or family violence. I perform domestic violence evaluations in immigration cases, and I also prepare extreme hardship evaluations in immigration cases. I can provide this service on a nationwide basis.

— Stephen Finstein, Marriage & Family Therapist in Dallas, TX

My entire life people that I love have been harmed by people who "love" them. From early high school to the present I come up against bullies that use the blunt and cowardly weapon of violence to preserve their personal world order or to expel their own hurt onto others. I have worked as a domestic violence advocate in confidential shelter, and with trafficked girls in jail. The meaning of helping someone find the call to freedom and joy from incarcerations of this kind is unspeakable.

— Eli Hastings, Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA
 

I specialize in healthy relationships. Having worked in a domestic violence shelter for multiple years, and finding many of my clients have experienced some form of partner violence. I find great passion in assisting clients in understanding what is unhealthy and finding ways to grow and heal into a stronger and healthier person.

— Natalie Coriell, Counselor in Shrewsbury, MO