Couples Counseling

Every couple fights once in a while. It’s a normal, and even healthy, part of most relationships. However, when the frequency and seriousness of your fights start affecting your health and well-being, it may be time to speak with a professional. A therapist specializing in couples counseling is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively), help you achieve goals together, or move past a specific event or cause of conflict (such as infidelity, sex, or household duties). In addition to helping those in a relationship have a healthier partnership, couples counseling can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give couples counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s couples counseling experts today.

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It’s normal that relationships change over time. It’s also normal to want the relationship you once had were you looked forward to being together and had a loving and trusting relationship. Relationships don’t come with “how to” manuals especially when you have been together for years. This is especially true when you have experienced a loss or there has been infidelity. Professional help is needed at that time. Don't wait until it's too late.

— Sonya DeWitt, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Spokane, WA

I use the Gottman Method in my work with couples and find it complements my overall theoretical orientation in that it is both relational and research-based. Sessions typically begin with an assessment process that includes a joint session and individual sessions for each partner. During this time I will also have you complete an online assessment. Following this process we will meet to identify your relationship's strengths and areas for growth and to develop a shared plan for change.

— Matthew Malouf, Psychologist in Baltimore, MD

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— Dr Dan Amzallag, Marriage & Family Therapist in Gaithersburg, MD

Working with relationship is one of my favorite things to do. Often couples need support and I love offering that support! I have completed levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman training., as well as a 40 hour meditation training with Center for Conflict Resolution.

— kaseja wilder, Counselor in Eugene, OR

Living and loving as a couple can be very wonderful and also SO EXTREMELY HARD. Asking for help to improve or save your relationship is very scary. I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy where it is believed that individual attachment styles inform how you relate in a couple. I help you and your partner identify the maladaptive ways in which you have been communicating and teach you healthy steps to improve and enhance your relationship.

— Laurie Levine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Herndon, VA

I am trained in Levels 1 & 2 of Gottman Relationship Therapy and am certified in Prepare and Enrich for premarital/couples counseling. I explore issues around conflict, infidelity, intimacy, and more with clients and help provide tools and practice to improve communication.

— Laura Barclay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Louisville, KY

I enjoy working with couples in better understanding themselves as individuals as well as a couple, how they each bring their own background and family upbringing to their relationship. I help couples establish goals and the steps to achieve those goals. This may include healing from broken trust, improving communication and conflict resolution skills, establishing expectations, and more.

— Christine Hurst, Counselor in Kalispell, MT

As a couples counselor, I view the relationship itself as the client. It is not my role, nor my job, to make judgements or take sides. The goal is to help both parties communicate better with each other and be truly heard and understood by the other. I use various techniques from EFT, Gottman, and Imago.

— Rivka (Rochkind) Janowski, LPC, Licensed Professional Counselor

I believe couples come together to heal something. It doesn’t necessarily look like that on the surface. But when conflicts pop up (and they usually/always do) that’s an invitation to get curious about the feelings hidden underneath. When you are willing to be honest with yourself and become vulnerable, you can make new choices instead of the same old pattern. That’s when change occurs.

— Colette Whitaker, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Monrovia, CA

I have worked with many couples online. I always want to have at least one session with each member of the couple because, in many cases, members of the couple do not feel they are able to fully express their thoughts when in the presence of the other. Cognitive and behavioral approaches can make a huge differences in improiving relationships, but it's also importsnt to recognize there are some cases where the diiferences are too great in values, or lifestyle choices etc

— Milton Mankoff, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

I have trained in specialized couples counseling including Imago, Gottman, EFT, and have developed some of my own specialized communication guidelines to help couples learn how to speak to each other and how to get close to each other again, even if they feel very far away from each other.

— Jennifer Duke, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Are you feeling distant from your partner? Have you lost that 'loving feeling" you once had? We can help you reconnect and rebuild a healthy, satisfying relationship with your loved one. It is possible to have a relationship you look forward to going home to once again. To live a satisfying life, we must nourish relationships that make us feel happier, healthier, and more effective in all areas of our life. I can help you and your partner create a supportive and loving relationship.

— Carlene Lehmann, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX

I stand by the statement, "When couples are in conflict it's rarely about the dishes." I take a broad emotionally focused therapy approach to couples work, and believe healing begins through active listening, identification of one's own feelings and the exploration of life before the relationship.

— Robert Novickas, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

My license is in Marriage & Family Therapy which equips me to work with relationships of all types. My approach to couples work is somewhat eclectic, always experiential and embodied using somatic psychology, attachment theory, the Five Love Languages, and Nonviolent Communication. I believe having a whole sense of self vs becoming enmeshed in a partnership has a healthier balance. Just as much as I work with couples to deepen their communication, emotional intimacy and reconnect intimately, I also work with some couples to consciously uncouple and liberate each other to new life experiences. I am comfortable working with all configurations of relationships including same sex, open marriages, and poly/kink clients.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

I have personally experienced a rich and generative 30 year marriage, the heartbreaking transition of divorce and mid-life dating and relationships. As a Life-Cycle Celebrant and a therapist I have been honored to work with diverse couples and families at the thresholds of marriage and the birth of children. When couples have lost intimacy and connection, I enjoy helping them communicate, rediscover their vitality and clarify how they want to live -- sometimes together, sometimes apart.

— Amy Benedict, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in New Paltz, NY

Strong intimate relationships serve as a solid foundation for many of life's, friendships, leisure, and spiritual pursuits. I have enjoyed a 30+ year relationship with my wife, and that relationship has given me the confidence to become my best self. I have helped many couples work through a wide variety of conflicts, including affairs, financial disagreements, parenting issues, poor communication, and many other problems. With your willing participation, I can help you, too!

— Matt Merrick, Counselor in Catalina, AZ

We struggle and thrive in our relationships, they are so very important. Working with partners is core to my helping approach.

— Dr. Anna Yam, Clinical Psychologist in San Diego, CA

I have had specialized training working with infidelity/affairs, emotionally focused therapy, relational life therapy and Gottman Method. I continue to receive further training in these methods and other approaches.

— Julia Ayraud, Counselor in The Woodlands, TX

Does it feel like you ‘need to win’ when you are your partner argue? Do you want to improve your sex life and intimacy? We will use proven techniques to improve your communication with your partner to improve your relationship.

— Dr. Dan Sneider-Cotter, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Couples counseling is for romantic and non-romantic partners who find that they are in a negative pattern they cannot change. Counseling gives you a safe space to explore difficult and complex topics within your relationship. Couples counseling can be helpful to establish a new way of communicating that includes talking and listening empathically. It can help you identify and attend to your partner’s needs. It can increase and restore intimacy. You can work to make your relationship a safe, loving, and enjoyable place. Couples seek counseling for a number for reasons: constant fighting, lack of enjoyment with your partner, feelings of anger or jealousy, parenting problems, lack of intimacy, extended family conflicts, infidelity, and differences in lifestyle. Ignoring these problems will intensify them and cause more distance in your relationship. Couples therapy is open to LGBTQ couples, straight couples, and polyamorous relationships. Couples counseling is useful to non-romantic parties as well – business partners, dance partners, writing partners, anyone in a close relationship that could use some help.

— Lauren Rigney, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

When chronic pain and illness is involved, couples often feel the need to tackle the struggles together as dynamics change. Often one person in a couple becomes a caregiver when the other is having health issues. We work with couples together to help them learn how to work as a unit to process and combat the pain/illness. It's not uncommon for pain/illness to create a rift in a couple. When this happens we can help you reconnect and look past the pain that is affecting the relationship.

— Jennifer Sutton, Counselor in Raleigh, NC

Sometimes relationships slip off the road - let's catch it and fix it before you end up in a rut! So many times the issue is communication: your partner just does not understand what you are saying. Let me help translate! It can be very lonely when you feel you are not heard or you are not getting your needs met. Relationships don't have to be hard - let's fix it!

— Dr. Marcia Norman, Psychologist in Winter Park, FL

I love helping new couples create healthy foundations of all aspects of their relationship so that they can go forward with confidence and strong connection to each other. In addition to new couples counseling, I sometimes use the PREPARE/ENRICH (R) tool. I also love helping less-than-new couples break out of frustrating ruts of unhelpful behaviors and create lovely and loving new connections to each other. I help them learn again to look for and create joy in their togetherness.

— JoEllen Lange, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Paul, MN

The couple is the primary source of love in any family and this often gets forgotten as time passes. I love assisting people rekindle their passion and dedication to the success of their relationship.

— Jodie Shea, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Huntington Beach, CA

I have been treating couples for three years and employ various treatment methods when doing so. Those include Gottman, EFT, Imago, Narrative Therapy, and Positive Psychology.

— Madeline Turner, Counselor in Austin, TX

As a licensed marriage and family therapist associate, my education and focus has been on fostering successful relationships between people - whether those are familial, romantic, or sexual. Couples are amazing: building trust, connection, and shared values takes energy! From pre-marital counseling to conflict resolution, I am passionate about this work and the benefits it provides to you, your partner(s), and the community around you.

— Katrina Knizek, Counselor in Spokane, WA

Intimate relationships can be the most rewarding and the most difficult part of our lives. I am honored to help couples communicate more successfully, notice and have gratitude for the aspects of their relationship that they cherish, notice and eliminate patters and behaviors that are damaging to the relationship and hurtful to each member of the couple.

— Whitney Showler, Marriage & Family Therapist in Culver City, CA

I help couples find again their points of connection, and to learn new skills for communicating in a positive way. I integrate tools from EFT, Gottman and Bader/Pearson to find the best way to support your couple in reaching your goals.

— Diana Mendelson, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SANTA ROSA, CA