Couples Counseling

Every couple fights once in a while. It’s a normal, and even healthy, part of most relationships. However, when the frequency and seriousness of your fights start affecting your health and well-being, it may be time to speak with a professional. A therapist specializing in couples counseling is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively), help you achieve goals together, or move past a specific event or cause of conflict (such as infidelity, sex, or household duties). In addition to helping those in a relationship have a healthier partnership, couples counseling can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give couples counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s couples counseling experts today.

Meet the specialists

 

Couples can be complicated. Certainly, therapy for couples can be complex. Not only are there two people to consider, but the relationship between them! So really there are three entities that need to be attended to as therapy progresses. I am trained in two very powerful, research-based methods for dealing with couples: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and the Gottman Method. Fortunately, these methods work well side by side, and I borrow from each of them when work with a particular couple seems to need something they offer. Therapy is never "cookie cutter" - each person and relationship is different and unique. That's why multiple approaches offer the best probability of reaching the relationship where it most needs healing. I help couples find their way back to each other, when time and life and misunderstandings have them miles apart. Give me a call and let's get your relationship on the road to health.

— Diana Walla, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in West Lake Hills, TX

I enjoy working with couples and wrote a book about called Mindful Loving, which is a best seller. I can teach you several methods to have a more peaceful and enjoyable marriage.

— Henry Grayson, Psychologist in New York, NY
 

Working with relationship is one of my favorite things to do. Often couples need support and I love offering that support! I have completed levels 1 and 2 of the Gottman training., as well as a 40 hour meditation training with Center for Conflict Resolution.

— kaseja wilder, Counselor in Eugene, OR
 

I welcome couples of all genders and orientations. I use Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work, which is a research-based treatment that helps you build on your foundation of friendship and respect, and learn to let the little things go. I have extensive training in assessing and treating intimate partner violence, which is any pattern of manipulation or control, up to and including violence. Couples counseling isn't always the best place to start in some situations, so I offer a free consultation to help you and/or your partner figure out your next steps.

— Sara Stanizai, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

I use Imago and EFT with couples. Communication tools can only go so far, often an individual needs to be heard by the therapist to find the courage to talk their "unsafe" partner. When heard and validated empowerment shows up and then there is movement. When are designed for connection, but sometimes we are not sure what that looks like. Sometimes in couples counseling, my job is to educate what boundaries, accountability, and a true partnership is like in a relationship. Not everyone grew up in a functional household, but with commitment and hard work, the reward of a healthy relationship is possible.

— Elizabeth Havens, Marriage & Family Therapist in Orlando, FL
 

Couples counseling can help couples with a wide range of issues both positive and negative. Therapy will help give the couple insight into their shared strengths and weaknesses, as well as help identify these with each individual. As your therapist, I will act as a neutral mediator to help teach you better ways to communicate, build/rebuild trust and intimacy, and solve problems together. Couples willing to remain open and committed can overcome problems and increase their bond with one another.

— Melissa Kramer, Clinical Social Worker in Red Bank, NJ

Couples therapy is helpful for many couples whether dating, living together, maintaining a long-distance relationship, or in a stable, long-term marriage.  Some typical issues addressed in couples therapy are infidelity, chronic illness, sex, anger, communication problems, child rearing, finances, substance abuse, and culture clashes. You don't have to be in the midst of a crisis to seek out help. I create a safe place for both partners to establish compassionate communication and

— Ania Scanlan, Counselor in Roseville, MN

The majority of my practice is couples counseling. I strongly believe in the power of healthy relationships and the potential they provide us. When we are happy in our relationships, everything in the world seems great and when we are having problems in our relationships, everything in life seems like it is falling apart even if it isn't. I love helping couples build happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships and have better sex!

— Corrin Voeller, Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Louis Park, MN
 

I provide couples and marriage counseling for a wide range of relationship issues. Communication problems, parenting issues (where parents do not agree on how to parent), intimacy issues, lack of connection, trust issues, and infidelity–including emotional affairs. Even in the best relationships, patterns that were once functional and helpful may become dysfunctional and disruptive. Identifying what those patterns are and how to change them can help a couple break out of a negative and unproductive cycle. These patterns are often road blocks to improved intimacy, communications and happiness together. Even in the most difficult circumstances, in therapy, couples often find ways to move past bad times and either stay together in a stronger relationship/marriage or separate/divorce in a less contentious manner. Occasionally couples come to marriage counseling with the goal of separating. Whether the intention is to stay together or separate, our goal in therapy is for either a harmonious marriage or a harmonious divorce. Ugly divorces cause more pain and suffering to everyone.

— Marion Rollings, Psychologist in Hillsborough, NJ

Creating structures and practices to help you communicate more deeply and authentically with your partner.

— Karen Wolfe, Marriage & Family Therapist in San francisco, CA
 

Well, I've been blissfully married for decades (to the same guy!) and so know from experience how very challenging relationships can be. Also, for ten years I lead two weekly groups that grounded my expertise as a guide for the couples' journey. I will always be grateful for what those individuals taught me. They demonstrated the humanity and dedication to overcome almost any obstacle in order to enjoy a great partnership. In return, I introduced them to the best models, theories, videos, movies and books out there about healthy relationships. I truly believe in, and can teach you, how to make your lasting relationship hot, and your hot relationship last.

— Valerie Keim, Counselor in Pleasant Hill, CA

I ENJOY TREATING COUPLES AS I HAVE BEEN HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL IN PINPOINTING THE ISSUES THAT BRING COUPLES OFF THE TRACK OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE AND WORK INTENSELY TO DETERMINE IF WE CAN REIGNITE THAT RELATIONSHIP. OUR GOAL IS TO TRY TO RESTORE THE MARRIAGE TO A PLACE WHERE BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE FEEL RESPECTED LOVED AND HONORED FOR WHO THEY ARE AS INDIVIDUALS AND THEIR ROLE IN THE MARRIAGE. 95% OF THE COUPLES I HAVE WORKED WITH HAVE LEFT HAPPIER, NO LONGER THREATENING TERMINATION OF THE MARRIAGE.

— Miriam Zuroff, Psychologist in Farmington Hills, MI

When working with couples, regardless of what stage the relationship is in, I emphasize honesty, open communication, and the elimination of assumptions in order to encourage healing and understanding within each partner.

— Karen Foreman, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in AURORA, IL
 

When you have family in your name, you know you have to specialize in couples counseling. The owner, Amy Rollo, has doctoral level training in almost 2 doctorates in marriage and family therapy. Our training includes Gottman, Emotion Focused Therapy, Sex Therapy, IMAGO, narrative therapy, and solution focused therapy.

— Heights Family Counseling, Counselor in Houston, TX

I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as well as the Gottman Method, both which provide a spectrum of insight into the emotional and practical sides of couple's work. EFT provides the "digging down" that connecting work requires, getting you into the motivations of your behaviors and ultimately the unmet needs and propel your interactions. The Gottman Method provides valuable practical interventions that gives couples the framework and tools to have effective communication as well as tools for everyday interaction.

— Erin Sanchez, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Kirkland, WA
 

I ENJOY TREATING COUPLES AS I HAVE BEEN HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL IN PINPOINTING THE ISSUES THAT BRING COUPLES OFF THE TRACK OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE AND WORK INTENSELY TO DETERMINE IF WE CAN REIGNITE THAT RELATIONSHIP. OUR GOAL IS TO TRY TO RESTORE THE MARRIAGE TO A PLACE WHERE BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE FEEL RESPECTED LOVED AND HONORED FOR WHO THEY ARE AS INDIVIDUALS AND THEIR ROLE IN THE MARRIAGE. 95% OF THE COUPLES I HAVE WORKED WITH HAVE LEFT HAPPIER, NO LONGER THREATENING TERMINATION OF THE MARRIAGE.

— Miriam Zuroff, Psychologist in Farmington Hills, MI

I work with couples primarily using the EFT model. I have spent years studying relationships and am familiar with traditional as well as non-traditional relationship structures.

— Allison Zamani, Associate Professional Clinical Counselor in San Francisco, CA
 

I work with couples to improve communication and connection. I help couples learn to be vulnerable with one another creating greater emotional intimacy.

— Lynne Coon, Counselor in Portland, OR

In addition to my experience responding to the needs of persons with histories of trauma, I am trained as a couples and family therapist. I have considerable experience with couples struggling with infertility, family planning, adoption, child-rearing, difference in culture, background or temperament, or struggling with illness, disability, separation, divorce, remarriage, care-giving and questions and conflicts regarding lifestyle or decision making. I have been broadly trained in a variety of modalities with known efficacy in supporting couples, and draw from attachment theory, AEDP, EFT and Collaborative Couple's Therapy in my work. As a therapist, I am kind, thoughtful, warm and fair. I am deeply committed to assisting couples to learn and grow together as partners, and believe that the struggles we experience in our relationships are often an incredible opportunity for learning, growth and deepening understanding and closeness.

— Rawna Romero, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Alameda, CA
 

I really enjoy working with all types of couples on topics ranging from sex, marriage and communication and infidelity, long term goal setting. I have worked with gay, straight, bi-sexual and trans couples.

— Jenn Kennedy, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Barbara, CA
 

As a counselor trained specifically in couples, marriage, and family therapy, I specialize in relationship counseling with all types of couples, including straight, gay, queer, trans, non-binary, poly, and kink. I use a variety of proven modalities with couples to support each unique relationship. Past clients have appreciated my ability to make them feel safe to explore what's really going on.

— Kelly Arthur, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR
 

I use my training in couples therapy most frequently with couples who find themselves in unmapped territory. Sometimes this is due to life plans not working out, which means developing a new vision together. Sometimes a trauma or betrayal has occurred. I specialize in ​relationship therapy for gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual clients. I also work with relationships where one or more people are gender non-conforming. In particular, I'm experienced in working with couples where one person is considering a gender transition.

— Kathryn Stinson, Counselor in St. Louis, MO

Strong intimate relationships serve as a solid foundation for many of life's endeavors...career, friendships, leisure, and spiritual pursuits. I have enjoyed a 30+ year relationship with my wife, and that relationship has given me the confidence to become my best self. I have helped many couples work through a wide variety of conflicts, including affairs, financial disagreements, parenting issues, poor communication, and many other problems. With your willing participation, I can help you, too!

— Matt Merrick, Counselor in Catalina, AZ
 

I LOVE WORKING WITH COUPLES, HELPING THEM TO PINPOINT WHAT ISSUES HAVE CAUSED THEIR MARRIAGE TO GET DERAILED AND WHETHER OR NOT WE CAN GET THEM BACK ON TRACK TO A HEALTHIER, HAPPIER MARRIAGE. MY GOAL IS TO HELP THE HUSBAND AND WIFE ONCE AGAIN (OR FOR THE FIRST TIME) FEEL LOVED, RESPECTED AND HONORED IN THEIR MARRIAGE. 95% OF MY COUPLES WALK OUT HAPPIER THAN WHEN THEY BEGAN THERAPY AND ARE NO LONGER THREATENING TERMINATION OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.

— Miriam Zuroff, Psychologist in Farmington Hills, MI

I love fighting couples, I really do. People who directly engage with intensity and emotion are people who want something to change. My approach is to deal with all of the messy details of relating, sorting it out carefully, safely, and even artfully with couples in relationships, helping develop personalized strategies that work for those two people, not a textbook couple, or a TV couple whose relationship isn't realistically possible. And, I love silent and alienated couples, just as much. Couples who have lost hope. Couples who have lost the way to their original passionate linkage. I work lovingly and carefully to re-establish trust and to open communication, to determine whether mutually satisfactory ways of relating can be re-established, or even established for the first time ever, in real world terms. My goal for each couple is to help them each come to an agreement as to how and where to proceed, using gentle care and fostering understanding, acceptance, whatever the outcome.

— Carol Tyler, Psychologist in Bellingham, WA
 

While in school my focus was immediately on couple work, and that has continued throughout my practice and accounts for the bulk of my work. Over the years a unique addition came in the form of divorced or separated pairs seeking to co-parent effectively. I've worked with many families like this and it's become a passion of mine to help families function well even when they've decided to live apart.

— Molly Lizzio, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Syracuse, NY

Sometimes people are unsure how a third party can help a relationship feel better. My office is a safe space where everybody is heard. All are equally important. Relationship or family members will safely explore how they might shift their part of the relational 'system', freeing other members to respond differently too. We will work on communication skills, empathy, self-awareness, potential power adjustments and more. When a problematic interaction between feelings and behaviors changes, then the whole relationship changes. Feelings of love, trust, safety and tenderness, perhaps buried for a long time, can resurface. Once they do we work to understand how to care for the relationship moving forward. You and your loved ones will leave therapy equipped with new tools to face life's challenges.

— Hugh Simmons, Clinical Social Worker in Austin, TX

I have training in EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and in The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy developed by Ellyn Bader, PhD and Pete Pearson, PhD. I am part of a consultation group of couples therapists who provide ideas and support, so that I can get feedback and information to be able to bring you the expertise of many other therapists when I am working with you!

— Amy McManus, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

I have seen hundreds of couples and helped them repair and refresh their relationships, from newly dating to married for decades.

— Raffi Bilek, Counselor in Baltimore, MD
 

Couples Therapy provided at AVL Couples Therapy is intended for happy couples who are committed to each other and want to enhance their relationship. You know that you two are good together, but you are looking to work on those parts of your relationship that are a little less than stellar.

— Cindy Norton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Asheville, NC

We specialize in helping couples dealing with a variety of common couple challenges and situations: -Communication blocks -Repeat Arguments -Disconnection and distance -Not feeling understood or a priority -Not feeling good enough for your partner; unable to make them happy -Not feeling like you can count on the other -Improving sexual connection -Desire discrepancies -Improving sexual satisfaction -Communication about sex -Relationship injury repair such as affairs or addiction -Rebuilding trust -Dealing with jealousy -Betrayal trauma and PTSD from relationship injuries or infidelity -Helping couples on the brink - can we repair? -Working with relationship ambivalence or uncertainty -Divorce prevention -Peaceful divorce -Parenting challenges -Not on the same parenting page -Lack of parenting support -Blending families -In-law conflict -Extended family relationships -Couples who work together; family business -Navigating religious differences

— Thrive Couple & Family Counseling Services, Counselor in Greenwood Village, CO
 

Couples counseling can help couples with a wide range of issues both positive and negative. Therapy will help give the couple insight into their shared strengths and weaknesses, as well as help identify these with each individual. The therapist will act as a neutral mediator to help teach the couple better ways to communicate, build/rebuild trust and intimacy, and solve problems together. Couples willing to remain open and committed can overcome problems and increase their bond with one another.

— Melissa Kramer, Clinical Social Worker in Red Bank, NJ
 

Our approach is based on the following: •Therapy for couples by couples: offering a balanced perspective and positive experience for both members in the relationship. •The couple is seen together—ensuring partners change at the same pace. •An integrated approach: We work with all aspects of the relationship. •The common goal: Experience tells us that relationships work when each of the partners feels the other holds them as the most important person in their lives.

— William Drier, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Waterloo, IA

I ENJOY TREATING COUPLES AS I HAVE BEEN HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL IN PINPOINTING THE ISSUES THAT BRING COUPLES OFF THE TRACK OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE AND WORK INTENSELY TO DETERMINE IF WE CAN REIGNITE THAT RELATIONSHIP. OUR GOAL IS TO TRY TO RESTORE THE MARRIAGE TO A PLACE WHERE BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE FEEL RESPECTED LOVED AND HONORED FOR WHO THEY ARE AS INDIVIDUALS AND THEIR ROLE IN THE MARRIAGE. 95% OF THE COUPLES I HAVE WORKED WITH HAVE LEFT HAPPIER, NO LONGER THREATENING TERMINATION OF THE MARRIAGE.

— Miriam Zuroff, Psychologist in Farmington Hills, MI
 

Sometimes it is hard to see "the forest but for the trees." I look to help you with power struggles, and to explore what is and isn't working in your relationship. It's very important to get past our defenses, to "see beyond the trees," and gain understanding as to the issues at hand from each partner's perspective. Once we feel heard, we can hear the other with greater clarity. i utilize many different approaches, including Imago therapy.

— darrell marsh, in Los Angeles, CA

Completed post-graduate training in couples and family therapy at the Ackerman Institute and had trained in several other couples therapy approached including EFT and Gottman. I have over a decade of practice in the field and now teach and supervise students of couples and family therapy.

— stephanie manes, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY
 

I specialize in working with couples. My approach in couples therapy is fair, kind and collaborative. Often couples that come to me for help have found themselves locked in a pattern of relating that leads again and again to the problems they are hoping to address in couples therapy. I help couples identify and alter these patterns, often with insight into how they developed in the first place. We might also explore the connection between these patterns and each partner’s experience of early formative relationships.

— Bear Korngold, Clinical Psychologist in San Francisco, CA

My license is in Marriage & Family Therapy which equips me to work with relationships of all types. My approach to couples work is somewhat eclectic, always experiential and embodied using somatic psychology, attachment theory, the Five Love Languages, and Nonviolent Communication. I believe having a whole sense of self vs becoming enmeshed in a partnership has a healthier balance. Just as much as I work with couples to deepen their communication, emotional intimacy and reconnect intimately, I also work with some couples to consciously uncouple and liberate each other to new life experiences. I am comfortable working with all configurations of relationships including same sex, open marriages, and poly/kink clients.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) as well as the Gottman Method, both which provide a spectrum of insight into the emotional and practical sides of couple's work. EFT provides the "digging down" that connecting work requires, getting you into the motivations of your behaviors and ultimately the unmet needs and propel your interactions. The Gottman Method provides valuable practical interventions that gives couples the framework and tools to have effective communication as well as tools for everyday interaction.

— Erin Sanchez, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Kirkland, WA

I have spent the last several years focusing intently on this area and learning as much as I can. I have studied various techniques and employed them with clients. Couples work has been so rewarding for me as a professional that I continue to be motivated to learn as much as I can! I have spent countless hours with couples and feel my skill set is a great fit in this area!

— Rachel Stapleton, Clinical Social Worker in Kirkland, WA
 

I enjoy working with both individuals and couples. I find that working with people within the couple relationship often improves the quality of life each individual significantly. Conversely, when working within the couple relationship, it is sometimes discovered that individual work is essential before a couple can improve their relationship, as one or both people within the relationship may need to do some of their own personal work before the relationship can improve.

— Colleen Burke-Sivers, Counselor in Portland, OR

Couples counseling is for romantic and non-romantic partners who find that they are in a negative pattern they cannot change. Counseling gives you a safe space to explore difficult and complex topics within your relationship. Couples counseling can be helpful to establish a new way of communicating that includes talking and listening empathically. It can help you identify and attend to your partner’s needs. It can increase and restore intimacy. You can work to make your relationship a safe, loving, and enjoyable place. Couples seek counseling for a number for reasons: constant fighting, lack of enjoyment with your partner, feelings of anger or jealousy, parenting problems, lack of intimacy, extended family conflicts, infidelity, and differences in lifestyle. Ignoring these problems will intensify them and cause more distance in your relationship. Couples therapy is open to LGBTQ couples, straight couples, and polyamorous relationships. Couples counseling is useful to non-romantic parties as well – business partners, dance partners, writing partners, anyone in a close relationship that could use some help.

— Lauren Rigney, Mental Health Counselor in New York, NY

I believe that the key to strong and enduring relationships is the development of a strong sense of self. While the goal for most couples is to create a deep sense of intimacy, developing a strong sense of self is a prerequisite to creating emotional connection. Initially, the primary focus in my work with individuals, couples, and families is the individual growth and differentiation of each person in order to increase a strong sense of self. My work with clients then moves toward increasing their capacity to accept and tolerate differences, a process that must occur prior to increasing the emotional bond. The objective of my work is to facilitate the process of knowing yourself, which includes knowing what you need and want. You are responsible for articulating what you need and want to your partner and/or others from a direct and non-judgmental perspective that includes self awareness and the desire to know yourself and others you are connected to. I facilitate you, your partner, and/or other family members in identifying and communicating your needs and wants to each other.

— Kathy Hardie-Williams, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tigard, OR
 

We've structured modern life around the idea that one big relationship should be everything: the place where you get acceptance and intimacy, friendship and love, spontaneity and mischief. Everything all rolled into one. And for so many, and maybe you too, it’s just not working. Let’s be honest, relationships are complicated. We want too much, or expect too little, from our partner(s) and often WE don’t know exactly what we want, much less how to ask for it. Add in sex, and our societal taboos around discussing it, and you can get a big mess. I’m committed to guiding individuals, couples, and partnerships to more pleasurable intimate experiences and lives. We’ll work together to create forward-thinking tools to help you speak clearly and sincerely around what you need to enjoy the intimate life you want.

— Madeline Fox, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

My work with couples is eclectic depending on what the partners or spouses need both as a couple and as individuals. I primarily use a Systems approach and Emotionally Focused Therapy approach. In addition. However, I borrow from other's work like John Gottman when relevant. In addition, I will give brief homework or related readings that may highlight or reinforce the issues and concerns surfacing in our therapy session. On my website I have recommended books and other sources that may be help

— M. Douglas Evans, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Ann Arbor, MI