Couples Counseling

If you and your partner are struggling with conflict, I know how frustrating that can be. I also know how hard it is to change and how helpless that feels. Couples counseling can help you make the lasting changes you need to stop fighting and start repairing your relationship. Unlike many therapists, I specialize in working with couples. That means I have the training, tools, and expertise to help you work through the complicates issues in your relationship and repair your bond.

I have expertise with CNM, open, and poly couples

I enjoy working with couples and people in relationships of all sorts. I personally think this is an exciting time to be alive, as our society is collectively questioning the "traditional" patriarchal and colonization based ideas many of us were taught. I focus on using mindfulness, Nonviolent Communication, and co-regulation to help you feel more connected to your partner(s).

Sometimes resolution of an issue is not the end goal but better understanding of your partner is. Through understanding and greater appreciation conflicts fade. I help couples identify the patterns that are preventing happiness and what steps each partner can take to improve their relationship. I specialize in LGBTQ couples.

I have completed several Gottman trainings and I am listed on the Gottman Institute website. I have extensive experience in pre-marital counseling, couples counseling , surviving infidelity and counseling couples with ADHD. I work with couples on how to really listen, how to have constructive conflict, how to see each other with compassion and understanding, how to increase connection and intimacy. The best relationships do not happen; they are made though conscious action.

Couples may struggle with a variety of issues from communication, to conflict resolution to sexual desire discrepancy to betrayal. I am passionate about helping couples hear each other, manage disagreements and atone for betrayal. I can help couples rediscover the love and desire they had for their partner and to reconnect. Let's explore ways to be intentional about your relationship, to prioritize the pleasure, passion and play in your relationships and your lives!

I have years of developed expertise in couples therapy. I integrate research from the field with clinical knowledge to create individualized plans for each couple. I pull from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy, and Attachment Theory.

My focus and track in graduate school was couples and families and I have continued my work since constantly obtaining new education, training and reading about techniques to help couples from various backgrounds that find themselves in my office.

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.

I will work with you to bring hopefulness, emotional connection, healthy communication, and spark back into your life. We will work together to develop a plan to build your strongest relationship. Family counseling may include 2 or more family members to help heal relationships, open lines of communication, and learn new coping strategies.

Committing to being real with each other, to explore our own expectations and assumptions, to uncover our unconscious motives and patterns, to talk about what we want, to admit our faults, accept each other's limitations, learn and practice healthy communication, get out of our own way so we can be a lot happier in this relationship and with each other so we can go the distance and enjoy our relationship. I favor Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and mix in EFT and Gottman.

Couples counseling can be a lifeline, providing the guidance and support you need to get back on track and feel closer to your partner. It's an investment in your future happiness and well-being as a couple. Don't be afraid to take the first step and ask for support. You deserve to have the love and connection you want and deserve.

I am trained in PACT couples therapy. PACT is a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. This approach is collaborative, experiential, and based on attachment therapy. We will work to uncover how you and your partner understand relationships based on your formative relationships, those of your parents. Together we will strive to create security, stability, and safety between you and your partner so that you can have a secure attachment. I work with traditional and non-traditional couples.

My approach in working with couples is to have each person learn about their own inner dynamics. I talk about turning the "microscope on yourself" to learn what is really driving you so that you can communicate your needs more clearly. You cannot communicate clearly what you aren't clear on within yourself. Most folks are focused on changing the other person, yet your partners is a mirror to see your own dynamics. this is powerful & courageous work.

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.