Couples Counseling

Every couple fights once in a while. It’s a normal, and even healthy, part of most relationships. However, when the frequency and seriousness of your fights start affecting your health and well-being, it may be time to speak with a professional. A therapist specializing in couples counseling is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively), help you achieve goals together, or move past a specific event or cause of conflict (such as infidelity, sex, or household duties). In addition to helping those in a relationship have a healthier partnership, couples counseling can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give couples counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s couples counseling experts today.

Meet the specialists

John Gottman's research found that emotionally intelligent couples are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds. They know each other’s goals in life, worries, and dreams. Without such a love map, you can’t know your partner. From knowledge springs not only love, but the fortitude to weather marital storms. Couples who have detailed love maps of each other’s worlds are far better prepared to cope with stressful events and conflict.

— Tom Bolls, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

There is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship. When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right mate. Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples can understand each other.

— Cheryl Holmes, Licensed Professional Counselor in Daphne, AL

My license is in Marriage & Family Therapy which equips me to work with relationships of all types. My approach to couples work is somewhat eclectic, always experiential and embodied using somatic psychology, attachment theory, the Five Love Languages, and Nonviolent Communication. I believe having a whole sense of self vs becoming enmeshed in a partnership has a healthier balance. Just as much as I work with couples to deepen their communication, emotional intimacy and reconnect intimately, I also work with some couples to consciously uncouple and liberate each other to new life experiences. I am comfortable working with all configurations of relationships including same sex, open marriages, and poly/kink clients.

— Vanessa Tate, Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO
 

~Increase intimacy, improve sexual satisfaction or develop more romance ~Cooperate more effectively in parenting their children ~Support each other better in managing stress. Sources of stress may include the demands of employment, health concerns, or the responsibilities of parenting. ~Support each other when one or both partners have suffered emotionally, such as after a loss or an illness.

— Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, Hypnotherapist in Phoenix, AZ

It is important for me to get to know you and your partner within your relationship. This means that I want to see what your relationship “looks like” with the dynamics, roles, and expectations. This is a really important piece for marriage counseling because it can give me a lot of information. I’m also curious to see the patterns that exist in your current relationship and how your attachment issues that developed in childhood impact how you navigate current relationship patterns.

— Jennifer Gay, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Dallas, TX
 

Couples therapy helps us navigate the most complex thing on Earth - the human relationship. We all struggle in relationships from time to time. We fight, we bicker, we threaten, we cheat. Eventually, we need some help. By weaving together attachment theory, neuroscience, mindfulness, and the most effective couples therapy approaches, I help couples fall in love again.

— Chris Tickner, PhD, MFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

Working with couples is some of the most important work that I do. I don't believe that it has to be too late to have people rediscover each other and create the lives that they want to leave. Couples work bridges gender, in that it mainly involves two people who want to make their relationship work, whatever else is going on. Esther Perel has said that couples work often involves making sense of a play which you didn't know you were auditioning for. I can help you find your way.

— Gilbert Bliss, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Towson, MD
 

I am trained in PACT couples therapy. PACT is a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. This approach is collaborative, experiential, and based on attachment therapy. We will work to uncover how you and your partner understand relationships based on your formative relationships, those of your parents. Together we will strive to create security, stability, and safety between you and your partner so that you can have a secure attachment. I work with traditional and non-traditional couples.

— Jenna Noah, Counselor in Denver, CO

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.

— Deann Acton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Austin, TX
 

When couples are in conflict it's rarely about the dishes. I take an emotionally focused therapy approach to couples work, and believe healing begins through active listening, identification of one's own feelings and the exploration of life before the relationship.

— Robert Novickas, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

As human beings, we need relationships to survive. But relationships are also very difficult! Our practice focuses on helping our clients build thriving relationships and increase meaningful connection in their lives. Our co-owners, Paul & Kaitlin Kindman are both Level Two PACT Therapists (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) who specialize in helping couples to deepen intimacy, security, and contentment in their relationship and repair ruptures and betrayals.

— Kindman & Co. Therapy Practice, Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

I enjoy my work with couples a great deal. Oftentimes couples do not realize they are bringing their entire families and family histories into their relationship - whether physically invited there or not. Taking the systemic approach allows for the exploration of how values, beliefs, and practices often collide. I use my conflict resolution skills to coach couples on effective and productive communication so they develop the skills to resolve their own conflict.

— Jacqueline Burnett-Brown, Marriage & Family Therapist

The majority of my practice is couples counseling. I strongly believe in the power of healthy relationships and the potential they provide us. When we are happy in our relationships, everything in the world seems great and when we are having problems in our relationships, everything in life seems like it is falling apart even if it isn't. I love helping couples build happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships and have better sex!

— Corrin Voeller, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in St. Louis Park, MN
 

I am a trained sex therapist and couples counselor, with experience working with a wide array of both normative and non-normative relationship structures. I have extensive experience working with same sex couples, couples working through the transition of one partner, mismatched sex drives, and polyamorous couples. I utilize John Gottman's assessments, impart Non-violent communication skills to couples, and encourage couples to identify adult attachment styles as they build intimacy.

— Jan Tate, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Mebane, NC

Sometimes resolution of an issue is not the end goal but better understanding of your partner is. Through understanding and greater appreciation conflicts fade. I help couples identify the patterns that are preventing happiness and what steps each partner can take to improve their relationship. I specialize in LGBTQ couples.

— David Strah, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Do you feel like you could use some support to get back to the gratifying part of your relationship? It's hard work being part of a couple. I welcome the opportunity to open the conversation between you and your partner so that hot topics can be navigated with safety, respect and increased insight.

— Tracy Bryce Farmer, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Portland, OR

There is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship. When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right mate. Through Imago Relationship Therapy, couples can understand each other.

— Cheryl Holmes, Licensed Professional Counselor in Daphne, AL
 

If you and your partner are struggling with conflict, I know how frustrating that can be. I also know how hard it is to change and how helpless that feels. Couples counseling can help you make the lasting changes you need to stop fighting and start repairing your relationship. Unlike many therapists, I specialize in working with couples. That means I have the training, tools, and expertise to help you work through the complicated issues in your relationship and repair your bond.

— Valery Krieg, Clinical Social Worker in Evergreen, CO

Relationships are complex, and each person brings their own histories into the connection. This can make it difficult to communicate (or even identify!) your needs, boundaries, and preferences for the relationship. We can get to the heart of the matter by discussing what's coming up for each of you, in a way that feels balanced and fair, while honoring each individual as well as the relationship(s) itself.

— Colleen Hennessy, Licensed Professional Counselor in , CA