Couples Counseling

Every couple fights once in a while. It’s a normal, and even healthy, part of most relationships. However, when the frequency and seriousness of your fights start affecting your health and well-being, it may be time to speak with a professional. A therapist specializing in couples counseling is trained to help you and your partner(s) develop tools to better communicate (and fight constructively), help you achieve goals together, or move past a specific event or cause of conflict (such as infidelity, sex, or household duties). In addition to helping those in a relationship have a healthier partnership, couples counseling can also be helpful if you and your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce – having a professional guide you can aide the both of you in making an informed decision. Think it might be time to give couples counseling a try? Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s couples counseling experts today.

Meet the specialists

I am trained in Gottman Couple Therapy and Strategic Family Therapy. Those training gave me tools to work with couples, and help me conceptualize the case. I also use Drama Therapy with couple s a lot, through Drama Therapy techniques, such as role play, doubling, sculptures, sand tray, couple are able to express the feelings that they couldn't express verbally, and they have more empathy for their partner.

— Michelle Chia Ning Chang, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Emeryville, CA

In couples counseling, the relationship is the client. There is no favorite partner, and there are no secrets in the therapeutic dynamic. We discuss the wounds, take ownership for wrongdoings, discuss communication techniques, rebuild trust, and so much more. Humans are complex, and relationships are twice so.

— Rochelle Schwartz, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

All things can be improved, changed and bettered, with just a little support, no matter how big or small. With couples therapy, you’ll learn how to communicate your feelings and needs, and get what you want out of your relationship. In my couple’s therapy sessions, I help people develop the necessary skills needed to maintain sustaining love.

— Leah Elvitsky, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Campbell, CA

Do you want to live happily after with your chosen person? Lets talk about it. Often couples come to counseling with many symptoms of a strained relationship. Much like a ball of yarn that is tangled, pulling on the string allows for unraveling getting to the source of discord. Pre-marital counseling is also available.

— DEANA KAHLE, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Bernardino, CA

I believe love is an art form, and I specialize in helping partners clear up anything that gets in the way of their best work. I have multiple tools for helping you reconnect at the emotional, intellectual, physical, sexual, and spiritual levels.

— Hayden Lindsey, Counselor in Austin, TX

I am a Prepare/Enrich facilitator for couples interested in premarital counseling. I have also completed Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and use this model, along with Emotionally Focused Therapy, in my work with couples.

— Kalie Moore, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in Greensboro, NC

Couples counseling with all sorts of couples has been a significant part of my experience over the decades. I firmly believe that with someone on the path with them, couples can identify and reach a desirable conclusion that feels good to both of them. In most cases this is a renewal within their relationship with it being different than it was before. In some cases, it is a realization that this relationship does not have the basis for longer term continuation but that this does not negate what has been good and may not negate future relatedness in different ways.

— Christopher Smith, Pastoral Counselor in Harrison, NY

The four elements that make up a strong, loving bond is Listening - Other - Vulnerability - and Empathy. This, by chance, equals LOVE.

— Janice Shapiro, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Campbell, CA

I have been involved in the delivery of multiple evidence-based couple interventions, including training in PREP, Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT), Cognitive-Behavioral Couple Therapy (CBCT), and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). In addition, I ran the VA San Diego's Family Mental Health Program for many years, developing a national reputation as an expert in interventions such as these.

— Brian Buzzella, Clinical Psychologist in San Diego, CA

Couples counseling require more specialized training as couples have their struggles and history which include their own individual value systems and beliefs. My training as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist required at least half of my supervised hours towards licensure include working with couples or families. I have continued to focus on finding creative solutions and outlooks for couples when they are often at their breaking point. All couples are supported and respected.

— Marcy Humphrey, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Boise, ID

Whether dating, engaged or married, the Prepare/Enrich assessment offers a clear snapshot of the relationship and quickly pinpoints a relationship's strengths and growth areas allowing the therapy to be tailored to the areas that need the most help. The research based Gottman approach provides concrete tools to help build a strong, loving and emotionally healthy relationship.

— Lisa Dyck, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA

Intimate relationships can be the most rewarding and the most difficult part of our lives. I am honored to help couples communicate more successfully, notice and have gratitude for the aspects of their relationship that they cherish, notice and eliminate patters and behaviors that are damaging to the relationship and hurtful to each member of the couple.

— Whitney Showler, Marriage & Family Therapist in Culver City, CA

We specialize in helping couples dealing with a variety of common couple challenges and situations: -Communication blocks -Repeat Arguments -Disconnection and distance -Not feeling understood or a priority -Not feeling good enough for your partner; unable to make them happy -Not feeling like you can count on the other -Improving sexual connection -Desire discrepancies -Improving sexual satisfaction -Communication about sex -Relationship injury repair such as affairs or addiction -Rebuilding trust -Dealing with jealousy -Betrayal trauma and PTSD from relationship injuries or infidelity -Helping couples on the brink - can we repair? -Working with relationship ambivalence or uncertainty -Divorce prevention -Peaceful divorce -Parenting challenges -Not on the same parenting page -Lack of parenting support -Blending families -In-law conflict -Extended family relationships -Couples who work together; family business -Navigating religious differences

— Thrive Couple & Family Counseling Services, Counselor in Greenwood Village, CO

I have personally experienced a rich and generative 30 year marriage, the heartbreaking transition of divorce and mid-life dating and relationships. As a Life-Cycle Celebrant and a therapist I have been honored to work with diverse couples and families at the thresholds of marriage and the birth of children. When couples have lost intimacy and connection, I enjoy helping them communicate, rediscover their vitality and clarify how they want to live -- sometimes together, sometimes apart.

— Amy Benedict, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Highland, NY

I use the Gottman Method in my work with couples and find it complements my overall theoretical orientation in that it is both relational and research-based. Sessions typically begin with an assessment process that includes a joint session and individual sessions for each partner. During this time I will also have you complete an online assessment. Following this process we will meet to identify your relationship's strengths and areas for growth and to develop a shared plan for change.

— Matthew Malouf, Psychologist in Baltimore, MD

I have studied different approaches to couples work and have a deep understanding of why we choose the partners we do and ultimately how to resolve the conflicts that arise in relationship. I support each partner in communicating to get their needs met and develop empathy for the other to create a more loving and balanced connection.

— Allison Rice, Counselor in San Luis Obispo, CA

In Couples Counseling, clients are invited into connecting to their emotions, taking ownership of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, developing heathy boundaries, working on nonviolent communication, growing in self-compassion and dignity, and exploring relational requests. I invite therapeutic work through Psychoeducation, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Experiential Therapy, and Solution Focused Brief Therapy.

— Kaile Videtich, Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern in San Jose, CA

Couples Therapy provided at AVL Couples Therapy is intended for happy couples who are committed to each other and want to enhance their relationship. You know that you two are good together, but you are looking to work on those parts of your relationship that are a little less than stellar.

— Cindy Norton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Asheville, NC

Healthy couples are my passion! I utilize a psychodynamic approach that places the couples issues in the context of their lived experience and EFT which will give us the tools to de-escalate conflict, identify your particular negative communication cycle, and then increase nurturing, bonding, and intimacy. I work with couples of all kinds and at every stage of their relationship.

— C.J. Sanders, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR

Sometimes it is hard to see "the forest but for the trees." I look to help you with power struggles, and to explore what is and isn't working in your relationship. It's very important to get past our defenses, to "see beyond the trees," and gain understanding as to the issues at hand from each partner's perspective. Once we feel heard, we can hear the other with greater clarity. i utilize many different approaches, including Imago therapy.

— Sandy Marsh, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA