Grief or Loss

Grief and loss are a part of the human condition. Grief is typically considered to be brought on by the death of a loved one, but can also be triggered by any significant life-altering loss (such as a divorce or the loss of a job). Grief is a natural response to loss, but that doesn’t make it easy to deal with.  Symptoms of grief may include sadness, loneliness, anger, denial, depression and a myriad of other thoughts and feelings.  There is no “normal” amount of time for grief to pass, but if you find that your grief is not improving over time or that it is interfering with your everyday life, you may want to consider seeking professional help. A qualified grief counselor can help you to cope with the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and cognitive responses to loss. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s grief experts today.

Meet the specialists

I have training with the Grief Recovery Institute and have led groups and individuals to process through the grief they are experiencing due to the

— Doris Rhodes, Licensed Professional Counselor

Those who deconstruct or leave religion often experience huge amounts of grief and loss. Even though they know that they have done the right choice, they are still leaving behind a belief system and life that required deep investment. This needs to be given time and space - which is what I provide as a therapist.

— Kelsey Hoff, Therapist in Saskatoon,

Each experience of grief is unique, complex, and personal. As a Certified Grief Counselor I help those grieving identify what they are feeling, make sense of the process, and begin to heal. We will look at ways to maintain connected to what has been lost through memory, reflection, ritual, and expression. Experiencing loss is a normal part of life, but there is a way to grow and use our grief in a positive way. I look forward to helping you do so.

— Kathleen Nelson, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI

I have over 10 years of experience providing bereavement counseling to people of all ages. I previously worked in a hospice environment, training other professionals on the topic of grief and loss. I provide a direct and caring approach to bereavement. I can help my clients navigate their own unique grief journey in order to come to a place of peace and growth.

— Marisa Kuropatkin, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Tappan, NY

Humans are social beings, that we need connections with others. When we lose a loved one, whether it's a friend, a partner, a parent, pet, or anyone in between, it can feel like our entire lives and reality fall apart. I hold a space for people to cope with loss and come to grips with a new life and a new reality. I believe rather than completely "getting over" the loss, the true goal of mourning losses is to find a new place for our loved ones and our memories of them in our hearts and lives.

— Emily Garmisa, Counselor in Chicago, IL

Losing someone or something you love or deeply care about is very difficult. Grief is a reaction to any form of loss. The death of a loved one including a pet is intense and painful but other losses can lead to grief such as a loss of a job, loss of health, loss of financial stability, loss of a treasured dream, divorce, retirement, and miscarriage. Grieving takes time and people grieve in different ways depending on their personality, coping style, and the circumstance of the loss. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross introduced the "five stages of grief" which includes denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It is normal to experience these stages although not necessary to go through each stage in order to mend. Typical symptoms that people experience include shock, sadness, anger, fear, guilt, and some physical symptoms such as insomnia, aches, and fatigue. Over time, the symptoms subside and you will start to move forward. However, if you aren't feeling better as time passes or if your grief is getting worse, it may be an indication that your grief has developed into complicated grief or major depression. To heal from loss, it is important to take care of yourself and have the support of others. Expressing your feelings, making sense of the loss, and learning various ways of coping with the loss are just a few things that you will gain from grief therapy.

— Eri Nakagami, Clinical Social Worker in Oakland, CA

Grief is a normal part of a loving life, but it can be a time of confusion, isolation, and terrible emotional pain. Mourning the death of a loved one, or even an acquaintance or a change of life, can bring to the surface thoughts of one's own mortality and vulnerability to further pain. It can be complicated. Often there are collateral losses- changes in finances, community, and identity.

— Polly Harrison, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Intern in Portland, OR

Grief and loss show up in many forms including but not limited to life transitions, identity changes, job shifts, aging, injuries and illnesses, divorces and breakups, estrangements and death of loved ones both expected and unexpected (including suicide). These losses can bring up a range of complex feelings. In addition to the struggle with of the loss itself, loss can have an impact on other areas of life as well. I help guide people through their grief and find ways to live with what has happened and build their lives to be more of what they want for the present and future.

— Jami Howell, Psychologist in Portland, OR

My interest in helping people through grief and loss began during graduate school, during which my father's death brought on a disorienting grief process. This experience was a constructive challenge that clarified my value as an empathic, stabilizing presence for others challenged in their grieving. Since then I have worked with people navigating a diversity of loss experiences. My specialization in existential therapy enhances this work through its focus on death anxiety and meaning-making.

— Dylan Keenberg, Clinical Psychologist in Bellingham, WA

The process of bereavement is different for everyone but so often the people around us expect for grief to be uniform, quick and tidy. I work with individuals and families who have been impacted by the loss of a loved one to find there own way through tragedy. I do not promise resolution or peace but I can promise warmth and compassion as you find your way.

— Nichole Prince, Marriage & Family Therapist in Long Beach, CA

I used to run a Grief & Loss support group and I feel such a strong connection with this client population. Grief comes in many forms and for many reasons. I normalize grief and the impact it can have on every aspect of life.

— Melissa Wright, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Aliso Viejo, CA

Dr. Talmage specializes in treating painful emotional states including anxiety, depression, and chronic trauma. She also has extensive experience in helping others with grief and bereavement.

— Susan Talmage, Psychologist in Dallas, TX

Grief functions in our lives on multiple levels and in many different circumstances. It is a process that requires attention and acceptance ... and it doesn't have a time table or expiration date. Grief is difficult; at the same time, there are potential gifts to be found when people allow themselves to recognize and then release these intense emotions as often as is necessary.

— Cindy Purifoy, Marriage & Family Therapist in Overland Park, KS

When loss becomes a piece of our story, it can be heartbreaking and surreal as we wrestle with the reality of that which is no longer. It is my hope that these are also moments of reflection on how to re-remember what or who has been lost in a way that is honoring to you, your growth, and your resilience. Whether this leads to conversations about honoring a legacy, or hindering ties to something more complicated and strained, my desire is to create a space where you can grieve in your own way.

— DeHeavalyn Pullium, Counselor in Seattle, WA

Grief doesn't always begin with the death of our loved one or the end of a cherished relationship. We can also experience grief when we lose our health or have expectations for our life that won't be met. However, as we move through the tasks of grief we can learn to honor our experience, bind the broken pieces of our heart, and create a life where grief, hope, and joy can reside simultaneously. Therapy can be a lifeline of connection and compassion as you process your loss and heal your heart.

— Brooke Small, Counselor in Colorado Springs, CO

Having grown up during the the AIDS crisis in San Francisco, and then losing my father and many, many other people I cared about during this time, I entered the club of the griever. Thus, I understand what it feels like to lose someone, be it a person or a pet or a way of being. Grief and loss isn't just about death - its about change. And I have made it a specialty in my practice because I honor it as the most important work I do.

— Stephanie McDonald, Therapist in Bellingham, WA

Have you experienced a loss recently or even years ago? Feeling the effects like it was yesterday? You are not alone, the loss of someone special, a pet, a business or a relationship in our lives in often supported in the short term, but misunderstood and unsupported in the long term. In my work with grief I will listen, hold space for you and whom or whatever has been lost and your grief. Together we will work towards healing the loss and transforming your relationship with grief.

— Kathleen Day, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

I am a member of the Association of Pet Loss and Bereavement. I'm passionate about helping individuals cope with pet loss and grief. My training and experience was obtained in medical inpatient, outpatient, Criminal Justice System and private practice settings.

— Ada Brosier, Clinical Social Worker in Rockford, MI

Losing a loved one can be one of the most devastating experiences of your life. The feelings of loneliness and despair can be overwhelming. Through focused work on grief and loss, we can work together to process the intense emotions while helping you move forward without feeling like you have to "just move on."

— Jennifer Hughes, Psychologist in , TX

Loss is painful and complex. It can be accompanied by feelings of guilt or despair, and behaviors including avoidance, difficulty identifying your needs or setting healthy boundaries, irritability or angry outbursts, or isolation, to name a few. Grief and loss manifest so differently from person to person it’s impossible to predict its path. But you don’t have to work through it alone. With support, you can find a voice for your pain, overcome obstacles to joy, and move forward with confidence.

— Will Hector, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Madison, WI

I worked at a grief clinic for 10 years and think that many issues that people bring to therapy are related to grief and loss, including major life transitions. I help people with the task of re-identifying themselves after a loss.

— Deborah Haddock, Licensed Professional Counselor

I am certified a s Bereavement Counselor and help individuals work through the feelings associated with the loss of another, accept that loss, determine how life can go on without that person, and consolidate memories in order to be able to move forward. I also provides information about the normal grieving process, to help individuals understand that many of the symptoms and changes they are experiencing are a normal, temporary reaction to loss.

— Sylvia Garcia, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Orange, CA

I've brought thousands of people along the paths of their grief journeys, with over twelve years' experience facilitating bereavement support groups, as well as my private practice clients facing various losses and difficult transitions. As all of life is change, transition, and, yes, inevitably loss, yet the challenge is managing loss knowingly and gracefully. I'm honored to have been entrusted with this delicate stage of being that we are so unwillingly thrust into by life's unplanned surprises and what sometimes seem to be merciless cruelties. But mercifully, grief does resolve through "accommodation," a process of education, acceptance through patient processing, and support across time. Rather than advice, gentle caring is key to everyone's unique resolution.

— Carol Tyler, Psychologist in Bellingham, WA

Provide strategies for navigating life after loss, dealing with trauma, transitioning to a wholesome life while recognizing the loss of a loved one, relationship, position or property.

— Marcella Prosper, Licensed Professional Counselor in Matawan, NJ

As a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, I can help you move through your loss and find peace again in your life. This program will help you work through your losses and identify what has been holding you back, areas where you have gotten stuck, and learning to let go of the pain and suffering.

— Julia Ayraud, Counselor in The Woodlands, TX