Grief or Loss

Grief and loss are a part of the human condition. Grief is typically considered to be brought on by the death of a loved one, but can also be triggered by any significant life-altering loss (such as a divorce or the loss of a job). Grief is a natural response to loss, but that doesn’t make it easy to deal with.  Symptoms of grief may include sadness, loneliness, anger, denial, depression and a myriad of other thoughts and feelings.  There is no “normal” amount of time for grief to pass, but if you find that your grief is not improving over time or that it is interfering with your everyday life, you may want to consider seeking professional help. A qualified grief counselor can help you to cope with the physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and cognitive responses to loss. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s grief experts today.

Meet the specialists

I took electives in graduate school around grief and loss and how to best approach and treat them as a mental health clinician. I then began working in palliative care and then Hospice (where I still work occasionally) where I had the distinct honor of working with patients, families, and caregivers around end of life issues and anticipatory grief. This work became a major passion for me and remains so at this time.

— Rachel Stapleton, Clinical Social Worker in Kirkland, WA
 

We all experience loss in our lives whether it is the loss of an influential person, job or experience. We even experience loss and grief with \'good\' things happen, we move, have the birth or adoption of a child, get a new job, etc. We often need help and compassion to sort through the various feelings and process the steps to help us move into places of acceptance of our new situations. Comprehensive grief work can help us get through and around change with compassion for ourselves.

— Audrianna Gurr, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
 

Losing someone you love deeply is one of the most challenging and painful experiences in life. It should not be done alone! Bereavement therapy can help you feel like you don't have to carry the heavy burden of loss all by yourself. Together we will make space for your loss and also put together a tool box of skills and techniques to help you navigate the treacherous waters of grief and loss.

— Jennifer Wohl, Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR

I specialize in helping clients get through the stages of grief and better understand the meaning of death and life. Clients learn how to continuing living their own life towards self fulfillment and happiness.

— Montrella Cowan, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Washington, DC
 

No one sets out to start a family thinking they will experience infertility or be thrust into the grieving process. But for many, this is their experience as they yearn to start a family. Depression, anxiety and increased levels of stress are commonly known to be associated with each. Many feel isolated and alone in their experiences and do not feel their closest friends or family are able to relate or offer solace.

— Jennifer Perera, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Westfield, NJ
 

Unresolved grief can drain our energy, it can close down our hearts, and it can cause us to isolate ourselves from our family and friends. Grief recovery is an educational, emotional, and powerful experience, where you will learn effective tools for coping with grief. I am a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist and I am here to provide you with the support and tools to move through your grief, the time for healing is now.

— Sara Collins, Counselor in Salt Lake City, UT

Everyone has experience with grief and loss but coping from grief and loss differs from individual to individual. My responsibility as a therapist is to provide the space and support for my clients to experience the different stages of grief and loss.

— Pak Poon, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in South Pasadena, CA
 

Grief and loss is prevalent in much of life: death, divorce, abandonment, adoption. It is painful and can interrupt healthy development. I work with my clients to acknowledge the pain and find ways to have joy despite terrible loss.

— Laurie Levine, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Herndon, VA

Grief is complicated and can be very hard to work through on our own. I provide a safe and comfortable, non-judgmental space to explore your thoughts and emotions surrounding the loss. We will work at your own pace and begin to learn how to resolve the overwhelming emotions and start on the path to healing.

— Tara Farley, Licensed Professional Counselor in Gladstone, OR

I've brought thousands of people along the paths of their grief journeys, with over twelve years' experience facilitating bereavement support groups, as well as my private practice clients facing various losses and difficult transitions. As all of life is change, transition, and, yes, inevitably loss, yet the challenge is managing loss knowingly and gracefully. I'm honored to have been entrusted with this delicate stage of being that we are so unwillingly thrust into by life's unplanned surprises and what sometimes seem to be merciless cruelties. But mercifully, grief does resolve through "accommodation," a process of education, acceptance through patient processing, and support across time. Rather than advice, gentle caring is key to everyone's unique resolution.

— Carol Tyler, Psychologist in Bellingham, WA
 

I work with women and their families regarding grief and loss relating to miscarriages, stillborns, and neonatal loss.

— Amy Jackson, Counselor in Summerville, SC

Grief and loss is, at it's core, a loss of connection. My work in this area focuses on creating an environment where you can mourn your loss, identify where connection has been ruptured, and begin to imagine what life will be like moving forward.

— Brittany Boney, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR
 

Grief/loss is a particularly special and delicate piece of the human experience and our understanding of mental health, as the process of grief/loss is universal, yet distinctly unique to each individual's felt experience. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. We all need space to allow grief to unfold in order to heal. We can discover your own unique, healthy and honest grieving process.

— Emily Berry, Counselor in Portland, OR

The goals of grief counseling are to aide the individual through uncomplicated, normal grief to a healthy resolution of the tasks of grieving within a reasonable amount of time. Grief therapy entails talking about the loss and determining if there is minimal or exacerbated emotions surrounding the loss. Grief therapy is intended to allow the bereaved to see that negative, uncomfortable feelings and emotions do not preclude more positive ones, and vice versa.

— Douglas Rugh, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Washington, DC
 

During the course of our lives, we all experience some form loss. While for some, it may be the loss of a loved one or close friend, for other’s their grief may be experienced after the loss of a job or divorce. As unique as the loss that is experienced, the individuals experience of grief as a result of that loss are as unique. I have specific knowledge, experience, and sensitivity surrounding grief so if you or someone you know is struggling after a loss make an appointment today.

— Brittany Male, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in North Aurora, IL

As your therapist, I will support you through the process of grief or bereavement. I will help you navigate the pain and sorrow, the tears and the laughter. I will remind you that there will be good times again. You will smile, you will cherish your memories and you will be able to move on. Everyone can benefit from support during the grieving process: help with self-care, help with the depression and sadness that often accompanies the loss of someone you love, or help with daily tasks.

— Jennifer Levin, Counselor in Pasadena, CA
 

For many years I worked as a hospice volunteer providing patient companionship, caregiver respite and bereavement support. This led me to maintain a focus in my education specifically on death and dying issues including end-of-life care concerns.

— Brenda Benjamin, Counselor in Grandville, MI

Unfortunately, the world doesn't have much sympathy or patience for grief. Grief upsets people. Without meaning to, friends and family can communicate hurtful messages. Instead of helping us mourn our loss, they want us to hurry up and get over it. These messages short-circuit the grieving process, and we end up pushing down the feelings. And rather than speeding the process, it makes it take longer. Grief Counseling creates a safe and supportive space in which you can tell your grief st

— Jacob Brown, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Corte madera, CA
 

The grief experience is different for everyone and can leave you feeling broken, isolated, depressed, alone, hopeless... and many other feelings. There is no "quick fix' to grief. My focus is to walk alongside you during your grief journey and hold space for your experience and pain. I am also an approved provider of CGC® Pathfinders, a grief-based curriculum from Judi's House, one of the nation's leaders in grief support.

— Stephanie Weeden, Marriage & Family Therapist in Golden, CO

When you lose someone you love, your life is forever changed. My training and knowledge provide me with the capacity to support you in your own transformation as your journey through these experiences.

— Sarah Bower Ho, MA, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

I am certified in Trauma Focused-Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. That along with the use of Psychodrama Techniques helps to bring the body into treatment and provides the opportunity for trauma resolution.

— Allen Johnson, Counselor in Brandon, MS

Contrary to popular belief, grief does not happen in predictable or measurable stages. Each person’s response to grief is unique. It is big, unpredictable, and, like a wave, it keeps coming at us relentlessly. The emotions and physical impact that come with grief can be so intense that they can seem frightening, confusing, or overwhelming. At times, the grief we endure can seem unbearable and endless. Sadly, the world around us often tries to push away grief and sorrow. Asking us to “get over it” and return to normal, productive, happy lives. Yet, for those who are grieving, this often provides nothing but isolation in a world is forever changed. I offer a supportive and safe environment that provides connection, healing, and growth. A place where you can explore and navigate through your grief with someone who will help you not get lost or drown in it.

— Kimberley Mead, Licensed Professional Counselor in Austin, TX
 

I work a lot on grief and loss in my every day. For a lot of people they have wonderful parents, spouses, and siblings, and other loved ones that people get along with beautifully. However, there is a good chunk of us that don't. Whether we have lost our parents on an emotional level where we feel we can't connect with them anymore, or we have physically lost them in our world and didn't have a good relationship with them while they were living. We will look at how you grieve together!

— Laura Smith, Counselor in Loveland, CO

The loss of a loved one or dream of a loved one (infertility) is probably the most difficult relationship problem there is. Because the rest of the world seem to be going on as usual, while your world is falling apart, it can feel incredibly lonely. Random things remind you of your loss and you find yourself feeling sad, angry, or numb, thinking of what was and what could’ve been. I come alongside you to help you grieve and cope and honor your loss.

— Casey Lee, Licensed Professional Counselor in Columbia, SC

I see people who have had recent loss and are battling through that first year, which can be endlessly exhausting and challenging. Traveling through a first year and hitting all those milestones of anniversaries, holidays that trigger the feeling of loss are so hard, it's understandable that people seek extra support in those times to get help navigating the ever changing landscape of grief. What I also see is people who have been living with grief for years but not actually healing. I can help

— Molly Lizzio, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Syracuse, NY
 

Grief is a lifelong journey that I can teach you the skills to navigate. Having been trained academically and personally in grief, it would be my honor to assist you in yours.

— DIANA CANFIELD, Licensed Professional Counselor in Gilbert, AZ

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace. I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to especially help moms who experience loss during pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace. I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to especially help moms who experience loss during pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

You may be feeling overwhelmed with grief, knowing that a disability or difference you don't accept is life-long. You may not want this concern to define you and are worried that you'll never be able to get past it. Let's work together to find solutions to your feelings of inadequacy and your sadness and anxiety.

— Patrick Tully, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA
 

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace. I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to especially help moms who experience loss during pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR
 

Loss of a loved person or pet, life dream or plan, relationship, or loss associated with health challenges

— Kelly Pemberton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

From her own personal experience of losing her first child at birth and her subsequent journey through and research about grief, Elizabeth has deep compassion for being with people in their grief, and helping them identify and process their emotions and move through their loss.

— Elizabeth Pankey-Warren, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Boca Raton, FL
 

I help my clients to better understand death and dying and the meanings of it all. After working with me, my clients are able to get through the stages of grief and continue on with their life toward happiness and fulfillment.

— Montrella Cowan, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Washington, DC

Each experience of grief is unique, complex, and personal. As a Certified Grief Counselor I help those grieving identify what they are feeling, make sense of the process, and begin to heal. We will look at ways to maintain connected to what has been lost through memory, reflection, ritual, and expression. Experiencing loss is a normal part of life, but there is a way to grow and use our grief in a positive way. I look forward to helping you do so.

— Kathleen Nelson, Therapist in Ann Arbor, MI
 

I worked for 11 years in Hospice as a spiritual care counselor. During that time I counseled many clients who were dying and their family members. I ran grief groups for adults and children. I also trained volunteers in grief and spirituality.

— Todd Thillman, Counselor in Lafayette, CO

Unfortunately, our society does not have much tolerance for our grief. Our pain makes people uncomfortable and too often we're faced with responses like "shouldn't you be over that by now?". My grief practice is based on giving clients a safe place to tell their grief story in their own way and at their own pace. And helping them work through the impact that the loss has on all the different parts of their lives.

— Jacob Brown, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Corte madera, CA
 

Death is the only sure thing in life. And yet, surviving the death of others is one of the most challenging things humans experience. Grief is a layered phenomenon. There are layers of feelings about each individual loss and losses have a way of bringing up older losses. Over time, one becomes aware of new aspects and influences of each loss. Furthermore, each milestone that is missed by that person can be experienced as a new loss. These layers can be overwhelming, to say the least. However, when each of these layers is felt and honored, they can also represent the depth and richness of the relationship. It is through mourning losses that individuals create resilience and connection to those lost and to their own lives.

— Rebecca Goettsche, Psychologist in Berkeley, CA

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief. Sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace.* I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to help moms who experience loss during any stage of pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR
 

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace. I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to especially help moms who experience loss during pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR

Personal loss can often leave us feeling lost, paralyzed or even denying ourselves the right to grieve. Feelings can be complicated and often times, our lives simply don't allow for the time it takes to work through grief, and sometimes even those that are closest to us don't seem to understand why we can't just "get over it". I help clients work through feelings of grief at their pace. I am also certified in Perinatal Loss to especially help moms who experience loss during pregnancy.

— Amy Galaviz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Portland, OR
 

Grief and loss show up in many forms including but not limited to life transitions, identity changes, job shifts, aging, injuries and illnesses, divorces and breakups, estrangements and death of loved ones both expected and unexpected (including suicide). These losses can bring up a range of complex feelings. In addition to the struggle with of the loss itself, loss can have an impact on other areas of life as well. I help guide people through their grief and find ways to live with what has happened and build their lives to be more of what they want for the present and future.

— Jami Howell, Psychologist in Portland, OR

As well as my training in gerontology, I also have training in helping others cope with loss, bereavement and forgiveness. Grief is not an exact science, but is usually experienced as a personal series of "stages" that can be fluid, with no exact beginning or end to each stage. Sometimes a certain stage is repeated. It all unfolds as a personal process. It helps to have someone knowledgeable and experienced to support you and remind you at times of the light at the other end of the tunnel. I might also add that I have great interest in helping people through the death or other loss of a pet. Many friends can't understand why you aren't over it yet, it was just an animal. They have no idea what kind of deep relationship you had with that member of your family. They have no idea of the sense of loss, loneliness, pain, and sometimes misplaced guilt, that you are experiencing. You need someone that knows how deep the love of and for an animal of another species can be.

— Susan Rooney, Counselor in Portland, OR
 

As a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, I can help you move through your loss and find peace again in your life. This program will help you work through your losses and identify what has been holding you back, areas where you have gotten stuck, and learning to let go of the pain and suffering.

— Julia Ayraud, Counselor in The Woodlands, TX

I worked for a prominent cancer organization in nyc for 10 years, helping people of all ages to cope with illness, caregiving and loss. I have had extensive training in mindfulness, CBT and the psychology of grief/los, illness and death. It is my firm belief that Grief manifests itself throughout our lives whenever we face any type of current or past change or transition; motherhood, marriage/relationship shifts, career shifts, identity changes, etc...and if we allow ourselves to feel these losses, then process them, we can be freer to find joy and peace in the present moment. I find that when my clients are able to sit with the things that cause them pain, they are better equipped to fashion a life for themselves that feels congruent with who they really are.

— Erin Robbins, Counselor in Maplewood, NJ

Grief and loss has been the most influential teacher in my life. Losing a best friend to suicide, seeing my vitality shrink due to chronic illness, and thriving from past interpersonal traumas have all set me on a path to work passionately with people who are learning to say goodbye. I've worked with hospice clients during their final moments and with the bereaved (including grief workers themselves) as their loved ones are transitioning. These connections have been made in art studios, in grief circles out in nature and as intimately as bedside. Grief effects every single part of our identity, so our work will be to survive and thrive through it. My being a competent grief counselor means we will try out the Dual Processing Model, make space for your personal/cultural/spiritual/religious rituals, and use Narrative Therapy tenets to help find meaning and strength beyond grief, loss and death.

— Evan Honerkamp, Art Therapist in Denver, CO
 

Grief and loss can come in many forms, due to many situations, both expected and unexpected. I work to help educate my clients around the different stages of grief and loss, and assist in identifying their own unique experiences, where they are at with coping, processing each emotion and feeling that is encountered, and find healing.

— Krystal Marcinkiewicz, Licensed Professional Counselor Intern in Beaverton, OR

For many years I worked as a hospice volunteer providing patient companionship, caregiver respite and bereavement support. This led me to maintain a focus in my education specifically on death and dying issues including end-of-life care concerns.

— Brenda Benjamin, Counselor in Grandville, MI
 

Grief and loss hit people differently, and you may be feeling lonely and isolated. It's important to know it's normal for feelings of grief to come in waves — one moment you may be fine, then the next moment you feel devastated. Sad isn't bad. The love you had for the person or the dream you lost is equal the grief you feel. And it does get better, one day at a time.

— Rachel Moore, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Diego, CA

Grief and loss can have such a huge impact on us as it is one of the things we fear most--loving and then losing. I work, in particular, with reproductive grief and loss (infertility, pregnancy and neonatal losses). Grief has its own timeline for each person and how we learn to relate and connect to someone we've lost is a part of the healing process.

— Julie Bindeman, Psychologist in Rockville, MD
 

I have worked extensively with women who have lost pregnancies and neonates, and have also worked with individuals grieving the loss of other immediate family members. I incorporate elements of interpersonal psychotherapy (IPT) as well as supportive-expressive interventions in the service of understanding grief and its reverberations.

— Lisa Valentine, Psychiatrist in Bellaire, TX
 

Grief is technically defined as an emotional reaction to an irrevocable loss. It can affect different aspects of our lives. Although it's usually associated with the loss of a loved one, there are other conditions that lead to bereavement. This can be the end of a marriage, as well as physical losses, such as a chronic medical condition, diminishing vision or a struggle with another important person in your life that can not be redeemed.

— Gilbert Bliss, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Towson, MD
 

Loss can take several forms and come from many causes: loss of spouse, partner, or other family member, a job, an ability (such as a driver's license), a pet, which can be as devastating as losing a spouse. It is important to recognize that the oft cited stages of grief are not the same for each person. They can come in different order, be revisited, or even some left out. Attention must be paid to what you need, rather than what is "supposed to happen." Pet loss is a special concern for me.

— Susan Rooney, Counselor in Portland, OR

Loss of a loved person or pet, life dream or plan, relationship, or loss associated with health challenges, traumatic loss

— Kelly Pemberton, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA