Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

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I was clinical Director of one of only 4 LGBT mental health agencies licensed to provide services to the community in 1991 which brought me from Boston to Portland.

— Joseph Doherty, Psychologist in Portland, OR

Our clinicians hold sex-positive, affirming, LQBTQIA+ allied values and have experience helping individuals and couples with a variety of sexuality concerns and challenges.

— Wise Mind PLLC, Clinical Psychologist in Ypsilanti, MI

I hold experience with the LGBTQ2IA+ community both professionally and personally. In a professional context, this has included support for clients in discovering and affirming their sexualities and gender identities, support through life transitions such as coming out to friends or family, and support working through internalized homophobia or transphobia. I have also attended numerous trainings on sexual and gender identity and have completed several years of academic coursework.

— Bridge Condron, Student Therapist in Seattle, WA

I have worked in an LGBT community center that was committed to raising awareness and diminishing stereotypes regarding those of the LGBTQIA community. It is a personal mission of mine to take the stigma out of sex and sexuality as well as to serve the communities that get prejudged, including the poly/swinger/kink/sex worker communities.

— Alejandro Rodriguez, Mental Health Counselor in Longwood, FL

I have extensive experience working with LGBTQ+ folx. I am a sex positive and kink, ethically non-monogamous and polyamorous aware therapist. As a queer person myself I bring my authentic self to session with clients.

— Danielle Greenspan, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Sacramento, CA

In a world where sex is simultaneously shamed and commodified, there's a lot of messages to sort through to get to the roots of your own thoughts and feelings about sex. Sexuality is often that final frontier of emotional wellness that people don't ask about and yet it is so integral to feeling whole, grounded, and truly seen. It is an extremely courageous act to explore your own sexuality, but it is needed and soulful work in service of having the relationships you want and deserve.

— Lou Sanfillipo, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Hyattsville, MD

Despite being a member of the LGBTQ community, I sought specific training to become a competent therapist for same. I have worked as a clinician in two LGBTQ centers and served as an advisor to a high school LGBTQ club. I am a member of Gaylesta, the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Redding, CA

I help clients reconnect with their healthiest, most authentic sexuality and sexual self.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

I am a part of the LGBTQIA+ population myself and I have a passion for helping clients explore and define their sexuality and be their most authentic selves.

— Ruth Millican, Psychologist in San diego, CA

I see sexuality as being fluid and something that evolves over time. I have experience working with clients in a trauma-informed, affirming environment around issues of sexuality and sexual identity. I embrace members of the poly and kink communities, those exploring sexual orientation or sexual identity, changes in sexual desire and more. I have training in and knowledge of safe and healthy use of items for sexual pleasure.

— Melanie Cohn-Hopwood, Clinical Social Worker in Cambridge, MA

Questioning your sexual orientation as an adult can be confusing and terrifying. You can feel the pent-up energy and longing in your body, and yet you're so afraid of what this might mean. I offer a safe, open-minded, and private space to connect with your body and explore your desires and identities. Then, we'll work together to figure out how you want to integrate your truth into your life and relationships.

— Lauren Pass Erickson, Psychotherapist in Boulder, CO

For anyone who is experiencing a transition in their gender and/or sexual identity. Our culture still operates under a binary view of female or male gender and a limited understanding of sexual identities. The reality is that both gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. We can work together to help understand your identities and how they interrelate. I also work with sexual concerns.

— Natalie Stemati, Psychologist in Denver, CO

I work with women who are trying to deconstruct and recover from purity culture messages and conditioning about sexual and body shame. Women are not adequately taught about sexual health, so our bodies are shrouded in mystery for years, resulting in feeling confused or broken due to what our bodies are or are not doing in a sexual context. "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski is the book I work through with clients to help them learn about themselves and reclaim their sexual identity.

— Kirsten Cannon, Counselor in Memphis, TN

Texas can be a really tough place to be an LGBTQ+ person. I’m an accomplice and ally to the LGBTQ+ community and try to be mindful at all times of my privileged experiences as a cisgender, heterosexual white woman when working with LGBTQ+ folx. I provide gender affirming care services for those 18 and support LGBTQ+ individuals to live their fullest life possible.

— Linda Louden, Psychologist

I specialize in sex therapy which addresses many aspects of sexuality including, identity, sexual dysfunction, desire discrepancy, sexual health/wellness, relational stressors, kink, non-monogamy, sex education, religious influences, trauma, abortion, miscarriage, infertility/ women's issues and gender identity.

— Maggie Montgomery, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Tacoma, WA

Prior to becoming a licensed therapist, I was a Peer Counselor to others living with HIV. I have been HIV positive for 22 years and have worked with all kinds of folx around sexual health and sexual identity.

— Kelly Hill, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Seattle, WA

Sex positive and experienced in helping clients explore their sexual identity, attractions, kinks, and unmet interpersonal needs

— Amanda Earle, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

I often let clients know that sex therapy is like any other form of therapy with the addition of an “open door” to explore topics related to sexuality and intimacy with a highly trained and knowledgeable professional. Some clients walk through this door every session, some with some frequency, and some never at all depending on what they are looking for.

— Kate Breslin, Clinical Social Worker in Denver, CO