Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

Meet the specialists

Growing up as a preacher's kid in a sex-negative home, I understand the struggle of trying to reconcile sexual feelings & attractions that the church labels as "sexual sins" & "abominations" with your identity as a Christian or person of faith. You either make a choice to walk in your truth, whatever that may be or continue to live in the bondage of emotional & mental untruths. I want to help you finally discover & embrace your truth & live in it freely & unapologetically.

— Monique Randle, Clinical Social Worker in North Little Rock, AR

For clients who don't necessarily identify with "mainstream" ideas about sexuality, having a therapist who understands where they are coming from and brings sex positivity can make all the difference.

— Megan McDavid, Sex Therapist in Portland, OR

A client's sexuality is a key component in many relational and individual issues. Whether you identify as lesbian, gay, straight, bi, trans, queer, asexual or any variation thereof, your sexuality is a major factor in determining your preferences and sexual behaviors. Sexuality is about your sexual identity, about the gender roles you carry with you, and the "scripts" you learned from family, religion, society and significant others. All of these factors have contributed to your understanding of sexual expression. Sometimes, these interconnecting parts do not fit well together and can cause distress in your life. I believe one of my primary roles is to help you find out how to rework pieces of your sexual identity, your social conditioning and your sexual preferences so that you can feel integrated and content in your experience of your sexuality.

— Alana Ogilvie, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Portland, OR

For anyone who is experiencing a transition in their gender and/or sexual identity. Our culture still operates under a binary view of female or male gender and a limited understanding of sexual identities. The reality is that both gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. We can work together to help understand your identities and how they interrelate. I also work with sexual concerns.

— Natalie Stemati, Psychotherapist in Denver, CO

I am supportive of all sexual identities, providing psychoeducation when needed, helping to process experiences, and work towards acceptance.

— Tristan Martin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Manlius, NY

With the enormous amount of labels that have surfaced over the last few years, finding the right label for yourself can be important. Sexual identity can start from not wanting to have sex at all to being extremely sexual and being okay with either identity and how to love and accept yourself with that.

— Chelsea Tucker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lakewood, CO

I have both personal and professional experience in the area of sexual identity. For 30 years of my life I identified as a lesbian. I grew up not being able to tell anyone what was going on, questioning my sexuality, hiding romantic relationships and experiencing shame. At the age of 20, I came out as a lesbian. I also went on to pursue an MA degree in Human Sexuality Studies.

— Asher Eno, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Denver, CO

Sexuality counseling as “a process that addresses sex education, values clarification, exploration of sexual attitudes and beliefs, and exploration of self-image, sexual identity, gender role development and relationship issues.” As an individual who passionately supports inclusivity, I am aware of many of the inherited injustices members of the LGBTQIAP2+ community face. It is my goal to provide a safe space where individuals are able to fully explore and embrace their authentic self.

— Emily Snodgrass, Counselor in Eugene, OR

My graduate studies in clinical psychology was centered around LGBTQ Affirmative Psychology, and as a member of that community myself, I have insight into the unique challenges that queer people face.

— Jin S. Kim, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

In addition to providing individual therapy for issues related to sexual identity, my experience in working with the individuals of marginalized sexual identities includes facilitating a support group for LGB+ individuals, delivering LGB+ trainings to universities and DFW organizations, participating as a therapist on a Queers and Allies consultation and outreach team, and collaborating with a university LGBT Resource Center to develop outreach programs.

— Steffanie Grossman, Psychologist in Dallas, TX

Sexuality is a broad and diverse topic. Though many believe our society is evolving and becoming more inclusive, at times we see trends that seem more polarizing than ever. I understand that sexuality can be fluid, and that it can and often does change over the course of our lifetimes. If you are exploring or struggling with your sexuality, it may help to talk to a sex positive counselor who specializes in this field.

— Elizabeth Harles, Counselor in Raleigh, NC

It is extremely important to me to be an affirmative counselor for all affectional orientations, especially due to harmful practices some inflict upon this community. It is important for all of us to have an open and safe environment in which to explore our own desires and not feel pressure to label oneself or feel judged by our identities.

— Dr. Christina McGrath Fair, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Stuart, FL

I am a sex positive therapist and human, it is my belief that sex and sexuality are forms of vitality -- they are paths to pleasure and self knowing. My priority as a therapist is to support you in uncovering and landing fully in your vitality.

— January Coleman-Jones, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Oakland, CA

Sexuality and gender are fluid. We may have been raised to believe we are something that we know deep inside we are not. I work with clients find and embrace their true identity

— Rachael Lastoff, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Newport, KY

I have been working with the LGTB community since the late '80s, I conducted research in different countries - you can google me.

— mariana iurcovich, Psychologist in Boulder, CO

Nothing is so nefarious as the bully that we find installed inside ourselves. I have experience working with people in the coming out process and working to resolve the internalized homophobia that we're not often aware of.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

After struggling for years with my own identity, I spent my educational career researching and understanding the search for identity. I continue to educate myself and participate in training in order to understand and provide a safe space for individuals who are on that journey.

— Heather Sexton, Counselor in SAINT CLAIRSVILLE, OH

It is common for people to struggle with issues around sexuality, sexual self-concept, gender identity, sexual identification, trauma, sexual orientation, and sexual self-esteem. Yet one of the greatest expressions of our humanity, creativity, and individuality is through our sexual self-expression. Learn to identify and challenge the boxes, and expectations that imprison you and help you emerge into your true sexual expression and potential--a powerful experience unveiling of the deeper self.

— Andrea Scharlatt, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Oakdale, MN

Sexual identity spans so much further than sexual orientation. My clinical skills and education have ignited a passion for helping individuals understand who they are in regard to their sexual identities. I help clients identify with themselves and their sexuality that range from amorous expression, sexual orientation, gender expression to their sexual fantasies.

— Emma Frazier, Counselor in Decatur, GA

Sexuality is one aspect of human development categorized by varying theories and opinions, some current and some outdated. These approaches can cause more confusion than they provide clarity and leave us aimlessly spinning or waging a debate within our family or communities. Facing your own coming out as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Asexual, Queer or other sexual identity can leave you searching for answers and guidance. We can help!

— iAmClinic Denver, Licensed Professional Counselor in Denver, CO

I have worked in an LGBT community center that was committed to raising awareness and diminishing stereotypes regarding those of the LGBTQIA community. It is a personal mission of mine to take the stigma out of sex and sexuality as well as to serve the communities that get prejudged, including the poly/swinger/kink/sex worker communities.

— Alejandro Rodriguez, Mental Health Counselor in Lake Mary, FL

My passion is sexual health and sexual fulfillment for all individuals, both with themselves and their chosen partners. Society continues to give us messages condemning rich sexual inner and outer lives and I want to assist my clients in questioning and challenging those messages.

— Victoria Haynes, Licensed Professional Counselor in Williamsburg, VA

You are looking to explore yourself as a sexual person. Maybe you are struggling to accept yourself sexually. You go day in and out struggling with the sexual part of you and try hard to just push the thoughts away. Imagine life where sexuality is not a constriction for you but a place of ezploration and is embraced. You freely accept every part of you. Through the exploration process of therapy you will begin to understand yourself and process the inner workings of you.

— Anna Raport, Marriage & Family Therapist in Germantown, PA

I work with clients who are exploring their sexual identity and working on knowing themselves better.

— Lori Haas, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wichita, KS