Sexual Identity

The term sexual identity typically refers to how one thinks of oneself in terms of to whom one is romantically or sexually attracted. Gender identity, sexual orientation and romantic orientation play interconnected roles in a person’s sexual identity. While your sexual identity might match your sexual orientation, this is not always the case. There are endless possibilities for sexual identity, all of which natural expressions of human sexuality. However, questioning or evaluating your sexual identity can be confusing and overwhelming process. If you are working through questions about your sexual identity, a qualified mental health professional can help. Reach out to one of TherapyDen’s sexual identity experts today.

Meet the specialists

I am supportive of all sexual identities, providing psychoeducation when needed, helping to process experiences, and work towards acceptance.

— Tristan Martin, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Manlius, NY

I support my clients to live their most authentic lives. Understanding and living in congruence with your sexual identity is one way to do that. Sometimes our sexual identity is not always so clear, especially when our culture expects us to adhere to the binary setup. Instead, I believe gender and sexuality are fluid for most people. My work supports my clients in feeling at home in their bodies, in sexual relationships, and their environments however they choose to show up and express.

— Dawn DeAno, Counselor in Lafayette, CO

In addition to providing individual therapy for issues related to sexual identity, my experience in working with the individuals of marginalized sexual identities includes facilitating a support group for LGB+ individuals, delivering LGB+ trainings to universities and DFW organizations, participating as a therapist on a Queers and Allies consultation and outreach team, and collaborating with a university LGBT Resource Center to develop outreach programs.

— Steffanie Grossman, Psychologist in Dallas, TX

Many of us in the LGB community have felt alone in our feelings, or unable to verbalize our truth out of fear of rejection, shame, and violence. Art Therapy and Sex Therapy are empowering. The art says what we sometimes cannot. Developing a healthy therapeutic relationship with your counselor is validating and can serve to help you find the courage to be your true self in the world.

— Marie Ragona, Creative Art Therapist in Astoria, NY

Sexuality and gender are fluid. We may have been raised to believe we are something that we know deep inside we are not. I work with clients find and embrace their true identity

— Rachael Lastoff, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in Newport, KY

With the enormous amount of labels that have surfaced over the last few years, finding the right label for yourself can be important. Sexual identity can start from not wanting to have sex at all to being extremely sexual and being okay with either identity and how to love and accept yourself with that.

— Chelsea (Chase) Tucker, Licensed Professional Counselor in Lakewood, CO

You are looking to explore yourself as a sexual person. Maybe you are struggling to accept yourself sexually. You go day in and out struggling with the sexual part of you and try hard to just push the thoughts away. Imagine life where sexuality is not a constriction for you but a place of ezploration and is embraced. You freely accept every part of you. Through the exploration process of therapy you will begin to understand yourself and process the inner workings of you.

— Anna Raport, Marriage & Family Therapist in Germantown, PA

I have a passion and extensive post-graduate training in helping people explore their sexuality, gender, and identity. Understanding these important aspects of oneself is vital to living a genuine and fulfilling life and improves self esteem, relationships, overall quality of life.

— Caitlin Minniear, Counselor in Seattle, WA

Nothing is so nefarious as the bully that we find installed inside ourselves. I have experience working with people in the coming out process and working to resolve the internalized homophobia that we're not often aware of.

— Gregory Gooden, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Pasadena, CA

I work with clients who are exploring their sexual identity and working on knowing themselves better.

— Lori Haas, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Wichita, KS

I have worked in an LGBT community center that was committed to raising awareness and diminishing stereotypes regarding those of the LGBTQIA community. It is a personal mission of mine to take the stigma out of sex and sexuality as well as to serve the communities that get prejudged, including the poly/swinger/kink/sex worker communities.

— Alejandro Rodriguez, Mental Health Counselor in Lake Mary, FL

Sexuality is a broad and diverse topic. Though many believe our society is evolving and becoming more inclusive, at times we see trends that seem more polarizing than ever. I understand that sexuality can be fluid, and that it can and often does change over the course of our lifetimes. If you are exploring or struggling with your sexuality, it may help to talk to a sex positive counselor who specializes in this field.

— Elizabeth Harles, Counselor in Raleigh, NC

As a graduate student, I facilitated an LGBTQ+ support group, which consisted of college-aged students who identified all along the sexuality and gender identity spectrum. Throughout my time at Winthrop University, I worked with the Gay-Straight Alliance (PRISM) and provided mental health discussions and suicide prevention talks aimed specifically at increasing the knowledge of how mental health and suicide are impacted in the LGBTQ+ community.

— Ashlyn Bordelon, Licensed Professional Counselor Associate

I have been working with the LGTB community since the late '80s, I conducted research in different countries - you can google me.

— mariana iurcovich, Psychologist in Boulder, CO

Despite being a member of the LGBTQ community, I sought specific training to become a competent therapist for same. I have worked as a clinician in two LGBTQ centers and served as an advisor to a high school LGBTQ club. I am a member of Gaylesta, the Psychotherapist Association for Gender and Sexual Diversity.

— Cole Rennix, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in American Canyon, CA

Sexuality counseling as “a process that addresses sex education, values clarification, exploration of sexual attitudes and beliefs, and exploration of self-image, sexual identity, gender role development and relationship issues.” As an individual who passionately supports inclusivity, I am aware of many of the inherited injustices members of the LGBTQIAP2+ community face. It is my goal to provide a safe space where individuals are able to fully explore and embrace their authentic self.

— Emily Snodgrass, Counselor in Eugene, OR

It is extremely important to me to be an affirmative counselor for all affectional orientations, especially due to harmful practices some inflict upon this community. It is important for all of us to have an open and safe environment in which to explore our own desires and not feel pressure to label oneself or feel judged by our identities.

— Dr. Christina McGrath Fair, Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Stuart, FL

After struggling for years with my own identity, I spent my educational career researching and understanding the search for identity. I continue to educate myself and participate in training in order to understand and provide a safe space for individuals who are on that journey.

— Heather Sexton, Counselor in SAINT CLAIRSVILLE, OH

My graduate studies in clinical psychology was centered around LGBTQ Affirmative Psychology, and as a member of that community myself, I have insight into the unique challenges that queer people face.

— Jin S. Kim, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Los Angeles, CA

Sexual identity spans so much further than sexual orientation. My clinical skills and education have ignited a passion for helping individuals understand who they are in regard to their sexual identities. I help clients identify with themselves and their sexuality that range from amorous expression, sexual orientation, gender expression to their sexual fantasies.

— Emma Frazier, Counselor in Decatur, GA

For clients who don't necessarily identify with "mainstream" ideas about sexuality, having a therapist who understands where they are coming from and brings sex positivity can make all the difference.

— Megan McDavid, Sex Therapist in Portland, OR

Growing up as a preacher's kid in a sex-negative home, I understand the struggle of trying to reconcile sexual feelings & attractions that the church labels as "sexual sins" & "abominations" with your identity as a Christian or person of faith. You either make a choice to walk in your truth, whatever that may be or continue to live in the bondage of emotional & mental untruths. I want to help you finally discover & embrace your truth & live in it freely & unapologetically.

— Monique Randle, Clinical Social Worker in North Little Rock, AR

Your sexual identity is foundational in how you relate to yourself, others, and the world. Using personal experience and professional therapeutic techniques, I will work with you to confront the societal norms of heterosexism and gender normative scripts to develop your unique identity, presentation, and voice.

— Jessica Brohmer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Aptos, CA

You are looking to explore yourself as a sexual person. Maybe you are struggling to accept yourself sexually. You go day in and out struggling with the sexual part of you and try hard to just push the thoughts away. Imagine life where sexuality is not a constriction for you but a place of exploration and is embraced. You freely accept every part of you. Through the exploration process of therapy you will begin to understand yourself and process the inner workings of you.

— Anna Raport, Marriage & Family Therapist in Germantown, PA

Since the beginning of my career in 2000, I have worked specifically with the LGBTQA+ community. I worked for 8+ years at Fenway Health Center specifically serving the community I identify with. I have run many groups for individuals seeking better understanding of their experiences as gay men, individuals coming out as gay, lesbian, trans or non-binary

— Guy Croteau, Psychotherapist in Boston, MA