Jed Rendleman

I believe that strong relationships are fundamental to happiness and satisfaction. You have the ability to build and maintain intimacy and you can improve your skills with practice (I give homework!). Good therapy helps you understand what you and your partner are feeling and respond appropriately. I have training in emotionally focused therapy, a technique that hones couples’ attachment skills and communication. I am a kink, poly, and queer friendly therapist.

Both women and men suffer because of patriarchal systems that reinforce toxic masculinity. Many men are led to believe that masculinity itself is toxic. This, of course, is untrue and leaves men feeling even more isolated, ashamed, and confused. So what does "positive" masculinity look like? What does it mean to be a good man? I work with male-identifying folks both individually and in men's groups to explore these questions in a safe, gender-affirming, healing space.

I have extensive experience working with anxiety both as a client and a therapist. In my experience, anxiety is almost always a symptom of another issue, one that perhaps remains beneath consciousness. I am trained in mindfulness and somatic techniques that can enable us to reduce the frequency and intensity of anxiety while we work to excavate its roots.

Throughout our lives, we learn behaviors to cope and feel safe. Perhaps a part of you became a perfectionist to protect a part that fears rejection. Over time, patterns like this can become entrenched, inhibiting our growth and even causing the very pain they were meant to prevent. I can help you identify these patterns and the parts of yourself they protect. Through curiosity and compassion, we can loosen their grip and even befriend them.

Emotions are the currency of attachment. Emotions signal what’s important for us to notice, both for ourselves and in relationship. Attuning to your own emotions and the emotions of others promotes healing and connection. Easier said than done! I use techniques that help individuals and couples slow down, sit with feelings, and gain language to better understand/communicate them. Through this process I help clients foster more secure and satisfying relationships.

Research shows that a client's motivation to change is the single biggest predictor of success in therapy, more than anything the therapist does! Motivational interviewing can help you get unstuck by getting you excited about change. I will often assign simple homework assignments to further the growth you experience during sessions and provide us more data to work with in future sessions.