Shame is one of the greatest hurdles to connection and belonging in human relationships. It's a huge problem in human intimacy, sexual expression, and relationship repair. Tune in this week while Gina and Julie break down the barriers to connection.
“Guilt is believing I made a mistake. Shame is believing I am a mistake.”
“Shame moves us apart rather than closer to the people we love.”
“Tell me about what you learned about yourself in your past relationships.”
“When we keep things to ourselves we actually create more distance between us.”
"The vast majority of us experience shame. So you're not actually alone even though it feels so isolating."
"Shame is like the monster in the dark under your bed. The more you think about it without looking the scarier it becomes. But once you turn on the light and actually look at it, it's not so scary."
"Not everyone is safe."
"Shame likes to show up when we're being vulnerable."
"If we can find a way to build safety around vulnerability the shame will start to go away."
"You don't have to be in self-love, but you want to be in self-acceptance and compassion."
"The more you stay in a silo, the more limited your view of what it normal will be."
"Give yourself permission to be slutty and gross."
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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