“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #130: Listener Question: What's mine and what's ours?

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Sep 12, 2021 in Swoon

Today Julie and Gina answer a listener question about finding clarity in a relationship when you have questions about what's yours and what's theirs. Wanna join the conversation? Join our membership community or call us with your questions about intimacy, sex, and relationships: 971-202-0969.

This episode covers:

  • How do you know when the issue is your mental health- or the relationship?
  • What red flags should I pay attention to when a partner isn't supporting me?
  • How can you tell your partner they're too negative?
  • How can I claim my own issues and also work on moving forward together?
  • What is overreacting, and what's reacting enough?



            Quotes From This Episode

            "I'm losing myself in this relationship."

            "If your best friend told you 'I am sacrificing my self-respect and losing myself in this relationship' how would you respond?"

            "The reason we do relationships is to feel stronger and to compliment our wellness."

            "What can I do to make this better for you?"

            "How can I show up in a supportive way with you?

            "When I hear 'he wants to change my personality' it doesn't sound like there's a lot of wiggle room there."

            "Trauma logs itself in our brain and it also lodges in the fibers of our body."

            "Trauma is not forgettable, it's something to work through and with."

            "We want you to have a teammate, Lauren."

            Resources from the Podcast

            Join our membership community
            Love More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

            Swoon Podcast: When to Break Up

            Swoon Podcast: My Partner Has Experienced Trauma

            Action Steps

            Call us! Leave a question if there's something you want to know - and we'll have you on a future show: 971-202-0869

            Looking for intimacy coaching? Connect with Gina

            Looking for a therapist in Oregon? Connect with Julie

            Looking for other therapeutic support? Check out TherapyDen

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            Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

            Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

            Your Swoon hosts

            Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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            Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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            Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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