Our culture often puts an emphasis on romantic love and “finding the one.” Today on Swoon Julie and Gina talk about the importance of friendship and the value of platonic love. They are also celebrating their friendaversary and share a bit about how they became friends and what they do now to tend their friendship while living in different states.
“I had a lot of friends and then I got a job and a partner and kids and I haven't maintained my friendships and now I feel lonely.”
“It's hard to focus all our energy on one person, it can be lot of pressure on one relationship.”
“The current configuration of many people's lives can be pretty isolating.”
“Making friends can feel like a risk, like dating.”
“Don't be afraid to use technology to stay in touch.”
“Not every interaction is going to lead to friendship, just like not every interaction is going to leave to a love connection.”
“Get out there. You're not going to meet people in your house.”
“It takes energy and effort, friends don't just sit there and wait for you to call on them when you need them. You have to invest in friendships too.”
“Just like it happens in romantic relationships, you can get your heart broken and swear off friendship.”
“We learn about ourselves through relationships. – We can heal through our friendships too.”
If you want to make friends -
Sa, “ hi.” to someone, attend an event, or join a group.
If you want to work on maintaining friendships -
Ask them how their heart is.
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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