“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #129: Coming Back After Erectile Dysfunction

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Aug 29, 2021 in Swoon

Today we answer a question from a listener about how to recover from erectile dysfunction and get back into penetrative sex.

Call us with your questions about intimacy, sex, and relationships: 971-202-0969.


This episode covers:

  • What is erectile dysfunction?
  • What causes erectile dysfunction?
  • How can you fix it if you're not getting hard or staying hard for sex?
  • Where to go for help with erectile dysfunction
  • How to work with your partner through erectile challenges


          Quotes From This Episode

          "This is not something men talk about."

          "When people feel alone in what's happening for them sexually there is so much shame that surrounds the issue."

          "It's rare that someone with a penis does not experience erectile dysfunction at some time."

          "It is so frustrating when your brain wants something and your body will not participate."

          "We are weird hormonal meat bags with brains. Bodies do funny things all the time."

          "It's the exception to find a penis-haver who makes it a lifetime without experiencing erectile dysfunction at some time."

          "The rule is, if you have a penis it's gonna do something weird sometimes."

          "Bodies do weird things."

          "How do I not worry about the thing I am worried about at the moment where it matters most?"

          "Sometimes naming the worry takes its power away."

          "We don't feel confident until we have experiences, and feel competent, and get positive feedback."

          "Enjoy and celebrate what is working in your sexual connection and communication ESPECIALLY when it feels like other parts are challenging."

          Resources from the Podcast

          Swoon Podcast The Penis Episode
          Swoon Podcast Sexual Communication
          Join our membership community
          Love More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

          Action Steps

          Call us! Leave a question if there's something you want to know - and we'll have you on a future show: 971-202-0869

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          Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

          Your Swoon hosts

          Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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          Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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          Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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