“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #128: Fantasies: Exploring a Dom/Sub Dynamic

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Aug 29, 2021 in Swoon

Today Julie and Gina are super stoked to answer one of our listener questions (call us with yours 971-202-0969). Today we'll respond to one of the most common fantasies: playing with power exchange.

This episode covers:

  • How to start exploring D/S dynamics in relationships
  • How to get more information on power exchange fantasies
  • When to bring up kinky fantasies in new relationships
  • How to get more comfortable playing with power exchange

          Quotes From This Episode

          "We're looking to do something new, vulnerable, and different in a context where being together is new and different."

          "Anything new is going to be vulnerable. What helps me feel safe(r) stepping into new territory?"

          "When you say 'severe anxiety' related to past trauma there is nothing wrong with slowing down and being cautious and curious about it."

          "We feel so proud of this couple for talking about fantasies early on in the relationship."

          "There are lots of possibilities when you're exploring power exchange. What is appealing about submission? What is appealing about being dominant?"

          "Even if you never enact things, sharing stories and fantasies can be deeply connecting."

          "Exploring this in our minds together can be more comfortable and safe(r) at certain phases in life."

          "Read erotica to get inspired."

          "It's okay to not want to give up control sometimes. Find other things to do."

          "You always get to stop if it's not feeling okay."

          "Playing with power dynamics brings up a lot of things regardless of your trauma history."

          Resources from the Podcast

          Swoon Podcast BDSM Episode

          Swoon Podcast Erotic TemplateJoin our membership communityLove More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

          Action Steps

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          Your Swoon hosts

          Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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          Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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          Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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