“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #126: My partner doesn't like sex

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Aug 15, 2021 in Swoon

Today Julie and Gina are super stoked to answer one of our listener questions (call us with yours 971-202-0969). Join us for a fun conversation about a partner that "just doesn't like sex."


This episode covers:

  • How to communicate about sexual mismatches in relationships
  • What should I do if my boyfriend just doesn't like sex?
  • What to do if/when sex changes in a relationship

      Quotes From This Episode

      "What do you mean when you say, I don't like sex?"

      "What would liking sex even look like for you? Have you ever liked sex?"

      "What do you actually like about sex?"

      "The more we get clear the more room there is to meet in the middle."

      "We don't want someone to do things they don't like doing, and we want you to have your needs met."

      "Your partner isn't solely responsible for meeting all of your sexual needs."

      "You're allowed to masturbate. I hope you enjoy that."

      "Porn is different that partnered sex."

      Resources from the Podcast

      Swoon Podcast Sexual Mismatch Episode
      Swoon Podcast Sexual Communication Episode
      Swoon Podcast Low Desire Partner
      Swoon Podcast High Desire Partner
      Love More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

      Action Steps

      Call us! Leave a question if there's something you want to know - and we'll have you on a future show: 971-202-0869

      Looking for intimacy coaching? Connect with Gina

      Looking for a therapist in Oregon? Connect with Julie

      Looking for other therapeutic support? Check out TherapyDen

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      Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

      Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

      Your Swoon hosts

      Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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      Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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      Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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