“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #124: How to Make Your Fantasies a Reality

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Aug 01, 2021 in Swoon

We LOVE to help people talk about desires and fantasies and talking about them is great. BUT there can be a LOT of practicalities needed to help you bring your desires from dream form to reality. For the next couple of months, Julie and Gina are gonna break down some of the most common fantasies and turn-ons out there. And what to do with them.

Leave us a voicemail at 971-202-0969 so we can answer your specific questions about your dreamiest desire.

This episode covers:

  • What are the most common sexual fantasies and turn-ons?
  • What can get in the way of executing your desires?
  • What is multi-partner sex?
  • How can I bring up something new to your partner?

    Quotes From This Episode

    "We LOVE talking about making fantasies a reality."

    "Let's look at the research on sexual fantasies."

    "You can't always ask your aunt Vivian about a gangbang."

    "There is a lot of nuance to each of these categories of fantasy."

    "A lot of people want rough sex, and it can be hard to figure out how to do it within a committed relationship."

    "I've worked so hard to be a sensitive loving partner, it feels weird to be bossy with them."

    "There's a huge continuum from tying each other up with scarves to intense knife play and "power exchange" can mean any of it."

    "It's really difficult to find good information about sexual fantasies. Some of it is credible, and some of it is just someone's opinion."

    "Some people have an expansive sexual repertoire and there's no shame whether you have fantasies that might be considered extreme or some that might be considered more mundane."

    "Taboos change depending on where you are."

    "Nothing is unusual to me anymore."

    "Sometimes just naming it to your partner can be really hot."

    "It's okay to want to have lots of different experiences - for all of us, and let's underscore that for cisgender men."

    Resources from the Podcast

    Swoon Podcast Desire Episode
    Swoon Podcast Fetish and Fantasies Episode
    Swoon Podcast BDSM Kink Episode
    Swoon Podcast Erotic Template EpisodeLove More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

    Action Steps

    Call us! Leave a question on our voicemail if there's something specific you want to know - and we'll have you on a future show: 971-202-0869

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    Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

    Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

    Your Swoon hosts

    Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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    Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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    Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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