“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #122 Turn Ons

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Jul 18, 2021 in Swoon

Knowing your own and your partner's turn ons are essential to being a better lover. Bout what if you're not sure what your turn-ons are? Join Gina and Julie this week to learn the dual control model of sexuality and how to learn more about your turn ons.

Wanna know more? Leave us a voicemail with your questions at 971-202-0969.

This episode covers:

  • What is the dual control model of sexuality?
  • What are some of the most common turn-ons?
  • How do you learn your partner's turn-ons?
  • How do I start discovering my turn ons?
  • What is the definition of arousal?

Quotes From This Episode

"Arousal as awakening can be G rated."

"New areas of arousal can come up anytime."

"Sexuality is not static. Relationships are not static. Who we are is not static."

"We may always love a certain thing, that's fine, and there are always going to be new and nuanced parts of our sexuality if we stay present to it."

"I am not Rapunzel locked in a tower waiting for someone to bring me sexual arousal. You get to create your arousal. You get to engage with the world in a way that awakens you. The more you know about what awakens you the more possibilities there are for you."

Resources from the Podcast

Swoon Podcast: Being Present in Your Body
Swoon Podcast: Desire in Relationships
Swoon Podcast: Erotic Template Episode
Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski
Love More Fight Less, Communication Workbook for All Couples, Gina Senarighi

Action Steps

Ask Yourself:

  • What brings me alive?
  • What helps me feel more awake?
  • What has piqued my curiosity?
  • When do I feel confident? When am I feelin myself?
  • What helps you be present in your body?
  • What helps me stay open and curious?

Leave a question on our voicemail if there's something specific you want to learn more about - then we can address it on a future show: 971-202-0869!

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Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

Your Swoon hosts

Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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