This week on Swoon, Gina and Julie talk about how to decide when and if you're giving or getting too much in your relationship. Should you let them take up more space in your life? Listen to learn how you know.
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“We all ask questions about money, power, control, and worth in relationships."
"It can be really challenging to receive care or gifts in a relationship if you're not used to it."
"I don't know why we do relationships if we're not into giving or receiving care."
"How we are raised and socialized determines a lot of the ways we make meaning out of giving and receiving."
"Maybe he just wants to be nice and celebrate."
"Are you blocking yourself from something?"
"How much do you want him in your space? How will you know when it's in balance? How will you know when it's working?"
"Is it important to you to have this place to yourself?"
"How much should I allow my partner to help me?"
"Gifts can become ghosts of old relationships in your house."
"Does the cost make you feel like you owe them something?"
"What would feel good?"
"There's nothing inherently wrong with receiving things from a partner who has more money than you do."
"If I had a bunch of orgasms and I gave them to you, would you feel indebted to me? It doesn't have to mean anything you don't want it to."
Discuss the themes of money, control, power, giving, and receiving with your partner. Ask yourself what does feel good when you balance giving and receiving in your relationship?
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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