“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #49 – Doin' It - Sexual Incompatibility

Jeff Guenther, MS, LPC on Feb 16, 2020 in swoon

One of the most challenging issues some couples face is what seems like sexual incompatibility. In today's episode, Gina and Julie talk about how to bridge the gap when it feels like an impasse.

This episode covers:

  • What options can be available when it seems like you're sexually incompatible with a partner
  • How to get creative and meet in the middle
  • Many ways clients of ours have creatively bridged a gap of sexual incompatibility

                                          Memorable Quotes

                                          “You're probably going to need help to see things in a new way.”

                                          “Our wants are very different. Now what?"

                                          "There is no way forward, we've read everything in Cosmo and we tried all the things. We thought this would come easy and it's not coming easily."

                                          "It's super rare for two people to want the exact same thing at the same time. Even if they're really good together."

                                          "When we get stuck in scarcity that 'I'm only going to want this one thing." we get really stuck."

                                          "Lots of folks go through what seems like incompatibility at some point and it doesn't mean the end."

                                              Resouces from the Podcast

                                              Conversation Groups for Bi and Queer Women in "Straight" Partnerships

                                              Conversation Group for Monogamous Partners of Polyamorous People

                                              Mismatched Desire Episode

                                              Sexual Communication Episode

                                              Sexual Interest Worksheet

                                              Sexual Self-Reflection Worksheet

                                              You can find a therapist at TherapyDen.

                                              Action Steps

                                              - Talk about your sexual interests using the Sexual Interest Worksheet from our resources.
                                              - Use the Self-Reflection Guide to get clear about what you want or need sexually.


                                              Your Swoon hosts

                                              Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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                                              Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
                                              Connect with Julie

                                              Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR.
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