Jeff Guenther, LPC on Jan 24, 2021 in Swoon
We all come into relationships with default beliefs and expectations. When those unspoken expectations aren't met it's easy to feel disappointed or resentful. This week Julie and Gina explore how to make relationship agreements and what to do when they aren't honored.
“We all come into relationships with our ideas about what we think is typical or normal and we often expect other people to have the same expectations or the same belief systems”
“So many of us don't make agreements in our relationship until there's a problem.”
“Most agreements go unspoken so we end up with all of these expectations you haven't agreed to and then I get resentful if you don't meet them.”
“Everyone is in a 24x7 power play, just some people negotiate their agreements.”
“The agreement is only as good as the follow through part of them.”
“When I make an agreement and I don't consistently honor that agreement, that will affect how you view me and how safe you feel in our relationship.”
“Your relationship is going to evolve and so are your agreements.”
Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples by Gina Senarighi (Specifically Section 4 and 6)
Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky
or hire a therapist or a coach.
Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021
Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi
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Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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