“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #91 – The Swoon List: A Few of Our Favorite Things

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Dec 13, 2020 in Swoon

In the spirit of gift-giving, Julie and Gina share their tips for giving great gifts to your love and a few of their favorite gifts for your sweetie this holiday season.

Join us at our new event, Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

This episode covers:

  • How the wrong gift-giving can erode trust in a relationship
  • Why the coupon book gift doesn't work- and what to do about it
  • How you can plan a great gift for someone who loves meaningful objects
  • What to plan for a partner who prefers quality time
  • How to share acts of affection if it's not your preferred love language
  • Giving acts of service to someone who prefers them
  • How gift giving can be an extension of topping and BDSM play

        Memorable quotes

        "Making a gift meaningful is about listening to your partner and remembering what is meaningful to them."

        "The why of the gift, the symbolism of it, is more important than the actual gift."

        "The coupon book gift only works if you actually do the thing. Don't give a gift you're not going to follow through on."

        "I listened to you about what is meaningful to you."

        "What are the things that make you feel considered, seen, and cared about?"

        "How can I make your daily life easier?"

        Resources from the Podcast

        The Five Love Languages



        Good Vibrations

        Lelo Laya Vibrator

        Holy Yoni Oil

        Open Heart Rose Powder

        Gail Ambrosius Chocolatier

        HUMP Film Festival

        Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

        Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

        Action Steps

        Start a list on your notes app on your phone of things that are exciting or meaningful to them and grow it all year so you have it to reference when you want to plan a gift for them.

        Join us at our new event, Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

        Get support

        Looking for coaching? Connect with Gina

        Looking for a therapist in Oregon? Connect with Julie

        Looking for other therapeutic support? Check out TherapyDen

        Your Swoon hosts

        Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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        Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
        Connect with Julie

        Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

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