“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #88 – Grow Old With You: Stages of Relationships

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Nov 22, 2020 in swoon

There are very well-known stages of relationship growth, today join Julie and Gina to learn where you are in the phases of relationship growth and what to do in each growing stage.

Join us at our new event, Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

This episode covers:

  • What are the phases of a relationship and why you should know about them
  • How to know where you are in the stages of relationship growth
  • What to do in each stage of relationship




    Memorable quotes

      “The first stage is about attraction and getting to know someone... if you have a friend in this stage they're probably talking about their new relationship A LOT.'”

      “New love is the exciting and intoxicating phase of a relationship where we ruminate on the good things.”

      "The first part of a relationship is also a thrill- both the good and bad, terror and exhilaration."

      "There are different stages and kinds of love."

      "The doubt phase brings on a lot of questions like, 'Is this real?'"

      "If we get stuck in questioning and doubting and ruminating, [the doubt phase] is a place where people split."

      "If you're there for the thrill, you need to be clear about what you're there for."

      "In stage three we're more comfortable and we start to name the things that aren't working."

      "Oh, I've done everything I can to change you and you're gonna still be you."

      "You don't know a person after only one year."

      "Are we choosing each other warts and all?"

      Resources from the Podcast

      Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

      Eight Dates, John and Julie Gottman

      Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi


      Action Steps

      Join us at our new event, Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021

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      Your Swoon hosts

      Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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      Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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      Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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