“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #105 – Slow Jams: The Decrease in Sexual Energy During a Pandemic

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Mar 21, 2021 in Swoon

In this episode with Julie and Gina, you're gonna learn to keep a slow cooker of erotic fire going through the pandemic- instead of letting it burn out.

This episode covers:

  • How is life in a pandemic decreasing desire and sexual connection?
  • What are the pandemic-specific barriers to eroticism?
  • How does working from home impact relationships?
  • How do we tend to our libido?
  • What are the accelerators and brake pedals in sexual connection?

                          Memorable quotes

                          “For some people, it's highlighting things that were a problem before."

                          "The erotic does not thrive in a tight boring container."

                          "Most people are experiencing intense desperation and claustrophobia at the same time."

                          "There are ways we can go from a worker bee to a connected partner, but they almost all require space."

                          "Libido is really about life force."

                          "We're not plugging into erotic/eros energy, it's not surprising we're having a hard time sexually."

                          "If you don't have space to talk about sex, you don't have space to do sex."

                          "Sexy slow cooker slow jams"

                          "If your erotic energy falls off completely starting back up again is gonna take a LOT of energy."

                          "We're around each other, but we're not really together."

                          "Show up for each other."

                          Resources from the Podcast

                          Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

                          Best Sex of My Life: Spice It Up

                          Best Sex of My Life: Desire

                          Best Sex of My Life: Pleasure

                          Best Sex of My Life: Sexual Communication

                          Another Victim of COVID-19: Sex Between Married Couples

                          Chandelier: Keeping the Sparkle in Your Relationship (even during a pandemic‪)

                          “Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #81 – I'm So Tired: Surge Capacity & You

                          OMG YES - Masturbation for people with vulvas/vaginas

                          Love More, Fight Less: Communication Skills Every Couple Needs: A Relationship Workbook for Couples by Gina Senarighi

                          Action Steps

                          Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

                          Get Gina's book on communication.

                          Hire a therapist or a coach

                          Get support

                          Join Julie and Gina for the Best Sex of Your Life in 2021

                          Love More Fight Less: A Relationship Workbook, Gina Senarighi

                          Your Swoon hosts

                          Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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                          Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
                          Connect with Julie

                          Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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