“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #84 – What's Goin' On: Politics and Relationships

Jeff Guenther, LPC on Oct 25, 2020 in swoon

We've been getting a lot of questions from listeners about how to navigate difference of political opinions in relationships, just in time for the US election this episode we invited Jeff to join us to talk about how political difference is impacting relationships.

This episode covers:

  • How do I deal with friends and family with different political ideals?
  • What's the right way to be an activist or advocate for my beliefs?
  • What is calling out and what is calling in?
  • What if one of us is interested in politics and the other isn't?



        Memorable quotes

        “When things become polarized, they become difficult to talk about."

        "It's more than about political ideas, it's about competing needs and values."

        "The goal is to be curious, understanding, and non-judgmental."

        "The content of the conversation matters less than the values underneath."

        "There's a shaming performative effect happening now that tries to make us claim teams."

        "Healthy conflict is about understanding each other. The last few years things have moved from building understanding to arguing to convince each other.”

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          Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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          Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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          Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Ashville, NC.

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