“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #19 – No Ordinary Love: Deepening Intimacy in Relationships

Jeff Guenther, MS, LPC on Jul 21, 2019 in Swoon

When we talk about intimacy in relationships we mean more than just sexual connection- but how do we cultivate it when we feel intimacy is lacking? Tune in this week to gather Gina and Julie's favorite ways to build intimacy in relationships.

This episode covers:

  • The difference between intimacy and sex
  • How understanding different kinds of intimacy can improve your relationship
  • How to broaden your sexually intimate connection
  • What emotional intimacy means in partnerships and how to fuel it in friendships and other relationships
  • How common it is to have one partner want more sexual intimacy and the other need more emotional intimacy
  • How being aware of the overlaps between these types of intimacy can help you intentionally deepen intimacy

Quotes from the episode

"People use 'intimacy' as a euphemism for sex because they're uncomfortable saying 'sex.' It feels it's less crude or obvious... But we'ew talking about a broader spectrum of intimacy."

"Specificity, presence, and meaning usually increase intimacy."

"Trust, vulnerability, and intimacy go together."

"Share your story only with people who've earned the right to hold it."

                              Resources Shared in This Episode

                              Eight Dates, John and Julie Gottman

                              Intimacy Worksheet

                              Action Steps from the Podcast

                              Download this worksheet and reflect on the areas of intimacy and note how either a relationship you have with someone else, or how your relationship with yourself fills your needs for different types of intimacy.

                                Your Swoon hosts

                                Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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                                Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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                                Jeff Guenther is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR.

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