A self-identified metalhead, who is a creative, artistic, stylist was introduced to the concept of therapy through the movie Harold and Maude. She saw her first therapist because she had a bad boyfriend when she was younger. She was lucky enough to find a badass therapist, but the sessions ended quickly because the therapist moved away. She later found another counselor, but she lacked “fire.” Therapy ended with her because she felt like the counselor was disapproving of her romantic relationship. She searched for more therapists, but felt like all the therapists had “dead eyes” in their photos that turned her off. She eventually found a new badass therapist, that she is still seeing, but she had three important questions that she needed to answer correctly before making an appointment.
Jeff, a licensed therapist and the host of Say More About That, talks with a metalhead about her experience of searching for a therapist and going to counseling.
This episode covers:
On chemistry with a therapist:
“I believe you have chemistry with a therapist. You’re going to mesh with a therapist or not. It’s amazing how many people don’t really like their therapist, but they just keep going. I have to have major chemistry with my therapist. I need to have a good vibe.”
On how one of her therapists let her down:
“You have to be harder with me. She was too passive. She was ‘Portland’ passive. I saw her a while but she disapproved of a relationship I started.”
On how she felt when looking through photos of therapists on a therapist directory:
“Just don’t have dead eyes.”
On how she feels about her current therapist:
“If she ever leaves, I am going to move to wherever she goes.”
The three questions that she asked her current therapist before setting up an appointment:
“I asked her how old she was. And she said 54. I asked if she had been married and she said no. And if she has any children. She said no. So then I asked when I could see her.”
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