As a former nurse-midwife, I subscribe to a whole health model that takes account of biological, psychological, and sociocultural factors.
Counselor in Asheville, NC
Using the lens of attachment theory, I understand how a person's early experiences with attachment shape their thoughts, beliefs, and expectations of self and others, and how this narrative influences their behavior in the future. Securely attached people are able to regulate their distress on their own in an adaptive manner with little or no support from others.
Families come to counseling thinking they know what the problem is – a young child prone to angry outbursts or a teenager involved in undesirable behavior – but they’re almost always wrong. They’re wrong because they think an individual in the family is the problem. This is, however, almost never the case. The problem is actually the family system, not an individual in the family.
My work draws primarily from the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of counseling. It uses the relationship itself as a vehicle for growth and healing of the individual, as well as the couple or family. It’s a non-blaming approach that assumes that human beings are resilient and have inner resources of self-love and self-regulation to heal and grow.
I offer safe, supportive therapy that helps you address whatever it is that’s keeping you from feeling fully alive. I believe that pain and struggles present opportunities to learn and grow. Together we’ll find your self-acceptance, strengths, and potential for positive growth. We’ll also look at the patterns that trip you up and experiment with new ways of being that best support you in living the life you want.
Each member of the couple is invited into a process, which first leads to a secure relationship with him or herself. This then makes it possible to stay connected with oneself and one’s partner even in times of great stress within the relationship. Benefits of Couples and Marriage Counseling Include: Growing what is already good within your relationship; Feeling loved, honored, and understood by your partner; Creating deeper intimacy with your partner; Enjoying more passionate sex.
Distressing family dynamics can interfere with the functioning of every family member. When family members are in conflict, the tension can impact each family member’s mental and physical health and relationships. Family counseling helps families collaborate to address problems. The course of treatment is often brief and seeks to address the communication styles of the family as well as individual issues that may be interfering with the connectedness of the family.