Have you ever failed a test? Have you ever lost a game? Have you ever been cheated on? Have you ever applied for a position and not gotten the job? These are examples of the ball dropping. Typically, we respond to the ball dropping by beating ourselves up, focusing on the fact that we disappointed ourselves and others, and lamenting over the idea that we are not good enough and how undeserving we are of that moment.
I want to share an alternative perspective. When the ball drops, you have time to adjust your testing strategy. When the ball drops, you have time to focus on improving your jump shot or your defense strategy. When the ball drops, you have an opportunity to pour into yourself, increase your self-compassion, and align your thoughts and behaviors with what you are looking for in yourself and a potential partner. When the ball drops, you may have the opportunity to fine-tune your resume or network with a different demographic. The ball dropping is not the end but the beginning of your ongoing journey. At times — many times — the ball will drop. What are you going to do when it does?