I sometimes wish we were born with our own "how to care for your human" manuals, but we weren't, and many of us have to learn along the way.
Psychotherapist in Richmond, VA
The beliefs and judgments we carry around color our whole experience of life. Negative self-talk and worries that we are "not good enough" or "a burden" or "don't deserve" or "don't belong" limit our ability to feel okay and suck the joy out of everyday experience. It can show up as body image and dieting preoccupation, perfectionism, high expectations, and harsh judgements of ourselves and others. It's often a learned behavior that helped before, hurts now, and can be unlearned and released.
In my work with women I see so many badass people who are so hard on themselves - overfunctioning, worrying about control and lack of it, and living with the harshest critic in their heads. A lot of them struggle to set boundaries, are stuck between accepting themselves and feeling a pressure to change and improve, and live inside a ruthless world of "shoulds" and "not good enoughs". Women's relationships to each other, our changing bodies, and our life's meaning is sacred work.
AKA how we deal with change, including the transitions, the losses, periods of disorientation, and learning new ways of being. Perhaps we could simply call it "a rough patch" or a "difficult chapter", or we could describe the impact of living through 2020 and COVID. It is characterized by difficult emotions, a change in thought or behavior, and often a sense of things just being "off." When navigating a challenging time the dedicated space and time of a therapy session can support you.