Renata Perelman

By using a deeply relational, trauma-informed approach that begins with building trust and moves gradually into the kind of honest, shame-free exploration that most people have never had access to, I help my clients move from self-doubt and emotional confusion to clarity, self-trust, and the ability to recognize — and demand — what they actually deserve. The work is not always linear. It is not always fast. But it becomes more like discovery than damage.

I help adults who grew up in homes where love came with conditions, where being good enough meant being perfect, where the adults who were supposed to protect them were sometimes the source of the pain, and where staying busy became the only way to stay safe. If you've built a beautiful life on the outside but can't quite settle into it, if stillness feels dangerous, rest feels lazy, and you're not entirely sure why you can't just relax, this is what surviving looks like.

By using a relational, DBT-informed approach rooted in deep empathy and unconditional positive regard, I help my clients slow down long enough to understand the bigger picture of what's driving their overwhelm — because slapping a band-aid on today's crisis doesn't heal what's underneath it. I help my clients move from that frantic, hyperaware, always-on state to a place of genuine emotional regulation, self-trust, and presence, so they can experience the life they've worked towards.

At its core is the belief that people possess an incredible capacity for growth, healing, and self-understanding when given the right environment. I don't believe my role is to tell you how to live your life. I believe my role is to help you better understand yourself so you can make decisions that feel authentic, meaningful, and aligned with your values. Through curiosity, reflection, and compassionate exploration, we begin identifying patterns, beliefs gone unnoticed.

As an Internal Family Systems (IFS) informed therapist, I help clients develop a deeper understanding of the different parts of themselves rather than fighting against them. Together, we become curious about the thoughts, emotions, reactions, and protective patterns that show up when life feels overwhelming. Instead of asking, "What's wrong with me?" we begin asking, "What is this part of me trying to protect?"

I help clients understand the connection between their thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, and behaviors. We explore what happens when stress takes over and identify practical ways to respond differently. DBT can be particularly helpful for clients who feel emotionally overwhelmed, struggle with boundaries, experience relationship conflict, or find themselves repeatedly getting stuck in the same painful patterns.