Having traits of Sensitivity means we have AMAZING gifts to offer the world! I love helping folx identify their superpowers
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in San Diego, CA
How do we learn to stand in our power, and know that we don't have to fit the mold of being a "nice girl" or being quiet or pretty or thin to get our sense of esteem. We can take up space, disagree, be bold and messy and experience freedom and a sense of connection. We are so heavily influenced by subtle (and not so subtle) messages about what it means to be "good" female. Let's change this story and get out of the box; speak our truth and live boldly (we can do this with kindness and love.
We all make up stories to help us define and explain our life experiences. Often we connect data points that aren't correct (my father left when I was 5, and he always was critical of me). The story becomes if I can just get my sh*t together, then I'll have peace, happiness, etc. Overlay anxiety and sensitivity, and chances are the story you've created is full of things that prevent you from seeing the gifts you have to offer. We can examine that story and rewrite it!
Mindfulness is really about radical self-acceptance and self-compassion. In order to make change, it's crucial be able to get really curious about ourselves and our patterns, and to practice self-compassion. This can be particularly difficult when you tend to be perfectionistic and you've been taught to push through things. If this sounds really hard, I'd be curious to know how is the striving working for you? Do you have a constant sense of "not enough" or feeling like you're "too much."
As someone who was constantly told I was too sensitive (or too bossy), it made it hard for me to feel like I was ok. If you struggle with not feeling good enough, perfectionism, a sense of emptiness--even though you do a lot, I'd love to help. We often receive so many messages about what's wrong with us--there's actually a strong correlation between our perceived weaknesses and our strengths! I love helping women discover their superpowers!
It can be hard when you feel like you're wired to worry! I find many of my clients are also Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), which puts a whole new twist on anxiety. I thought I had social anxiety, but turns out I'm an HSP. Because I'm a deep thinker and I process deeply, I also can worry about stuff. I've had success helping people "tell a new story" about their anxiety, and find ways to work with their anxiety, and learn tools so it's not so overwhelming.
Have you been told you are "too"--too sensitive, too picky, too thin-skinned, think too much, worry too much? Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) have AMAZING gifts to offer the world! I have such a passion for Sensitives, that I created a podcast called Unapologetically Sensitive, where we talk about the strengths you have BECAUSE of your sensitivity. It's not uncommon for HSPs to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, self-critical and not good enough. Let's work together and find your superpowers!
It is estimated that 50% of the clients we see in therapy are Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs). Why is this important for therapists to know this? Is being a Highly Sensitive Person really a thing?