My name is Gordon Brewer. I'm a Licensed Marital & Family Therapist located in Kingsport, TN. I work with both couples & individuals.
Marriage & Family Therapist in Kingsport, TN
CBT is simply learning to pay attention to how you think; AKA "mindfulness". We all can tend to make "thinking mistakes". In other words, sometimes how we perceive things in a way that causes us to feel stress. There are several common "thinking mistakes". (black & white thinking, over-generalizing, catastrophizing, mindreading, "yes, but" thinking, should statements, etc,) By learning when you fall into these traps, you can begin to learn new ways of thinking about yourself and others. This, in turn, tends to help change the way we feel. It also helps us to feel more in control of our lives.
I love working with couples! It is something I am passionate about. I help couples by helping them discover the patterns of interactions that sabotage their relationship. It's about understanding how to communicate differently and understanding how our own wounds affect each other. I use an emotionally focused approach that helps couples reconnect and end the distance they feel with each other.
One of my main "niches" as a therapist is working with men who struggle with sex and pornography addictions. It's an area of life that brings with it a lot of shame and embarrassment. It is very often one of the underlying problems that leads to infidelity and just damages relationships. It is something that can be healed and relationships repaired when people can be brutally honest with themselves. When treated with kindness and compassion, people can overcome these problems.
One of the first questions I ask people is, "why do you think you are like you are?" Change and growth start with gaining insight into who we are as people. When we understand ourselves well and how the world we live in affects us, it gives us room to be empowered. We grow and learn when we get outside our comfort zones. It's how we learn everything. When we do this we can start living authentic and genuine loves and be truly content.