Blake Overstreet

A lot of men come in saying they’re fine. They’re just tired, short with people, or numb in ways they can’t explain. You were taught to handle it, so you have - for years. But the anger comes out sideways, the drinking creeps up, or the people closest to you say they can’t reach you. You don’t need to be fixed or lectured. You need a place to say what you’ve never said out loud, and to understand why it’s been so hard to say it.

Your mind won’t shut off. You replay conversations, brace for things that haven’t happened, and feel the tension in your chest or jaw before you know why. Maybe you’ve learned breathing tricks that help for a minute. We’ll use practical tools when they’re useful, but we’ll also look at what the anxiety is trying to protect you from. Once that makes sense, it tends to loosen its grip.

Grief doesn’t always look like sadness. Sometimes it’s irritability, numbness, or staying so busy you never have to feel it. Maybe people expect you to be past it by now, or the loss is one others don’t fully recognize - a relationship, a career, a version of your life you thought you’d have. We’ll make room for what you actually feel, not what you think you’re supposed to, and look at what this loss is stirring up from before.

CBT is practical. It helps you notice the thoughts driving your reactions and test whether they’re actually true. I use it when you need something concrete - getting through a panic spike, breaking a spiral, or changing a habit that keeps you stuck. For me it’s a tool, not the whole approach. It works best alongside understanding where those thoughts came from in the first place.

Some experiences don’t stay in the past. A smell, a tone of voice, or a certain kind of conflict puts you right back there, and talking about it hasn’t changed how your body reacts. EMDR helps your brain process those memories so they feel like something that happened, not something still happening. I use it when a specific memory or event keeps shaping how you feel today.

Psychodynamic therapy starts from a simple idea: the patterns that hurt you now usually made sense once. The way you shut down, overfunction, or pick the same kind of partner was learned somewhere. We’ll look at what keeps repeating - in your relationships, your reactions, even in how you relate to me - so you stop living on autopilot. The goal isn’t just relief. It’s understanding yourself well enough to choose differently.