Men's Sexual Compulsivity Group

Does pornography or another sexual pattern feel difficult to manage? Perhaps you are spending more time on it than you want, feeling pulled toward familiar behaviors, or noticing an impact on relationships, work, or your personal values. My Men’s Sexual Compulsivity Group offers a compassionate, collaborative space to explore those concerns. We focus on understanding your patterns, recognizing the needs beneath them, and practicing ways to respond with greater awareness and flexibility. The direction of our work is grounded in what matters to you.

Sexual compulsivity can bring up questions that are difficult to discuss alone. You may feel confused about why a behavior continues, disappointed in choices you have made, or uncertain about what you want to change. In this group, we can talk honestly about the relief or pleasure a pattern provides alongside its consequences. We approach those conversations with curiosity, self-compassion, and respect. Understanding what a behavior does for you can help clarify the needs and difficulties that deserve attention.

Connection, comfort, excitement, pleasure, and relief are understandable human needs. Sometimes a familiar sexual behavior becomes one of the main ways a person tries to meet those needs. We can explore what you are seeking and consider a wider range of responses. That may include examining loneliness, stress, anxiety, painful experiences, or unmet needs. These factors can play different roles for different people. Our work makes room for your experience and the meaning you give it.

The goal is to understand the patterns you want to address and support a relationship with sexuality that reflects your values. We can explore what healthy intimacy, honesty, connection, and personal responsibility mean to you, while treating your questions with care and respect.

My approach draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, and motivational interviewing. We practice noticing urges, thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations while considering how to respond. An urge can become something you recognize and make room for as you choose your next action. We can explore the difference between an immediate pull toward relief and a decision that supports your values. These conversations and practices are intended to help you develop more flexibility in moments that have felt automatic or difficult to manage.

Through motivational interviewing, we make room for mixed feelings about change. Part of you may want a different relationship with a sexual pattern, while another part values the familiarity, pleasure, or comfort it provides. We can explore both sides openly. You bring knowledge of your own life, and I bring questions, perspective, and support for reflection. Together, we can clarify your reasons for change, examine your concerns, and consider goals that feel personally relevant. Your participation in this process matters.

Self-compassion is central to the group. Looking honestly at behavior can bring up regret, embarrassment, sadness, or fear. We will explore ways to respond to those feelings with kindness while taking your concerns and responsibilities seriously. Compassion can help create room for reflection, accountability, and thoughtful choices. We can examine the language you use toward yourself and notice when harsh judgments make it harder to understand what happened. Practicing a more respectful internal conversation can become part of how you approach difficult moments.

The group setting creates opportunities to hear other perspectives and reflect on your own experience. Listening to others may help you recognize a familiar struggle, consider a different response, or find words for something you have had trouble explaining. Each person brings a distinct history and set of values. We aim to approach those differences respectfully and with curiosity. Personal boundaries, careful listening, and respect for one another’s privacy are important parts of creating a space for honest discussion.

Your values help give our work direction. We may explore what you want your relationships to feel like, how you want to use your time, and what kind of person you want to be in daily life. Values can include honesty, connection, responsibility, intimacy, health, or other priorities you identify. We can then consider practical actions that express those priorities. The focus is on choices you can practice, including small decisions that help you move toward the life you want.

We can also look at the situations surrounding a pattern. You might notice particular emotions, interactions, thoughts, or physical sensations before an urge becomes strong. Exploring those moments can help you understand what is happening and identify opportunities to respond differently. We can discuss how you respond afterward as well, especially when disappointment or self-criticism appears. Each experience can offer information about your needs, your circumstances, and the supports that may help you make choices with more awareness.

My practice is not based on a 12-step model. I respect 12-step support when it is meaningful to you, and we can discuss how the supports you choose fit with your goals. The group’s focus is on understanding your experience, responding more flexibly, and taking actions guided by your values. We can talk about uncertainty and revisit goals as your understanding develops. Your concerns deserve thoughtful attention, and your preferences deserve a place in that conversation.

The package costs $350 and includes eight group sessions and two individual sessions. The individual sessions provide an opportunity to discuss your concerns and goals in a one-to-one setting alongside the group work. This combination offers space for both personal reflection and learning with others. We can explore what you hope to gain from participating and how the work connects with the difficulties you are experiencing. The aim is to keep the process relevant to your life.

If you are considering the group, you can start with a free consultation. Call or text 520-239-6623 to talk about your concerns and ask questions about the offering. You do not need a polished explanation of what is happening. We can begin with what feels difficult, what you would like to understand, and what you hope might change. My role is to offer a knowledgeable, authentic, and compassionate outside perspective as you explore a more flexible relationship with your sexual patterns.