I am a trauma-informed and relational therapist who works holistically to find the best pathway to your healing. Pronouns: he/him
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Madison, WI
We are born utterly helpless. In order to get our basic needs met--for food, swaddling, sleep, basic comforts--we send out various signals. We learn very early which of these signals get results. These early lessons form the basis of attachment theory--that how we learned to relate to our first caregivers find echoes in how we relate to others. Four styles--secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—inform a lifetime of behaviors and can be understood and transformed.
The body is a source of information that, when we learn to listen, can often suggest a clearer path. Body psychotherapy enrolls the body directly in therapy, whether it’s through authentic movement or Somatic Experiencing, or more subtly through opening to the intuition of the nervous system, mind-body work, of becoming aware of the unique signals your body developed to communicate with you. Working with the body is the most direct means of healing trauma because it's where trauma is processed.
I believe the key to transformation is mindful integration. Too often we create separation from the parts of ourselves we don’t like through isolation, addiction, etc. Despite our best efforts, these parts ultimately reappear. They may have developed initially for a good reason, trying to protect us or keep us safe somehow. By developing mindful compassion for the totality of our experience—including the disavowed parts—we forge a holistic, integrated pathway toward lasting change.
Loss is painful and complex. It can be accompanied by feelings of guilt or despair, and behaviors including avoidance, difficulty identifying your needs or setting healthy boundaries, irritability or angry outbursts, or isolation, to name a few. Grief and loss manifest so differently from person to person it’s impossible to predict its path. But you don’t have to work through it alone. With support, you can find a voice for your pain, overcome obstacles to joy, and move forward with confidence.
Depression presents a major challenge that limits life in untold ways. Its impact on your ability to care for yourself, maintain healthy relationships, and function on a day-to-day basis can be debilitating. However, on the other side of it, you have the potential to access the motivation, happiness, and confidence that seem so elusive right now. Once you free yourself from the limitations that depression imposes, you can discover a new world of opportunities for living the life you want.
The increased irritability and avoidant behaviors that often accompany anxiety can complicate relationships, sabotage careers, and prevent you from achieving long-term goals. I help people make positive changes by managing fear and cultivating a sense of safety that can create healthy patterns of response to the world. Together, we'll identify and reduce anxious patterns and gain the clarity and skills needed to step out of the negative feedback loop of fear and doubt.