This is such a hard decision, choosing a therapist. But it's ok to "shop" for one! Most important is finding someone that you feel gets you!
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, NY
I described my work with couples in an earlier segment. But again, the best work I do with couples has to do with uncovering themes of vulnerability. I use the book Wired for Love in our sessions, and I make use of Brené Brown's writing and presentation.
Depth therapy is meant usually for people who feel they don't understand why life hasn't felt satisfying to them, why nothing works out over the long term, and why perhaps their relationships have been unsuccessful. Most of these issues involve unconscious conflicts and feelings that need to be uncovered over time. With the right help, though, someone can become much more successful over time, both in work and in love.
Psychodynamic therapy enables us to look at conflicts that often have travelled with you throughout your life. It's a longer-term process, which helps underlying themes come through. Often people go to therapy and work somewhat superficially, and the work is unsatisfying. But psychodynamic work tends to "stick" better.
Anxiety is often an issue that comes from earlier conflicts from the past, triggered by current circumstances, and it takes careful work, often using dreams, if people remember them, and imagery around the particular anxiety associations. Sometimes it takes some medication to lessen the anxiety in order to work on it more easily. And if there's trauma involved, we have to do deeper and possibly use EMDR - a specific trauma technique - by way of a colleague, with whom I consult.
I've worked with couples for many years, most of the time with great success. Currently I make use of the book Wired for Love, which helps us look deeply at issues of vulnerability, which are often at the root of relationship issues, and especially those within marriage.
All my training and reading has stressed issues of self-esteem, lack of assertiveness, and the cost of a patriarchal society on girls and women. Have helped many women change their self-image and body-image along with that.