We all struggle, we are all human, and we all deserve consideration and support.
Counselor in Oklahoma City, OK
Supervised by Brooke Yaffe, LPC
Anxiety is perfectly normal and we all experience it in one way or another. Anxiety becomes a problem when it becomes overwhelming or gets in the way of living your life. I use mindfulness approaches to help individuals notice their anxiety as it arises and acceptance techniques to change your relationship with anxiety so that it isn't such a battle. If we learn about the way that anxiety is rooted in our biology and history, it ceases to be so mysterious and becomes another aspect of our self.
For many of us, thoughts and emotions can become so overwhelming that it seems impossible to cope with it all. This is because our brains work in specific ways that make us focus on and avoid the painful things in our lives. I work with clients to help them let the good and bad come and go without struggle, so that you can get back to your life. When we do struggle with thoughts or emotions, we can learn to challenge them and see them as just thoughts, while we ultimately control our actions.
Humans are social creatures and we all want meaningful relationships that fulfill our needs and let us express who we are. That doesn't mean they're simple, and struggling with the importance and difficulty of relationships is an ever-changing process. I help individuals and couples notice their own needs, histories, behaviors, and the way to navigate these things with others that maintain autonomy while forming lasting bonds.
Humans brains evolved in a very different environment than we live in today, yet we have a lot of the same drives and coping mechanisms that helped humans hunt, survive, and avoid danger before modern life. Some of those things are helpful, but many of them make us anxious or focused on what we perceive as threatening all the time. I use mindfulness to notice our thoughts, emotions, and drives as they arise so that we can engage with them intentionally, instead of following our animal brains.
Many of our thoughts and emotions are desirable, but others are unhelpful and get in the way of doing what we care about. We may have and experience thoughts and emotions, but that does not mean that we ARE our thoughts and emotions. Sometimes, they can be misleading and most of them happen automatically regardless of our best efforts or intentions. I use CBT to help individuals notice thoughts and challenge them instead of just accepting them as true and valid.
We all strive for connection, meaning, and experience. On the flip side, we also worry about losing it all and constantly struggle with the temporary nature of life. If you worry about the point or meaning of life in the face of struggle and impermanence, existential therapy can help you find your own reason to be. I help individuals decide what matters to them and why so that they can pursue meaningful lives while allowing uncertainty to be present.