Services
About My Clients
Couples who want to learn how to communicate more effectively. Infidelity can seem like the end of a relationship and yet that doesn't have to be the case. I like helping Stew Pot (Blending) couples to be proactive in creating a family where all parts are unique and feel connected. Couples can often become "Room Mates" and need help to build a happier and more loving relationship.
My Background and Approach
I am a Systemic Marriage & Family Therapist and with couples I don't just try to put a Band-Aid on their presenting issues . I "go deep" with them, exploring their personalities and Family of Origin issues that are impacting their present relationship. I will avoid blame and seek to understand their "mutually created dynamic". The client's Goals are what we are guided by and there will be a significant amount of homework , both written and behavioral, for every session. I am trained to be a neutral and will not take sides.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I am from Belfast in Northern Ireland and grew up when the conflict was at it's height. I know what it's like to be in a war zone and how we can end up demonizing those who we are different from. My brother was shot and my family were threatened to, 'get out or be burned out' of my childhood home. This experience is the biggest gift I bring to the therapeutic endeavor. I learned from a young age, how we have an tendency to demonize those who we are different from. My daughter is a Lesbian and her experiences have helped me to be even more sensitive to difference.